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writes:Dear all,I attended the party and got really drunk. I was so wasted that I did not know what I said or did. I was told I had gone crazy and behaved totally different from my quiet image. I am a decent person.I know I made a mistake and I am just paying the price of my actions. I know I can't turn back time. This incident does not define the entire me but every time I go to work, people keep on reminding me of my behavior and I became the laughingstock of around 30 people and counting...I tried to laugh it off but these people does not want to stop. This issue is totally affecting me and I tried so hard to ignore them but they extremely enjoyed making fun of me. They thought it was some kind of a cool movie with the female character gone wild. As for me, it was a total nightmare and I was regretting it. I had forgiven myself for being such a B**ch but people likes to bully me and thinking it's totally awesome to ridicule someone in an office environment. How can I deal with this? Please help...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you peeps! I feel better now...I know I can make it! All your responses were really good. It touches my heart. I have to remind myself that I am super strong and no amount of words can ever hit me unless I let them gets inside my system.I thank you all from the bottom of my heart! I wish you all the best in life.Cheers!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (5 December 2012):
 It will become old news soon. just ignore them.
NO response.
Of course next year it will be brought up again "remember last year when xxxxx got really drunk" and poof it will be gone again....
NO RESPONSE. NONE... not a look, not a glimmer, not a grimace... NO RESPONSE.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2012): Just hang in there, don't react to it, and eventually they will get tired of bringing up the same old jokes at your expense and will move on. If after, say, 6 months or longer they're still unrelenting, then I'm afraid the only thing left to do is to quit your job.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2012): Oh my goodness, i know how you feel. well if i were you just ignore them. you made a mistake so you have to pay for it.
The best way to deal with it is just by ignoring it. After a month or so people will forget about it.
if you tell them how you feel, prepare for two reactions. Its either they will respect you and stop or they might disrespect you more and gain enemies.
If i were you just ignore it, if you ignore it, it will die eventually. you just have to be patient.
produce good work at your workplace. just keep on aiming for a better performance at work and soon they will forget about ur one night mistake....
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (4 December 2012):
 Next time someone brings it up, just tell them it's yesterdays news. That YOU are so over it and you would appreciate if they can stop bringing it up.
All I can say is, LEARN from this. Watch the alcohol at office parties. You can have plenty of fun without getting totally hammered.
And since it's December, we all know there will soon be someone else will do something stupid and THEY will be the talk at the office.
BE professional, do you job and do it good, sooner or later it will blow over. I honestly think the MORE you ignore the "bullies" toe sooner they will give up.
Stuff... happens it how you handle it afterwards that determine how others see you.
Stop beating yourself up.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (4 December 2012):
They keep reminding you about the incident because they can see it gets to you. Instead of showing them how much it affects you or ignoring it altogether, try to respond in such a way that suggests to them that you aren’t bothered. Best one: when they bring the incident up, say as casually as you can “O we’re not still going on about that are we? That’s old news!” If they think you don’t care they will get bored and some-one else will be the focus of their attention. This is certainly easier said than done but it’s the best way to make them stop and should most definitely be tried before you consider something more drastic such as making a complaint to your manager.
I wish you all the very best.
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