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writes:so my boyfriend of two years broke up with me i was totally wrecked apart i kept texting him and calling him n he said we need time off we cant get back together right now so i stop texting and calling n send him a letter telling him it was fine that we do need a break he calls me drunk when he gets the letter and tells me he misses me so the next day i text him and he completely ignores i was so confuse cause he first says he misses me and then turns his back i got totally depress again so i got really drunk and left him a voicemail telling him that i was going to leave him alone that i was a bad person and he deserve better and then i went to his house in the middle of the night demanding answer i woke up his entire family he was super upset and completely rejected me telling me he didnt want to try anymore i just dont understand why he keeps changing his mind i feel horrible and stupid about going drunk to his house. i dont know what to do
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (4 December 2012):
 “I don’t know what to do”
You need to let him go. Block his number, his email, his facebook, whatever access you two have to each other needs to be ended.
He broke up with you
You dogged after him (I was totally wrecked apart I kept textig him and calling him) which was bad.
He tried to soften the blow with “we need time off we can’t get back together right now” which is code for GO AWAY I DON’T WANT TO BE WITH YOU. It’s just said in a nice way to make you think there is a chance…..
You stopped calling and texting which was good but then you you sent a letter which is still going after him. You needed to let it go and you did not.
He responded with a drunk dial…. Can’t really count on drunken behavior to show the truth in this case…
He can miss you and know you do not belong together… I miss candy and cake but they make me sick so I avoid them. He knows that your relationship is toxic for him so he wants to avoid that. Respect his wishes and move on.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (4 December 2012):
 Honey, he is OVER you.
You really need to block his number, defriend him on Facebook and work on getting over him.
BEGGING someone to love you back, to stay doesn't work. If becomes clingy.
You care about him, he doesn't care for you in the same degree.
I'm sorry. YOU need to stop calling, texting and making yourself available. IF he actually still care he will pursue you if you totally back off. But I don't think it's realistic to hope he will change his mind and start to love you back.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (4 December 2012):
 He did not keep changing his mind. He told you ONCE that he missed you ( which anyway does not mean " we should get back together " ,one can miss a person and realize he's better off without that person ) and he told you when he was DRUNK, which as you saw yourself, is not a good moment for lucid , rational communication, it's just spur of the moments emotions getting out of control.
He seems to want to stay broken off, for the time being, and what you do is , preferably, start to move on, because there's no guarantee that he is ever coming back,- but if you can't resolve yourself to do that just yet, you stop texting, stop writing etc. and give him the space he wanted to begin with, it's not hunting him down to his doorstep that you'll improve your chances.
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (4 December 2012):
 You need to let him go and move on as this is a very unhealthy situation for you. If he cant make up his mind, you can decide for yourself whats best, I am guessing in this instance you are better off moving on. You need to go cold turkey. Cease all forms of contacts and this wil also help in not having drunken embarassing mouments. Try to have a life with friends and try seeing other guys as friends. Dont mope around for someone who is not worth the heartache he has infliected on you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2012): Darling if he keeps rejecting you, his not into you. His a jerk. If I were you i'll stop wondering and agonizing why he keep his changing his mind about you and him.
The next time he calls you, and tells you he misses you. tell him you don't. Cuz your happy with someone else. Don't explain just hung up the phone and be a jerk.
You need to be strong, you deserve better. I know its gonna be a cold december but it way better than to have a jerk in your life. Good luck
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