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writes: Hey,I'm three weeks into a six year vet course but hate university. I desperately want to leave, but not just due to homesickness. I do miss home, but I've made some friends and I love my accomodation.I think I've picked the wrong course, and I'm no longer interested in the idea of being a vet. I've wanted to be a vet my whole life, and have worked incredibly hard to get here, but now that I'm here I want nothing more than to leave.I know allot of people will say that if I stick it out it will get better. But I enjoy everything apart from the actual lectures and course content. It's a heck of a lot of work, but I'm managing to keep up, though I really do not enjoy the subject.I don't have a backup plan, though I've always been good at and enjoyed maths... But I feel so lost and confused about dropping out that I can't think straight. It's stressing me out and making me ill. But how can I leave if I might regret it? It was so hard getting here!Everyone says they'll support me no matter what, but I feel like I'd let them down if I left.sorry if this is very long and confusing, as you can tell I'm pretty stressed and would appreciate help!
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reader, yum yum  +, writes (16 October 2011):
 Be as self-aware as possible. Is it really the courses,university and/or profession you don't like ? or is homesickness more the issue. That is the key question. People can always change their mind quickly in a short period of time, nothing wrong with that. What made you suddenly change you're mind ?, if its because of the courses and university, then keep in mind that this will not be forever. Does being a vet still appeal to you ? If the answer is a clear NO, and you are 100% sure that you're homesickness and other factors have nothing to do with that choice, then in that case you should start thinking of what other careers seem interesting to you and match you're soft-skills. Be as logical and self aware as possible in the choice you are going to make.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (16 October 2011):
In truth, the only person you can ever really let down in life is yourself. Others might feel let down by you, but that's their own problem in the end. Your job is to make sure that you're happy with your own life. To do that, you have to make good decisions.
You really, really need to think very hard about what you want now. I'm not actually that sure whether you want to leave because you feel you don't want to do it, or whether it's the moving away from your family that's done this. You have wanted to be a vet all your life, and you've worked extremely hard to get where you are - yet three weeks into uni you want to leave? I'm not sure that this is down to you wanting to change career. I think it's homesickness. And the problem with homesickness is that if you let it get to you now, you'll never reach your full potential. You won't wind up that vet you've always wanted to be - you'll wind up in a job you really, really don't like and there'll be little chance for you to make up for it later on.
I think you need to do two things:
1 - Speak to your course tutor and tell them you're feeling this way about your life and the course. They'll have seen this all before and will want help you.
2 - Speak to a careers advisor so you know what else you might want to do if you do leave.
But, honestly, I don't think you should leave yet. I think you're homesick, and I 99.9% sure that if you leave you'll regret it later on (probably when you're stuck behind some boring desk!). People don't throw their lifelong dreams away in the space of three weeks. You're suffering from homesickness, and I think before you throw your vet idea away, you need to work on the homesickness first. You will not get many chances like this again without having to work 10 times harder later on.
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