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writes:I am going to get mixed answers here, no doubt. This is aimed at the girls. As an 18 or 19 year old, how far would you expect a guy to go on a first date? Would a mini make out session be too much? How come in the movies couples seem to sleep with each other on the first date? Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (15 October 2011):
 On the first date we talk and keep our hands to ourselves. If I make out, or find the man wanting to make out with me, then I write off all possibilities for a relationship and treat him like a one night stand or friend with benefits, or someone I'll make out with and that's it. Nothing serious.
If a man wants me to take him serious he better take me serious in return. I lose interest in men who only want one thing. Maybe because if I wanted to have random sex or make out I'd just go to a party or out on town, no problem. But if I go on a date and actually take time to get to know you it is to.. get to know you! And see if we can make it as a couple in a relationship. The last thing I'd want then is a casual make-out session or sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2011): In the movies they have to smush an entire relationship into a 2 hr movie. Of course it seems to move fast. Also, some people do sleep together very early in the relationship. Some people sleep together before they are even dating. Everyone is different. For me a mini makeout session would be way too much, especially when I was in that age bracket.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2011): I wouldn't even kiss on the first date (maybe just a little peck on the cheek), so a mini make out session would be way to much for me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2011): At that age we girls don't expect you guys to do anything really. We want to be "good girls". Most of us are afraid that you would think we are easy, if first dates go that far as making out. Most of us want a little courting before we even kiss.When we get older, much older, situation changes a little. We do what we want, what we feel is right, understanding man's intentions more clearly, and then decide what we want to do with a situation.But at 19, too much aggression on a first date could be a turn off, but absence of any action will be taken as a given.good luck.
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reader, lakers_lover09  +, writes (15 October 2011):
Because movies are scripted my friend lol totally unreal. Some girls do not mind a little maie out session on the first date, but as the man u gotta restrain and b a gentleman. Kiss her lightly, softly, and with discipline. Leave yer wanting more. Dnt go staright with the tongue. Jus look her in the eyes and give her a soft passionate kiss. More than one if u like. She will remember tht much more than jus a makeout.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (15 October 2011):
 I have never seen 18, 19 year old couples sleep on the first date in typical hollywood movies. You don't have to kiss every girl and treat her lavishly the first date, what if you don't like her the next day? I assume you and her both like each other. If that's the case I would expect at least a kiss on the face. It takes only one date to tell if there's mutual interest. Anything less than a kiss on the face means the guy is too shy, too cautious, too slow, or simply not interested. If the chemistry is off the wall then of course there is no need to even question what you should do. The first kiss may or may not feel natural but the most important thing is to see her response, how receptive she is. It all depends on how the date went, whether you had fun in conversations. Notice eye contact, little touches and gestures because that all leads to what happens at the end of the date, and the next date.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2011): well sweets ,in movies the whole story happens within 3 hours..they cant show us brawling end less number of dates ...and anyhow in most of the movies they do not makeout or mini makeout on a 1st date unless they want to depict the relationship as purely physical or something..well i am 19 and i kissed my boyfriend of 2 yrs on our 2nd date and went slightly further on the 3rd one ...n we did the real making out only after a month...but our love had worked up way before the 2nd date ..even my ex bf i kissed on the 2nd date...but we didnt do anything further ..n later on we broke up.i dont think a girl would like to makeout..or minimake out on the very 1st date...i wouldnt personally think it dignified if a girl gave in so quickly without any time to accomodate herself to you..normally its good if there is an excitement of expectation after the 1st date ..to do something on the 2nd oneit depends though ,if your love is already all blooming and blossoming beforehand..then a girl will want to get to the 1st level with you...its very exciting and pleasing for a girl if the relationship is taken slowly further in the physical aspect..if you want a long lasting rel. then also,this approach will make her trust you in the long run .there is no logic to it ,yet thats how it goes,however things might be faster in your society!!!it depends on the type of girl..on how many guys she has been with and what is the intensity of your attraction towards each other! BEST OF LUCK :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2011): I know i'm not a girl but I can tell you from experience. It depends on the girl and how well the date went.
Usually you can tell what she's feeling, walk her to her door and if she hangs around then she's at least wanting a hug. If she darts inside then I think that's pretty obvious. If she invites you in, don't immediately think SEXSEXSEXSEX, she might just want to spend some more time with you.
So, what i'm trying to say is you'll only know on the night! If she hangs around then at least try for a kiss - What's the worst that can happen?
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