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writes:Hi Cupids,just wondering, what do you do when you find yourself in a complacent relationship?? I have been in a relationship for 3.5 years to a great guy, loyal, caring but who has stopped making an effort. Or maybe he just doesn't care anymore, I don't know... I'm always the one suggesting things to do, places to go. He rarely gives me his opinion on things which really bugs me. And when I ask him things, the response I usually get is "I don't mind", "I see" or "I don't know what to say". I still make an effort for him but sometimes I feel like it goes unnoticed. Most of the time, if we meet up with his friends, they're the ones who say I look nice and I guess it hurts because it's not your boyfriend who says it and who you made the effort for. When we see each other he hardly ever gives me a hug and I end up hugging him, and going in for a kiss whilst it can take him half an hr before he actually initiates it. It just makes me feel unwanted! So, my question is, is this a complacent relationship or had he just lost interest and stopped caring?Any advice would be great, thank you. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2011): There is no point in talking to him, you will only end up feeling like he says you look nice, because you told him to.
Welcome to the real world, relationships have peaks and troughs, when you have been in a relationship as long as you have, it isn't going to be wonderful all the time, is he worth sticking with through the good and not so good times?
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