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writes: How long does it take for a person to trust her significant other? Relationships are base on trust, but if the trust never existed; how do you build on it? How long does it take? I am asking b/c I am in a relationship where trust has always been an issue. He lied to me more than one occasion; last time he lied to me was about a year ago, and I don't seem to gain his trust. We cant move forward into the relationship b/c I cant trust him.... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2011): he tells lies so that makes him untrustworthy. you are wrong to say not being able to move forward because of your lack of trust,its his lies that is the destroyer.
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reader, Juliet  +, writes (17 July 2011):
Hi,
Sorry to hear this is playing on your mind.
So I can try to helo you, can I ask:
How long are you together?
How big or more specifically, what, was the lie he told you about a year ago?
How did you find out he was lying that time? Did he tell you he'd lied or ??
Does he trust you?
And why did you say that trust has never existed in your relationship?
Thanks!
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reader, Mami26  +, writes (17 July 2011):
 Trust is a MUST!Im in the same boat as you so maybe we can help each other out here. Its hard to trust someone who hasnt always been honest with you.Trust doesnt happen over night,its something that is earned. You need to think,why dont i trust him,what was it he lied to me about?And go from there.He must of lied/done something to really hurt you and your not over it or its still hurting you deep inside. Its easy to forgive but sometimes impossible to forget.I told my man this....Tell me the REASON why you lied,not an EXCUSE!A reason is the TRUTH no matter how hard it is to hear,and EXCUSE is something people say to shut you up.i dont know if i helped you out or not,but remember TRUST IS TO BE EARNED,LIKE LOVE!
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