A
male
age
30-35,
*enKuijper
writes:Hello Everyone,I am finally accepted that I am bisexual and stop to fight myself and now trying to find some dates but I have no idea how to find guys, gay or bi. I tried many good dating sites, I am currently in Germany and they have really nice websites but you need to pay and actually I don’t want to spend lots of Euros for a dating site. I am studying in a university and tried to find some gay/bi guys but my “GAYDAR” is not functioning or everyone is straight around me. I tried chatroulette to find someone to talk and after many weird things, I found two guys at my age one is bi and one is gay and took some advices from them but they are too far away, no chance to meet with them we only use Skype. I never experienced anything with a guy before. I really want to have a relationship but I can’t find someone even to share things. I am ready to come out of the closet if I find someone and have a serious relationship. Just my closest friend knows that I am bisexual. Do you have any idea what could I do? Gay bars are a little bit scaring me and seems insecure.The funny thing is I am in a region of Germany which has the highest gay population and very famous with its gay communities but I don’t want to scream out yet . I have no idea what to do as a next step. I am a kind of person always knows the next step and what to do next. This uncertainty affects my social-daily life. I am looking forward to have some advices from you all.Sincerely.
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reader, cmarieky  +, writes (18 July 2011):
I would say just wear like a wrist band with the gay colors and when your talking to guys just talk using hand gestures. If the guy constantly look at the wrist band smile and keep talking. If someone should ask you why the wrist band you don't have to say you're gay/bi just tell that person you advocate for those who are discriminated against. Set up a Facebook or MySpace and meet some guys that way. Also your university should have a glbt organization, become a part of it. To really meet a few guys you may have to come out of your shell. Go where the gays hangout and befriend the guy that is gay but doesn't look too gay. Making friends are the easiest ways, so just relax...and go make friends. Good luck
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