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writes:Really general question do most of you when you have a crush, liking of someone,Tell them without asking them out?Directly ask them out?Get a friend to tell them without asking them out?Tell them when you are over them?Never tell them?Get a friend to ask them out for you?Or any others that you may do?Thanks
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reader, Purple Pillow Power  +, writes (18 July 2011):
 Lots of people have asked me out through there friends. Thats not cool. Some people find it bad to have there friends to tell them stuff so 3 and 6 are OUT. Never tell them would mean you suffer the crushes pain so no. You may never get over someone. Directly asking them out is probably the best way to get a girl. Try and find the right time and ask her out. Live and learn.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2011): Your first option is the best if they're your friend. The second is best if you don't know them that well.
Simply with a crush you have to shit or get off the pot. You're a man, never get a friend to ask a girl out, you should always have the balls to do that yourself even if they say no, you can still hold your head high and girls respect a guy with the guts to do things himself. You should always be up front about these things too and not go around getting your friends to find out first or any of that. You just assume that they do and if they don't then you get closure and the crush goes away pretty quickly once you realize there's no chance or she may well like you too and in that case life's sweet.
Don't ever let a crush develop always make a move on a girl when you realize you're starting to really like her. Unless she has a boyfriend of course or is lesbian, in those cases you just back off a bit and find another girl you like to ask out.
It's called a crush because it hurts, so treat it like a plaster and just rip it off quick, find a way of asking that girl out or asking her if she likes you too as soon as you feel something for her. Life is tough for guys who don't learn that asking girls out is both easy as hell and is really not that big a deal. Girls only become a big deal when they actually agree to be your girlfriend, everything else is menial and normal.
You're young OP, the best time to start learning is now, the first and most important thing to prevent crushes is just going for it. I know quite a few guys in their 30's that have never had girlfriends only crushes because even now talking to girls is extremely hard for them. Best to get all that awkwardness out of the way while you're still young and they're still inexperienced.
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