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writes:had a dream last night and its really bothering me, i dreamt my man had someone on a back burner he knew and was friends with there in his life, just incase things didnt work with us, i was going to text him and tell him this, but he might think i am being silly, but it has really got to me, and now i am questioning our relationship in my mind, its LDR we see each other best we can, been together for over 2 years and we are committed and loyal to each other, text when we say, talk on msn everynight, he has made it clear he wont meet anyone else wants me in his life and for the future, but he his very secretive bottle things up that happen to him dont discuss them with me, not bothered me before but i feel it does now, do i just forget this dream and hope he has not got anyone else he his friends with just incase things dont work out, or do i talk to him about it, was this a sign or just a silly dream, thanks agony aunts and uncles i also once got told by psychic, that my man was hiding a secret to do with a women and i had to tread carfully, so i asked my man about this with been in a right state and all upset, when i went to visit him, and he told me he had no secrets and no one else, could it be all this on my mind and it brought the dream on maybe, please any advice do i tell my man or just forget this dream thanks.i look at it this way, i dont have anyone on a back burner incase things dont work, so why should he, i could never hurt him and hope he could never hurt me, we do have good connection, i can finish his words off before he says them, and i feel i have met me in a mans body,but this dream really got to me am i being daft, thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2011): thanks again for your reply angelDlite, and your so not wrong in what you say, i take in all of it, yes i have met his friends and we all go out together in couples, and yes i have met and had dinners at his parents, and yes i go to his house more cause of one day will be moving to his area, so he feels better for me to go to him more as i would then get used to his area, he does come to mine but not as much has i go to his, but when i see him next i am going to have a chat by saying been with you over two years and i hardly know nothing about you, and then i will gradually go into the conversation, and watch for them body signs, and yeh your right he his not going to just come out with yes i do have someone on a back burner, not sure how to approch that quiestion, but thanks so much for your advice making me feel better everytime you answer with more good advice, but i wont be watching the tv this time, i will be having a chat, think i better if i am wanting to spend a life time with him thanks again
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (18 July 2011):
 yes, but i think you are missing the point a little bit, asking him if he has anyone on the back burner coz of a dream you had will make you sound a little bit flaky to him as does questioning him because of something a psychic said (the reliability of psychics is usually dubious) - if you ask him, do you really expect him to come straight out and say 'well, yes, now that you mention it, i HAVE got someone else on the go'? if you want to know the answer you have got to be clever, it involves 'casual' questioning, with careful watching of his body language and voice pitch, signs of vagueness in his answers, stuff like that, surprise him with a visit at short notice sometimes. do you know his friends and family? do you go to his house or does he always come to yours?
you had that dream because your insecure thoughts took over your mind in the night while you slept. the thoughts that you keep buried in your waking life - caused by the doubts you have in the relationship, the mystery around his ex partners and the seed planted by the psychic who gave you that warning.
it does not mean you were receiving some psychic message from some other place
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2011): THANKS FOR THE OTHER REPLY angelDlite really is appreciated, when i see him next, i am going to chat and find out them things you said, and yes they are questions you dont want to ask when you dont want the answer, them sort of questions, best to know now and check we are both on the same page in life, he has said he wants a future with me and loves me to bits and i have no worries of him ever leaving me, he told me that when i broke down in tears one night i was with him, after what the pyschic had told me when i questioned him if he had any secrets he was not telling me about, and i am going to come out with the question does he have anyone on a back burner like i dreamed thanks again for your reply
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (18 July 2011):
dreams are a great way of bringing things to our attention. you obviously have concerns about them but you pushed them to the back of your mind and ignored them. however, when we are asleep the the unconscious mind takes over and starts working through things. trying to fathom them out.
you know deep down that this relationship has got a lot of ingredients missing.
if you are not seeing each other much but then when you do get together you are not connecting and just sitting watching telly, you do not know anything about his relationship history, you have no idea where he sees this going, does he think you are casual, is he exclusive to you. why have you not discussed these things? are you afraid that his answers will be not the ones you want to hear?
always pay attention to your dreams ok? coz they always tell you things, even the ridiculous things in dreams is your mind working things out, sometimes seems jumbled but when you think closely about things you can usually understand what they mean
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2011): THANKS FOR THE REPLY angelDlite, you asked me what are the future plans, i am looking to move nearer so we can see each other more thats the plan, but when we are together we never seem to talk about us, we just cuddle up watch tv and mention odd word about the programme we are watching together, i dont know anything about his past girlfriends, never really asked i dont even know if he still keeps in touch with them as friends, i dont know his hopes and needs, i dont know where he sees this realashionship going. I think next time i see him instead of watching the tv maybe we should just sit and talk about our lifes we have had, and ask the questions i dont know of, cause if i have been with him nearly two years and i am going to spend a life time with him, need to know theses things i think, we are good together when we are with each other, but that dream i had just made me think, thanks again for your reply
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (18 July 2011):
your dream may have been a psychic one (i know they exist coz i have had them) but it is very likely that you had the dream because it is your unconscious mind trying to process the insecurity you have (its an LDR - which obviously can be a cause for worry, and the fact that the 'psychic' you consulted has planted doubt in your mind by telling you your man can't be trusted)
i am not sure about the dynamics of your relationship - i mean you have been together over two years but it is still long distance? what is the plan for the future?
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