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writes: My coworker and i made out last year..the kisses seemed soft and sensual, we cuddled..he kissed my forehead a few times..i didn't sleep with him though..i knew i would feel used afterwards and i am not a one night stand type of girl..the kissing and other stuff i can deal with..(i gave him a hand job) and my clothes were completely on..we left things alone..sometimes i felt we still had an attraction the way we looked at each other..we were wary with one another after that..not sitting next to each other in meetings if we didn't have to.A year later he asks to get drinks..others came along but eventually it was just us..We did speak of what happened and he said he did feel bad b/c he wanted to talk to me a couple of times about it. I said i was a little freaked out after all of it. Eventually it was just me and him and we did kiss and basically did the same things as last time but he has been back with his ex for a little while now..i don't know the details of their relationship or how happy they are. I also think it's more his responsibility to not even try to pursue anything else. I'm glad in a sense that we did just the same things as last time..still didn't sleep together..so it's bad but could be worse.Am i slutty for doing this? obviously i should have said i can't do this b/c you have a girlfriend..but my emotions took over i guess and i am human. I just hope he doesn't view me as that. I really am not a one night stand girl which is why i can't bring myself to sleep with him..the other stuff i can handle a little better such as kissing but not the latter. Am i a horrible/skanky girl? I honestly don't think he is a bad guy in a sense..i think he may have trust issues with her and also isn't really sure if he wants committment yet..it's still wrong but in general he is an ok person.
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reader, VSAddict  +, writes (17 July 2011):
 You are not a slut. Almost everyone does something like this with someone during their life. I've been through the same with an FWB and I felt that way at first, but it was a fun mistake. You made the mistake of not walking away even though he told you what was going on. And he's not that much of a good guy either if he's willing to cheat on his girlfriend. If you ever get together, there's a good chance he could do the same to you. You should stop making out with him until he's single again. But guys lie about things like that, so maybe you should stop altogether.
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