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writes:my fiance told me last night whilst drunk that he hated me and how he thinks im a bad mum to our children, he said i should get out of his life and how he can do so much better than me how he deserves so much better than me. this all started due to the fact i was annoyed with him and i just gave him the cold shoulder and tried to go sleep. he then started to call me all the names under the sun and then it turned visical im 29 weeks pregnant with our 2nd child and he was saying how the child would be better off dead than have me as a mother. he doesnt ever ddrink and he drank an awful lot at a party could he actually mean all this or was it more than likely just were he couldnt handle the drink? im finding it very hard to forgive him and i dont no what to do. can some1 please help me?
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (18 July 2011):
 exactly! you need to speak to him about this and see what his opinion is when he is sober. drinks and indeed certain drinks can turn people nasty , this sounds like he got angry at you coz you gave him the cold shoulder when he came in drunk wanting a bit of fun with you, sounds like he resented you being pregnant too, but maybe that was just a temporary thing coz he wasn't getting what he wanted.
i am not a believer in the 'sorry, i was drunk' routine. if he was able to speak the words, he was aware of what he was doing, but he didn't care that it was hurtful. a man that can flip like this because he doesn't get what he wants from you is bad news i think
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (18 July 2011):
 And what did he say when you discussed his horrible words when he was sober?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2011): I'm sorry he said all of this to you. I don't think it is the alcohol alone. To say those kind of things you have to have been contemplating them. The fact that it became physical is a huge red flag. I'm guessing there have been other warnings that you may have overlooked. Get away from him asap.
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