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writes: I'm actually quite annoyed at myself, i'm 19 and i don't feel like i've lived my teenage life to the fullest! I haven't slept with anyone.. STILL. I haven't experimented or at least tried one drug, something even small such as weed. I haven't had a relationship ever, so I have never been in love or done something unforgettable. These are things that I wish I'd done years ago, but never did. The things is with relationships or having sex, i've had so many opportunities but never felt that the guy was the right person. So I never had either, because I was too picky and wanted it to be right. Same with experimenting with drugs or doing something unforgettable, I wanted to but when it came to it. Again, I was never sure if I was ready to do that.Well now, I'm 19 and haven't experienced any of this!! And it does annoy me, because I feel like I let myself down and held myself back from doing these things. It was because I always worried what my mum would say, when really I was ready and I wanted to so I should of. Because I realise, my mum isn't living my life.. I am and i've stupidly realised that now! So i'm upset with myself, for nearly turning 20 and being far inexperienced with teenage life. Has anyone else ever done this? Have you ever got to the end of your teenage years and realised, I have missed out on so much!?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2012): As a teenager who spent the ages of 14-19 moving from smoking 4-7 times a month to 4-7 times a day I can I was actually thinking the same thing when I came to this site. Trust me you didn't miss much, blazing up with your friends and chilling is fun at first but I wish I had just stayed away from all drugs. Also 9/10 of my teenage friends are dead, in jail, running from jail, or have permanent mental problems.
People who say weed isn't addictive are full of shit, cause when I quit I had nightmares when I could sleep, couldn't eat more than 1 full meal a day, and I still feel shitty after 3 months of being sober. And they nightmares were really bad, like wake up after 3-5 hours of sleep in a cold sweat, your done sleeping tonight bad. I know some people are reading this and thinking, "hahaha dumbass" because I would have thought the same thing 3 years ago. So just stay away from drugs, the ride is awesome but the ending is almost always bad.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2011): I was like you and now I'm in my early 20s I'm so glad I didn't do any of that because of peer pressure. A couple of my friends now have kids, another tried weed and went onto harder drugs, the majority are now trying all sorts of different ways to give up smoking and most regret how and to who they lost their virginity.
My friends who didn't go crazy in their teen years are now the happiest.
Never do anything just because other people are doing it, do it because you really want to. Overall I've found being picky to be a good thing, when I was ready to try these new things I was far more confident in myself and knew what I wanted, unlike some of my friends who were pressured into things they weren't ready for. I have far fewer regrets than most people.
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reader, LovelessAct1  +, writes (22 December 2011):
I had a religious girlfriend in high school (meaning no sex, no drugs, no rock and roll). Though I cared a lot for her, we never did much. While our good friends were drinking, smoking, and having lots of mindless sex, we stayed modest and quiet.After we broke up and I went off to college, I had already developed this idea in my head that I didn't like drinking and only wanted to have sex with someone who was important to me. I still went to parties, but stayed sober, and I still went out with girls, but didn't want to have sex until I was in "love."All of a sudden, it was my senior year in college. I was 21, looked back on my life, and decided "Well frick! I haven't done anything exciting with my life! I've been living under a rock! Well no more!" The very next weekend, I hit life upside the face with a crowbar. I started partying like no tomorrow, I drank, and many random flings with chicks. It felt amazing at first, but then the lifestyle started catching up with me.After about 5 months, long story short, I needed to do some serious work to make sure I still graduated with a decent GPA. I had an internship I had been half-assing and had professors who were worried about me. This great student they had for 3 years was all of a sudden a missing wreck.Now I'm 22, graduated, working, and have finally found a good balance between staying responsible and letting loose. I save modest drinking for the weekends with close friends and say "no" to one-night stands. I know that my version of "rock bottom" isn't nearly as bad as some other's, but I definitely found out through the partying lifestyle that its not all its cracked up to be.And that's the advice I'll pass to you; its not all its cracked up to be. You don't need to save yourself until marriage, but its definitely best to be considerate with who you sleep with and how important it is to you before you just do it with anyone. Do what you need to do FOR YOU; don't let other people influence how you feel you should be living your life.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (22 December 2011):
 Why do you need to have all this stuff done in your teenage years? You have your whole life to sleep around, get high and wasted and ruin your life. Don't worry. You'll get around to do crazy life wrecking things to regret later on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2011): I never did anything that "normal teenager's" did, I never drank, or had sex or did drugs, or anything else. I was a bit silly in thinking that maybe I missed out on something, but I quickly realised that I had made the right decisions for me. I was my own person and was proud that I didn;t do any of those things ( I had opportunity, just didn;t take them). The things I did achieve was to get a good education, made life-long friends and saved myself for the right person. You will fall in love when the right guy comes along, you have a fantastic future ahead of you, and have built a good foundation for that future by the decisions you have made. Don't regret what you haven't done, because you will do at least some of them, and they will be the important one's.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2011): I'm ashamed to say it, but I used to think like that. But honestly, it's extremely immature and silly. I never used to do ANYTHING I referred to what a 'normal' teenagers did. Such as heavily drinking weekly, taking drugs, having one night stands and sleeping with anyone, partying etc. I never used to do any of that (I did have a boyfriend for almost all of my teenage years) and I just used to do things with him (which were the complete opposite to those things) and there was a time I used to think I was wasting my youth by being with him because I could be doing what the typical teenager does.But the older and mature I got the more I am so, SO glad I never did those things! It just makes me feel proud of myself to have not been one of them 'stereo type' teenagers.Realistically, why would you want to ruin yourself/your body by drinking, taking drugs and have no respect for yourself by sleeping around? That is completely and utterly everything I disagree on now and I'm glad I never did it, I would have just regretted it later on. I did normal things with my teenage years that I actually REMEMBER and can look back on, not drinking until I pass out, sleeping with strangers and can't remember a thing.Being a teenager doesn't mean you have to act 'wild'. You have to remember you're still so young you've got your whole life ahead of you to do what you want. Being a virgin at any age is nothing to be ashamed of and you have years to find love and loose your virginity. You'll find so many teenagers actually ENVY you and wish they waited to loose there virginity and didn't do the things you said.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (22 December 2011):
 I realized that at the end of my teen years... then again at the ends of my 20s, 30s, 40s and 50s. It's not an uncommon realization. Some people are able to fend it off by DOING something each decade.....
Good luck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2011): I'm also 19 and I have experienced those things and in no way do I feel fulfilled. I actually feel sad and guilty for giving my virginity up so easily to a scumbag ex boyfriend. I feel horrible for smoking weed, because it's completely unnecessary. Don't be in such a rush to do these things...believe me, I'm approaching 20 too and only now am I enjoying sex with my boyfriend.
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reader, adoresdior +, writes (22 December 2011):
so you wish you were a slut or a drug addict? Trust me my teenage years consisted drugs, alcohol, sex, parties and being wild...and it has gotton me no where. I wish I never did any of that, I wasted my teens years and it made me nothing but miserable. Your lucky you haven't done anything. I promise you that.
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reader, In.love.with.him +, writes (22 December 2011):
 This is from my point of view since I've tried drugs and had sex not sleeping around but I've had sex but have also had it done without my consent. I hate thinking about it. I also had tried many drugs weed when I was 8, cocaine both forms, ecstasy, and many different kind of pharmaceutical drugs. From being raped I have to live with it everyday also doing drugs at a young age I have a small lung capacity and break down sometimes but I quit everything and only slipped up a few times. You know what is memorable in your teenage years it's not the parties (I like waking up and knowing what I did I'm sure everyone does) It's the part where you are figuring out who you are. I know all of my experiences made me stronger and helped me over come but when I had a relapse on coke I couldn't say no. Now I am a homebody an have a better relationship with my family which I lost from doing drugs I started stealing to support my habits. I have a supportive boyfriend. Take it from me keep your head up and who cares if everyone is smoking grass I don't mind weed but I quit cause it would remind me of things and make me a nervous nut.Just keep your eyes on the prize and save yourself your lucky you must have been raised around a good family.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2011): To me you sound sensible :-)
You trying just one drug could've lead to an addiction.
You sleeping with just one guy could've have given you a STD or a kid.
Who knows?
You've ended your teenage life with not so many regrets, as you've not made the mistakes.
For not having slept with someone yet I'd say that makes you responsible & sensible, as you're waiting for the right person. Many teenagers just sleep around & lose their self respect & end up regretting their actions later on in life.
God bless & take care x
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (22 December 2011):
 Yeah I got to the end of my teenage years and realized im still alive I dont have a criminal record I dont have any STDs I dont have any babies i dont have any emotional baggage and I dont have any regrets.I spent my teenage years indulging my entrepreneurial spirit and earning money.I wasnt having sex getting my heart broke using drugs and filling my young life with drama. Instead i studied martial arts learned to write computer code and trade on the stock market By 19 I also knew the internal workings of a carburated engine. I was also highly involved in card trading yeah it sounds silly but a decade or so ago with some wise trades those Pokemon cards could bring in a few hundred a week and thats not bad when gas was only $1.09 a Gal.So be thankful your a survivor I grew up in a town where life expectancy was barely 21 Now do something productive not detrimental with this next phase of life.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (22 December 2011):
 Why would you care just about sleeping with someone or trying drugs. That sounds like a way to waste away your teenage years. There has to be more to your past then just what you are saying you haven't done.
The thing I miss most from my past was all the time i would spend with friends just doing stupid things that didn't matter to anyone but ourselves.
Doing something unforgettable is all up to what you consider is unforgettable. As for not falling in love it is not like you missed out on anything and love is still to come.
Try to look back on the good stuff and remember that you still have alot of life to live. I'm 21 and don't plan on slowing down anytime soon. As you get older friends or mine just have better parties with better booze.
Focus on the future and mold it into what you want it to be. There is nothing you can do about the past.
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