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30-35,
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writes:So I've been talking to my coworker for a good few weeks, not too long really. He's about 8 years older than me, and we talk constantly. we'll text eachother literally all day until almost 5am (not all nights). He'll always text me goodnight and all that jazz. And recently asked me out on a date. Yet, all my coworkers tell me he's trying to settle down and would like to find someone of wife/mother potential. And I'm still young of course and don't get me wrong I like him. But I don't see myself that far ahead as wife material at the moment. So I guess I'm just looking for advice, because we haven't established any feelings or anything. And I don't know if its a good idea to continue whatever it is that we are because I'm not what he's looking for.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2011):
I agree with the other responses. You have no idea what he wants. He might not know what he wants. You might not either when it comes down to it.
I have a friend who rarely dates because he is so picky. Every woman has to be wife/mother material to him or he won't date her. However, I have no idea how he can identify this about a woman without dating her! He feels he just knows. I feel he's a little arrogant to presume he can.
The best way to find out if you are compatible is to date. Anything else is speculation.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (21 December 2011):
 I would wait to think about what HE wants until HE TELLS YOU. what OTHERS say is mere conjecture.
Can't see any harm in going out with him and getting to know him and see what develops.
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