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writes:In the midst of a joking conversation, my boyfriend (22) and I (21) of six months somehow got on to the subject of children and I joked that because of one of his dorky, but lovely and endearing traits (Star Wars obsession) we shouldnt procreate, otherwise we'll spawn more Leias and Lukes into the galaxy. (I realize this isn't funny out of context, haha). But what I found striking was that he laughed and said, "Oh no, I think we will and they will be the most intelligent and attractive offspring ever! Hopefully they'll get rich too and support us when we're old!" It was such a random thing for him to say and I was surprised. Whenever I've joked about being super serious and getting married, he laughs but shrugs it off, saying its too into the future to think about. I've never cared, I know we're young! This comment was so different and I said, "I see what you've been thinking about!" He blushed a bit. Later that night, I asked what he sees in the future with me and he said he could see us together for a long time and even with a few kids eventually. I was still surprised. Ive never had a man say anything of this nature to me and I have no idea as to what to do. I have been feeling since we started dating that he is different than the others ive dated. Lately, I've found my love just keeps growing for him. That "honeymoon period" has never expired in six months and I just don't foresee it happening either anytime soon. I am so in love and have been considering how much I want to start a life with him very much (just the two of us! No kids lol), but in our own place. I'm so enraptured and my gut seems to be saying he might be the one. But we are rather young. So am being irrational? Should I tell him how seriously I feel for him? Does what he said mean he might be feeling the same? I won't scare him away if I tell him I think he is and I want him to be the one already, will I? How does what he said bode relationship wise? Is there potential?How and when did you know your one and only was the one and only? Thanks for the help! Happy holidays!!!
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (21 December 2011):
 Well the one today can be gone tomorrow sometimes you cant know nothings certain, you just have to take the leap of luck. tell him how you feel and see where it goes. If he feels the same way hell be there in the morning.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (21 December 2011):
 It's still early in the relationship and you are young but not children so if it continues in this vein... it sounds GREAT...
you are not being irrational and it sounds like he has similar feelings...
how and when do you know? sounds like YOU do... and I did too at your age with my first husband... and I had two beautiful children with him... we later divorced but I'm not sorry we married young and had our children.
As for telling him how you feel... you sort of have and he has sort of told you.
if possible i would just relax and go with the flow and enjoy it right now.
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reader, bluecow  +, writes (21 December 2011):
 I think he has given you all the signals to express your mutual agreement of this being a long term relationship with a possibility of a lovely lifelong future together.
I wouldnt go proposing, just wait until your having another similar conversation and tell him you too share his vision of the future too.
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