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writes: Is sarcasm a bad trait to have?Do guys not like sarcasm? Not bad sarcasm just a mild if-you-ask-a-stupid-?-I'll-give-a-sarcastic-answer kind of sarcasm. Im just wondering because thts a really big trait of mine .. :P Reply to this Question
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reader, ScaredForLove +, writes (22 December 2011):
ScaredForLove is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey guys thanks for answering :) I am a very sarcasti person, but I'm not one that pokes fun at others (Unless were good friends and they know im kidding) and when people ask serious questions i dont give sarcastic answers, just if somebody says something like...oh its hard to come up with one :P anywhoo..thanks for the help :)
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reader, ilanah tromans  +, writes (21 December 2011):
 it all depends on the person your with, they may like sarcasm or they may hate it.. abit of sarcasm wont harm anyone its just when people go over the top and start being cocky that it gets annoying, so go ahead be sarcastic but know when to stop :)
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (21 December 2011):
 depends on the person. I have a huge sarcasm gene... sometimes my current partner does not like it. OH well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2011): OK for example - my old boss who was a total airhead had bad headaches due to her 'stressful' love-life - a married man...
She was sent for a brain scan and I asked her if they had found anything... no she replied.....
How would you respond?
I just surpressed a laugh and said 'just as I thought'
There IS a time and place but sometimes its hard not to be sarcastic, you just have to bite your tongue
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2011): I think sarcasm is only a bonding experience if you and the other person are both directing your sarcasm at a third party. Or if you are taking playful jabs at each other. But every person has their own internal threshold for when something isn't funny anymore and hits a raw nerve. If you're going to use playful sarcasm at someone you need to know where this line is so you dont' cross it.
To me, sarcasm directed at another person in a NON playful manner as understood by THAT person, is destructive to a relationship or friendship because then the negativity is very real but is coming out in a passive aggressive way. I do not like passive aggressive behavior. I believe that if you have a problem with someone you take responsibility for bringing it out into the open to resolve it. If you choose not to do anything to resolve it, then shut up. don't hide behind sarcastic snipes that only show that you're upset about something but are not saying what.
also, someone who is always sarcastic is just a very negative person who is unpleasant for others to be around.
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reader, bluecow +, writes (21 December 2011):
 sarcasm has its place.
I have a very dry sense of humour so sarcasm features heavily. However there are times, places and situations where it is not appropriate.
Mocking someone who has a genuine query is not acceptable (for example in class), mocking someone who is obviously struggling with another emotion is not acceptable (for example someone who has just recieved a diagnosis)... are you catching my drift.
For me sarcasm is reserved for those who know me and trust me, and also for down the pub with mates.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (21 December 2011):
 Well what determines a stupid question? Obviously the person asking it doesnt think its a stupid question. Sarcasm to me is a lack of respect,especially sarcastic answers.
When I ask a question I want an answer not a slap in the face or to be mocked. Men generally dont like being mocked especially by a female.
Also you dont know what the person could be going through or have on their mind that particular day they may ask a question you feel is stupid but maybe because there not fully thinking about it.
I was with a Gf onetime driving somewhere in a town unfamiliar to me I had just received a call from my broker telling me a about a trade that had gone bad and that I hadlost a substantial investment.
I pulled up to an intersection and asked my Gf which way and she had some sarcastic remark and told me left even though i could only go rite because it was a one way now i really wasnt paying attention to the bent up spray painted one way sign i had other things on my mind.
Sarcasm has a place but you should know the time and the person your dealing with.
BTW calling somebody sensitive because they dont like sarcastic answers is another nono
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2011): There are just as many sarcastic guys as there are girls. I'm sarcastic as hell, so are most of my female and male friends but it differs in intensity and some people just don't like it at all, but those are the people with no sense of humour :P
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