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writes:Today I was talking to my fwb when towards the end of the phone call he said "I love you". I immediately replied with "what" since it was such a shock and he repeated it. I said "no you don't" and said bye and hung up.A few minutes later he text me: " i shouldn't lie like that was getting carried away. I apologise"Why would he do this? We've known each other for a long time and he's never said anything like this - infact he acts quite uninterested at times and lately I've been thinking our time was up but this has completely thrown me.(Btw we're in our late 20s so its not like its a teen crush or anything)
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the replies the reason why I hung up so quick was b/c I was in the toilets at work hiding on the phone b/c he just "had to talk to me" turns out he was in bed getting horny lol when he talks like that over the phone it always makes me giggly and I told him so and then he said "I love you"
I don't understand the getting carried away part more b/c we were on the phone 1 minute tops
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reader, Trinklett  +, writes (22 December 2011):
 Well, I hope you like him because he has developed feelings for you. Some people are just dying to have their fwb fall in love with them. You didn't say how you feel about him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2011): I would say he probably said it by accident but because he said it twice, I have to agree, it sounds like he's developed feelings for you.
You should talk to him in person about this and if you like him to, you need to let him know.
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reader, N91 +, writes (22 December 2011):
 I have to agree with eddie, Don't think I've ever used the words 'I love you' to end a phone call.
I've been in a fwb myself where I developed feelings so I have some experience here and would say that he is starting to like you.
Have a conversation with him to establish where things are at.
Good luck
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reader, eddie85  +, writes (22 December 2011):
 I don't think this was something out of a habit. Most guys don't randomly say "I love you" when hanging up their phone. Ladies, probably, men, no.
Going out on a limb here, I suspect he may be developing or has developed some feelings towards you. When people are sleeping with one another -- even on a friend with benefits situation -- it can be difficult to turn those feelings off when you are experiencing quintessential bonding. Obviously he feels close and comfortable talking with you.
To me, this isn't very surprising at all and my guess is that he realized that he had crossed the line of FWBs to potentially something more. The safest way to recover was to backpedal as quickly as possible to save face.
Only time will tell how serious this is, but that's my 2-cents of what happened.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2011): maybe he has feelings for you and was expressing it sincerely and you rudely threw it back in his face by freaking out and hanging up. So of course he's gonna take it back after that because you had such a negative reaction.
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reader, mayhem321 +, writes (22 December 2011):
 Has he ever said it before on the phone to you?
Maybe you should try talking to him in person about this. Because he said it twice it may have meant something deeper.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2011): Saying it once could be seen as reflex when talking to somebody you care about. But he said it twice
You were the one that said 'no you don't' and hung up.. THEN he retracted it via text.
Very odd... I dont know why he said it but time will tell,maybe it was lust talking!
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reader, wanderlust92 +, writes (21 December 2011):
If he repeated it, it may not have been habit. He well might have feelings for you somewhere, and said that today to test the waters. If that's the case, your reaction probably made him second guess what he said, hence the taking it back.
Or, he was telling the truth and he did just get carried away.
All you can do now is pay attention and feel him out.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (21 December 2011):
 I agree, ending a phone call often includes "love you bye" for me... drives my fiance nuts when i say it to others.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (21 December 2011):
 Habit? Maybe he recently talked to his mother or something, or thought of someone he cares for, then talked to you and his brain didn't remember who he was talking to when you and him said bye, and he just did in on auto-pilot. Lots of time people say things out of habit.
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