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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 3 years now and we really have a great relationship with one another. :) It's just that he never really wants to go out and do anything. He says he just doesn't get much enjoyment out of anything anymore.. and so all we ever do is sit alone in his house watching tv, getting on the computer or playing video games which I enjoy alot of the times when we do do those sorts of things, but sometimes I just want something different you know? I want to have beautiful memories we would be able to look back on.. and to share with our children if we were to marry each other one day.. not just stories about how we would sit around and do nothing all the time. I feel as if our lives are just wasting away.. I've tried discussing this with him, but he just kinda blows it off and declines every suggestion I give.. I don't know what to do.. I'm always adjusting my life in order to please him.. and not once has he done the same for me.. I don't ask for much.. just this one little thing.. and I swear I would be one of the happiest girls in the world.. Ahhhh I am so bored with this routine. :\ Any advice please??
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTruthfully I wouldn't mind just sitting around and playing video games, watching movies, and etc.. with him it's just that he never shows me any sort of affection anymore. :( Sometimes I'll completely spill my heart out to him telling him how much I love him.. and he acts as if I had said nothing at all. And I'll always compliment him and tell him how handsome he is.. and honestly I can't even remember the last time he has said that sort of thing to me.. all he does is criticize me constantly.. and it really hurts, you know? It seems like he would know that..
but the thing that really gets me is how he never hesitates to say how beautiful and funny this certain celebrity is that he has been obsessing over lately.. and I don't mind that he admires her or anything. It's normal. I just wish he would save that talk for his guy friends or something, or at least refrain from talking about her so consistently to me because although I'm not the jealous type, that really kinda gets to a person after a while.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI can't go out with my friends because I'm kinda a tom boy and hang out with mostly guys, which he wouldn't feel comfortable with.. and I guess I don't really blame him even though I would never do anything behind his back or anything, he's my best bud.. and he knows that. :) Haha and if any of my guy friends were to try to make a move on me I'd sock them right in the jaw lol. But even if it's just me and a couple girls, he still doesn't approve of me going and it has gotten to the point that it just causes so much problems for me to try and do things with other people, that I just tend to shy away from it all together.
I've tried to get him to come with me and a few friends of mine plenty of times before, and he won't.. and I've tried getting him to go do a few things with just me.. and he won't.. and honestly I just don't know what to do anymore. :\ Gahh
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (21 December 2011):
 Clearly you two have different ideas of what’s fun. He likes to stay home and do “nothing” and you want to go out. I suggest that you find friends to go out with and do things with that make you happy so that when you do stay in with your boyfriend you are not resentful of this. Stop adjusting your life to make him happy that will lead to anger and resentment on your part and he will be confused as to why you are so unhappy “all of a sudden”
He likes being home. You like being out. You’ve asked him to go out and he has declined. You have two options:
1. Go out without him with your friends while he stays home and does his thing and waits for you
2. Find a more compatible boyfriend as this is the way he is and he probably will not change.
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