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26-29,
anonymous
writes:Why do girls only want to be friends. im tried of being led on by them and it sucks. i want a girl that will like me for a long time someone that will care about me.please help Reply to this Question
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (21 December 2011):
 Friends like and care about you.
Besides lack of romantic interest, another common reason girls state they want to be friends is to ensure a guy likes them for who they are, not what's in their pants.
Another is to have some control over the pace of any budding relationship. Men, especially young ones, tend to get hot and heavy pretty quickly. This can be overwheming for a girl who is still making her mind up about him.
Without knowing much about you we really can't say what you're doing wrong. Girls may sense a desperation from you and that might put them off, or you are so nice they think you only want friendship too.
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reader, TeenageDreamgirl +, writes (21 December 2011):
 Try to subtly hint to girls that you fancy that you llike them in a romantic way. Maybe text her "just wanted to say hi :) " or make a point to let her know that you want to be more than friends. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2011): Girls want to be friend with guys who are friendly, girls want to date guys who are romantic. Stop being friendly with girls you want romance from and start trying to woo them by asking them out on dates and stuff. It's not hard, just do it.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (21 December 2011):
 females like to keep there options open. every girl you like has a dozen other guys that like her too. Just freinds can mean alot of things.
It could mean shes not attracted to you but doesn't want to hurt your feelings It could mean shes afraid to get involved in a relationship or that she wants to keep you as a plan B Im sure there are other possibilities.
There are some advantages to being freinds though. When your freinds you tend to find out more about a person then when your in a relationship because they are often more open to you they dont have to worry about getting hurt. I think you can get to know people on a different level when your not romantically involved.
I have had female freinds tell me things they would never tell there partner I never dated as a teen but had many females freinds and i learned quite a bit from these friendships.
So dont knock being just freinds use it to your advantage you'll be surprised what you can learn and how close you can get to someone when you become a trusted friend.
At your age I think you will be better off being a conscience observer then a participant in the game of love. Learn the ropes before jumping in the ring. If your properly prepared when you do Enter your first relationship it will be great.
Eventually this girl will come running to you her friend teary eyed and broken hearted looking for a shoulder to lean on.
And one other thing you cant rely on someone else to care about you people change only Gods love is consistent
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