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writes:Hey aunts! So, I'm going through a pretty rocky phase in my life (my mom passed away last spring, I recently broke up with my 5year bf and I'm very heartbroken). Looks like I'm gonna be spending New Years Eve alone. I know it's a super loser thing and the mere thought of it makes me wanna cry. Have you ever spent NYE alone? Is it really such an awful thing? I know this might sound silly, but I really need some comfort over here...! Thank you all and happy holidays everyone!
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (22 December 2011):
 31st December is just another date, and its just ridiculously hyped by the media and TV channels that constantly keep reminding everyone under the sun that its NYE.
Honestly,its no different from any other day. Its just another date, another morning. The sun isnt going to rise from the west and we are not miraculously going to lose inches off our waist (sadly!!). Really there is no big deal about NYE, I dont even stay up most of the time to bring in the year. Its honestly too cold to do anything, and I would much rather cuddle up in my blanket and sleep than go to a party full of drunk idiots.
OP being alone doesn't make you a loser, I'm surprised you think like that. Most of us are alone at some point of time in our lives, does that make anyone a loser?
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (22 December 2011):
 Oh yeah... many new years alone and holidays. I dont feel bad thats just the way it is and Im in my prime age here. I dont drink, not really a partier, so in the end that new years eve scene never fit me anyway. Dont be ashamed. Its totally fine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2011): I have spent practically every new year's eve alone in the last 20 years. It doesn't worry me one bit and I generally just treat it like just another night. I think last year I didnt even bother to stay up to see it in.
I wouldn't worry about it, it's just another night. I'm well past feeling like it needs to be spent with someone else. Its not that I don't have friends, its just that most of my friends are married or in relationships and at this time of year are on holiday with family anyway (I'm single).
This is just my view and many people would see it as a big deal... It isn't. You just enjoy it the way you want to, not the way you feel everyone else is, because its seen to be the 'done thing' to be partying that night :)
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (22 December 2011):
 Hun, I'm sorry for your loss. I hope that time is working its magic and that you feel the hurt less keenly.
December 31/ January 1 are dates on the calendar. Nothing more. When I was a kid I pestered my grandmother about NYE 1900, thinking that it must have been something extraordinary -- she just looked at me like I was soft in the head. I was subsequently around for NYE 2000, and gee, there was nothing celestial about it.
I've been out with friends when we spent a lot of money for special NY evenings, and the only people who found it was special were the restaurants and bars where we spent stupid amounts of money.
Honestly, it's only what you make of it -- it's no different than April 26-27 or any other midnight. You're not a loser if you're home alone on December 31. You're a loser if you decide it makes you one. Get on with your life and ignore the calender. Really.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2011): I'm sitting here, two o'clock in the morning looking for answers to my dilemma. Then I read yours.Never having been a fan of new Years Eve, I can only say; turn off the television before you do anything else on the 31st. Rent a couple of new movies, cook a tasty meal and don't over do the alcohol.If you feel sad, then feel sad but don't let it go on all evening. If you can afford it, buy a new pair of comfy pj's, a new pair of silly looking slippers and put them on after you've finished your dinner. Snuggle in and if you want, write a list of attainable things you would love to do in 2012. If you don't want to stay up to welcome the New Year - don't. Understand that being alone doesn't necessarily mean you're lonely. Enjoy your own company in the best style of you.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (22 December 2011):
 If I had a nickel for every New Year's Eve that I spent alone, I'd be a very well-to-do man. What difference does it make????????
P.S. I DID get a date for this NYE!!!!!
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reader, KittieS  +, writes (22 December 2011):
 Look at this as a time to reflect on the past year and blooming enjoy yourself!
I spent Christmas on my own one year - well cats in tow!
I brought myself presents, I had a turkey dinner, i went to my local fora quick one at lunch, iI watched what I wanted on TV! I had a great time!
So here's my advice, put on your pearls, get out those girlie pampering things, eat what you want, play music you like, dance around your living room and watch films you love! Don't look at it as a bad thing look at it as a
ME DAY
all about you and buy yourself a blooming big present, wrap it up and open it as the new year comes in and know your going to have a great 2012 xxxx
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (22 December 2011):
 I have slept rite through new years woke up writing the wrong date on everything the next day. I think your putting the holidays on to high a pedestal. For me every day is just another day bills get run up expenses have to be paid trades are made things are bought and sold. Holidays are tools of commerce and social editing nothing more. I haven't lit a christmas tree in decades a new year just means im getting older. I buy what i want when i want and go where i want when i want i dont wait till a special magical day. Imagine that waiting all year to by something i want. I dont even celebrate my birthday maybe its just me but i dont really get that. I dont need a cake to remind me that im one step closer to the pit. I think you should try boycotting holidays for a year. its no big deal. I have absolutely no holiday stress I dont by presents I dont throw big shindigs actually holidays are my favorite days because everyone is off doing their thing and no ones bugging me. Btw the Chinese new year isn't until January 23 and the Jewish New Year has all ready come and gone it was on September 16. and your not alone there's roughly 7 billion people stuck on this planet with you at any given time. But an even more interesting question is how many holidays are there?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2011): Yes I have, quite a few...guess that makes me a real loser!!
There were varying reasons why this happened from no babysitter to not wanting to because of a situation like yours.I didn't miss being out, people sent messages..it was just another night to me at the time.
If you want to go out,can afford it, ring out the old etc then go..make plans and party till dawn,on the town or round at friends.. whats happened,happened there is nothing you can change so welcome in a new year, and toast your mum at midnight
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reader, everycloud +, writes (21 December 2011):
Hey... I am so sorry to hear you're going through some hard times. 2011 has been a very year for me too-so I understand where you're coming from.
I have spent NYE many times on my own. It can be an emotional time..Saying goodbye to the old and hello to the new. I know it's easier said than sone, but please try and stay positive. Know that I shall be in the same boat as will many more I'm sure.
You could try organizing a little get together with some friends to see in a brand new start and have some much needed and so deserved fun. You are worth it. and everyone needs a new, positive start.
Re boyfriend- I'm not sure why you broke up but what I would suggest ( and what I intend to do) is write him a letter filled with emotion (good and bad) and burn it before midnight.. Let him go and let your new life begin.
Your Mom is very proud of you and would want you to be happy lady.
Much love to you. x x x
Remember-You are a wonderful person who deserves to be happy.
Every cloud has a silver lining
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (21 December 2011):
I know two people who have spent NYE alone, and though both have said it wasn't ideal, both weren't really affected by it.
Having said that, it might be worth you trying to organize something with your friends.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (21 December 2011):
 have you got any friends you could meet up with if it means that much to you? the thing is that new years eve is an expensive night out and lots of people meet up with friends at home for a couple of drinks.
if there is no-one to hang out with you may have to accept that although this time you are alone that in future things will be better.
why did you break up with the boyfriend? was it brought on by the stress of your mother passing? sorry to hear about these bad events
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reader, iiSparkle +, writes (21 December 2011):
 Hello.
I am sorry to hear what you have gone through this year.
Spending NYE isn't so bad.
Grab the girlfriends and head out for some drinks and fun!
It isn't as sucky as you think it might be.
Spend time with friends or family and enjoy yourself.
Happy Holidays!
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