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reader, VSAddict +, writes (21 December 2011):
 No, they don't affect the race of people I would choose to date. It's my business, not theirs. If they disapproved, I wouldn't care cause it's not their right to tell me who's right and wrong for me based on race. If I decided not to date a certain race, it would be based on my opinion of that race and the qualities they usually have.
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reader, Odds +, writes (21 December 2011):
 My family is pretty open and accepting of race (but very, very willing to judge someone for their character and morals, whatever race they be). But, hypothetically, if they objected to someone I was dating because of her race, I'd tell them where to stick it - we're a stubborn family, but we respect stubbornness in others, so they would come around eventually.
I understand that some people have a harder time with their family's disapproval. I dated a Persian girl for a while (I'm Scots-Irish-German with some other tiny fractions thrown in), not long enough that I'd say she was ever really a "relationship," because her family disapproved of her dating a non-Persian, non-Muslim. I don't think they knew she considered herself agnostic. But family approval was important enough to her that I met them fairly early on, and when they didn't approve, that was it. No hard feelings - as far as I'm concerned, family is the most important thing in my life after God, so I could hardly get mad at someone for having similar priorities.
It's just a matter of what you and your family value more.
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