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writes:I've been in a relationship w/ my bf for over 2 years now. We are looking at getting engaged in 2012 and getting married in 2013.At age 16 I was told I wouldn't be able to conceive naturally and would need fertility drugs in order to get pregnant (my cycles run about 1x/year). I was on the pill for regulation and as an effort to look for some causes of my anemia, my dr. took me off the pill for 4 weeks to see if it made a difference. Somehow in those 4 weeks I ovulated and am now pregnant. We are looking at it as a miracle and are very excited about it. We are waiting for an ultrasound but know I am somewhere between 5-8 weeks. I have told my parents and they are ok with it because they knew my odds of having kids and also believe this is a miracle that perhaps may not happen again.The problem? We don't know how to tell his parents. His dad is still old-fashioned european and has the beliefs that you should be married before you get pregnant. We are planning to marry anyway but we don't want to rush it and I don't want to get married when I have a huge bump. We don't know when the best time would be? Do we wait until the 12wk. mark when chances of something going wrong decrease? Or would they be more upset that we didn't tell them about it early? My boyfriend doesn't know which option is best and I can tell it's bothering him what to do.Any advice on when a good time to tell them would be? And also how...like what words do you come out with (we're pregnant, we're going to have a baby, you're going to be grandparents), or do we just bring them an ultrasound picture? Thanks so much!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2011): First: Congrats!!! :)
You story sounds so familiar. My husband was told he was sterile when he was young. We had been dating a little over a year when I had to change my birth control due to health reasons and found I was pregnant. We looked at it the same way you did. We weren't worried about telling his mother but my parents we were. We did tell them right away and they were so happy. We now have 3 beautiful children.
My advice is don't wait, tell them. I would start with your life plan as you shared with us. Then explain that you would not have planned it this way but someone else has a greater plan for you. Assuming they know your medical history, they will be happy for you. They may be shocked but when that wears off they will be happy and if not don't let it ruin your enjoyment of your miracle.
Good Luck!
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reader, person12345  +, writes (22 December 2011):
 I'd wait until 12 weeks for sure, then tell him about how excited you both are. I bet he'll just be excited to have a grandkid on the way! Congratulations and I hope everything goes smoothly.
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