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writes:Hy people my boyfriend told me one thing i never expected to hear from him we've been together for about 1 and a half year,he told me that he luves me only 50% and other percentages he have to give them to his family because im not special.I love him so much and he really hurt me so bad that i will never forget Im confused should i give my love to who deserve it or what? please help!... Reply to this Question
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (22 April 2012):
 Actually, his comments sound worse than they are. He's voicing what many people make the mistake of feeling, that love is some pie to be parceled out piece by piece, and that there's only so much to give.
Love can't be quantified in portions. He needs to know that giving love to someone doesn't mean that it's not there for others. The more love you give away, the more you have. Just tell him that love isn't percentages. That you can give 100% to someone you love, and 100% to family, and 100% to others. It's like the bottomless glass...you keep pouring and it never empties.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (22 April 2012):
 How did this conversation start? Was there an argument about how he is not loving enough? Does he know how stupid he sounds? He loves his dad 25%, his mom 25%, and you 50%. It means each of his parents is half as special as you are. Everyone has a family and no one is going to abandon them just because they will get married one day. I think your boyfriend has a problem presenting himself in a way that's graceful and appropriate. I also think that he has problems juggling his time for you and his family and he wants to blame the pressure on the one he loves. The thing he should be telling you is that he is stressed out, but what he said made you feel like the world is against him, and that family and wife are people he deals with, like a burden. Are you sure he is ready to handle the responsibilities of a relationship? Please don't take it personally. He made a booboo in his speech that later he would regret.
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