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writes:Need help interpreting things. Completely infatuated with a girl at work. I think mainly because I feel that I would occasionally get some vibes... Don't want to misinterpret anything. She's really cute, slightly shy. Plays with her hair when she talks to me. Can maintain long eye contact. But here's the kicker. I'm her superior at work. I'm married and she has a boyfriend. Am I reading too much into things?
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reader, jamilla  +, writes (3 May 2014):
i think you like her in a different way,or should i say,you have a crush on her and you're kinda curious if things will work out on both of you though you have a wife and she has a boyfriend.it's your choice if you want to make it way too far than a simple crush but the fact that she got your attention,you must check again if you really love your wife :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2012): Get transferred, get out. Even if you are not having sex with your employee, you are obviously obsessed, fantasizing. Most likely she is flirtation because she wants to move up the ladder. Don't fall into the trap. Get out and work on your marriage.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2012): Just Stop: you are married.
Enough said.
Hey man dont lose your job in these harsh economic climate just for some p*ssy (not being crude!!!) .
This girl is going to get married shortly. Dont go down a path that will destroy all lives connected.
Im sure your wife has access to some good looking men: will you have a problem if she had illicit meaningless with another man and then comes back to you, her clueless husband.
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reader, ToHereKnowsWhen  +, writes (17 April 2012):
 Make no mistake. You're in a no-go-zone. Why? Because you are married and she has a boyfriend.
Don't cheat on your wife just for a cute, shy girl who plays with her hair and maintains a long eye contact with you. That just doesn't sound like a good idea.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (17 April 2012):
 YouWish explained it best. "A 10-second orgasm is NOT worth the price."
You have your marriage, your job and your everything that you have worked for till today, at stake. Just because someone gives you "the vibes" doesn't mean you have to act upon it. What about your marriage, though? Are you having problems there? Maybe you should focus on bettering that, rather than getting infatuated with your subordinates.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2012): Yes maybe she has a little crush on you but why would she risk her job, reputation and relationship on a crush and also why would you! You could ruin alot of people if u start persuing this girl. Firstly your wife, dont you love her anymore because if my fiance was saying things like this i would go mad!
Secondly your family, they will find out if you have an affair unless of course you want to dump your wife amd any kids you might have?
Then the girl and im assuming shes a girl not a woman, you could cause her to lose her job, even if u aproach her about it and shes not interested think if how people would talk about her if they found out, you say shes shy? It could ruin her, also with things going wrong in work, it will in turn result in problems at home too, either way its going.to.be trouble.
Just because she is pretty and sweet and friendly doesnt mean she should fancy you, leave the poor girl alone and go back to your wife, and if i were you i wouldnt tell her about this unless u want to end up sleeping in the spare room!
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reader, Wisdom +, writes (17 April 2012):
 possibly... all she has done is play with her hair and maintain eye contact. As you are her boss she may feel nervous talking to you. Eye contact is something everyone has? Besides you are Married. Walk away, No good can come of this.
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reader, Foot-In-My-Mouth  +, writes (17 April 2012):
 So you're contemplating cheating on your wife? And you're here to ask us whether that's okay? Or to find help to interpret this girl's body language? Oh dear, dear! Do you have an iota of conscience? Do you have any feelings of loyalty towards your wife and or compassion for her? What's wrong with you? STOP RIGHT NOW.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (17 April 2012):
 You should go home and ask your wife how she feels about your infatuation with this co-worker, and then you should ask your superior (I'm guessing you're not the owner of the company you work with) how they'd feel if you, a married boss, started an affair with a subordinate.
Let your obsession cool off in the cold light of day! You could lose your marriage AND your job, and if you aren't careful, once the affair goes sour and she possibly sues you for sexual harassment for exploiting a subordinate out of malice and scorn, you could lose your shirt! Oh yeah, and if her boyfriend finds out that she's stepping out with you behind his back, you could lose your teeth!
You've got to back way off, I mean way off! Avoid, Evade, turn your attention toward your wife. How would you feel if she were maintaining long eye contact and playing with her hair with another man?
I'd worry less about what you're reading into and more about what will happen if you keep entertaining this line of thought. A 10-second orgasm is NOT worth the price. Not worth it at all.
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