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... Send *asteofIndia a private message | | | *asteofIndia's profile:TasteofIndia here. I'm 33 years old, with my BA in Theater & Psychology. I suppose you could say that I have studied people and how to get into their heads. I've been here on Dear Cupid for well over a decade. I love Dear Abby, Ann Landers, all those advice giving goddesses... when I found this website how could I resist?? (Couldn't.) I love Dear Cupid, love being a moderator and love giving advice when I can!!
A lot of people ask if I'm from India... just to clear things up, I'm not. I'm not Indian, I just really liked that song by Aerosmith when I first made this account. I've never been to India. I'm not even an Aerosmith fan, really, but I really liked that song at the time.
I've been with my fella for 14 years, married for 10. We have two cool daughters and a pretty cool life that involves lots of adventure, art and laughter.
I adore: positivity, theater, llamas, fromage, sweatpants, earrings, and sitcoms. That just about sums it up... |
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I'm not ready to be engaged or married... but I suspect my bf will propose soon. Afraid of hurting him!
Q. I havn't been with my bf for very long now, but I love him and he's great. The thing is he tends to be more serious about the relationship that me...Don't get me wrong I am committed and everything, but I'm not planning my enitre future with him ...
A. 27 February 2008: Hooray!!!
Well, I am very glad that you avoided that awkward situation. Fabulous! Hopefully, next time a proposal comes up for you, you'll be totally excited and ready to say yes!
xx India... (read in full...)
My teacher tried to kiss me and I walked away....what should I do??
Q. Omg! What do i do?? Im really worried. I really like this teacher at my school and he shouted at me for no reason then told me just to wait behind after the bell, which i did. So i waited and waited around after the bell then he came out and sho...
A. 14 February 2008: Good for you! Happy Valentine's Day to that JERKFACE for sure!! I hope he gets what he deserves (to be fired), and I hope you feel good about yourself. Be proud, girlfriend, you just saved all the girls in your school from getting sexually harassed ... (read in full...)
I'm not ready to be engaged or married... but I suspect my bf will propose soon. Afraid of hurting him!
Q. I havn't been with my bf for very long now, but I love him and he's great. The thing is he tends to be more serious about the relationship that me...Don't get me wrong I am committed and everything, but I'm not planning my enitre future with him ...
A. 12 February 2008: Hey sweetness,
Only two days until Valentine's Day - you have to act fast! You have three options:
a) Tell him immediately that you are not interested in marrying him yet and try to be honest and truthful in letting him know that you're not ... (read in full...)
He cut me down to size...but I want him back...will he come back??
Q. At first he asked for space, then he wrote me this after I wrote and told him that I was not handling the break-up well after he had kept blaming me for everything going wrong and wripped me down to shreds. I told him that no one had ever cut me ...
A. 12 February 2008: Hey sweetness,
Well, it sounds like things are pretty much over. I doubt he's coming back anytime SOON. If you'd like him back, the best thing you can do at this point is to completely let go of him. You know how that phrase goes: if you love it,... (read in full...)
Why do orgasms make me cry?
Q. This is gonna sound weird and I hope I can put it into the right words but basically every time I have an orgasm, I cry afterwards. It's so weird. Please don't think my boyfriend is doing something I don't like or I feel bad or guilty because I ...
A. 12 February 2008: Hey sweetness,
I have totally experiences this too. For me, if the sex is really great and really intense - to cry is just to get those emotions released. Or maybe I've been stressed all day and then I can just get it all out of my system. ... (read in full...)
Help me please and quickly!
Q. Please help me and fast!!! I'm going to the movies with this girl I really like but I'm going to be the only guy there and she's coming with a bunch of her friends. What do I do?!!!!...
A. 10 February 2008: Calm down, you'll be fine. The best you can do is to be on your best behavior and make sure you smell good and clean. Be yourself, and have fun. Pay extra attention to her (but don't cling to her all night.), and you gotta win over her friends too! ... (read in full...)
My teacher tried to kiss me and I walked away....what should I do??
Q. Omg! What do i do?? Im really worried. I really like this teacher at my school and he shouted at me for no reason then told me just to wait behind after the bell, which i did. So i waited and waited around after the bell then he came out and sho...
A. 10 February 2008: My, my, sweetness. Your teacher is a major creep and now he's trying to cover his track. Don't let him threaten you to keep your mouth shut. Now you REALLY should take action and go to the principal and let him or her know what's going on. Don't ... (read in full...)
Is this a good idea for our one year anniversary present??
Q. My boyfriend and i are going to celebrate our 1 year anniversary on Monday.. do you think giving him a picture of me ( a close up with my eyes looking real mysterious and sexy.. i look amazing in that picture if i may say so myself) in a frame is a ...
A. 8 February 2008: I think it's a great idea. Really personalize it by writing him a super romantic note on the back of the frame, or a poem or the lyrics to a song that reminds you of him.
I think it's a great gift. Happy anniversary!
xx India... (read in full...)
My gf calls my best friend "hun," is that a form of flirting?
Q. hey just want to know what you guys think, i just got back, i was away from my gf for a year and 4 months; i was reading some of her msgs and that's when i seen msgs of her calling my friend hun, for example "hun dont worry about it" - would u say ...
A. 8 February 2008: Hi there,
I don't think you should read too much into it. I call all my friends "sweetness", "darling", "doll"... and a whole long list of other nicknames. I think your friend is just being considerate and helpful towards your friend. I don't th... (read in full...)
How can I masturbate properly??
Q. When it comes to masturbating, everyone says you should just experiment and see what you like. And I can find SOME things that I like, but I just don't seem to enjoy it that much. I'd love to be able to masturbate (I know it sounds strange) ...
A. 7 February 2008: http://www.clitical.com
Is the BEST SITE EVER for everything female masturbation. Tips, stories, real people talking to real people - not a bunch of medical mumbo jumbo or sugar coated descriptions. I think you'll find the site really helpful!... (read in full...)
I am developed for my age, I get teased, how should I react?
Q. umm.. Might need help from agony moms. Well I'm still 12 but my breast are huge and everyone's teasing me about them, and I can't take it anymore what should I do?...
A. 5 February 2008: Aww, sweetness...
My sister has the same problem as you. She is 13 and has developed QUITE fast for her age and she has big ol' 34D's. Naturally, she is the envy of all the other girls at school (all though sometimes their jealousy comes out in p... (read in full...)
Valentine gift, what should I get?
Q. What should i get my boyfriend for valentines day because we have almost been going out 6 months?...
A. 5 February 2008: Personally, I think you can't fail with cologne. Buy him a scent that YOU love, that makes YOU want to jump on his bones. It is the gift that keeps giving, and hey - what guy doesn't love smelling good?
Pair it with something sweet, heartfel... (read in full...)
My best friend wants us to be roommates... but I'm in love with her. Should I accept?
Q. Hello.. Well, a couple of years ago i started a new job where I met this girl, a coworker. we were instantly good friends. a few months into our friendship, i confessed that i liked her, but was shot down. it was a bit awkward at first, but we ...
A. 3 February 2008: Hey sweetness,
Personally, I think that picking up your life and heading to NYC to live with a girl who you're in love with but who might or might not love you back - this sounds like a disaster waiting to happen.
Now, this could end happil... (read in full...)
Is my partner finding fault in my sexual performance, if she wants a vibrator?
Q. My girlfriend wants a vibrator, but I don't want her to. Why does she want one? Is it becuase I'm terrible in bed? Will she ever want sex again?...
A. 31 January 2008: My goodness,
You WILL have sex again and she will love it every time. You two should go to an adult toy store together and find some things to play with. You know, a vibrator can be a lot of fun for the BOTH of you in the bedroom - trust me, thos... (read in full...)
Can I get my new piercings wet?
Q. hey i got my ears pierced (one on each ear) a couple of hours ago. i know that i have to clean it with this special lotion, but can i now have a soak in the bath/ a shower and get my ears/ new piercings wet? what are the rules on this? pl...
A. 31 January 2008: Hi sweetness,
You can certainly get your new piercings wet. Be sure to keep them nice and clean and I recommend not taking them out for a little more then the suggested time. They usually say 6-8 weeks, but I'd wait for more like 3 months. ... (read in full...)
An on line test said I have severe depression. What can I do?
Q. hi i took one of those tests online to say whether i had depression or not. i have been feeling really bad for about 2 years or so. it suddenly got really bad. the test online, which came from a very reliable online doctors site, said i had majo...
A. 30 January 2008: Well, first off - the world wide web is not a doctor, but it is a great utility for people to get ideas of what they have. What you know now is that something is WRONG and signs point to depression. The next step is to call up a doctor and set up an ... (read in full...)
Married women and sex toys. Opinions please....
Q. I would like to ask women who are married and using toys. Do you think these toys can substitute your husband? Why do you use them? and would it be possible that woman will get addicted to the toy and enjoy it more than her husband? I need an hone...
A. 30 January 2008: Hello,
I'm not married, but I have been with my significant other for 2.5 years. I have a sex toy or two, that I like and use. It's CERTAINLY not a substitute for my man. The real thing is what I love, but the toy is a quick fix, an easy way to g... (read in full...)
I feel uncomfortable when he touches me.
Q. This may sound odd, but I've had an interest in my accounting teacher for awhile now. He has always seemed nice to me, but only recently has it seemed like he's been intereted in me, which worries me. He asks me to stay after school to help correct ...
A. 29 January 2008: Don't feel bad at ALL about this. I really insist that you not feel like you brought this on yourself. In this situation he is the adult, he is the authority and he's the one who should be acting appropriately all the time. He is the teacher and you ... (read in full...)
Want bith control but don't wanna parent with me.
Q. Ok im back with another question..now that i know i am gunna wait ti'll i have sex..i need to know how do i get on birth control without my parents taking me i think it well make them look at me different an not trust me..i have my medical card ...
A. 29 January 2008: Look on the internet or in the phone book for your local Planned Parenthood. They are always there for girls like you who want to practice safe sex. They can walk you through the process - picking a birth control, getting it and follow ups. They ... (read in full...)
What wome love to hear during sex?
Q. Men love to hear women moaning, shouting and complimenting his tool and how good he is performing...what about women? What do they like to hear while making sex? What things turn her on more and make her cum faster? Need to read women's replies ...
A. 28 January 2008: Great advice from all the Aunt's. I'd also like to throw in that personally, I love it when my man says my name. Not too much, not over and over again but I like it when he throws it in the mix. It indicates that he's actually thinking about ME. I ... (read in full...)
What do people think of the pill for contraception?
Q. I've been seriously thinking about contraception lately and i'm not sure which way to go. I'm going to make a family planning appointment to talk things through with a professional but i'd like some opinions from other people too. I'd like to go...
A. 28 January 2008: Hey there,
Way to use a condom as well! Because, we all know that the Pill protects from pregnancy, but not from STI's. So way to double up. As for the Pill, I've been on it for awhile. I like it pretty well, but I'm a little flaky and have the... (read in full...)
My best friend wants to take me to a hotel for sex, I need advice!
Q. My best friend and I have been hooking up. No sex. just kissing and stuff. But, recently he had the idea of going to a hotel and just having sex. I'm well up for it when he asked, and he isnt making me, but I'm so afraid I'll get attatched. He says ...
A. 28 January 2008: I'll just keep this concise, since all the other Aunt's have voiced the pretty much the same thing: this is a bad idea and from the sounds of it, can only end badly. It sounds like this guy is trying to take you from "friends-with-benefits" to a ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong or is it the thought that counts??
Q. My girlfriend of over2years didn't buy me a birthday card last week. She wanted to but didnt - for lack of money. Next week she went and spent her money on socialising. I would have apreciated a hand written bit of paper. It's 'the though...
A. 24 January 2008: Before I answer this, did she at least help you celebrate your birthday? If you spent time together on that day and had fun and she wished you a very happy birthday and gave you some kisses, then I would say that you ought to forgive her for this. ... (read in full...)
I do not have a driver's license yet, thus feel a bit embarassed. Is this a huge deal?
Q. Im almost 30yr old. And Im terrified of driving. So therefore I still haven't obtained my drivers license. Now is this a huge deal breaker for men ??? I don't lie about it but at the same time Im a little ashamed at times so I don't bring it up ti...
A. 24 January 2008: He there, Don't be embarrassed about not having a license. You're not adding to pollution, that's wonderful!! The only thing I suggest is maybe going to Driver's Ed, where you're behind the wheel with a professional and on a closed course (w... (read in full...)
My teacher tried to kiss me and I walked away....what should I do??
Q. Omg! What do i do?? Im really worried. I really like this teacher at my school and he shouted at me for no reason then told me just to wait behind after the bell, which i did. So i waited and waited around after the bell then he came out and sho...
A. 24 January 2008: Hey sweetness, First off this isn't your fault. Teacher's have to deal with girls getting crushes on them - tons of girls crush on teachers (look through the questions here on Cupid everyday. There are ALWAYS people who have crushes on their... (read in full...)
Not sure if I should marry him as he doesn't want kids and I do!
Q. Should i stay with a guy that says we can get married, after years of saying he never would, as long as i never trick him into having children. He says that i do then he'll leave me and the child on our own, it's not like he hates children but he ...
A. 22 January 2008: Well, he did give you proper warning. He has said that if you have children, he will leave you to raise them independently, and I believe him. If you want children, find someone else who prioritizes having children in their lives.
If you stay wit... (read in full...)
What do you get for a new boyfriend for Valentines Day?
Q. I've been dating this guy a couple of weeks. We've known each other 6 months or so, so I do know his likes and dislikes well-ish. (He's into cars, BMW's, enjoys drinking and going out, quite into his appearance - meaning he likes to look good/do ...
A. 21 January 2008: Maybe find him some really delicious cologne. Find something that YOU think smells really sexy. It sounds like if he likes looking good and driving good, he'll love smelling good.
Happy Valentine's Day, sweetness.
xx India... (read in full...)
What to wear for VERY posh dinner??
Q. My boyfriend is taking me to a very expensive hotel in a couple of weeks. I know it's costing in excess of £200 a night, so my reason for panic is what do I wear? We're eating at the restaurant there, and I don't really have any knowledge of what ...
A. 21 January 2008: All the Aunt's are totally right. Go for the LBD, the Little Black Dress. Stunning on everyone, absolutely gorgeous. Pick out a great accessory (a necklace, a bracelet, earrings - not all three! Don't go crazy. One signature piece is perfect) and a ... (read in full...)
If my bf has never gotten a girl pregnant with the pull out method...does that mean he doesn't have pre-cum?
Q. My boyfriend is quite experienced sexually and has been using the pull out method for as long as he could remember. I understand that pre-ejaculates occur in some men but not others. If my boyfriend has never gotten a girl pregnant throughout his ...
A. 21 January 2008: Not at all. Do not assume that he won't get you pregnant. Until now, your boyfriend has only been lucky. Make sex safe and worry free for you and use birth control. Never assume you won't get pregnant. Don't take that chance!
Good luck, sweetnes... (read in full...)
Just want to tell everyone and the whole world....I'M IN LOVE!!
Q. im in love wooooooo! im aware this isnt a question but i wanted to tell the world =]...
A. 16 January 2008: Yay! Well, I'm happy for you! Congratulations and may you and your love find happiness for years to come.... (read in full...)
My best friend has a boyfriend and it's hurting me
Q. My best friend says she loves me and we've been really close for about 2 years. I love her alot, but recently shes been going out with this kid a year younger than us who looks just like me. But the thing is I am really hurt that she doesn't want to ...
A. 14 January 2008: Howdy,
Well, I'm just wondering if you've ever told her that you want a relationship with her? Have you ever asked her out on a date, have you ever told her that you are in love with her? If you haven't, then you can't blame her for finding ... (read in full...)
She came to school the other day claiming she has lost her virginity to her friend's uncle and I know it's true as I have seen them together but I don't know what to do about it?
Q. Me and my best friend are 14. Recently she has been having trouble at home and is now living with another friend and her family, including her 40 year old uncle. She came to school the other day claiming she has lost her virginity to her friend's ...
A. 14 January 2008: Well, I think in your heart you know that this isn't right and that this Uncle is a sick old man taking advantage of your young friend. She might feel cool now, but she won't when she's older and looking back on the whole situation. But I think the ... (read in full...)
Why do so few women masturbate?
Q. OK, so I know the question I'm going to ask doesn't apply to all women but... Why do so few women masturbate? I was doing an interveiw on facebook, and with each new question it shows you the answer given by the last 10 participants. The que...
A. 10 January 2008: Facebook isn't anonymous, so first off: people are probably lying. Even if it is anonymous, people still may be lying. Men are much more open about masturbation, it's a known fact that men do it - just like we all know that men get curious about ... (read in full...)
My fiance can't come through sex, he wants a blow job which I find revolting
Q. okay. I've been in a relationship of a little over a year now and engaged for a bit of it. But my finance can't cum during sex. he can cum using his hand fine, this bothers me a bit, but I have gotten over it to some extent. I still feel bad for ...
A. 10 January 2008: Hey there,
I agree with everyone who has already posted. If you really think that giving head is "revolting" and you are completely repulsed by it - don't do it. Don't let him make you feel bad about it. There are plenty of women out there wh... (read in full...)
What are men looking for when they go to strip clubs?
Q. I am a stripper, and I need to know what turns on men, and what they are looking for looks-wise, and experience-wise when they visit a strip club. Thanks....
A. 9 January 2008: Hi there,
I used to be a dancer a little while back and well, it's not all it's cracked up to be. It was fun for the first week or so, but then it made me feel really crappy about yourself. Every night you look at the money you've made and that... (read in full...)
I'm unconfident about standing in front of so many people as a model, after I have been selected by the company. What can you suggest to boost my confidence?
Q. How can i boost my confidence, i've been selected for a model comp coming up an am so worked up about it, i have never done anything like this befor, i no i am a good looking girl but standing there in front of 250 ppl or more makes me sick... i ...
A. 9 January 2008: You know that if you don't do it you will regret it. You have been chosen by this company, so you know that you are beautiful enough for the job. If the problem is simply standing in front of people, remember that it's only scary before it happens. ... (read in full...)
My ex is making my life a misery, he scares and intimidates me
Q. My ex scares me. He seems to think he can do and say whatever he feels and that it is perfectly OK to change his mind at the drop of a hat. Last year he dumped his new girlfriend for a renewed chance with me and our son. Promised me the ...
A. 9 January 2008: Hey there,
Wow, for a twelve year old "xxbaybeegal" is very insightful! I am impressed. i completely agree with her advice. You should definitely figure out how to get this man out of your life... even if your eldest son is settled, if you are ... (read in full...)
I think my girlfriend might be cheating on me
Q. hey guys, i have suspisions that my gf is cheating.. i hate to that but i cant help it. been dating for about 2 years now and shes being so weird lately.. everytime i ask to see her phone, she has to delete her msg's first. she always goes with...
A. 9 January 2008: Wow, sweetness...
You sound like a really sweet, dedicated boyfriend and your girlfriend sounds... well, less than. You are being played, my friend, and even if she's NOT cheating on you (which I doubt), she is still treating you like crap, an... (read in full...)
Every time I make a suggestion, my boyfriend yells at me. If I do not, he is not pleased either. What am I doing wrong?
Q. I'm trying to make my 3-yr relationship with my b/f work out but at times he seems impossible to please. Some examples: We'll be driving in the car, and he'll tell me that I should look ahead and see if there's traffic coming on my side of the car, ...
A. 9 January 2008: Man, why are you even trying to make it work out with this guy? He sounds ridiculous. Don't be with a guy who yells at you all the time - it will only get worse with time, and you do not want it to escalate. He clearly has some issues, and I think ... (read in full...)
Should I try this during masturbation?
Q. I'm only fourteen and have experimented with my fingers rubbing my clit. But I'm scared it will hurt if I put my fingers in my vagina. Any suggestions?...
A. 3 January 2008: The beauty is, with solo masturbation - you can go at your own pace. It is fine to experiment with putting fingers into your vagina, just make sure that your hands are THOROUGHLY clean, and make sure your fingernails are tidy.
Just get yourself... (read in full...)
I've been asked to go swimming with his mum and dad. Is this a bit strange?
Q. hi im 18 an been with my boyfriend for nearly a year an a half. he recently asked if i would like to go swimming with him in the holidays and i said yes. now he tells me his mum and dad are coming too. is it just me or would anyone else find it awk...
A. 3 January 2008: Maybe a little strange, but not TOO out there. Maybe they really enjoy swimming and they swim as a family on holidays. It could be a great way to get to know his family and have fun together. Perhaps you could even invite YOUR family and you could ... (read in full...)
Who gets the best orgasms - men or women?
Q. Im not sure if there is an actual answer to this, but do both sexes get the same amount of pleasure during sex? for example if they both reach their 'peak' orgasm. in other words, wat sex overall recieves more pleasure?...
A. 3 January 2008: Who knows? I can't experience a man's orgasm, and a man can't experience mine. I've always thought that guys must have because they get this big squirting finish at the end - I don't know, it looks pretty explosive to me.
Then again, women ca... (read in full...)
Why is he so against using spermicide?
Q. Hey Aunts i have a question. My boyfriend and I have been going out for a long time and we are thinking about sex, (for my birthday). My birthday is in a few days and im really anxious because of the connection we share. But at the same time i have ...
A. 2 January 2008: Maybe he's not really clear on what spermicide is. He might just be a little nervous because it sounds a little scarier than it actually is. Mostly, people know about two options for birth control: the pill and the condom. He might just not have all ... (read in full...)
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