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writes:Hi, I'm 17 an me an my boyfriend of a year haven't slept together yet cos we both don't want me to get pregnant so we are going to wait.I don't know much about boys and erections and stuff so please can you explain: we were kissing on the bed the other day. He suddenly stopped and said 'I'm just gonna go 2 the toilet', then he came back and we started kissing again, he then stopped and said looking really embarrassed 'on no, not again! you're getting me a bit excited'.Why did he go to the toilet and why did he stop if he's getting excited? (I know he had a erection but why stop?)And no, I didn't have sex education lessons lol!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (10 March 2008):
 If he did not stop, the sex demon in him will take over the driver's seat and it won't be him anymore .
He could go all the way and so will you and later will regret it.
Emotions and sex are very powerful forces and once unleashed, no power can stop it.
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reader, RayRay +, writes (9 March 2008):
Once a man becomes sexually excited, blood starts to rush to their penis-resulting in an erection. This can be very discomforting for them, as well as embarrasing. Many boys become uncomfortable when aroused and try to hide it,especially if they know that they are not about to participate in sexual intercourse!Just as we as women have our own insecurities, so do men!
He may or may not have ejaculated or was worried that he was going to do so whilst you were kissing. Ejaculation involves the release of sperm from the males penis once he has reached an orgasm and some men become embarrased when this happens without actually having sex.
He more than likely went to the toilet to calm himself down a bit and wait until he is more relaxed so that he can continue to be his 'normal' non excited self, in order to stop himself from getting carried away! Remember, being around someone that you are clearly sexually attracted can result in sexual acts taking place and seeing as you are both prepared to wait-he is probably trying to control his urges! Sex is an act of love and comfort between two people, so if you feel at any time that you are ready to take that step then make sure you use a form of contraception in order to prevent pregnancy or transmition of any sexual diseases. Until then, well done for being so careful!
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reader, LouLee +, writes (9 March 2008):
 He probably just wanted to masturbate.If he could have sex with you, he most likely wouldn't have stopped.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2008): Well, the simplest reason might be, he had to go to the toilet. Sorry, but it happens you know, sometimes people got to pee, no that never happens in the movies, lots of things don't.Second reason, when a guy gets erect in his pants it sometimes gets a bit twisted and that REALLY hurts, compare it to women having to adjust their bra or pulling their panties from their crack. There is no polite way to do this with a girl next to you. He might simply have needed to re-adjust himself.He might have needed a breather so avoid coming in his pants or even relieved himself (do I need to draw you a picture?) because it was getting to much.Why did he stop if he was getting excited, because coming in your pants when making out is VERY VERY embarrising. Thank god stuff like that don't happen anymore when you get older... 80 or so.There is nothing to worry about, erections never killed anyone yet, but they can be uncomfortable. If anything he sounds like a nice guy for not pressuring you or giving you some bull story about guys need to have sex if they get an erection or else they will get cancer.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (9 March 2008):
 He was probably just embarrassed about his erection, and maybe worried that he would ejaculate soon or something. That can be very embarrassing for a guy - so naturally he probably went off to the bathroom to make himself calm down (or finish himself off so he could stop worrying about the erection coming back)...
He's probably just a little nervous and embarrassed. Just smile and try to make him feel as comfortable as possible. You sound like a great girlfriend!
Enjoy, sweetness...
xx India
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2008): Yeah, he probably had an erection and was a bit embarrassed about it.. If you're not used to being sexually close in that sort of way, then maybe he's still a bit nervous about you noticing it was an erection. It's natural really. About the toilet thing - a guy cant pee if he's erect, so he probably knew that if you stopped and he calmed down again, he could pee and it would be a while before he could get another erection. You cant really blame him for being nervous about it after all!
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