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writes:I've been in and out of a relationship with my daughter's dad. He's been wearing this silver necklace for quite sometime but never thought nothing of it. However, I finally asked him today, out of curiousity, where'd he got it from. He got it as a gift for his birthday from the last girl he was with. OK.....am I blowing this out of proportion? He wears it now and it bothers me. He knows it. We're working things out and I see him wear something another woman have bought him for his birthday. We weren't together at the time. We've discussed it. He told me I was jealous. I asked him, if a guy have given me a ring and still wear it now and you asked me where'd I get it from, I tell you, you'll have a fit. Then he said, that's different because that means something more. He also mentioned it doesn't mean I think of her when I wear it, it's just a gift. Am I blowing this out of proportion?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your responses. He did say, if I feel this way, then buy another necklace to replace it. Money doesn't grow on trees but if it does, let me know where I can find it..LOL. See the thing is, now that I know that he ex bought him that, everytime I see it, I know she bought that for him. I just hate it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): No that would bother me too. But try not to be too jealous cause that is a huge turn off. And you'll easily lose the upperhand here if you are too jealous. And in reality I guess it's not that big of a deal. So just try to focus on the positive. I mean if he was calling her or acting sketchy then I would worry. But don't blow this out of proportion. Respect that he wears it, it was a gift, and respect that, and let it go. It's just a necklace. He probably just likes it. At least he's mature enough to disattach emotions from it and simply sees it as a nice accessory. That's a good sign. So let it go. Its not a big deal. You have bigger things to worry about. Just be a lady about it and don't be petty.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (24 March 2008):
 Hello,
My ex-boyfriend gave me a gorgeous ring. It didn't mean much, but it was still gorgeous. I wear it everyday, and not for any other reason than it is so pretty and looks great on my finger. I have asked my boyfriend a thousand times if it bugs him, but it doesn't. He knows that I wear it as an accessory, not as an homage to my ex.
But, if my boyfriend bought me a pretty ring to replace the one currently on my finger. I'd be happy to swap it out. Maybe you could find your boyfriend a necklace (similar in style) to wear.
Sweetness, I wouldn't worry about it. It's just jewelry, you know that you're the only girl on his mind.
Good luck!
xx India
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reader, ShouldKnowBetter  +, writes (24 March 2008):
Do you like something more because it came from an expensive shop rather than a cheap shop or do you like it because you like it and price means nothing?Who gave him something should make no difference unless he is wearing it because of who gave it him rather than because he likes it. The ring example you gave in response is poor because it doesnt actually say what his response would be and to be honest a ring is different especially dependent on which finger you wear it on. You wear an eternity ring on your wedding ring finger and it means something, you wear another sort of ring on another finger and who cares if it came from your grandmother, won in a christmas cracker or given by your ex if you like it.
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