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writes: I'm 21 years old, single and I know a couple of girls I could be dating right now. The thing is, I'm only looking for sex at this point of my life :DI'm not interested in spending time listening to her, hanging out, etc. All I want to do with her is... well, you get the idea.What would you do if you were in my place? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2008): You're 21 and only looking to have sex?? seriously most guys at that age are ready to have a relationship and don't treat women like sex objects which is what you're doing if that's all you want. usually it's guys who are in high school that act like that not guys who are in their twenties. you need to grow up and stop leading the girls who like you on.
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reader, brooke5426  +, writes (2 April 2008):
 you dont want to meet a woman, you want a hooker.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008): Wow I'm suprised they're not falling over themselves to get to you...
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008): OP again here.
Thanks for all your replies.
Annalisa, you got the wrong impression of me. I'm a fully-aware and responsible man when it comes down to sex.
LonelyTwo gave the best answer by far. True wisdom is simple like that.
I'll just hire an escort next time I plan on having sex.
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reader, Country Woman +, writes (1 April 2008):
 OK so your 21 so I guess cash is not huge in your life right now and hiring a hooker i.e. paying for it is not what most guys want to do as it has a stigma attached to it if your mates ever found out.
My advice is OK you could go to bars but I think going online to some free sites and saying exactly what you are looking for is probably the easiest, you may have to actually communicate with someone first but if you know what you are getting yourselves into then you are two consenting adults.
You may find older women or young ones too.
Definitely use protection and in some cases possibly two. Don't be one of these guys who thinks he can get away with nothing as you are asking for trouble and could be HIV before your 25, you may be clean but is everyone else your sleeping with.
Don't lead these two girls who fancy you down this road of only sex, sounds to me like they deserve better and if you know them then it could get round exactly what you are after and that would not do your street cred any favours, leave those two alone as there are plenty of others out there.
Online you can specify Long term relationship, Intimacy Encounter, Friend etc so it really is up to you to specify and it is always better to have a photo uploaded or you want get anywhere really.
Have fun but play safe and don't lie as that is the cardinal sin I think.
BFN
Country Woman
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008): Sounds like what you need is a prostitue. You want sex, they want your money. Sounds like a perfect match for you.
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reader, red1982 +, writes (1 April 2008):
Relationships that are based on sex are not a good idea. With relationships come emotions and that's when your going to hurt someone. 'Bed buddies' rarely work for the same reason. You are designed to get emotionally attached to someone you are intimate with, and the chances are that if you have regular sex one of you will get feelings for the other. Like the others have said, hit the bar scene, or clubs and spell it out from the get go that you are not interested in a relationship, there are plenty of women after the same thing - just make sure that you use protection. Very very carefully. You don't want your one night stand to give you an STD, epecially one that you can't get rid of. And you saidI wonder... isn't an escort agency a better solution than going to a bar? I mean, less hassle. No need to flirt, no need to lie, you see I'm a goal-oriented type of person ;)Escort agencies would be an idea like you said, but you may want to check the prices before giving it too much consideration (these girls do it for the money and it pays pretty well!!) You would also need to provide 'accomodation' even if it's only for a couple of hours. I wouldn't recommend lying in a bar either, things like that have a habit of coming up and biting you in the arse when you least expect it. Just be straightforward. And I always thought that the flirting was half the fun of a one nighter!!Enjoy yourself, and be careful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008): A recipe for a satisfying and delicious cake involves lots of different ingredients. It's funny how after a few goes at trying to bake that cake with some of the ingredients missing it tastes pretty inadequate. Maybe you'll get your cake and eat it.
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reader, agtorange  +, writes (1 April 2008):
 Lusty middle aged women, or a hooker, or a party and seek out a girl who's looking for a piece of fun. Any of those will do.[Moderator's note: The risks of diseases increase in such circumstances! Much care!]
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008): I'm the OP.
Thanks for the replies so far.
I wonder... isn't an escort agency a better solution than going to a bar? I mean, less hassle. No need to flirt, no need to lie, you see I'm a goal-oriented type of person ;)
But on the other hand I know lots of people start entire relationships based on sex, is that a good idea? That's what I meant to ask ealier.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (1 April 2008):
 For real, start looking for older women who want a young, virile man. Or, go to sex clubs, For a fee, you can be having sex with people and you KNOW it's consensual. Or, hire a hooker. That always works.
Just don't try to "trick" women into sleeping with you, don't be a player... get into situations where both of you know exactly what you both want from the relationship - no strings sex. Very casual relations. Go to Craigslist.org and look in "Casual Encounters", I'm sure you'll find some chicks looking for something similar to what you're looking for.
Good luck!
xx India
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008): Rhythandblues has the right idea, but you sound so typical of my exs, just want something without puttin in any work. But you are young so just go for it, get the condom and get to work, but not without them or you could have a whole load of kids before you are 30. Be careful and enjoy.
take care
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reader, Namatjira +, writes (1 April 2008):
Just make sure that you do not lead the girls on by making out that you are interested in anything other than sex. That is the worst sort of deception and can have far reaching consequences. Other than that, the bar scene is really your main choice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008): Purchase a lot of condoms and hit the bar scene, there are plenty of girls looking for a one night stand....you could be busy for months happily, well you get the idea.
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