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writes: This is a random question! =PI love my boyfriend very much. We have an amazing sex life as well, and we've both said how it gets better and better everytime but he masturbates in his sleep! first of all i found it quite offensive, because we had spent all night having amazing sex and I gave him oral etc etcbut he stil was playing with himself quite vigorously but he was asleep!! and he does it all the time!i said jokingly to him that he did it and i think he was a bit embarrassed about it, but he is definatly asleep when he does it because the other night we were cuddling and i woke up because he was doing it and he came all over me and he woke up and he was sooo embarrassed and sorry about it!why does he do this?Is it because i dont satisfy him enough?ahh please help!x
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so so much for you help.you've all made me realise just how lucky i am especially that he keeps going all night. then we have a fag break! and are ready to go again!YAYim happy happy happythank you everyone who helped me with my worries!=Dxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008): Collaroy makes a good point, one that I am aware of and practice. I to avoid cumming until the curtains is just about to be dropped for closing, where we roll over and go to sleep. Once I cum, I know it will be limp for a while, it is like it becomes desensitized, numb.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (1 April 2008):
 Hi again,
I guess the easy answer to why he stays hard is because he doesnt cum. He obviously enjoys sex so much he doesn't want it to end by him cumming ( which will deflate him by the way ).
I imagine there are a lot of girls reading this who are quite envious.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2008): I'm 63 and I wake up from dreams at night with an erection and I sometimes stay hard for 10 to 20 minutes. Of course, at 4 in the morning, my wife is still sound asleep, so it ia all wasted. :( If he would let himself cum then he should start to go soft, at least in a few minutes. Being young, he should be able to get it up again in anywhere from a few minutes to half an hour. Does he want to go again a few minutes after he pulls out? If so, then he may pull out so that you are not too wet inside from his cum. It lessens the feeling for me if I try to go again after I cum in my wife.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2008): I think it is normal for the age (I had my hard-experience that left me embarrassed sometimes), along with having you by his side and the warmth and companionship and trust you share.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2008): Hunny dont worry he is human viagra WHOOOO! 4 YOU!!!!!!!(:0) Great init!!!!!!!!!!!! XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks so much for you help!
i feel so much better about it now
and also i do think he has a very high sex drive because he will literally wake up and jump on me haha and i love it
=D
and ive now taken to helping him out or giving him oral when he does it hahaha and oh my god what an affect it has =D
just an extra question...sorry.....but i swear he is constantly hard! its like we will have rampant sex for ages!! and then both die of knackeredness! :D but it still doesnt go down!!
ive never been with a guy that lasts for so long and also he pulls out before he cums so that he doesnt? why is this?
if he stayed in until he came would it go down?
(im not sure y he does this because im on the pill and we both got tested before we got together)
thanks for all your help!
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2008): My ex used to do this. At first, it really hurt my feelings as I thought he wasn't satisfied but I think he was just feeling incredibly horny and had a high sex drive! I wouldn't worry about it. The only down side is I had disturbed sleep!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2008): If he is sleeping, then he isn't aware of it. He seeming embarrassed when you mentioned it seems to prove this. He know may feel guilty and this may interrupt his dreaming in the future.
I know I dream about having sex, and then I wake up with a throbbing penis, and it makes it hard to go back to sleep until I can find an appropriate position for it.
Next time, just caress his back or buttocks. I had a girlfriend who would give me oral right when I started counting sheep (I was quite aware of what she was doing), and what an affect it had on me: what pleasure!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2008): It's his testosterone playing havoc darling. he has an excess of it, which from your point of view should be no bad thing. He'll be willing to jump your bones at the flick of a switch or the click of a finger.
Yep.. Hormones. It's what makes whores moan! (that's a joke - sort of).
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reader, Collaroy +, writes (30 March 2008):
Hi there,
as long as he isnt neglecting you sexually then you have nothing to worry about. He just has a very high sex drive .
I'm sure there are many girls who wish there partners were as highly sexed as your boyfriend is.
If you feel in the mood yourself you could always help him out while he's taking care of himself, he won't mind :)
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (30 March 2008):
 It's definitely not because you don't satisfy him. There's a handful of people who actually do this in their sleep - I know my boyfriend often can be caught masturbating when he's fast asleep - he rarely cums from it... I suspect his dreams take him in different directions, but nonetheless I'm sure it's common.
Some websites to check out to get more information:
http://www.sleepsex.org/
http://www.menstuff.org/issues/byissue/sleepsex.html
I think that he's just got hormones racing from all that great sex you guys are indulging in. No worries, sweetness. You're definitely making him more than satisfied in the sack.
xx India
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reader, Namatjira  +, writes (30 March 2008):
I suspect there is a good chance that it is happening when he is dreaming about being intimate with you. Often people and even some animals move in their dreams as if it was in real life. I have had a couple of dogs over the years who chased rabbits in their sleep and were running while laying on their sides. Now do not get me wrong, I am not comparing him in any way. But it is likely that this coincides with dreams he is having.
I guess you are really a hot lady to inspire this even when he is asleep.
Cheers
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2008): Hi Hunny
It has nothing to do with the fact that you dont satisfy him, In fact it is probably the opposite he goes to sleep happy and subconsciously he is thinking about what has happened before..It embarrassed him hunny so its not something he is doing to annoy you at all or upset you, You have nothing to worry about you pleasure him just fine TAKE CARE OF YOU WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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