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writes:My boyfriend suggested on the phone this morning that we should have dirty sex as it's fun, I said why, trying to find answers about what it is,WHAT IS DIRTY SEX AND WHAT DO YOU HAVE TO DO? Reply to this Question
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reader, asian tealeaf  +, writes (15 March 2008):
 dirty sex can be any of the following: fisting, oral, anal, double penetration using a toy and ones penis, rimjobs on eachothers anus,69ing, hearpulling, chokefuck, cumming on ur facial regions or other regions, rough sex, roleplaying, domination with hardcore anal action. dirty sex is not confined to anal, but is a mixture of so many things. however, that being said, if ur not up to anal, dont do it or feel pressured. because afterwards u will feel dirty and it will depress u.anal for guys is a feeling of domination, and knowing it makes u dirty,and its tighter then ur pussy, generally, if he says to u to let him it will make u cum hard, dont be suckered in to doing it if ur not ready. it is very painful and can be dangerous if he does not use enough lube, and protection of course is the key. u dont want herpes or hiv etc, not to say he has an std but how can u know? never trust anyone who says, im std free. use common sense and dont ever bareback with a guy. guys dont like condoms because they lose feeling there. but thats a lame excuse. better to lack a little sensation then get get a std that could kill u or make u unfit for other relationships, generally nobody will date someone whos got herpes or warts. but thats not the golden rule of course. but it makes it difficult. it sucks when u tell a person u want to date, yea, um yea id love to go on a date, uh, but ive got a herpes outbreak right now, can we hold off on sex? or, i have aids but that wont affect us will it? and remeber, someone who knowingly has a std must legally inform u before sex. and do note, a lot of guys love to do anal on a girl whos never done it so they can go and brag to their buddies about how they punched ur donut. very uncool and damaging to a girl who may not wish this to be passed on to people. and, once u have done anal, u can never go back and undo it. be aware too, that doing anal for a while will make ur anal regions look sloppy. not right away, but u dont want a gaping hole do u? i have been to strip clubs, watch porn, and right away i can tell a girl who takes it in the ass. not a pretty sight to me. but everyones different. i hope i have covered for u at least most of what constitutes dirty sex.and remember, if ur not comfortable, be confident and say no. one time i dated a guy who i found out had a hardcore anal fetish. so one day he begged me to let him fuck me in my anal region. i was so disgusted i turned the tables on him and said, well, id love to do that, why dont we go to a sexshop and u help choose a strap-on thgat i can use on u afterwards... he said fuck no. i said why not? i hear guys cum super hard from that. i said to him what he said to me about girl cumming hard from anal. and he left the subject alone. but i was so disturbed by him i broke up with him. anal is of bounds for me. good luck and make always an informed decision about sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2008): Dirty sex, is to my knowledge, anal sex, but that is not my scene, so thats all i can say.
Dont do anything that you dont want to do.
take care
xx
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reader, Gena Bullock  +, writes (14 March 2008):
 Dirty sex? Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm....sex in the mud, maybe? Naw, it must mean doing the NASTY in different ways that are out of the typical missionary position. Like, he on top and you on the bottom. Probably, position #69 or oral sex, toy sex, stuff like that. Even talking dirty over the phone to get each one aroused into masterbation...I'd say that's kinda dirty too. Experiment and ask what it means to him too...
have fun! Gena
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (14 March 2008):
 Uncle Phil, not a bad guess. Because, after all, butt sex is pretty dirty sex.
Your boyfriend could just want to make sex "dirtier" by talking dirty, maybe by you taking control and being dominate. Maybe adding in some toys, getting a little wilder. If you're used to vanilla sex (i.e. missionary, whispering sweet nothings to each other and there ya go), maybe he's just looking to turn up the heat a couple of notches.
I'd suggest getting a long silk scarf and brushing up on your dirty talk skills. Use the scarf for blindfolding or tying up hands... use the dirty talk to enhance the whole experience.
Or your could do it in the butt. Again, that's pretty dirty (nice guess Uncle Phil!!).
Good luck and have fun!
xx India
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2008): It could be that he heard his mates talking about it and he doesn't know either, and was hoping that perhaps you might.
My guess - and it's only a guess - is that he wants you to take it up the bum.
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