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anonymous
writes:it all happened 1 week ago i was round my bfs freinds house and there were no adults so everyone started having sex and so me and my bf did to but he forgot to use a condom and now im pregnant should i get an abortion or not???
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2009): You know your pregnant after ONE WEEK?
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reader, x-Happy-Feet-x +, writes (10 March 2008):
 Right babe I got pregnant i am 14 look you are young if u feel you cant tell your parents then dont worry about it really i no what u can dofirstly go to a pharmacy and pick up a booklet about the ehc..(morning after pill) it has a number on it usually ring it up and tell them about your problem then go to a clinic and tell them about it they can give u a pregnancy test if u are pregnant they can get u a abortion without your parents knowing i do feel sorry for you and this will be hard for you but i think you need to seriously stop with the sex ok xx and always were protection the clinic give u condoms as well x
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2008): Some of the people who answered must live very sheltered lives.Yes, this stuff REALLY happens. No, she can't know she is pregnant yet, but that never stopped a woman from worrying yet.There really isn't that much advice to give you. It is too later for contraception and even the morning-after-pill. Your only option right now is to wait to see if you truly are pregnant.Consult a doctor or social worker about your options. They can inform you far better then we can. You are most likely not pregnant, if you are, I wish you strength, you are going to need it.But really, sort out your life. Geez gods, you are 10-12 and you took part in an orgy? If you aren't pregnant, let it serve as a wake up call. If you are not willing to stop having sex and be a child again, then at least get contraception, because a guy who forgets a condom is NOT going to take responsibilty and an abortion is NOT a substitute.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2008): Is this for real? 'Everyone started having sex?' Like where were you? a whore house... you make it sound like a massive orgy!
It early to know if you are pregnant making me feel as if this is a sad hoax - unless you are just assuming.
'He FORGOT to put a condom on' - as they do.
Also if you were that concerned you could have got the morning after pill instead of waiting a whole week.
Dont have this baby, just re-read your post - see how responsible you sound!
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (10 March 2008):
 Whoa,
Hello, my darling. I am sorry that you find yourself in this position... now you know the consequences of being young and having sex - I'm sorry that you had to find out the most difficult way.
First, go take a pregnancy test. You may just be having a scare... but you at least need to confirm it for yourself. After all, it has only been a week.
If you are pregnant, you have some major decisions to make. It isn't any of our decisions, because guess what? It's YOUR life, YOUR body and YOU need to be the one who makes the choice. You could go through with it and have a child... hopefully your parents will be supportive and help you all they can. You could also offer your baby up for adoption and help a family fulfill their dreams of having a child. This could be very fulfilling for you in the long run, knowing that you have helped make a family whole.
Abortion is also an option. Being so young, this is what I would perhaps recommend to you - all though your religious or personal beliefs may be contrary to this. If they are, don't do anything that will make you feel awful. But, at your age, an abortion may be the best option. For such a young girl, pregnancy could be a very dangerous thing for your body.
Take that pregnancy and find out what's really going on. Then, you'll just need to take steps towards a decision regarding your pregnancy.
PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE, if you insist on having sex, USE PROTECTION. Things HAPPEN and they will happen to YOU. STI's happen, and pregnancy happens. Please be MUCH MORE SAFE from now on, sweetness.
xx India
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2008): You said that you had unprotected sex about a week ago. In reality this would be too early to know if you are pregnant. How do you know that you are pregnant? Anyway if you are i think that you should talk with your parents, your boyfriend's parents and you boyfriend before making any decision.
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reader, not so BIG MUMMA +, writes (9 March 2008):
Have you started your periods?
you are far too young to be having sex, where were the adults??
Listen you need to speak to your mum, she may get cross but she will get over that and will be the one person that will help you to sort this out.
Please dont feel that you have to deal with this on your own. If you dont feel you can talk to your mum then maybe a teacher or another adult can help you. Please do thi as soon as possible.
xxxxx
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reader, LouLee +, writes (9 March 2008):
 Wow, shocking. Okay, despite the fact a few might disagree to this, i seriously suggest you have an abortion, you're 12 and theres no way you could look after a child on your own..and you need 2 have a life, good education before all this.Please, wait a while before you have sex again eh? A while meaning 'til you're a LOT older. Best of luck
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reader, hello1 +, writes (9 March 2008):
 Wow, I hope this is a joke if not then...chav tastic! Love the council flats you live in
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reader, xcuggelsx +, writes (9 March 2008):
honey what are ou doing having sex your only 12 sweety you shoulndt worry for the minute take a test in 3 weeks then you will know for sure and if you miss your period then its a sign sweet but i hope you good luck
x
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reader, stevelc +, writes (9 March 2008):
 I feel sorry for you. I don't know what to say, or if there is anything I could say to help you with that situation. How old was the bf? If I had done something like that when I was 12, I'd have gotten the daylights beat out of me. I guess it would depend on whether it would be cared for or not. You have a serious decision to make, and I hope you make the right one. Sorry if that isn't much help, but all I can think of for now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2008): Honey, how on earth could you know that you're pregnant already? For an accurate result from a pregnancy test, you need to wait 4 - 6 weeks. So test in a few weeks time and THEN start worrying. But I would seriously not advise doing that again in a rush honey, you are way too young for such adult acts, and especially unprotected sex.. If you insist on sex, for the love of all things holy, USE A CONDOM!
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reader, babiimegz +, writes (9 March 2008):
talk to your parents...you are very young but if you have an abortion you may regret it later in life. you must tell your parents and then will help and advse you and you must talk to your boyfriend and possibly his parents. next time dont dowat everyone else is doin..or if you cant then at least make sure you are safe!
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