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Abusive partner...
Q. I asked for advise on my partner of 12 months not long ago all the advise was great i wanted to take it but now its a whole different ball ground.... ok i dont want advise telling me to leave him because i cant.... My partner asked me when he lost ...
A. 11 April 2011: Bad day honey or something worse? We are here if you want to talk, but we can't reach you through the computer screen. I want you to call the Support people, they can hold your hand, fight the bad guys or even give you somewhere to live. It w... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend a Nymphomaniac?
Q. I'm in a relationship for 2 years, but I'm starting to suspect my girlfriend is a nympho. What are all the signs I should look at to be sure? She has weird behaviours but I never caught her cheating. 1. She enjoys inviting men to her apart...
A. 12 February 2011: She's got men at her house, she calls you from a man's phone, she always want's to be alone...
I don't think this woman wants to be with you. She sending you enough clues to finish the relationship and break up.
Again, don't know if she's a ... (read in full...)
I drink a bottle of wine almost every day. Is this ok?
Q. To make this short and simple I drink a bottle of wine every day, well almost every day!!! is that to much. I dont start drinking in the morning, only at night when my son goes to bed, I contiue to carry on with my life through out the day. I get up ...
A. 10 February 2011: Yes it's bad. UK government guidelines advise 2-3 units every day (maximum) for a woman. A bottle of wine is 14. If you carry on this way, you will damage your liver.
Why are you drinking so much. Seven bottles of wine a week is damaging... (read in full...)
Sex Education...
Q. heres a question to all the agony aunts and uncles.... both sexes are welcome to give their opinion over this touchy mattter.... my bf and i fought today because basically i feel i dont want my daughter to be taught sex in a co-ed class, and he got ...
A. 10 February 2011: Your gonna stop your kid taking a very important class..... That's a very bad idea. First, she'll be separated from the rest of her friends, she will miss the jokes that always happen in sex education class. She'll feel like she's missed out. ... (read in full...)
He's looking at porn every day, and defensive about it
Q. My boyfriend and I had a huge fight last night about porn. I dont mind he viewing porn but I saw he was viewing porn on everyday basis on his computer. I asked him why does he like porn and he told me , he doesnt know himself. He actually told me ...
A. 10 February 2011: No idea's nor suggestions. You said yourself, you don't mind him watching porn, so I can't understand why you keep asking him questions, why you're checking on his computer and why you're here complaining. You say nothing about his porn usage... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's inexperience is getting to me
Q. I'm 19 and have had many relationships but my boyfriend (21)has not. He has had one relationship and it lasted 3 weeks and has not gained much experience from it. I'm very used to dating guys who are more experienced in that matter and it's really ...
A. 9 February 2011: You've had many relationships, where you stand back and let the guy do all the work.. Sounds lazy to me, and therefore you have as little experience as the guy your seeing.
First thing, if your having problems, you go and talk to the person a... (read in full...)
Abusive partner...
Q. I asked for advise on my partner of 12 months not long ago all the advise was great i wanted to take it but now its a whole different ball ground.... ok i dont want advise telling me to leave him because i cant.... My partner asked me when he lost ...
A. 9 February 2011: "i cant handle this crap i cant leave him because he will hurt me" (original post)
Hi Fayy,
Congratulations on your new life. You've been very brave to put your own happiness and safety first. I can imagine how scared and frightened y... (read in full...)
The what's and why's of watching Porn!
Q. Hi I just need some advice from Women and Men I have been with partner for 10 years we have four children he is 27 and I'm 32!! We have sex every day almost!! We recently got wireless devices which he watches Porn on ok so here goes the questio...
A. 9 February 2011: Porn.. Sounds ok to me... bit disrespectful not to include you if you are in the room. He's not really thinking of the women he sees because he's too busy masturbating. You watch porn too, how much do you remember, how important are the actors to ... (read in full...)
want passionate and mind blowing sex with my crush, not my husband!
Q. I have been married to my husband for 18 years and we have two sons together. I got married when I was very young and have had no other boyfriends ever. My husband is the only man I have ever been with in my entire life. I find that I am bec...
A. 9 February 2011: Boredom with sex?????? I did 18years, and sex was just getting interesting before we broke up. Damn, there's tons of fun stuff to do in bed without getting another man.
Have you done everything in http://www.sexinfo101.com/ The position... (read in full...)
Got boyfriend but planning on sleeping with a married man!
Q. I live with my boyfriend, we have been together for 2 years! i met a young newly married man who is making passes at me! i now have strong feelings for him, and we are now planing on taking it to the next level'(sex). am so confusd! should i give ...
A. 9 February 2011: Why are you confused? Seems clear as day to me. Of course it's a fling. Don't be stupid, what else can it be? It's not like he's gonna fall in love and leave his wife for you.
You and this guy want to have sex. You don't care about morals, ... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend a Nymphomaniac?
Q. I'm in a relationship for 2 years, but I'm starting to suspect my girlfriend is a nympho. What are all the signs I should look at to be sure? She has weird behaviours but I never caught her cheating. 1. She enjoys inviting men to her apart...
A. 9 February 2011: Don't know about nymphomaniac. A woman like that would wear you out, because she'd never get out of bed.
What you mention is strange behaviour for a woman in love. You don't need no other evidence, what you have said is enough.
You nee... (read in full...)
Retroactive Jealousy An Opposite View Point
Q. I have read the articles on Retroactive Jealousy with great interest. I am the one that caused RJ in my lover, I have had less sexual partners than him but I have more sexual experiences. I am not proud of the things I have done and I am trying to ...
A. 9 February 2011: Lovely words, and very thoughtful, kind and understanding. Thank you for writing this.
Like Janniepeg, I also don't do jealousy. A man asks me too many irritating questions, starts judging me negatively, or dares to be rude to me... well he'... (read in full...)
My daughter is causing me so much stress just now...
Q. Hello, I posted on here recently regarding problem with my daughter and her BF who is here 2/3 nights a week. I got some really helpful answers regarding him paying his way. However since that time, another serious problem has happened and I ...
A. 8 February 2011: One last question.. it's been driving me crazy. How do you get your dogs to stay silent?... (read in full...)
My daughter is causing me so much stress just now...
Q. Hello, I posted on here recently regarding problem with my daughter and her BF who is here 2/3 nights a week. I got some really helpful answers regarding him paying his way. However since that time, another serious problem has happened and I ...
A. 7 February 2011: Hi Jane,
Sigh... sounds all normal to me... young people like noise, older sick people like quite... homework goes missing, young person has meltdown, and police gets called.
What the last boyfriend has to do with all of this, I don't know. ... (read in full...)
Why are women devalued after sex but not men?
Q. Why is it that after sex , a man devalues a woman and views her as " cheap stuff " or " slut " but you don't hear women calling men " cheap " ? Why is it that for a woman to be able to make the man stay interested in her, i.e. want her not jus...
A. 7 February 2011: I once had sex with a guy (one night stand) and then asked if I was now a "slut".....
Oh dear, the look on his face was priceless.. he looked so deeply hurt, so upset, that I could think about him in such negative terms. Poor man looked like a k... (read in full...)
Why can't I just trust him that he isn't looking at porn?
Q. I have been with my current boyfriend for almost a year now (anniversary is in a few days). It is in fact a long distance relationship, but we meet often. Anyway, I've always had this issue about him watching porn. Except this is a little differe...
A. 7 February 2011: Super paranoid and obsessed, in a long distance relationship so the man can't have no sex....
mmmmmmm.....
I don't think this relationship can last.
He could be telling the truth about pornography and screwing the woman next door... How w... (read in full...)
Abusive partner...
Q. I asked for advise on my partner of 12 months not long ago all the advise was great i wanted to take it but now its a whole different ball ground.... ok i dont want advise telling me to leave him because i cant.... My partner asked me when he lost ...
A. 4 February 2011: Two of my friends left abusive men.... they were scared but they had no choice. The men were trying to kill them at the time and strangers broke down the door and rescued them.
Don't wait until your nearly dead, by then it might be too late.
... (read in full...)
Abusive partner...
Q. I asked for advise on my partner of 12 months not long ago all the advise was great i wanted to take it but now its a whole different ball ground.... ok i dont want advise telling me to leave him because i cant.... My partner asked me when he lost ...
A. 3 February 2011: We can't help you. Your partner attacks you, throws you out on the street, and wants you to be his dog, and you allow him.
He won't change, shy should he. No matter what he says or does to you, you will keep loving him, have sex with him and ... (read in full...)
My husband is sucking me dry... emotionally. Need advice!
Q. I don't even know why I am posting this here or how to phrase this so that I don't seem like the bad guy...but I am. And I know it. And yes, feel free to tell me so. I tried to tell my hubby that if he posted here with this problem you would all ...
A. 2 February 2011: Swinging/poly is too complicated for me.... lol We got a jealous man who feels insecure about himself. I know (from what you say) that the love and commitment is there. You didn't explain if your friend attends gaming evenings. He's been invit... (read in full...)
How to tell my boyfriend that I want to keep my baby?
Q. I am not really seeking advice, just wanted to get things off my chest. Any comments however will be taken into consideration and welcomed. I am very much in love with a man, well at this point I am not sure what it is anymore. I wish I could jus...
A. 2 February 2011: He can't be bothered to hold your hand while your having this surgery. This aint prince charming, this is the frog.
If you have the baby, he'll dump you...don't wait, dump him as soon as you get home.
Good guys don't act like this. They hurt... (read in full...)
My husband is sucking me dry... emotionally. Need advice!
Q. I don't even know why I am posting this here or how to phrase this so that I don't seem like the bad guy...but I am. And I know it. And yes, feel free to tell me so. I tried to tell my hubby that if he posted here with this problem you would all ...
A. 2 February 2011: (SCRUNCH - Tears up first answer and throws it in bin)
Ex-swingers... ah, now I understand why you think there should be no sexual jealousy. I agree with the others, if your spending too much time apart and putting your emotional energy into oth... (read in full...)
Need tips, advice, etc. from those experienced with threesomes. Planning one soon with my girlfriend and her former sex partner.
Q. Ok let me try this again. My other questions wasn't worded like it should have been. I'm having a threesome with my girlfriend and have given her approval to have a former friend/lover (not as in love, but as in having had sex with him before ...
A. 2 February 2011: Sorry you don't like the advice given.
I have suggested you look for "swingers" websites where you will find what you need.
I have no problems with people's sexuality. But in your case, from what you have described, I think it's a very bad ... (read in full...)
I just want the freedom "normal" people have...
Q. Just a bit of background, I come from an "old fashioned" family in terms of doing things old school, (Italian style) my parents don't have many friends anymore as my mom has alienated herself and withdrawn away from the public eye.. I feel the ...
A. 1 February 2011: Sorry about the first bit, but I left it in, to try to approximate what your mother probably thinks.
Good luck, don't worry so much, it will turn out ok. :)... (read in full...)
I just want the freedom "normal" people have...
Q. Just a bit of background, I come from an "old fashioned" family in terms of doing things old school, (Italian style) my parents don't have many friends anymore as my mom has alienated herself and withdrawn away from the public eye.. I feel the ...
A. 1 February 2011: Traditional Families... yes there are strong restrictions on your sisters, but the same restrictions don't apply to you. I'm aware that's it's difficult for you to bring a different girl home every week, but your parents and family expect a young ... (read in full...)
Need tips, advice, etc. from those experienced with threesomes. Planning one soon with my girlfriend and her former sex partner.
Q. Ok let me try this again. My other questions wasn't worded like it should have been. I'm having a threesome with my girlfriend and have given her approval to have a former friend/lover (not as in love, but as in having had sex with him before ...
A. 1 February 2011: This Girl????? How old is this woman?... (read in full...)
Need tips, advice, etc. from those experienced with threesomes. Planning one soon with my girlfriend and her former sex partner.
Q. Ok let me try this again. My other questions wasn't worded like it should have been. I'm having a threesome with my girlfriend and have given her approval to have a former friend/lover (not as in love, but as in having had sex with him before ...
A. 1 February 2011: I've had one before with a former partner that was lacking the fun I thought should be there. Mainly because I was younger and the guy was pretty much a total stranger and my partner at the time was not as sexy, talented and loving as my current ... (read in full...)
Why is my boyfriend of 8 years pushing me away?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 8 years this year, last year he went through a tough time at work he lost his job as a manager and now works on the floor where he managed but only temporary until later this year, then hes out, he was very ...
A. 1 February 2011: He Loves you...
But he's having trouble at work and it's making him very sad at the moment. Don't worry so much. When he's sad, he sad. Just like when your sad. Ignore him when he says he wants to leave you, that's just the sickness talking.... (read in full...)
Help!!! Is my boyfriend addicted to porn?
Q. My boyfriend of one year is addicted to porn. Well I think he is. I used to think it was ok but now I'm not so sure. WE used to watch porn together and have fun with it but lately it seems that he prefers to please himself to porn rather than being ...
A. 1 February 2011: Don't know about "addicted".. It's supposed to be a medical term and therefore needs a doctor to provide a diagnosis. Just like an alcoholic isn't someone who drinks to much alcohol. There is a difference between liking drink too much (a drunk) ... (read in full...)
I want my boyfriend to hit me.. Is this normal?
Q. For some reason, I have a strong desire to be in an abusive relationship with a guy. I want to be hit, thrown to the ground, or pushed into a wall. I'm not sure if this is normal or not though. My boyfriend seems like the kind of guy who may do ...
A. 29 January 2011: If your submissive this should be about sexual pleasure and should be done in the context of having an orgasm.
Yes, I understand your boyfriend loves you, treats you nice and tries to please you. He's doing what you ask him to, and your happy wi... (read in full...)
How much patience is enough???
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for nearly 2 and a half years. I am a couple months older than him and I attend a university two hours away, while he is in his last year of high school. This is my first year at a four-year university. I went to a ...
A. 29 January 2011: Your families have very different parenting styles. Neither is wrong or right. You parents allow you to be adult like and have a lot of independence and freedom. They allow you to make your own choices and mistakes. His parents have a vision fo... (read in full...)
Sometimes I feel as if I have a room mate and NOT a wife!
Q. Me and my wife have been married for 4 years and I have had lost my job and we had a baby and I have noticed that lately she has lost interest in sex, she has worked a lot more hours the last few months but here lately been saying I have a headache ...
A. 29 January 2011: Confusing post, please clarify.
1. Are you having less sex, or as you say in your last paragraph - more sex?
2. How old is the baby?
3. Do you work?
4. Does she work 3 days a week only?
5. Do you argue?
6. When is the last time you... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend could be gay?
Q. Thank you for reading this. I have never used the Internet for answers, I am very confused. My boyfriend and I have been together for two years and we love each other undoubtedly. Lately though I have been questioning his sexuality. There are a few ...
A. 29 January 2011: looks gay... mmmmm... there's no test, there no gay way to sit or act or move... You know his gay when you find him having sex with men. He get hard and can have sex with you, if he was gay it's more likely he'd find it hard to have an erection ... (read in full...)
Shall I continue and pursue things with my love?
Q. hi everyone, i am female, in love. my last relationship was 3 years ago and it was awfully devastating as he left me after our wedding plans and everything was set, now i am inlove with a guy- who happened to be in an open relationship with a girl ...
A. 29 January 2011: Stay with him as long as your willing to share him, and understand she's first in his life and your always second best.
Sorry, but he did explain how things are. As wonderful as you are, as much as you love him, he's already committed his hear... (read in full...)
How can I tell my mistress to get an abortion... NOW!
Q. Hi. Just seeking some advice. I have been married for 7 yrs been with wife for almost 15. she's older than me by a couple of years (I am 37 my wife is 43 and my lover is 35). , but I think she is my soul mate. I cheated on her before this time, but ...
A. 29 January 2011: You have no problem. Your mistress will not abort and you will not be able to convince her too. If you suggest it, she will dump you.
Sorry you like her, because when's she's a mother it will be difficult to continue the affair. I suggest ... (read in full...)
I can't tolerate porn due to a horrible experience in my past!
Q. My problem is that I hate porn. It dates back to many years ago when I had an awful experience and I have explained this to my partner and how it reminds me of a horrible time in my life which I have sought profession help to overcome. I told him ...
A. 29 January 2011: If you let the past consume you, not only will you have to leave this relationship, but will always be running away from your fears. This man has done nothing wrong. He doesn't have your bad experience. You can't expect him to build his presen... (read in full...)
Is this pain normal?
Q. Any time my boyfriend fingers me I feel pain; I am a virgin. And after the act I get this burning sensation and it lasts for about 3 days. I want to know if this is normal?...
A. 29 January 2011: Yep, sounds ok to me too.. your vagina is tight, he stretches it a little, it burns.... then goes back to it's normal size. He does it again, same thing happens.
Should stop happening the more you play as eventually your body will widen up a bit... (read in full...)
The answer to all your problems (well most) right here!
Q. I don't know about you guys but there are some questions I see time and time again. How 'bout we answer some of those questions right here and hope that anyone about to post the same question has a quick look at the articles first? 1. Why won't h...
A. 29 January 2011: 27) CHALLENGE!!!!! Cultural rules overturn
Better make sure you and your cousin are British and are currently living in the UK... then go have some fun.
... (read in full...)
Why do men in porn films last so long?
Q. What do the men in sex movies do for them to keep long during sex(about an hour) before they cum? Are they real people like us?...
A. 27 January 2011: Rocco Siffredi (Italian male porn star) claims he has priapism (medical condition for prolonged erection) But for most of the guys it's camera tricks and editing.... (read in full...)
How do I cut ties with my sister?
Q. I will try to keep this brief but it will take a bit of explaining. I am the oldest of five siblings. We are three sisters then the youngest are boy/girl twins, ages up from 23 to 31 (myself) The problem is with myself and the middle sister who...
A. 27 January 2011: Your upset and your venting. Sisters fall out all the time. Cut her out of your life (and the rest of your sisters) and you'll isolate yourself, and feel guilty when your parents, aunts and uncles die off. You'll be a stranger because you ran ... (read in full...)
Can all women squirt?
Q. So I was a spectator to a discussion at a party the other day (alcohol involved) involving squirting. One guy claimed that the squirting in porn was real. (which I know its not) When someone voiced this contrary opinion, the kid stated that that was ...
A. 27 January 2011: Eyes, I think it's an age thing... young girls got G.Spot thingy and us oldies have incontinence.
I get by just fine without this squirt thing.. any excess liquid and I'm going to the bathroom.
"it seems like squirting is the ultimate indicat... (read in full...)
The answer to all your problems (well most) right here!
Q. I don't know about you guys but there are some questions I see time and time again. How 'bout we answer some of those questions right here and hope that anyone about to post the same question has a quick look at the articles first? 1. Why won't h...
A. 27 January 2011: 22. How can I convince my wife/girlfriend to have a threesome (if she said no already, then leave her alone cause she aint interested. Please stop watching so much porn)
22b. Will a threesome break up my relationship (they usually do, but some... (read in full...)
Married to a dream man but I don't love him!
Q. I am 33 years old.I have been married to a man 7 yrs older than me for 14 yrs.We moved in together just weeks after dating because I needed a place to live.We have never had much in common and were never really friends.Now we have 3 kids and a ...
A. 27 January 2011: He's a dream man..... BUT!!!!! 1. He loves you, but only wants you around when drunk? 2. You have sex problems .... sex is a chore 3. You never loved him.... but you don't love him anymore 4. You can't stand to be around him, he's never... (read in full...)
Are my personal standards for my performance in the bedroom over the top?
Q. Um I'm 15 years old and a dude and me and my girlfriend who I've been crazy for for well over a year and who I've been with for about a month having been talking a lot about sex lately and we've decided that we both want to loose our virginity to ...
A. 27 January 2011: Lame Legal issues? What are those?
First time sex, especially for girls is painful, and pretty crap. First time sex for boys, can sometimes fail due to erection or ejaculation problems.
First time sex after four weeks at the age of 15..... m... (read in full...)
Why is my boyfriend of 8 years pushing me away?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 8 years this year, last year he went through a tough time at work he lost his job as a manager and now works on the floor where he managed but only temporary until later this year, then hes out, he was very ...
A. 27 January 2011: Depression hits you hard like that. It's hard to talk and make nice conversation when you just want to cry all the time, or hit something, or just run away.
He loves you, he see's no point in making you unhappy, your the only special thing in... (read in full...)
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