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Is the porn industry corrupting me?
Q. My new years resolution would be not to masturbate while dating. Though since im not I do everyday after school ( Finished all my homework etc.) will it be hard to stop. the reason(s) are below 2. I heard that an over consumsion of Pornagra...
A. 15 January 2011: Here read this link.. netdoctor on the internet. The advice is the same as most (if not all) medical doctors across the world. Masturbation is normal and healthy at your age, and is known to protect against certain diseases of the penis.
http:... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is not ashamed of being nude in front of others...
Q. Last night, we had around 20 people over for a New Years party, and I was trying to fall asleep a little later in the night. I was nearly asleep when someone ran to the bathroom (which is right outside of my room) to inform his girlfriend that my ...
A. 11 January 2011: Well I did 18years with a man, and had no problem with him buying a woman a drink or even dancing with her. I don't do possessiveness or jealousy.
Yes your boyfriend has issues if he needs to drop his pants in public all the time, and that wou... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is not ashamed of being nude in front of others...
Q. Last night, we had around 20 people over for a New Years party, and I was trying to fall asleep a little later in the night. I was nearly asleep when someone ran to the bathroom (which is right outside of my room) to inform his girlfriend that my ...
A. 9 January 2011: Wow...
mmmm... Leave him.. You've told him your values, you've made your commands, this solider isn't used to obeying and he does what he wants.
Leave him, you've put up with the crap for too long.. go find another solider who can understand w... (read in full...)
I am not religious but have certain beliefs about virginity. Is this hard to appreciate?
Q. I am currently an 33 year old atheist and virgin. I used to be a devoted christian, but lost my faith some years ago. However, my feelings towards sex has remained the same (or even grown stronger) meaning that I still feel that sex should be ...
A. 8 January 2011: Thanks for ignoring my mistake about your gender.. lol, my post must have been unreadable.
Declared atheist here... and yes I can understand your views on having sex with the "one" right person. I was the same. For me, sex (only in my case) wa... (read in full...)
Will I ever be accepting of his porn usage?
Q. First of all, I don’t want answers to my post or comments on it from people who are totally against porn. I am not against it, I am just asking for advice and I don’t want advice that I absolutely will not take. I mean no offense, but I see it on ...
A. 7 January 2011: I'll declare, I'm not anti-porn and I use it. First of all, I'm very sorry that you are upset and distress by your boyfriends "hobby". Secondly, no woman has to "accept" something she hates, however, we can't change people and you may have to ... (read in full...)
I told my FWB I love him and now he is ignoring me.
Q. I have been friends with benefits with the same guy for over a year with the exception of one month when I tried being in a relationship. I have had feeling with the guy for a long time now and he has known about them. Last night I brought up the ...
A. 7 January 2011: Your in love... but you must be honest... this guy can't "come back to you", because you never had him in the first place. He's not your boyfriend, he's not in love with you. He's a friend, a guy you go out with and a guy you have sex with. If he ... (read in full...)
Husband is sharing a room with a friend during a business trip, feeling uncomfortable about it
Q. Hi, my husband is in another contry doing some bussines.. in this moment he is traveling with some friends that I met before. I talked with him today and asked about his friends, how they are doing...etc.. he told me the hotel right now is ver...
A. 7 January 2011: Problem I have with the "affair theory"... if your a businessman, why tell your wife that your sharing a room with a woman if you are having sex with her.
Isn't it smarter to just lie and have sex... how would the wife find out about it?
... (read in full...)
He wants to do it all the time... I don't!
Q. I do not know what to do... my boyfiend wants sex all the time but I do not and I do not want to do it all the time. Please can people give me some help?...
A. 6 January 2011: 16-17, make sure you arrange activities outside the house.. movies, ice-skating, swimming.
Unfortunately this will probably make you tired and make him more horny. But it's important for your relationship to be based on more than sex, you need... (read in full...)
Husband is sharing a room with a friend during a business trip, feeling uncomfortable about it
Q. Hi, my husband is in another contry doing some bussines.. in this moment he is traveling with some friends that I met before. I talked with him today and asked about his friends, how they are doing...etc.. he told me the hotel right now is ver...
A. 6 January 2011: The gay people are a couple, your husband is self employed, you love and trust your husband.... No problem, now I can understand why he ended up sharing.
Of course you feel uncomfortable... but that explanation works for me.... (read in full...)
It hurts when he looks at other women
Q. Hi, I need some insights... My bf and I are in a great relationship for over a year and half, we love each other so much and we plan on getting married. But he's a MAN and he can't help looking at other women. I know, they say it's normal, "m...
A. 6 January 2011: So he "ogles"... Those type of men make you feel ugly and inferior and make you unhappy as long as you stay with them. Yes, he's right, all men probably "ogle", but most are kind enough to be very discrete about it when they are around a woman. ... (read in full...)
Am I too demanding or is she only using me to replace her ex?
Q. I'm in a same-sex relationship and have been with my partner for almost four years. She is almost 20 years older than me and while I don't feel that the age difference is a problem, it seems her past is holding her back from having a happy ...
A. 6 January 2011: I wish had better advice to give :)
I do like spoilt brat behaviour though... it is sometimes necessary when we are being ignored and we want to send a loud message.
Your problem is not unique... we have many people in similar dysfunctional re... (read in full...)
I am not religious but have certain beliefs about virginity. Is this hard to appreciate?
Q. I am currently an 33 year old atheist and virgin. I used to be a devoted christian, but lost my faith some years ago. However, my feelings towards sex has remained the same (or even grown stronger) meaning that I still feel that sex should be ...
A. 6 January 2011: Wow!!! Great question.
Sex with only one other person.... mmmmmm.... but that's what most people want, Christian, atheist or Jew. Many people want to fall in love with one special person and stay with that person forever.
Problem is, p... (read in full...)
Am I too demanding or is she only using me to replace her ex?
Q. I'm in a same-sex relationship and have been with my partner for almost four years. She is almost 20 years older than me and while I don't feel that the age difference is a problem, it seems her past is holding her back from having a happy ...
A. 6 January 2011: One more idea... it may work or it may end your relationship. Sometimes we advise people to show their posts to their partner, so that everything is out in the open and they can see how desperate you feel.
She just doesn't seem to realise ... (read in full...)
Am I too demanding or is she only using me to replace her ex?
Q. I'm in a same-sex relationship and have been with my partner for almost four years. She is almost 20 years older than me and while I don't feel that the age difference is a problem, it seems her past is holding her back from having a happy ...
A. 6 January 2011: I got up early this morning, guess I waiting for some good news from you..
Sigh.. I'm not used to female-female relationships.. I sure wish you could have stamped your foot, made a scene and started to cry because your night was ruined.. that's w... (read in full...)
What motivates a man to say "I love you"?
Q. Hey, sorry if this question sounds stupid. I'd like your advice on guy's motives for saying I love you. I've been with my bf 5 months, he's great-caring, kind, funny, sexy, intelligent, thoughtful. He told me last week that he loves me, and said ...
A. 6 January 2011: 26-29.... I guess your guy is your age or older...
Men that like to sleep with a different woman every day can use the love word easily.
Men that date you for 5 months and treat you right, only say they love you when they mean it.
"Love"...... (read in full...)
It hurts when he looks at other women
Q. Hi, I need some insights... My bf and I are in a great relationship for over a year and half, we love each other so much and we plan on getting married. But he's a MAN and he can't help looking at other women. I know, they say it's normal, "m...
A. 6 January 2011: "I'm an insecure person myself, been through some nasty relationships, been cheated twice in the past and now, every little detail that doesn't fit the happy frame makes me go paranoid."
You are not ready to think about marriage... happy frames h... (read in full...)
Guy with definite mixed signals!
Q. I like this guy who is very much a ladies man! he has never admitted he likes me but gets with me sometimes and texts me quite a lot, I know he talks to other girls so it isn't just me but I know all he wants is sex because thats what he tells me ...
A. 6 January 2011: Do whatever you want to do.. but this man is looking for a quick easy screw... If you have sex with him, he'll probably never talk to you again. He's no liar, he likes sex with any woman who is willing and available.. He ain't looking for a fr... (read in full...)
Why is he looking at porn when he has an available, willing wife in his bed??
Q. My husband and I are both in our twenties and have only been married a few months. We're expecting our first child and ever since we've been together I've always been very sexual with him. Since I've been pregnant, my sex drive has doubled and Ive ...
A. 6 January 2011: One more thing... make sure you explain to him that your horny and sex crazy because of the baby.. Tell him you'd love more loving time... Men can be funny when women are pregnant and he may not realise how sexy you feel.... (read in full...)
A plea for help!
Q. :/ well this is less of a question as to more of just a plee for help...... me and my gf have been going out nearly 5 months and up until now everything has been perfect no arguments nothing :/ but recently shes just completely shut herself off from ...
A. 6 January 2011: If you don't know what's going on, then it's impossible for us to guess. All you can do is love her and hope she talks one day.... (read in full...)
Problems with my penis (foreskin).
Q. im nearing the age of 18, and i think i have a problem with my penis. my penis is attached to the foreskin but only along the frenulum(not sure if thats the name, along the urethral opening) which i believe restricts the movement of my foreskin, as ...
A. 6 January 2011: PS: I remember when I was your age and I had to go to the doctor. I didn't want to go with my mother, I wanted to go alone. I told my best friend my problem and they came with me instead.
Tell your friend/cousin/brother or someone you feel com... (read in full...)
Husband is sharing a room with a friend during a business trip, feeling uncomfortable about it
Q. Hi, my husband is in another contry doing some bussines.. in this moment he is traveling with some friends that I met before. I talked with him today and asked about his friends, how they are doing...etc.. he told me the hotel right now is ver...
A. 6 January 2011: Wouldn't feel comfortable with that.. if two people are gay, then one should share your husbands room, the other should share the ladies room, then there is no chance of romance.
It sounds very strange arrangement for people who are supposed... (read in full...)
I dreamt of my ex
Q. me and my ex broke up 2 years ago i'm with someone else now nd he's doing his own thing. We're still cool and all. We speak here and there But jus last night i had a dream about him he was with a cousin of mine nd it broke my heart to see them toge...
A. 6 January 2011: I have them dreams, and yes they bloody hurt.. They usually mean my bedroom is too hot or I shouldn't eat or drink before you go to bed.
You miss him, so you had a dream... it means nothing.... (read in full...)
Problems with my penis (foreskin).
Q. im nearing the age of 18, and i think i have a problem with my penis. my penis is attached to the foreskin but only along the frenulum(not sure if thats the name, along the urethral opening) which i believe restricts the movement of my foreskin, as ...
A. 6 January 2011: 18, your nearly an adult, no need to tell your mother anything. You can make an appointment to see your own doctor, or you can go to the family planning clinic.... Any of the doctors or nurses working in the NHS will be happy to see you. They ... (read in full...)
I don't want to go to my husband's father's funeral because the women he had an affair with will be there, is this wrong?
Q. My husband has been having an affair with a friend of his family. This has been going on for a while and although my husband is sorry I am still trying to come to terms with it. This lady is well liked by his family and I have never met her. My ...
A. 5 January 2011: This woman is well liked.... she'll be liked even more when she attends the funeral instead of you. You must do as you like, if you can't go, then you can't. But you will be the one who looks unfriendly and stuck up, whilst she will look kind and ... (read in full...)
Am I too demanding or is she only using me to replace her ex?
Q. I'm in a same-sex relationship and have been with my partner for almost four years. She is almost 20 years older than me and while I don't feel that the age difference is a problem, it seems her past is holding her back from having a happy ...
A. 5 January 2011: Sorry, missed the four years part. Yes, you have a lot invested, too much to walk away easily.
You deserve better, you and I both know this. And after 4years, she should be over the rebound thing. If this were a woman-man relationship, I would ... (read in full...)
Why don't I enjoy anything sexual? How can I enjoy sex ?
Q. I am 19 and only lost my virginity a month ago. Since then, I have had sex with my boyfriend twice, both times very uncomfortable and don't feel anything unless it is pain. I know this is quite common after you lose your virginity, to be painful ...
A. 5 January 2011: Wow.. lots going on there..
Yes, you are right, it's partly to do with the way you've been treated in the past, partly due to painful sex, partly learned behaviour for dealing with sex/romantic issues that are problematic.
Best thing is to sugg... (read in full...)
Am I too demanding or is she only using me to replace her ex?
Q. I'm in a same-sex relationship and have been with my partner for almost four years. She is almost 20 years older than me and while I don't feel that the age difference is a problem, it seems her past is holding her back from having a happy ...
A. 5 January 2011: Together for 12 years, only split a couple months before you turned up, have you never heard of rebound.... Sorry... but when we are with people for a long time, we expect to stay with them until we die. When a split occurs, we want them back b... (read in full...)
Is the porn industry corrupting me?
Q. My new years resolution would be not to masturbate while dating. Though since im not I do everyday after school ( Finished all my homework etc.) will it be hard to stop. the reason(s) are below 2. I heard that an over consumsion of Pornagra...
A. 4 January 2011: Masturbation is normal and healthy at your age. Pornography is not suitable for children as it gives the wrong idea about sex. Pornography is not very realistic and can be harmful for sexual development in the young. Yes, a very small minority o... (read in full...)
How do people have one-night stands or loveless sex?
Q. Hi, OK, this is gonna sound naive, but it is sincere. I am a heterosexual male in my late 30s and I do not understand one-night stands, or having sex with a stranger (like a prostitute) or someone you don't love. I mean, I understand the sex...
A. 3 January 2011: Dorothy Parker says it best......
Unfortunate Coincidence by Dorothy Parker
By the time you swear you're his,
Shivering and sighing,
And he vows his passion is
Infinite, undying ---
Lady, make a note of this:
One of you is lying.
... (read in full...)
Should I invest in a keylogger for his laptop and phone even though my heart tells me it will probably spell the end of our marriage?
Q. My husband and I have been together since we were 19, married since the age of 20. He's always been heavily into pornography and is constantly pushing me to engage in activities that make me uncomfortable. I understand that porn use is very comm...
A. 3 January 2011: Stand firm.. be very clear and do not change your mind. I know you have to be very clear and direct when dealing with people with aspergers.
NO THREESOMES
NO ADULTERY
NO ANAL SEX WITHOUT LUBE
Do not change your mind, these are fixed, firm ru... (read in full...)
Is he cheating again? Girl friend of his sent him a porn link
Q. Hi all, Happy Holidays everyone. I haven't written on here in quite some time, and well of course it's regarding my boyfriend and the cheating matter. I've just come back from my holiday which was away from him for about 12 days. He did some trav...
A. 3 January 2011: I send my guy friends porn links and they will send the same to me... I am also friends with their wives and girlfriends and will also send sex stuff to them.
I think your overreacting and need to calm down and learn to relax and just enjoy yo... (read in full...)
Married for 6 years and sex isn't what it used to be
Q. ive been married 6yrs and i love my husband to death but our sex life isnt what it use to be how do i get that back?...
A. 31 December 2010: Tons of ideas... But try to work on romance too, especially when you got your clothes on. Make sure you give him some big hot kisses when he leasts expects it. Dress up in sexy clothes and do the dishes, (if you have no kids) If you have kids, then ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend going to move out because my mom asked for $100.00 a month
Q. I'm 20 years old. I live with my mother and father. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, and yesterday my mom asked if he would start giving her 100 dollars every 2 weeks to help pay for food and bills. He automatically said he wouldn't and that ...
A. 31 December 2010: He doesn't like to spend money.. fine, let him move out and see if he can find somewhere free to live. He doesn't have any respect and is treating your parents like fools.... (read in full...)
I want my husband and lover back!
Q. my husband said he is in love with our children's best friends single mother. We both have two boys, and have been friends for years. Doing activities together all the time, with and with out our boys. Camping, vacations, bike riding, movies, etc.. ...
A. 31 December 2010: Quick note, so hope he doesn't read this... men always like a challenge.. maybe if you look happy, excited and eager to be on your own, he might change his mind.. He thinks he knows you, shake things up and make him look at you twice.
Just ... (read in full...)
Men: If your woman is satisfying you, why do you need porn?
Q. Ok first off, I’m not married, but I keep having this fear of my future husband watching porn. I understand that most men watch porn but why? If your woman is satisfying you why do you need it? Many men say they need variety, but is that fair? Women ...
A. 31 December 2010: Why do men need wet dreams, why can't they just wake up and tell their body to control itself?... (read in full...)
Can't stop looking at porn and masturbating. Is this healthy for a 14-year-old girl?
Q. I'm a 14 year old girl. I recently looked up porn and started to masturbate. I know I'm young but since the first time I can't stop. I feel bad or dirty after. I do but i can't stop... Is this healthy?? Does it mean I'm a sex addict?? Even if...
A. 30 December 2010: How much do you masturbate? Do you find yourself avoiding your friends or chores/homework to masturbate instead?
The thing that will ruin your sex life is guilty and worry. Sex is not dirty or bad, masturbation is normal. Many women are unab... (read in full...)
My boyfriend deleted his porn collection. Is he serious about it or just pretending?
Q. My boyfriend deleted his porn collection from his P.C. I never asked him to. Earlier on we was watching a program, with asian girls on it. I called him a hypocrite for defending them, when he calls so many types people. So in our arguementhe deleted ...
A. 30 December 2010: Not really a problem babes, but you have doubts.
He deleted the porn because he was angry. I bet he'll start watching it again, but will do it in secret because he has no wish to upset you or get in arguments again.
If you don't mind porno... (read in full...)
Boyfriend saved my life and is now handicapped. Should I stay with him?
Q. I'm 20 and my boyfriend is 24. He is the best thing that's ever happened to me. It almost sounds unreal, but he saved my life about one month ago. He pushed me out of the way from getting hit by an oncoming car, but he was badly injured. Right now, ...
A. 28 December 2010: Sigh.... wait until next year before you make decisions about forever.. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend saved my life and is now handicapped. Should I stay with him?
Q. I'm 20 and my boyfriend is 24. He is the best thing that's ever happened to me. It almost sounds unreal, but he saved my life about one month ago. He pushed me out of the way from getting hit by an oncoming car, but he was badly injured. Right now, ...
A. 27 December 2010: It's decent to stay and help him with his recovery. It's only been a month, much too soon to run away, that just sounds mean and selfish. Stay and help him as much as you can. In a couple of months, when he is as well as he can be, if you don't ... (read in full...)
My Ex-Wife's New "Friend" With Whom She Appears To Have A Relationship Smokes Pot Regularly...And We Have A Young Son.
Q. Simply put folks, the above is what's going on. I found this out quite by accident and the source of the information is irrefutable. When, I in a roundabout way asked her about any bad habits he might have she straight up lied to me when I asked ...
A. 27 December 2010: Legal.. yes it is... medical use is allowed in America... and it is a felony punishable by a fine rather than being locked up in prison, illegal yes, but it won't bring you the death penalty....
But we are not going to argue about our opinions... (read in full...)
I suffer my uninterested husband, I want more romance in my life
Q. i have been married for almost 30 years. my husband never, never , never initiate romance, sex or anything. he never makes me feel special. he never takes me away or really talks to me . mind you, we do go places and do things, but only if and IF, i ...
A. 26 December 2010: The idea of romance in marriage is a very new thing. Yes, now we see men buying ballons with "I love you" or writing your name high in the sky, but that is very modern.
Watch older films and men and women married and shopped, cooked and raised c... (read in full...)
My Ex-Wife's New "Friend" With Whom She Appears To Have A Relationship Smokes Pot Regularly...And We Have A Young Son.
Q. Simply put folks, the above is what's going on. I found this out quite by accident and the source of the information is irrefutable. When, I in a roundabout way asked her about any bad habits he might have she straight up lied to me when I asked ...
A. 26 December 2010: Wow!!!! You gonna lock your son in his room next because the neighbour next door might do cocaine?
Yes we want to help and protect our kids, but go too far and you can disable them. If you wrap your son up in cotton wool and hide him away fro... (read in full...)
I suffer my uninterested husband, I want more romance in my life
Q. i have been married for almost 30 years. my husband never, never , never initiate romance, sex or anything. he never makes me feel special. he never takes me away or really talks to me . mind you, we do go places and do things, but only if and IF, i ...
A. 24 December 2010: Your angry, upset and frustrated, all this is understandable. However, if you withhold sex, do not be surprised if your husband is unfaithful and has sex with someone else. Romance is like love, it's not something you can get by demanding it, or ... (read in full...)
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