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*I want to encourage strength and self esteem in all women.
*I am non-religious.
*I have been in a couple very bad relationships and so know a bit about them.
*I have a very loving boyfriend and could not wish for more.
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I'm worried about his weed habit
Q. I'm in a loving relationship with a wonderful man but he smokes weed and says he has urges to smoke often, how can I get over it and simply love him? I don't want to change him or control him but i have a bad history with weed and the men in my ...
A. 3 September 2010: First of all, there is nothing you can do about this situation unless HE truly wants to change it for himself.
He may not see anything wrong with it. He doesn't see any negative consequences coming to him, and so don't see that it is any harm.
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Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 3 September 2010: My main issue with porn(since I obviously have an issue)is not that fact that my boyfriend is looking at the other women. I know that sounds crazy, right? As Q said, porn DOES objectify women. Speaking of insecurities, I believe that the fact that ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 2 September 2010: Hey man, I've already appoligized. What I said wasn't fair and was more out of hurt and personal issues of my own. I know it's not cool. And I will gladly leave this board if that would make everyone feel more comfortable. ... (read in full...)
Why have I been like this?
Q. Hello! So! The Summer is ending. And A lot of stuff has happened. And I've been EXTREMELY moody. And on top of that, I haven't been taking my Depression pills for a LONG time. I stopped taking them in March. I don't think I need them. Right n...
A. 2 September 2010: I went through a time like this. I failed two of my college classes and lost my financial aid because I was too exausted and fed up with the world to get out of bed. It was major depression. Like Moo's Mum says, you NEED to take your meds. I know ... (read in full...)
Tell me something great about yourself, for my sake:)
Q. So, this isn't really a question. But I'll go for it anyway. As of late, I've been feeling pretty down about men. The reasons being I have somehow started to convince myself that all they want is sex and that they will lie and manipulate to ge...
A. 2 September 2010: These are really great stories:) They made me smile. Thank you guys for shraring! ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 1 September 2010: I guess you're right. There isn't anything I can do about it, so what's the point in being so caught up about it? I suppose I'll just have to learn to deal with it, as disturbing as it is. And I would rather not have to cut myself off from the human ... (read in full...)
Is he gay?
Q. So right now, my mind's been thinking about a situation that happened not too long ago. Well as it turns out I am gay, and very few people know about it. About a year ago, maybe a little more. I had a really big falling with a former friend, but ...
A. 1 September 2010: It's hard to say if he's gay or not. Given the information, it sort of sounds like relationship sort of stuff. But I don't know the kid so I have no idea.
I do think you should try to befriend him again, regardless of whether or not it leads to... (read in full...)
Dilemma...Do I tell her?
Q. Hi, I have a Dilemma. I had a wonderful/fantastic relationship with an ex (Sophie),we even talked about marriage. We were always 100% honest with each other.Anyway we split some time ago as I was working abroad and she couldnt handle a LDR. ...
A. 1 September 2010: Tell Her!!!!!:)... (read in full...)
Matching shirts? With hearts on them?! Is this abnormal?
Q. My girlfriend made matching shirts with another guy. They are extremely lame and have hearts on them..but she wears the shirt to school quite often. Is this abnormal or is it just me?...
A. 1 September 2010: Maybe they're just good friends.
I wouldn't worry about it too much unless they're starting to get flirty or are spending a lot of time together alone.
It is a little odd. Just keep an eye out. I'm sure everything is fine. ... (read in full...)
Trouble since I moved in with him. Can't bear to fight in front of our son!
Q. I'm 20 years old and I have been with my fiance for almost fours years now since i was seventeen. He is 29 this year. We have a beautyful son togather thats 18 months. Well ever since we moved in with eachother in 2008 we have been having alot of ...
A. 1 September 2010: I'm so sorry you're in this situation. And it makes it all the more difficult with a child involved. Don't let him tell you what to wear. Don't let him tell you that you don't have a real job. These are all, as you said, degrading things to say. ... (read in full...)
Dating--all the girls hate me!
Q. hey im having trouble i want a date but every hates me how do i get a least one (please aprove this)...
A. 1 September 2010: I highly doubt they hate you, unless you've done something to make them hate you(I doubt you have). Like Jmtmj said, tell us a bit about yourself so we can help you sort his one out:) ... (read in full...)
My best friend or her brother?
Q. My mom has recently found out who I like and he is my best friends brother. We argued over me staying the night at her house. I said nothing was gonna happen , but she thinks I'm gonna have sex or something like that. We argued for a really long ...
A. 1 September 2010: Well for one, i think your mom is being very unfair. And two, if you HAVE to make a choice, choose your best friend. At this young of an age, the chances that your relationship with this guy lasting over a few months is very slim. Plus a split ... (read in full...)
Should I be the sneaky boyfriend or trust her?
Q. I have a problem! Here is the story. I have known this girl for 6 months and became an official couple in early July and we're currently still together. When I met her she said she was seeing someone and was trying to get over this person, this ...
A. 30 August 2010: She sounds...Like she is a little unsure if she wants to be with you. You said you felt like you were second place? I'm sorry, but this might just be the case. She couldn't get the guy she wanted, she's probably a little insecure herself, and needed ... (read in full...)
Bf overreacting or is it ok?
Q. me and my bf are in a committed long distance relationship since one year and two months.. my bf lives in a house with two of his friends. 5months back my bf introduced me to one of his good friends who stayes with him in the house.lets say h...
A. 30 August 2010: I think your boyfriend has a very good reason to be angry. However, I don't think he should be trying to fight with "Rohan" or be breaking his property. If you can, try to talk your boyfriend out of acting violent towards "Rohan". This will only ... (read in full...)
We like each other in a non cousin way
Q. I am 31 years old and I have recently made contact and have been communicating with my male cousin on face book after not seeing him for 23 years. He is 34 now. As kids we were very close and shared a close bond. I have vaque memories of us kissing ...
A. 27 August 2010: Well, I won't judge you. Even though I kind of am. But I'll trying really hard not to. I'd say it could be the 23 years apart that makes you two see each other as "non-cousins". But then again, cousins have been known to date and get married before. ... (read in full...)
I feel horrible about my body!
Q. I'm 120 pounds and 5 4. I feel horrible about my body :( yes I talk to a counsler bit I'm too embarressed to talk about it. I hate talking to my boyfriend about it because he doesn't understand. I don't want comments saying thy I'm the right size ...
A. 27 August 2010: Well for starters, if you're fat, then I am too. I'm about that exact height and weight. And honestly, I'd say I'm pretty skinny. I know you didn't want to hear it, but you're not fat and you don't need some magical diet plan to fix you. Talk to ... (read in full...)
Want to become a new, improved version of myself
Q. I want to be the kind of girl that guys chase after but they cant have. Supposedly im pretty enough for it but when a cute guy likes me i chase them then they lose the attraction. How do/can i not do that? I also want my boobsand butt to be bigger. ...
A. 27 August 2010: Ok, first of all, why do you need all of these things so badly? You're 13. You've got a lot of time to grow into your body. You don't need to have guys chasing you around all the time. And why do you want to be the girl no body can have? I know ... (read in full...)
It hurts to feel I'm good enough for sex and nothing else
Q. I've been friends with a guy since school but we lost contact. We recently got back in contact over a year ago, decided to meet up and it was really nice. After that we started talking quite frequently, we met up again one evening for a drink and ...
A. 27 August 2010: If I were you, I would put this guy in the past forever. For all you know, he could have been seeing that girl during the time he was sleeping with you. And if he's sending you these dirty texts when you BOTH know he's got a girl friend, he's ... (read in full...)
How can I make up for cheating on my boyfriend?
Q. right i have a boyfriend who i have been with for over 10 months. i cheated on him just before christmas. he knows about this and i was completley honest but feel like i need to make it up to him, how do i do this?...
A. 25 March 2010: You can't. I'm sorry to say, you made a mistake that can't me made up for or taken back. He's always going to feel bad about it and he'll always think about it as long as you two are together. He did chose to take you back so the best you can do is ... (read in full...)
Her protective mother made up break up. Should I have gone along with this?
Q. I was in a long distance relationship with a girl I never physically met. We was going to meet but something always got in the way. Her mum is very protective of her because she got raped in the past and that's why we haven't met. Her mum says she ...
A. 25 March 2010: I believe you did the right thing. There was no way you were going to be able to see each other and it would have been wrong to go against what her mom said, especially with what her daughter had gone through. I can't say I blame her mom for not ... (read in full...)
Should I date him if where on seperate sides of the cool line?
Q. ok, i hang out with the jocks/preps but i am friends with everyone. i just reacently developed a crush on what you would call a slacker. but i don't see him like that really. hes so nice and a good guy really. but i know how it doesnot work out ...
A. 25 March 2010: Like who you like and don't worry about your friends. Go for it if your heart is telling you to do so. YOU know he's a good guy and that's all that matters.... (read in full...)
Why should I put up with my man looking at porn?
Q. Ok, why do I just "have to accept" porn in my life? My boyfriend jacks off to porn. Sure, our sex life is great, and believe me I don't mind quickies or gettigng him off without anything in return. But why does he have to look at other naked women? ...
A. 25 March 2010: "If you don't want your man to cheat on you, let him watch all the porn he wants, because it keeps him out of actual physical cheating..."
Ok. Didn't read that before. Pisses me off to no end. So, you're saying that if she doesn't let him watch po... (read in full...)
Why should I put up with my man looking at porn?
Q. Ok, why do I just "have to accept" porn in my life? My boyfriend jacks off to porn. Sure, our sex life is great, and believe me I don't mind quickies or gettigng him off without anything in return. But why does he have to look at other naked women? ...
A. 25 March 2010: Ok, I have no advice to give here. But I just have to say it's so refreshing knowing that someone has the same viewpoint on this as me. Why should we just have to "accept it"? I can bet that if my boyfriend found out i was watching porn (which i ... (read in full...)
I need help to get over this relationship
Q. Well,mi ex and I had been together for 2 years but still talked for 2 years after.He had a girlfriend but me being dumb and in love,didnt care.He was emotinally abusive towards me and i didnt realize until it was too late.I decided to cut him off ...
A. 25 March 2010: That sounds a lot like what I went through. Trust me, it gets better. In time, you'll lose that love you have for him and find someone who isn't insane. You'll get over it. Next year, or maybe even a few months from now, you're not even going to ... (read in full...)
Why do people think there can ever be a 'bright side' to a break up?
Q. Why do people always think "there's a silver lining in every ordeal we come across?" How do you apply this in break-ups? Why do people always say "Look at the bright side of the break-up"? What's the bright side of it?...
A. 25 March 2010: I dumped my idiot of an ex and found someone WAY better. He doesn't treat me like crap like my old boyfriend and I'm much happier now. Did I mention he's also on hardcore drugs and deals them as well? Breaking up with him was one of the best ... (read in full...)
The baby girl I had adopted is in my class!!! (I'm teaching her!)
Q. I'm an 8th grade teacher and when i was younger I had a baby girl and put her up for adoption because i was only 15 at the time i had her. Now I recently recieved an email from the parents of a child informing me that my daughter was in my class. ...
A. 25 March 2010: Seriously? How bored are you? If you're going to take the time to make up a story, at least make it a believable one. You really kept in contact with your "daughter's" parents for that many years? And you didn't even know what she looked like until ... (read in full...)
I don't want sex but I still pleasure him orally and he wants more help!!!
Q. I'm a 26 year old healthy woman who has absolutely no interest in sex or any type of physical intimacy. When I first met my bf, I would have sex with him to make him happy but it did nothing for me (we've been together for 9 months). Now I've tol...
A. 25 March 2010: I don't think that he is upset that you are "robbing him from pleasure". More likely, the lack of sex, cuddling kissing...is taking emotional closeness away from him. He's not just looking for pleasure. He probably feels unwanted and rejected and ... (read in full...)
A questions for all the guys out there: Girl A, Girl B, or Girl C?
Q. My question is not because I would ever change myself. I just want to hear what guys actually and truly think. I'm going to name three stereotypical girls. (Only sort of stereotypical, mainly just three different personalities). Tell me which you ...
A. 25 March 2010: You know, it's funny. Because even though I wouldn't date any of these girls (I'm straight) I just thought about would I'd like best as a person. And I don't know, maybe just because I'm a girl, I disliked the two girls who "knew their places ina ... (read in full...)
Would you consider me a slut/slag/hoe???
Q. hi, well im a 16 year old girl and i have 3 boys im messing with, i haven't had sex with none of them but other stuff... they dont want a relationship with me and neither do i with them. do you think im a slut? Be honest! i just want to know if ...
A. 25 March 2010: If you're even questioning yourself, stop doing what you're doing. It's not other people's opinions that are going to matter in the end on this one. It's going to be how you feel about yourself. So, if you think you could be any of these things, ... (read in full...)
Threesome with husband & best friend gone wrong... I think??
Q. Hello, My husband and I had a threesome with my best friend the other evening. I wasn't exactly into it and I told him but he kept insisting and finally when we were all watching tv he made the move. I wasn't exactly expecting him too but I thought ...
A. 24 March 2010: I feel so sorry for you. I don't care what other people say about this being your fault and what not. It isn't. He started it. And I'm sure you would have rather paricipated than to have watched them just go at it like you weren't in the room. I ... (read in full...)
How short is too short to date?
Q. hi is it true that girls wont even notice a guy shorter than 6" ? i heard that they always say "at least taller than me" but they are actually looking for tall ones right? can girls tell how short is too short to notice? and how short is too ...
A. 24 March 2010: My boyfriend is about 5'5" or 5'6". Anyway, we're almost idendical in height. It doesn't bother me at all, obviously. In fact, I almost prefer it that way. We're on the same level and I don't have to crane my neck to talk to him:) Plus, super tall ... (read in full...)
Is the saying true... once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater?
Q. I would like to ask the best way to handle my current situation. I just found out that my girlfriend had about 10 or more secret relationships before and while we were together (3 years). Whenever I asked her she said No or she said that guy is...
A. 19 March 2010: "I think I could conclude that she just likes to flirt around and does not intend to cheat me or anyone purposely. I think she just used quick lies and many precautions to hide all those."
I used to make excuses up for my ex too. Because I loved ... (read in full...)
Lost a bet, have to ask him out
Q. heyy everyone so heres what happening. okay so me and my friend had a bet that if she made the volleyball team then she had to ask out the guys she likes. and if she didnt make the team i had to tell the guy i liked that i liked him. well sad news ...
A. 12 March 2010: Talk to him in person. You shouldn't have texted him, even though it felt like the easy way to go about things. You need to catch him after school or at lunch to talk things over with him. You'll never know how he feels about things if you don't ... (read in full...)
I love him, and his brother loves me too
Q. So I'm going to be fifteen this may and the guy that I'm in love with(18 years old) says he loves me too. I've loved him for two years now and never even thought he'd love me back. Well his brother loves me too. He says he's had feelings for me ...
A. 10 March 2010: I know you're not going to want to hear this, but don't get involved with an 18 year old. You're only 14. He might seem like a smart older guy who's mature and has it all figured out...But take it from me. I go to school with guys that age. Most of ... (read in full...)
Lost a bet, have to ask him out
Q. heyy everyone so heres what happening. okay so me and my friend had a bet that if she made the volleyball team then she had to ask out the guys she likes. and if she didnt make the team i had to tell the guy i liked that i liked him. well sad news ...
A. 10 March 2010: Do you really want to risk a friendship over a silly bet? Don't tell him because you "have" to. Only if YOU really want to. Do you like him enough to risk this friendship you have with him? If you do decide you want to tell him, tell him in pers... (read in full...)
She said she doesn't feel anything when she's with a man but insists she's NOT lesbian!
Q. ok here's the deal, I'm 44 years old divorced with kids. I have a friend, she's 36 and she's still a virgin and she doesn't have a boyfriend and hasn't for a few years, I think ever since she was about 26. This is one of my best friends. A lot of ...
A. 10 March 2010: Ok, this may or may not be what's going on here. -She is a lesbian and has feelings for you. -She is getting these other guys out of the way so that they can't date you. This would make her jealous. -She doesn't want to tell you she's a lesbian... (read in full...)
What are some precautions I should take when starting a friendship with an older man?
Q. OK,So I was on the bus and I heard two guys speak about America,one was like 30ish and the other was an old man,around 70.They didn't know each other,they were just conversating.Since I have a passion for America,I kindly interrupted them and asked ...
A. 10 March 2010: Avoid him. Bad things happen to young girls who are too afraid to be rude to a stranger when they are making them uncomfortable. He isn't your best friend. He isn't even a friend yet. He is an old man you met on the bus. And in my opinion, he was a ... (read in full...)
We met while clubbing, but he won't let me club anymore!
Q. My boyfriend has told me that he doesn't want a girlfriend who wants to go clubbing and drink. We have been together for 2 years, we met at a club and for the first 6 months always went clubbing together and we went to every music festival ...
A. 10 March 2010: He's a jerk. Find someone who won't try to control your life. ... (read in full...)
I've realised I'm being played but I don't want him out of my life completely, how do I go about this situation?
Q. hello guys, im back again for more advice.im the girl with the 35 year old that seems as if he has a curfew, but anyway i would like to know since i realized im being played and used how do i go about the situation? i know the smart thing to do is ...
A. 2 March 2010: Maybe you shouldn't explain to him anything. I know it's going to be difficult, but you really should leave this guy behind and cut off contact with him. He obviously isn't a good guy if he's playing you and taking advantage of you. Hope that helps. ... (read in full...)
Same day my boyfriend broke up with me another sent me a lovely gift
Q. right my boyfriend fraser broke up with me today and i`m really upset but i still have feelings for him but 10 mins after he broke up with me a parcel came through the door from a boy called Sean who still loves me and it was a sphere of life which ...
A. 2 March 2010: Don't decide on something like this because of a gift that made your day. Maybe...Don't go with either? It's not a good idea to have a boyfriend because you can...Wait for someone you actually can decide on and know you like. It's silly to have to ... (read in full...)
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