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I am 20 years old.
I have a daughter who means everything to me.
I am also engaged to a wonderful man who completes me 100%
I love my life, Everything in it as well.
Good and the bad. I believe without the bad, How will we love the good?
(Even tho I would like to avoid the bad :P)
I try very hard to forgive those who judge me.
I don't like to be judge, So why judge others?
I believe in God. I know he is there somewhere looking down at us laughing.
I'm a HUGE fan of Charlaine Harris-Sookie Stachouse and of course True Blood. Yet who isn't? It's amazing! So much better than Twilight. No more glitter on the vampires. |
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I need my girlfriend to grow up!
Q. I'm with this girl, and I don't say girl because she's a child, but because she's immature. We have a child together. Even before the child she was immature. We also JUST moved into an apartment together. We've been together for about 2 years as ...
A. 22 September 2010: Forgive me if I seem rude, I will just be as honest as I can.
She does need to grow up, But there is no way you can make her or tell her otherwise. You said you try talking to her but it could led to worse if she takes it the wrong way. (That's... (read in full...)
Husband went to strip club 3X, hid it from me and I can't forgive him!
Q. I found out that my husband was drunk and went to strip clubs about 3 times. He did this behind my back. When i found out i was devastated. I feel such hurt, betrayal, anger. I can't get the images out of my mind. I am nervous and anxious all the ...
A. 31 August 2010: You know I hate the stripper scene. Problems normally come from this. They say it's not cheating cause there is no "physical contact" with the other person. Just women and men see things differently. With guys it's a physical thing.(sex). With ... (read in full...)
I want to know more about my boyfriend's past hook ups!
Q. Hi I have been dating my current bf for a year and 8 months.. He's had more of a past with girls than I have (I was a virgin), he's done it with 6 girls. I ask him questions about his past experiences but he doesn't like to answer them and gets ...
A. 28 August 2010: I still have that problem with my partner.
I have been trying that "The past is the past, Nothing with the future deal" It hurts but I understand why.
I use to say I would not get angry no matter what answers. To be honest, I would. I really ... (read in full...)
I wonder if my disability is stopping girls from approaching me?
Q. I feel like I have a great life, but there's something that is missing min my l I have been struggling to find a girlfriend for the past 4 years and it feels like I'm being hunted down. I know for a fact that I am not such an unattractive guy or ...
A. 27 August 2010: I have to a agree with the other posters. Everyone made valid points. From what you have said, these girls who didn't give you the time to really get to know you. From what I have read I can tell you are a great guy. You just got to remember... (read in full...)
Want to become a new, improved version of myself
Q. I want to be the kind of girl that guys chase after but they cant have. Supposedly im pretty enough for it but when a cute guy likes me i chase them then they lose the attraction. How do/can i not do that? I also want my boobsand butt to be bigger. ...
A. 27 August 2010: You really want to have guys come after you. Just flirt, Do NOT chase. Play the game of "Hard to get" But be careful cause sometimes they really do think you are to hard to get. Show a lot of confidence in front of everyone and yourself. I'm not ... (read in full...)
Have a big penis and don't know where to put it.
Q. Im a 20 year old guy who has kind of a wierd problem or dilema. The problem is that I have an above average size penis(8 inches long and almost 6 inches around(its true, Im not kidding)) and I just have no place to put it in my pants. Sometimes ...
A. 26 August 2010: Well uhmm.
The title deff put a smile on my face.
You should wear a bit bigger jeans. Like one size over what you do. It should help.Now the women that I can think of who see your size and go after you are not women, but sluts.
It's a good... (read in full...)
I'm 16 and want a baby
Q. I can't wait to have a baby that I think sometimes I should just stop taking my birth control pills and not tell my boyfriend. I know it's horrible and I won't but I just want a baby so bad it makes me cry. Please give me NICE advice. I know I can't ...
A. 26 August 2010: I was 17 when I had a baby.
There is not one day that I wished I waited to provide a better life for my daughter.
I work 3 jobs dropped out of High School cause I have no support from my family.
At first you might get it. But I promise you ... (read in full...)
I'm becoming desperate for sex!
Q. i think im starting to become desperate for sex....is that possible after having sex alot with your ex...after not having sex can you begin to need to have sex.....i haven't had sex for only 3 months nearly and basically everything i read about a ...
A. 26 August 2010: You could always go to a sex shop.
Ask for a water proof vibrator(Which I fancy more)
They are normally take two double a batteries.
Really there are SOOOOO Many options out there that I can not explain. Just go to one.
You could even go to... (read in full...)
I'm becoming desperate for sex!
Q. i think im starting to become desperate for sex....is that possible after having sex alot with your ex...after not having sex can you begin to need to have sex.....i haven't had sex for only 3 months nearly and basically everything i read about a ...
A. 25 August 2010: Have you tried FWB?
i mean if you are really desperate to have sex I think that's as far away as being a slut.
I really don't know. When I am horny and need a release I just turn to masturbation. ... (read in full...)
I trusted him and he cheated on me
Q. well my boyfriend and i have now been going out for two months and the other night i trusted him to go to a party while i was at a dance class, he tells me two days later that he cheated on me and now i don't know what to do, so i guess my question ...
A. 25 August 2010: 2 months and he cheated.
As much as it might hurt you I say break up with him.
You need someone you can 100% trust. If he does this at the beginning of your relationship how can you trust him later on in it.... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to older men
Q. I could really use some advice and guidance. I don't know what is wrong with me. It seems since I've been about fourteen or so, I have been attracted to older men. This attraction for older men keeps intensifying as I get older. My friends have ...
A. 24 August 2010: You know you might be right about the strong male factor.
Have you ever thought that maybe you go for older men cause of their maturity? Compared to the ones your age.
They have grown up a bit more than the ones around your age. Which is rea... (read in full...)
My weird fantasy...
Q. I have got this fantasy that I want to kiss a girl (I'm a girl too). I'm not a lesbian and I'm not bi. I'm rather curious. I mentioned this to my bf a couple of times and I made it seem as a joke, he told me that this would be cheating and that he ...
A. 24 August 2010: Hmm, It's odd to see a guy say this is cheating. Considering how a majority of guys enjoy that.
If you honestly feel that this is going to eat at you, Then tell your boyfriend. Let him know this is bothering you that you just have to find out... (read in full...)
I felt something was wrong so I looked at his phone, he does not know this, what do I do?
Q. recently my husband went on a trip with the boys. which he often does. I have always had great trust in our relationship. He called and texted everyday to check in. Upon returned, he asked if the washing machine was empty while he was still in ...
A. 24 August 2010: First. Altho what you did is bad. You should also know because you are in fear your mind will jump to things that might not be real. Second. You need to talk to him. Be honest. Tell him," I felt something was wrong so I looked threw your pho... (read in full...)
By your standards, how many sexual partners is too many by age 19?
Q. When I was younger, I could not get laid--could not even get a date--to save my life. I never went to any dances, never went to proms, nothing. This year, however, I lived in Africa for 3 months and when I came back to college, somehow, things ...
A. 24 August 2010: Awh, You don't. :)
Different people with different morels :)... (read in full...)
By your standards, how many sexual partners is too many by age 19?
Q. When I was younger, I could not get laid--could not even get a date--to save my life. I never went to any dances, never went to proms, nothing. This year, however, I lived in Africa for 3 months and when I came back to college, somehow, things ...
A. 22 August 2010: Honestly. It should not matter what we think.
You said it yourself. "What ever makes me happy." I'm glad you care about safety.
To answer your question is hard. It's different for every one. On my behalf I think it's enough to last you for a wh... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants us to have sex in front of other people...
Q. We've dated almost a year and a half now and lived together most of that time. A couple months ago we had a long discussion regarding his fantasies. To be exact, the moment arrised as I lay in full glory after having had 30 consecutive gushing ...
A. 21 August 2010: My partner wants to do the same.
I'm not for it or against it. I just want time to think about it. I'm not sure exactly where I stand in this vote. But I am glad that you stay firm with your choice. Maybe I myself am to decisive to even give an answ... (read in full...)
I simply cannot come to terms with my man watching porn
Q. I am one of those dreaded women that simply cannot come to terms with my man watching pron. I have struggled with this since the day I started dating guys. I have literally done everything I can think and everything people have suggested to make ...
A. 21 August 2010: I have just as much issue with my partner on porn as you do.
You know as much as I hate to admit it Older Sister is right on some cases. I agree with her tho, You are just as bad staying with him. My partner and I had a longggggg talk. Boy do... (read in full...)
Boyfriend admits to crush on his best friend
Q. my boyfriend admitted to me he likes his best friend.... he admits to me he always has.. they hang out all the time, and he promises he won't do anything with her... and that he LOVES me and only likes her... i've had alot of relationships where ...
A. 20 August 2010: Hey Older Sister hit it on the dot!
Personally I am a pretty rude person in my past with boyfriends who did that, Cause it never ended well when I held on.
I would just break up with him (Even if you have strong emotions) Older Sister is ri... (read in full...)
I'm desperate and want to run away from my husband, please advise!
Q. I'm an indian.I got married in 2007(traditionally arranged marriage).my hubby and me never got along well rite from the beginning.I grew up as an independent girl, did all my work myself since 12 old(I've no mother, my dad's got a family of his ...
A. 20 August 2010: I'm glad you are safe.
Please stay that way.
Good luck with your job :)... (read in full...)
Why do single mums seek boyfriends or husbands?
Q. Why do single mums/moms seek boyfriends/husbands when they know they can't ever devote enough attention to them? 95% of the people here that response to questions re:step kids say that the children always come first, then why do they even try to...
A. 20 August 2010: I need to apologize for my answer earlier I suppose I took it to much to heart.
Like AuntyEm&Cerberus have stated. Your focusing on the wrong part. Cerberus is right, not all single mom's want fathers for their kids. When I became a single m... (read in full...)
I'm not her verbal punching bag so should I confront her?
Q. Whenever I talk to my friend, she always has to make comments that belittle me or put me down a notch. Tonight we were talking on the phone and she was talking about a guy she met. She then said, "He was cute, but he was more around YOUR age." Now, ...
A. 19 August 2010: According to what you have stated. She has down this before.
I personally think you confront her. Just do the approach sweetly. If you value what you guys have as a friendship then she needs to know. An honest relationship is better than a dish... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 19 August 2010: Honestly. A lot of people do not see a middle ground. It's black and white for them. But I see where you are coming from. I think that as long as society gives itself off as it does with women looking the way they do it will always be black and... (read in full...)
How do I make my body smaller and my boobs bigger?
Q. i am 14 and i have small boobs (38A). i am about 5'6'' and i weigh almost 200 lbs. people always make fun of my weight. and my friends talk about how my boobs are smaller than theirs. most of my friends are C's and DD's. i was wondering how i can ...
A. 19 August 2010: A good diet, health food, regular excersise, good sleeping gambits, and a healthy emotional attitude. No brown pop! Like all the others have said. I agree with that. You are really lucky tho that you are young. Wish I knew half the things about my ... (read in full...)
Help! I can't physically have sex!
Q. I really need some help/tips with this recent problem that I just discovered. Me and my boyfriend are both virgins and ready to have sex and we tried a couple of times already but he just can't enter me. It has nothing to do with me not being wet ...
A. 19 August 2010: Did he do the steps?
1 finger
2 finger
3 finger more
Then just try the tip of his penis.
Make sure it is just the tip.
Seriously relax and do not force it to hurry.
Take your time.
I'm not going to say this will work 100%
As sick as it s... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to have sex with other women!!!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and started living together a month after we met. We are very much in love, have great sex and plan to move to Sydney next year and have kids when I'm a little older. I'm 21 and he's 33. We are both...
A. 19 August 2010: Janniepeg, Altho I do agree with you 90%
That 10% is just in my mind the way people live is how they choose it to be. Altho I myself am with you Janniepeg. I love my relationship just the way it is. Others are not like that.
I think from what ... (read in full...)
I'm concerned about my weight what can I do!?
Q. hey, im using my friends account but i dont know if there's any difference. I'm very concerned about how I look! I'm going to be 15 in december, and i weigh a direct 160 pounds. i'm 5 foot 7 just about but i dont look like i weigh 160. my doctor ...
A. 18 August 2010: When I was 13 I was 5'9 It really sucked too.
I totally look like I belong to be 20
I had curves that were way to adult.
Which meant I weighed a lot more than I thought was right.
I was about 169 maybe 170lbs.
Firstly, Have you tried a... (read in full...)
My drunken slutty sister is out of control
Q. My older sister and I are at our wits end with our younger sister. She is married with 2 kids that are 10 years apart in age (18 and 8). She treats the youngest, a sweet little girl, like crap and seems to resent her for ever being born. The ...
A. 18 August 2010: You have a point,
Just seemed more along the lines that she was more in the right, than wrong according to you first comment.
Well, Maybe the older sister brought her to something that ment a lot for her? Like a promotion? Kinda deal. I woul... (read in full...)
My drunken slutty sister is out of control
Q. My older sister and I are at our wits end with our younger sister. She is married with 2 kids that are 10 years apart in age (18 and 8). She treats the youngest, a sweet little girl, like crap and seems to resent her for ever being born. The ...
A. 18 August 2010: Hmm, touchy subject.
spunky monkey- There is no excuse for making mistakes in life other than I did it. I should take blame. I would hate the idea of one day I turn to the drink and blame that for treating my family like crap. Obviously somethin... (read in full...)
I want her to love me... not say that I'm boring!!!
Q. Hi guys, right to cut a long story short, I was needy / clingy, she got mad, we nearly split, we sorted it out and now have sorted some "ground rules" no texting 100 times a day, no constantly telling her I love her, couple of days ago she says that ...
A. 16 August 2010: Oh my....
I am very sorry huni.
I wish there was more I could say to make you feel better... But there really is nothing.
Gosh... I am very sorry tho.
... (read in full...)
Worried about my first threesome this weekend!
Q. Help! I am having my first threesome this weekend. It involves my fiance and another man who is a complete stranger. What should I do? What should I expect. Any ideas will be appreciated....
A. 16 August 2010: Hey it is a lifestyle that only some people can have.
It's wrong for us to judge on the matter. How everyone looks at love is very different. Each one of us accepts or is happy with one outcome or another.
If this is something they enjoy then I... (read in full...)
Really like this girl but she says the long distance is too much against us. What can I do?
Q. I know this is very long but I'd REALLY appreciate it if you helped me out. Thanks! (we're both 16 years old, both play trumpet, go to diff schools, parents know each other, live 25 mins away) So me and this girl met at a Lions Band tryout last N...
A. 16 August 2010: You know you have come a long way in this.
I'm glad to see that you don't want this just to end. It's very sweet.
The problem is distance is an issue you both are involved with school,activities,etc. It's wonderful yet sad on both of you. If what... (read in full...)
I'm desperate and want to run away from my husband, please advise!
Q. I'm an indian.I got married in 2007(traditionally arranged marriage).my hubby and me never got along well rite from the beginning.I grew up as an independent girl, did all my work myself since 12 old(I've no mother, my dad's got a family of his ...
A. 14 August 2010: Maybe I am just angry from reading this so please forgive me.
I think you should go to the law for help. I mean seriously there has to be something they can do to help you. Witness Protection? Something... I really don't know much on the subj... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's best friend is in love with him
Q. My boyfriend recently told me that his best friend (not him lol) is gay. The way his friend told him that was pretty much by telling my boyfriend that hes been in love with him for a long time. I have nothing against gay people. a few of my friend...
A. 14 August 2010: You should not look to big in this. Normally when people come out it is to the one's they feel trusted to or in fact love as you have said. But your boyfriend will tell his best friend I am with a girlfriend I care for very much. It'll be okay. ... (read in full...)
Worried about my first threesome this weekend!
Q. Help! I am having my first threesome this weekend. It involves my fiance and another man who is a complete stranger. What should I do? What should I expect. Any ideas will be appreciated....
A. 14 August 2010: Well from what I hear it's best with another guy.
Just depending on how far you all go. If its intercourse with both. You should just relax yourself. At first it will be kinda weird but after a little bit of getting the "beat" It will feel amaz... (read in full...)
Live in partner has been looking at porn!
Q. The other day I was going into my history because I was searching for a holiday and forgot the website I found one on. My partner and I share the laptop and while I was in the history I was shocked and disgusted to see a free pornographic website ...
A. 12 August 2010: Honestly I have the same problem with my partner.
From coming here and asking the same question I got a lot of different answers and out looks.
First you should talk to him, Ask him what is going on.
Sometimes guys look at it to help with str... (read in full...)
I think she gave me herpes, but she's mad at ME! Am I in the wrong?
Q. I met a girl a couple of months ago who was emigrating half the way round the world shortly after. We became intimate and although she always stopped short of having full sex there was penetration digitally and some genital contact. She then ...
A. 11 August 2010: From everything you have said, I think you did an amazing job on telling her.
Like you said "I didn't accuse her of anything, I just presented her with the facts" Personally I think you did everything right.
You did not do anything wrong, Y... (read in full...)
What steps should I take to find out if my boyfriend had sex with his ex?
Q. how can i find out if my boyfriend had sex with his ex? One saturday me and him argued about some girls on his friends list online, he got mad and decided to ignore me all night. Three days later his ex arrives just to tell me that she spend the ...
A. 11 August 2010: Please for give me if I seem rude. I'm really not trying too.
So it's his ex clamming that they had intercourse. You asked him he denied. The question is do you Trust him. I mean REALLY TRUST him. He could have had sex with this women, If he did ... (read in full...)
I think my relationship to my boyfriends mother is ruined?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for a few months. His mother is really strict (she's indian...I'm white..soo..) but she finally accepted that we were together. She actually would talk to me and liked me. Then today, we were in the guest room ...
A. 8 August 2010: Well as you said she is Indian. Different people raise their kids differently. That's just how it is. All you can really do is show her as much respect as you can every time you see her. Even if she gives you the stink eye.
You could also tal... (read in full...)
Why do single mums seek boyfriends or husbands?
Q. Why do single mums/moms seek boyfriends/husbands when they know they can't ever devote enough attention to them? 95% of the people here that response to questions re:step kids say that the children always come first, then why do they even try to...
A. 8 August 2010: I would have to agree with Cerberus completely. I am so very shocked you would ask a question like that. Very. I really hope for the best for you and your maturity level to rise up some more. Good luck ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend still friends with Ex boyfriend
Q. So basically here is this weird situation. I have been together with this girl for 4 months. 6 months ago she broke up with her boyfriend because of his cheating and says that she has no feelings for him, would never sleep with him etc. Yet i notice ...
A. 4 August 2010: WOW. That sounds very nice for someone who cheated on her and they never want to deal with her again...
I think it is very wrong. He is crossing bound ires that should not be crossed. I'm sure you have tried to talk to her. Yet try to let her know... (read in full...)
I want her to love me... not say that I'm boring!!!
Q. Hi guys, right to cut a long story short, I was needy / clingy, she got mad, we nearly split, we sorted it out and now have sorted some "ground rules" no texting 100 times a day, no constantly telling her I love her, couple of days ago she says that ...
A. 4 August 2010: I agree with "Gettinginyourbizness"
What you said is very sweet. Just let her know that. :)... (read in full...)
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