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Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 15 August 2011: Here's my problem..... porn and prostitution are legal in many countries.... people who buy porn are not criminals, people who act in porn are not sent to jail. War, rape, murder, torture, abuse, slavery, cancer, pain and suffering.... so... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 1 August 2011: "They are right, people shouldn't have to sell themselves in this day and age!"
Tell that to the many pornstars who are not stupid and not victims but refuse to work long hours for minimum wage. Most people don't do porn because they like it ... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 13 May 2011: Wow.. we've gone from "is pornography cheating" to "pornography will cause you to cheat".... all this scientific evidence, yet pornography addiction is still not in the diagnosis manual for psychiatrist and is still not illegal in many parts of the ... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 13 May 2011: One last thing.. pornography and anal sex.. I'm disturbed about the fashion for anal sex in pornography, however it is nothing new. Anal sex is very common in religious societies as it preserve vaginal. Research based on the abstinence programme ... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 13 May 2011: You must also avoid TV and Movies because many actors and actresses are addicted to illegal drugs. Same goes for the music business. Why is it only drug use in pornography that worries you when people in all types of industries take drugs?
About... (read in full...)
I just hate him, but I love him. His behavior is driving me away. What should I do?
Q. So... I've been with my boyfriend for about two years. We have a lot of unresolved issues but we really do love each other at the core of our relationship. ANYWHO! My dilemma is this. He aggravates me like no other! He is like my annoying so...
A. 12 May 2011: You've tried to get out already, as Chigirl says, tell him love isn't enough and the relationship can never work out.
Maybe have a break first for a couple of months and walk away that way.... (read in full...)
I just hate him, but I love him. His behavior is driving me away. What should I do?
Q. So... I've been with my boyfriend for about two years. We have a lot of unresolved issues but we really do love each other at the core of our relationship. ANYWHO! My dilemma is this. He aggravates me like no other! He is like my annoying so...
A. 11 May 2011: "I Just Hate Him".... Girl, it's staring you right in the face but you just can't see it. You don't love this guy at all. "He is like my annoying son who won't leave me alone"... You feel for him like you feel for an irritating family me... (read in full...)
I've given him 30 days to decide if it's her or me. Am I being fair?
Q. I started seeing a new guy about 4 months ago. In the beginning he made it clear to me that he wanted to take it slow and not rush into anything. So of course we were both still seeing other people, and I appreciated the time. As things have pro...
A. 11 May 2011: You both made the mistake of dating each other and also dating other people. Because no commitments were made it allowed him the right to sleep with anyone he wanted to. This makes little sense to me. Anyway, he now has a child to look after. ... (read in full...)
How do I help my wife get over some bodily fluid aversions?
Q. I know this is a common problem for men and a lot of the advice / replies posted to this are, well, less than helpful - so let me start by saying something REALLY important: I love my wife. We’ve been together for over 12 years, have a fantastic ...
A. 8 May 2011: Brilliant post.. thank you first for looking an the site for other advice given on this issue. You and your wife have worked very well together, compromising where you can, challenging your boundaries and being understanding where necessary. It ... (read in full...)
Is it ok if I change my mind about having a threeway?
Q. OK so early i agreed to do a three way with my bf cuz he wants to but we havent yet but they cant touch each other at all. Than my bf says thats not fair if you do stuff with her if i cant but then i said i cant fall inlove with girls and stuff and ...
A. 8 May 2011: Sorry, but this sounds very silly. You are going to take off your clothes and get naked with some girl because your boyfriend wants too. Your arranging to do a threesome with a girl but your not bisexual and are not attracted to women. Isn't ... (read in full...)
Why am I so upset by this guy?
Q. A guy I used to be sort of "friends with benefits" with, and who I still like a lot, wants to sleep with me even though he now has a girlfriend. He's been with her for nearly 2 years but he's been coming on to me for about a year and a half. We he ...
A. 8 May 2011: Why is he even with his girlfriend if he wants other women? Because he can... If women are willing to have sex with him, he won't say no nor turn them down. Stop looking for excuses or wondering about him. Spit in his eye, change your phone nu... (read in full...)
BF's father won't let me stay over in my boyfriend's room. I think it is unfair.
Q. I need a little advice. You see my boyfriends parents have confused me a little. I'm 19 and my boyfriend is going to be 20 at the end of the year, were moving out soon. We have been going out for almost 2 years and in all of that time i have nev...
A. 7 May 2011: At 13 they assume there will be no sex with the sister and her friend. They cannot assume the same for you as you are both older and know more about sex. Her 9 year old sister in the same room will act as a chaperon, you and your boyfriend would ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my teacher the truth or continue a painful lie?
Q. for the past year i have had really strong feelings for my old teacher it started off as a stupid crush but its grown and it feels like love, i have told him my life stories like my personal family life and he knows i am in love and he has been very ...
A. 7 May 2011: lol...yes, it is your choice to tell or not. Most teachers are trained to be very understanding about this type of thing.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says I bring on his anxiety attacks and he needs space. I'm scared of losing him!
Q. So lately my boyfriend of three years became really depressed due to custodial problems with his ex wife and hes had family problems also. I hadn't been helping because I accused him of flirting with another girl that we work with. My jealousy grew ...
A. 7 May 2011: Just wanting him back isn't enough. He is under a lot of stress, and you just bring him more problems. It is bad enough for him to have to go straight to his doctors. You can't be with him if your behavior makes him sick. Love is not enough at t... (read in full...)
My boyfriend seems to be a creep -- is this all there is?
Q. My bf of 2 years seems to be a creep. I was looking for a movie to watch on my laptop and stumbled into Google documents for the first time ever. I saw everything that my bf looked up on the laptop for the last 5 years +. I saw all kinds of ...
A. 7 May 2011: People will have missed your follow up, which is regrettable, because what you say is still alarming. Petting a cat outside the bathroom door? Some invisible person going through your daughters laundry? To me these are just excuses and classic ... (read in full...)
Have you ever been in a secret relationship?
Q. had been in a secret relationship with my current boyfriend for a year now we announced our relationship in september 2010 so people think we are approachign 6 months together when it is just over a year. we are expecting our first child together ...
A. 6 May 2011: Yes that's a problem.... The law on Sexual Offenses has changed, this means that if your a teacher you shouldn't date your student until they are 18. It's to protect children against adults in authority who may groom them for sex. Your boyfriend ... (read in full...)
Bf and I haven't had sex in 7 months. Should I be concerned that the spark is fading?
Q. My fiance and I have been together for three years and we haven't had sex in seven months. I realize that most people would leave in that situation or at least try to to do something about it but oddly enough, we're both perfectly content. We do get ...
A. 6 May 2011: Your young, so it's a bit of a worry, if your partner is your age his sex drive is at it's highest, it will only go lower over time and sex will become more infrequent. If your both content, there is no problem, but something tells me eventually ... (read in full...)
Will the pain stop if we keep trying to have sex?
Q. I don't know what to do ... Me and my neighbour shane both really like each other. When he first came round mine a few days ago we snogged and ended up naked in bed together but we didn't have sex . He came round last night again and more stuff ...
A. 6 May 2011: It worries me a bit that you are having sex but don't know anything about it. That's dangerous. I hope he was wearing a condom to protect you from pregnancy and sexual disease. You two aren't even a couple, so I don't think a baby would be ... (read in full...)
Does grammar matter when people communicate today? Or is it a lost cause? What's your pet grammar issue?
Q. First off I will admit it: sometimes I mis-spell words. And another thing, sometimes when I'm in a hurry I abbreviate some words. And when I was at University I used to have the best set of abbreviations in Contract Law. If I needed to refer to ...
A. 6 May 2011: What's grammar?
Why can't you feel yourself personally.... isn't that all part of the fun?... (read in full...)
I have this distorted image of the world and need advice on how to fix it!
Q. I have low self esteem and have battled with depression for years. I have a really bad body image and hate the world right now because of how it has become about hot bodies, sex, one night stands, etc. i feel like women have become more obse...
A. 6 May 2011: http://www.drjoecarver.com/clients/49355/File/DEPRESSION%20-%20Causes,%20Symptoms,%20and%20Treatment.html
Sorry I can't properly hyperlink this site, but it's the best explanation I've ever seen for what happens with depression. It will explain ... (read in full...)
I don't get treated to anything at all!
Q. My man doesn't take me out! We've been together a good five months, and he's never taken me for a meal, or anything of the sort. We've been for a few picnics and days out, but usually accompanied my his friends! I feel like I can't ask him to...
A. 6 May 2011: "Dear boyfriend, I'm bored being stuck in the house, I want to go out next Friday to a concert or something"
Find suitable entertainment you both can afford.
With some men it's just better to tell them what you want, they don't really understan... (read in full...)
I have this distorted image of the world and need advice on how to fix it!
Q. I have low self esteem and have battled with depression for years. I have a really bad body image and hate the world right now because of how it has become about hot bodies, sex, one night stands, etc. i feel like women have become more obse...
A. 6 May 2011: To the original poster and the anonymous lady below... you have depression and you need to concentrate on battling your negative feeling not the hating the world for the way it is. It's not the world that is wrong, it's your thinking. Tisha has ... (read in full...)
Why am I so upset by this guy?
Q. A guy I used to be sort of "friends with benefits" with, and who I still like a lot, wants to sleep with me even though he now has a girlfriend. He's been with her for nearly 2 years but he's been coming on to me for about a year and a half. We he ...
A. 6 May 2011: The guy is bored with his new girlfriend, and your around and he thinks he can convince you to have sex. He lives with other males, and they won't tell his girlfriend, he is their friend and they are probably doing the same thing. He doesn't care ... (read in full...)
What if one day we have absolutely nothing in common?
Q. OK, so after near 7 months, he said, "I love you." I know just how serious this was for him, given his past and the need to be sure he was ready and meant it. He even recently said I should start leaving clothes at his place so that I can stay ...
A. 6 May 2011: Silence is good sometimes, relax and enjoy it.
If you want to make sure you always got things to talk about, then make sure you do things together, nice things, that will create good memories. Also make sure you have some hobbies and interest... (read in full...)
Why is my nipple itchy?
Q. Hai reader/s. Ive got a problem here. Since the beggining of this month, my nipple has been itchy. I would hide myself where nobody can catch me, and squeeze my nipple--hoping it will be much beter but the itchiness doesnt stop. My question:WHAT ...
A. 6 May 2011: Stuff.. hope someone answers cause that happens to me too and I'm old and grey.
Great question... I just think we are built that way.... (read in full...)
Is it normal for someone to be feeling sexual urge all the time?
Q. Hi evry one, pls is it normal for someone to be feeling sexual urge all the time? I always feel like having sex, is it normal? ...
A. 6 May 2011: A lot can depend on your situation. Do you have a boyfriend, do you work, are you bored, is your sex life good, do you feel loved, do you look at pornography or erotica.... really depends on your circumstances.... But many women do have a high sex ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be interested in my professor.... but I am! Help!
Q. I recently have been working very closely with a professor at my University. During our long research periods, we have become very close and flirt like crazy. There are two problems here: 1) The obvious teacher/student thing could get him in troub...
A. 6 May 2011: You can be as interested as you like, but stop the flirting. This is all going to end so badly. It's rare for a professor to leave his wife for a student, so it's going to be sex somewhere sordid, a lot of noise if people find out, your reputation ... (read in full...)
I'm rare, but does that make me wrong?
Q. I seem to have the perfect life in which I am fully satisfied with but yet everyone seems to think that there is something wrong with me. I am 23 years old,I have had years of community service, a Black Belt in two martial arts, a loving girlfriend ...
A. 6 May 2011: Your just fine... However some people who have rejected "wild experiences" in their youth, feel they want to try them out later in life. For example, men and their mid life crises. Some people feel like this, others don't. Don't let people run ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my teacher the truth or continue a painful lie?
Q. for the past year i have had really strong feelings for my old teacher it started off as a stupid crush but its grown and it feels like love, i have told him my life stories like my personal family life and he knows i am in love and he has been very ...
A. 6 May 2011: I was going to correct CaringGuy, but he's right. The updated British laws on sex offences means that relationships with teachers are forbidden until you are 18 (and not at the same school). He had a duty of care for you and acted as a guardian ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my teacher the truth or continue a painful lie?
Q. for the past year i have had really strong feelings for my old teacher it started off as a stupid crush but its grown and it feels like love, i have told him my life stories like my personal family life and he knows i am in love and he has been very ...
A. 6 May 2011: Continue the painful lie.
Your teacher is not free to love you. He's a guy doing a job, they pay him, he buys a house and then goes and has sex with the woman he loves.
The lie is less embarrassing for you. You won't like it when he says "oh... (read in full...)
Doctor proposed HIV tests to my husband, and I'm freaking out.
Q. My husband and I have been married for 7 years, but we've been together for almost ten. When we started dating, we both did HIV tests. All of them came negative. In the past 4 years we've been living under extreme stress, mostly caused by financ...
A. 6 May 2011: Yep, standard tests. He is showing signs of a low immune system and HIV gives you a low immune system. They are just testing for everything to make sure he's ok. You're wasting energy worrying, wait until the tests come back, until then assume ... (read in full...)
What are women's views on foreplay?
Q. OK well. It is really a fun thing befor the real thing. And I know guys get pleasure out of foreplay. They like that kind of secret between him and his girlfriend no one else. It keeps him alot interested. What bothers me is how do women feel ...
A. 6 May 2011: If women don't get foreplay, they are dry and the sex is painful. Foreplay however includes a lot of things and starts from outside the bedroom, sometimes even outside the house your going to.... (read in full...)
Why do women keep insisting that they are fat even after their man tells them they are perfect?
Q. If a women is always the best looking in the crowd why does she keep reminding herself she is fat. Guys dont like a bone. We all have a type but we love attention and security not to get broken at heart. BEcause then we have to show sad emotion...
A. 6 May 2011: Sigh.. it does my head in.. I tell women that men don't care, but they don't listen. Hope the ladies would read your post and realize that men are bored and put off by women who have body issues and lack self-esteem. It's not the fat or the lack ... (read in full...)
Will it always hurt to have rough sex?
Q. Recently I entered into an LDR. We see each other between 2 to 4 weeks apart. When we are together we get really rough during sex just because we both have so much sexual energy! Anyway my vagina always hurts the day after as I do loads of kegel ex...
A. 6 May 2011: I think rough sex always hurts afterwards, it's always fun though... but that's my experience. Kegel is good for tightening you up, but the type of sex your having needs you to be loosed and relaxed. I always recommend baths, before and after... ... (read in full...)
We're losing the spark and arguing alot! I don't know how to stop it!
Q. i really need some help, my relationship is really loosing its spark and i don't know what to do, i love my boyfriend so much and i cant walk away from everything we have together, but its just i get annoyed so easy and i pick little petty arguments ...
A. 6 May 2011: If you're picking arguments for silly things then it's an indication that something is bothering you. It's not going away because neither of you are dealing with the real issues. Your post is really short, so it's hard to see what is going on. ... (read in full...)
He says one thing and does another, help me understand my husband!
Q. hello , I have really difficult problem with my husband. Help me to solve this puzzle. I think he is a passive aggressive, or somehow just very tricky. I can't read him...But I know something is really twisted about him. He is kind to me and his ...
A. 6 May 2011: I can't tell you to leave him. If you still love him you will miss him and you will hurt. I can't tell you he has bipolar, only a doctor can do that. I can tell you that bipolar can't be cured, but lithium tablets help smooth out some of the ... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 5 May 2011: Sorry, making pornography a special case and suggesting it has effects greater than cocaine or intercourse does damage to the argument. Most people are aware that the extreme feelings gained in a drugged state, or the sights, sounds and bodily ... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 5 May 2011: Discussions of this nature are problematic and quickly get out of control. This article started by suggesting pornography is cheating (moral issue) and breaks a contractual relationship (legal). It has moved the goal posts by suggesting ... (read in full...)
He says one thing and does another, help me understand my husband!
Q. hello , I have really difficult problem with my husband. Help me to solve this puzzle. I think he is a passive aggressive, or somehow just very tricky. I can't read him...But I know something is really twisted about him. He is kind to me and his ...
A. 5 May 2011: Bipolar is only a suggestion because people who have this condition can have poor impulse control. I'm not really a doctor to diagnose your husband and neither are you, you would need an expert to do that.
Sigh.. I'm bipolar, supposedly when we ... (read in full...)
My husband lies about porn and looking at other women...I feel like he's a different person with me.
Q. My husband is always telling me that he looks at other women but does not drool or make inappropriate comments about them. The other day i called my husband and his phone was in his pocket and picked up without him knowing. I heard him talking to ...
A. 5 May 2011: You found out about the porn, you didn't like it, so now it appears he doesn't use it. Now you found out he finds other women attractive, if you tell him off about this, he'll make sure you never hear him talk like this again. You feel like ... (read in full...)
I was told I had a covert schizoid personality disorder
Q. Hello, This may sound very strange and I am not sure if it is a problem or not. I seem to be able to relate to everyone or anyone regardless of age sex ethnic group etc and I have been told by people that they feel a connection with me. I don't...
A. 5 May 2011: Don't do them online tests, they are absolute crap and tell everyone they are sick and have some type of problem. If you ever worry about your mental health or state of mind then contact "MIND" the charity for mental health or your own doctor.
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It seems like my b/f just can't wait to watch porn!
Q. What to do about boyfriend's porn usage? I know alot of people would say that watching porn is perfectly normal, something that guys do when their girlfriend's aren't around or to watch something in particular that they wouldn't want to ask their pa...
A. 5 May 2011: I don't think it's a case of choosing porn over you. You mentioned several functions that porn has including "things they wouldn't ask their partner to do". Your boyfriend is looking at extreme stuff, deepthroat, gagging, bondage, whores.... all ... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 5 May 2011: Quick question?
If pornography produces the same chemicals as sexual intercourse and taking cocaine?
What are the effects of masturbating with pornography, masturbating using a fantasy in your imagination or taking crack cocaine or some ... (read in full...)
He says one thing and does another, help me understand my husband!
Q. hello , I have really difficult problem with my husband. Help me to solve this puzzle. I think he is a passive aggressive, or somehow just very tricky. I can't read him...But I know something is really twisted about him. He is kind to me and his ...
A. 5 May 2011: Do you love this husband with all his flaws? If you do, your going to find it painful to leave and you will just miss him and want to return. Your afraid he will let you down one day. Why not wait for that day to come. I'm afraid to die, b... (read in full...)
My whole family is hypocritcal about having sex before marriage!
Q. My whole life my family told me, 'sex before marriage it wrong and they never did it' now I have just found out my entire family lied to me, literally everyone had sex before marriage. I was shocked about this news because my whole life they ...
A. 5 May 2011: Hi Miss Anon,
I will apologise for all the adults in your family and probably most of the adults on this board. You see, we can't tell children and young people everything, because the world, emotions, and people are complicated, not black and whit... (read in full...)
Have you ever been in a secret relationship?
Q. had been in a secret relationship with my current boyfriend for a year now we announced our relationship in september 2010 so people think we are approachign 6 months together when it is just over a year. we are expecting our first child together ...
A. 5 May 2011: The secrecy is now ended, your relationship is now public. Your above the age of consent, so your legal in the UK. Nobody has the right to say anything about you being together. Most times, people don't announce their relationship straight away. ... (read in full...)
I cannot stop this horrible feeling that he only wants me for sex.
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year and we both come from a strict religion where dating and sex outside of marriage is forbidden. My siblings and his know that we are seeing each other and so do our friends but I haven't met his and ...
A. 5 May 2011: Because you come from strict backgrounds I think his behavior is disrespectful. He continously pushes you for sex, but never takes you out. The fact that you are writing to us should tell you something is wrong.
Yes, many men and women from str... (read in full...)
My boyfriend seems to be a creep -- is this all there is?
Q. My bf of 2 years seems to be a creep. I was looking for a movie to watch on my laptop and stumbled into Google documents for the first time ever. I saw everything that my bf looked up on the laptop for the last 5 years +. I saw all kinds of ...
A. 5 May 2011: I'll join the queue.....
The guy is a creep, and I'm scared for your daughter.. please throw him out and put locks on your door.... (read in full...)
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