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female
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41-50,
*hirlyn
writes:I live with my boyfriend, we have been together for 2 years! i met a young newly married man who is making passes at me! i now have strong feelings for him, and we are now planing on taking it to the next level'(sex). am so confusd! should i give in? or is this just a fling?
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (9 February 2011):
 Why are you confused? Seems clear as day to me. Of course it's a fling. Don't be stupid, what else can it be? It's not like he's gonna fall in love and leave his wife for you.
You and this guy want to have sex. You don't care about morals, decency or the people at home who trust you. I wouldn't do it, but I don't like hurting people. I don't think a fuck is worth hurting people for.
But you have made up your mind already. Nothing we say we make any difference. Be careful, make sure you don't fall in love with this married guy, cause then you really will be in trouble.
Don't say you weren't warned WHEN (not if) thing go wrong.
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reader, Kilcardy  +, writes (9 February 2011):
Confused? Let me add a little clarity. What you are planning is lower than low. Whatever disastrous consequences your reap from this planned atrocious conduct, you will deserve.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2011): And how does it make you feel knowing that you are just about to embark on such an act? Does it make you feel good about yourself? How about the ppl in your lives that you could possibly hurt? And what about you - don't you think you might just get emotionally attached to your married 'lover boy' in the process, then after the sex he just ignores you and you feel used... cause that's exactly what he'll be doing - using you for his own selfish pleasure and fantasies!
Have self respect. Leave what does not belong to you, period!
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reader, TEM +, writes (8 February 2011):
 This "fling" will not be worth it in the long run. Affairs are not something you do for fun. There is much risk involved. How would you like his new wife to call up your boyfriend? Sound like fun? If you had any sense you would turn away from this, but for some reason, I don't think you do. Have fun!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2011): Please do not give in to your desires. It would be more honest to end your relationship with your boyfriend before you decide to cheat on him.
Think of the hurt you will cause to your boyfriend, the man's wife and ultimately how terrible you will feel after the event. There is no greater pain than infidelity and it just isnt worth it. You will create a lifetime of pain for his wife and possibly end their marriage. Do not be so selfish.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2011): ? What are you confused about? You're planning it, so unless you're being hypnotized into doing something against your will you know darn well what you are doing. Very strange question to be asking, how are we to know if it's a fling or not, I'd just settle on cheating.
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