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writes: I am 33 years old.I have been married to a man 7 yrs older than me for 14 yrs.We moved in together just weeks after dating because I needed a place to live.We have never had much in common and were never really friends.Now we have 3 kids and a mortgage.Our sex life is like a chore.I cant stand to be around him and he seems to only want to be around me when he is drunk.He is a wonderful man that tells me he loves me everyday.He tells me Im beautiful and that he is so lucky to have me.Basically he is a dream man for every woman.Problem is,I dont love him anymore and I want out of the marriage.How do I tell him?Should I leave or ask him to leave?He knows we have sex problems but doesnt have a clue that Im not happy anymore.Help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2011): you want out of the marriage SO YOU LEAVE. why must he leave his home. this is not fair and stop trying to give him a raw deal. you find alternative accomodation
yes if you just cannot love him, then ask him for a divorce.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (27 January 2011):
 He's a dream man..... BUT!!!!!1. He loves you, but only wants you around when drunk?2. You have sex problems .... sex is a chore3. You never loved him.... but you don't love him anymore4. You can't stand to be around him, he's never been your friend. (maybe this is why he drinks?)If he loves you, surely he shouldn't need drink to be able to be near you? How much does he drink, for some reason I get the impression that he's an alcoholic or a deeply unhappy man? You don't like him, you don't love him, but don't seem to realise that this will cause sex problems. Hard to have an orgasm with someone you dislike so much. What are these sex problems your having. If you never loved him, you can't fall out of love with him, because there was never love there. You say your not happy anymore. Was there a time when you was happy?How does this man not notice how much you dislike him? Have you told him how you feel? Has there been attempts at marriage counselling?Your post just doesn't make sense. You contradict yourself and things you say just don't add up and leave us guessing. It's probably because your post is short and a follow up will explain things better.Should he leave or should you? Strange question. Why ask us. Shouldn't you tell the man first that your unhappy. He loves you, he'll probably leave and still look after you well. Do you love someone else? Why did you stay 14years if you always felt this way?You don't sound ready to leave.. you sound like you want to talk honestly. Answer some of my questions. Tell us your story properly and let your frustrations and anger out.
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reader, dannapao26  +, writes (27 January 2011):
I believe you should just tell him. Be honest let him know how you feel .
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