I'm 17 with a 27 year old...
Q. I have a really good friend that is a guy and he invited me to a party at his place where he rooms with his two cousins. This guy has liked me for a long time and he would give anything to be with me. When I went to this party he had every ...
A. 26 March 2008: You will need to sugar coat your words first.
Tell him how good he is but you are sorry ,
you prefer his cousin.
It would be more diplomatic this way.
... (read in full...)
I'm 17 with a 27 year old...
Q. I have a really good friend that is a guy and he invited me to a party at his place where he rooms with his two cousins. This guy has liked me for a long time and he would give anything to be with me. When I went to this party he had every ...
A. 23 March 2008: Just tell him straight and in simple English.
It will be up to him if he still wants to be your friend or cut you off.
There is nothing much you can do about him if he withdraws from you.... (read in full...)
I'm 17 with a 27 year old...
Q. I have a really good friend that is a guy and he invited me to a party at his place where he rooms with his two cousins. This guy has liked me for a long time and he would give anything to be with me. When I went to this party he had every ...
A. 14 March 2008: It is better to be truthful than to lead him on.
The choice is yours.... (read in full...)
I'm 17 with a 27 year old...
Q. I have a really good friend that is a guy and he invited me to a party at his place where he rooms with his two cousins. This guy has liked me for a long time and he would give anything to be with me. When I went to this party he had every ...
A. 13 March 2008: What is legal is not wrong.
Whether it is morally right or wrong ,
only you can decide for yourself.
Each of us have different opinions.
What is important is your happiness
and only you can decide that.... (read in full...)
Is there something wrong with me ?
Q. 23 years old and i recently have had sex with my new girlfriend. My question is I've had an orgasm but there was little semen in the condom, could this be because I masterbate three times a day? and when i say little semen i mean very little like a ...
A. 8 March 2008: Your factory is running overtime and cannot produce the goods.
Stop or reduce your drive and you may increase your semen.... (read in full...)
My husband has a very controlling nature and the past year has got worse...
Q. I have been married over ten years and my relationship is in tatters, my husband has a very controlling nature and the past year has got worse, the physical abuse has stopped but the emotional abuse is just as draining, will he ever change and is it ...
A. 8 March 2008: You need to be assertive and gain back your rights.Get back your rights as an equal partner and you may even have to leave him for a period of time until he changes or come to your terms.
If you are there, he will not change unless he goes for... (read in full...)
I trust him my life, but I just don't know about his poor judgement.
Q. Lately my boyfriend and I have been getting into arguments over the most petty stuff. He constantly accuses me off cheating, and he makes me feel like crap when he does it. When he brings it up I tell him I would never do such a thing and I tell...
A. 8 March 2008: He is insecure and is afraid of losing you to others.
He wants to control you and he can become mentally and emotionally abusive.
He is young and immature and has a lot to learn .... (read in full...)
How much porn do men watch? Should I be worried?
Q. This question is directed at men, but I'd like anybody's input I can get: I don't think there's anything wrong with porn, I watch a bit of it myself on occasion... but I recently moved in with my boyfriend and I'm realizing that he may be addicted ...
A. 8 March 2008: Everything should be done in moderations. Anything excessive is bad for your health.
Plan more healthful activities around the house or get out of the house more often .
If his work is affected or he procrastinate more often, then it is compu... (read in full...)
How to meet a new girl and ask her out?
Q. It's one thing ive never had the guts to do...go up to a girl ive never met before in my life and ask her out or for her number...My biggest fear is being rejected and/or here saying she has a boyfriend cause then I have to walk away knowing she is ...
A. 8 March 2008: If you are handsome, well looking and have sex appeal, then it is no problem getting their phone numbers or asking them out.
If you are not in this category , you need to know them first before you can ask them out.
Be confident and re... (read in full...)
My feeling to that is that she has become slightly taken in with this other guy...
Q. It look like I am about to split with my wife of 4 years (together for 8 years before that) We are both 28 years old so doing the math means we have been togther since we were 16 years old, childhood sweethearts as the saying goes. Anyway over the...
A. 8 March 2008: The truth of the matter is that in a marriage, the men settles down ,takes her for granted and does not give the women more attentions.
She craves the attention and when she does not gets it , she looks for it outside of marriage.
The best thin... (read in full...)
He lied, cheated, stole, and is an alcholic. Why do I want him back?
Q. I was in a realtionship with an alcholic for nine months. we lived together right from the start. I knew what he was like, but yet i thought like everyone else i could change him. He cheated, lied, stole money from me, and treated me like crap. He ...
A. 8 March 2008: Choose who you want to have a relationship wisely or you will get plenty of heartaches and headaches.
Wishing you all the best.... (read in full...)
No sex before marriage... or should I?
Q. My family are conservative Christians and have a strong, deeply rooted belief that sex before marriage is a big no-no. For the first half of my life I also believed in this, and I wanted to remain abstinent until marriage. If anything, to make my ...
A. 7 March 2008: 2 Corinthians was written by the apostle Paul.
He urged believers not to form lasting relationship with non believers so as not to compromise their beliefs. It could weaken their integrity , commitments or standards.
This is not God's law bu... (read in full...)
How can I get him to stop hating me?
Q. hi all, my ex and I split up about 6 months ago and he still hates me and wants nothing to do with me even though we were really good friends before going out. I feel like I must be a really horrible person to make him act like this (and he has...
A. 7 March 2008: You cannot control others and how they think or do.
All you can do is leave them alone if they have hate in their hearts.
You forgive him and move on .
He does not want to be a friend, you can only respect his wish.
You are not res... (read in full...)
I regret the abortions I've had, and I'm concerned I won't be able to conceive a sibling for my daughter and move on in life...
Q. Well here it goes...THIS IS A REAL PERSONAL MATTER. I PREFER NO JUDGEMENT. Just advice please. I am 24yrs old. I have had 4 pregnancies. 3 abortions and 1 live birth (a daugther). I was always the type that thought i would never do that. However, ...
A. 6 March 2008: You can always try and whether you will be successful or not , only God knows.
You can move on if you forgive yourself and do not be too judgmental or harsh on yourself.
You can always rationalize your mistakes to inexperience and... (read in full...)
I'm unhappy and feel we're lacking the spark. He disagrees.
Q. Me and my ex recently got back together. We were togehter for 2 years and had been apart for around 9 months. THose 9 months were very dramatic, with him breaking up with me, me wanting him back, and then him wanting me back afterwards when I met ...
A. 6 March 2008: You are like a plant that has not enough sunlight and you are wilting and dying.
If you find this condition unacceptable then you need to find another place where the sun shines every day.
Try to convey your feelings to him and if he is always ... (read in full...)
He smokes pot when he's with his friends, and I hate it!
Q. I hate the fact that I want advice on this. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year. Unfortunately, we only get to see each other on the weekends because we are both in college and live about an hour away from each other. But we talk for ...
A. 6 March 2008: You can either accept him or you can choose to walk away from him.
If he really loves you , he will give up pot.
Those are his vices and it is not easy to give them up unless he loves you deep enough to give up for you.
We have our own... (read in full...)
How do I bring up sex to my son, and what will I say?
Q. How and what should I say to my 14 year son about sex? ...
A. 6 March 2008: Children in this computer age are very smart.
They can get all those info's online.
They know a lot and they may know more than you .
Tell him if he has any questions about sex,
he can feel free to ask you.... (read in full...)
I love my best friend but she's engaged...I really need some advice.
Q. I have been best friends with this girl for 4 years. And in love with her for 3. She has been in the same relationship since I have known her and recently got engaged. We go out together to a movie or dinner occasionally and always have a great time ...
A. 6 March 2008: Keep doing the things you do with her without telling her your feelings.
Hope till the last minute and if she wants to change her mind, then she is yours.
Otherwise just cherish those times you had with her.
Don't cross the line or your r... (read in full...)
Excuses, excuses...why does he offer if he never follows through with his promises?
Q. My boyfriend constantly promises me little things like giving me back massages and gives me his word he will do it. i say 'are you sure? you promise?' and he says yes, and he even offers to do it for however long i want! Then, EVERY single nig...
A. 6 March 2008: Oh! He is like that! So just treat his words like one ear in and one ear out..
Don't treat him seriously. He is a joker.
You accept his way of speaking things and not doing them.
Why he does that?
That is him...
... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend his ex cheated?
Q. I recently got back with my boyfriend and we are madly in love, but we do have problems dealing with the past, We split for two years and in that time he went with someone else and i got together with a friend of his. I sort of still have feeli...
A. 6 March 2008: The buck stops here! Don't spread rumours.
You cannot be very sure his friend was telling the truth.
What if it was wrong?
Leave the past alone and don't clutter your brains with the sordid details of the past.
It is negative and will... (read in full...)
I like him but he lives in France
Q. Hi everyone. I'll go straight to the point. Last week i went to a party and i was introduced to a guy that lives in france and came he for holiday, and after talking and flirting we made out and it was perfect! he's back home now and we text eve...
A. 6 March 2008: Just follow your heart. Be happy .
Don't worry about the distance.
In love, everything is possible.... (read in full...)
Torn between two guys, what to do?
Q. There is the two guys that i like one of them i work with and see all the time he hasnt got a girlfriend and is a little older then me. the other has been seperated since september and has two kids i see him every week and can see myself falling ...
A. 6 March 2008: If you cannot decide , then give yourself more time to know each of them.
Do not rush. Take your own time.
You do not have to tell them both as you have not decided yet.
Time will tell who would be the right one for you. ... (read in full...)
Is 'camel toe' looked down on?
Q. Is having 'camel toe' looked down on, or worse than being completely tight? Is it an insult?...
A. 6 March 2008: I think the men would love it but they would not like their g/f's to flaunt it.
You will get plenty of rude stares and you may make the males all howling with salivas dripping from their mouths and blood coming out of their noses.... (read in full...)
Could we make this relationship work?
Q. I like this boy, who added me on myspace. We've gotton really close and we always talk online and text each other but the trouble is he lives too far away. He says he likes me and everything and is willing to make it work. but i'm confused. ...
A. 6 March 2008: Keep your options open.
Who knows he may move closer to you in the future or your path may cross.
Distance is no barrier if love is true.
You can always chat online and see each other everyday on webcam.... (read in full...)
Love of my life might have to leave.
Q. Hi everyone I really need some advice, I am nearly 19 my girlfriend is 20 we both live in the UK. I am part of the EU but she is here under a student visa from Peru, we have been going out for 5 months now and they have been the best we have ever ...
A. 5 March 2008: In three years, many things could change.
Nobody really knows what will happen.
Cross the bridge only when you reach there.
Don't let this decision affects your relationship.
There will always be a way out of any problems.
... (read in full...)
He said spending time with me frustrates him because he does actually have feelings for me, yet he just needs some time. How long should I give him?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for about two months. We have both just come out of relationships so what was going on between me and his was just a little bit of fun, we saw each other a lot and I would often stay at his house, until recently he said he ...
A. 5 March 2008: It depends on how generous you are.
If you cannot last more than one week, then it will be one week..
If he still cannot reply , then 2 weeks....1 month....2 months
or 'Gone with the Wind !'... (read in full...)
How to get back my husband from in-laws?
Q. I am 30 year old women and married with a nice guy but he never stands up for me if my in-laws fight with me. Well I tried to make them happy so many times but I can't. I just had 26th week miscarriage but still my in-laws never call or come to ...
A. 5 March 2008: I am very sorry and sad about your predicaments and your miscarriage.
You married him and he comes with a baggage.
He is caught in the middle and it is difficult to be fair to both.
By right he should stand by his wife if there is any fig... (read in full...)
She is driving me crazier than I ever thought I would go... Help!!!!
Q. I am so confused! My boyfriend's sister is a total bitch like half the time she is my friend and half the time she is my enemy! I don't even do anything wrong and she snaps on me!! I do whatever she asks me to, I help her clean her house and watch ...
A. 5 March 2008: When a woman wants to hitch to a man , she needs to know if he will live alone with her or with his family.
If he cannot live outside his family , it is best you give up this man ,for his home with his mother can be living Hell!
No home can h... (read in full...)
Part 2 of "Please help me win my husband back!"
Q. Hi thanks to all you answered the question I posted about "Helping me win my husband back" Ok her are some more details. My husband left me 4 weeks ago because of the way I used to treat him, which was lower him down and call him names(But ne...
A. 5 March 2008: Treat him like a man and make him feel useful .
Ask for his opinions to make him feel important.
Listen to his every words and try not to contradict him and do not criticize him but praise him instead.
You may suggest your ideas but l... (read in full...)
What signs show love?
Q. ive being going out with my gf for about 14 months but on monday the 3rd of march we had a big argument the argument lead me to belive that she doesnt love me any more but how can i tell what signs should i be looking for?????...
A. 5 March 2008: You should keep the issues separate.
If you argue on some issues, it does not mean that she does not love you .
It is only that you have differences in your opinions about those matters.
When you argue, women do take things personally a... (read in full...)
We went on a few dates, and talk regularly...but she just told me she has a boyfriend! Help!
Q. Hello, There's this girl I like and I think she knows it. We been on a couple of dates and talk regularly. However, she recently told me that she has a boyfriend. I still haven't told her how I feel. What should I do? Thanks for your responses....
A. 5 March 2008: If you like her and enjoy the time with her, continue doing it whether she has a b/f or not.
It is better that you have loved her and failed than not to love her at all.
Of course, many aunts will tell you to go find other single and unatt... (read in full...)
How do I spot the good ones?
Q. I am tired of being alone and would like to meet someone already! I'm not necessarily looking for someone to fall in love with right now, but someone to get to know, spend some time with whos actually a decent human being! I was reading a di...
A. 5 March 2008: If you find that one decent elusive human being, I think you would be bored with him in no time. LOL!
You won't find men wrapped with a beautiful wrapper and with a nice ribbon on it and presented in the way you imagined!
Men are like carbons... (read in full...)
I hate him but I want to be there for him. So confused.
Q. I am in colledge and have been dating a guy for a year now, our life was great besides a break in the middle, in which he got cnfused and left me, he says he is a coward and runs away, and suggests that he may be a little scared of commitment or ...
A. 5 March 2008: If you think a world of him and cannot live without him , then you need to forgive his mistake .
If you cannot forgive him , then it is best that you get out from his world and rebuild your life again.
You think he is incapable of doing things ... (read in full...)
I'm 17 with a 27 year old...
Q. I have a really good friend that is a guy and he invited me to a party at his place where he rooms with his two cousins. This guy has liked me for a long time and he would give anything to be with me. When I went to this party he had every ...
A. 5 March 2008: Do you want a man whom you love more or do you want a man who loves your more?
Who can make you feel more happier, contented and fulfilled?
If you can answer that, then you would know who is the lucky guy for you.... (read in full...)
It really bothers me that he wasn't honest with me...
Q. Last week the guy that I have been talking to asked me to be his girl friend. Before we started dating he mentioned to me that he was not a virgin but that he has only had sex with 2 and they were both his girlfriends. Over some time I have heard ...
A. 5 March 2008: Whether he had two or four, what is the difference?
Sometimes , you cannot just accept as Gospel truth from people .
A rumour can be greatly exaggerated.
If a man were to come before you with that story , you either take it at face value or... (read in full...)
Why does he bite my arm? What does this mean?
Q. After kissing my boyfriend he occasionally bites my arm. Sometimes it really hurts! What does it mean when he does this?...
A. 5 March 2008: He bites you to show others that you are his. He leaves his marks on you . It is called love bites. LOL!... (read in full...)
My so called "friends" are making my life a misery, what can I do to stop this?
Q. Just under a year ago, me and my best friends of years (all the way through first and middle school) kind of got to the point where we weren't good friends anymore. I would get left out a lot and when I spoke to them about it, it was just a joke to ...
A. 5 March 2008: If you want peace, you need to call them out or their leader and have a pow wow. See what can be done to stop this nonsense.
If this fail, then you need to ignore them, get a new number and do not venture where they haunt.... (read in full...)
I would love to be more than just friends with her but does she feel the same way?
Q. I have a friend who I have known now for about 9 months. Gradually over this time, we've become very close. I see her probably 2-3 times a month, mainly at weekends when we go clubbing with all my friends and her friends. Every time we go out...
A. 5 March 2008: Let nature takes its course. You just follow where the current takes you.
Enjoy each day with her and be happy.
You should let yourself be totally free without being shackled with that thought.
Leave it to the future or destiny to decide.... (read in full...)
Worried sick about my boyfriend...
Q. Hi need your advice. I have not been talking with my long distance boyfriend now just kind of angry and dissapointed with him cos he's been sick lately and has not been trying to see a doctor. He works his own business and always monitoring his comp...
A. 5 March 2008: Maybe, he liked you to fussed over him...
He is so far away and you cannot physically be with him.
He is not a small boy and he should know how to take care of himself.
Worrying won't help you much and will only give you ulcers in the stomac... (read in full...)
He is the one with a declining sex drive. Is this normal? How to address it?
Q. I have a dating/love/life advice question. I am always hearing how men are supposed to have such a raging sex drive, how women are more likely to lose their sex drive in a long-term relationship, how men are more likely to seek sex outside of the ...
A. 5 March 2008: If your man is not exercising regularly, taking the right kind of food and not having enough sleep, then his sex drive will nose dive.
Exercise keeps a man fit , a higher self esteem and his body produces more of those male hormones which can regu... (read in full...)
Sexually inhibited...
Q. Can some one please help, I am sexually inhibited, my husband is the best lover, he knows me well, but when it comes to talking to him about sex, my wants, desires, fantasies, I clam up and my brain goes into shut down. I do have fantasies in m...
A. 5 March 2008: I think this is a very good site to read up on sex topics;-
http://www.the-clitoris.com/n_html/nfr_index.htm... (read in full...)
I think about my ex constantly, does this mean I prefer him to my current boyfriend?
Q. I'm so confused, my ex has resently come back to where i live after moving away in the summer holidays. I now have a new boyfriend that i have been dating for 2 months, but at night i cant stop thinking about all the good times i had with my ex a...
A. 5 March 2008: What you did with your ex is a part of your life history which is in the past.
What you are doing with your current b/f is history in the making.
When you have something at hand , you do not miss them because you can see them daily.
When y... (read in full...)
He cheated, I got upset but he forgave me, how do we start over?
Q. The man I have been sleeping with recently forgave me for all the hateful things i said after I found out he was sleeping with another women besides me. Even though i am grateful for the fact that he forgives me and wants to continue seeing me I am ...
A. 5 March 2008: Forgive him and do not look back to the past.
When you climb a mountain, you only look up and don't look down.
Remember the past is gone and cannot be changed.
When you start to think of his past, tell your mind to think for the present . ... (read in full...)
Help me save my 2 year relationship!
Q. I would very much appreciate any sensible advice that you can offer me, I am at my whits end. My 2 year relasionship has been heading downhill for a year now - I'm only seeking help now after trying to solve the issues myself, after failing that I b...
A. 5 March 2008: It looks like he has taken you for granted. Your marriage do not have the sparks or the 'zing' in it.
You should do things together. Maybe, plan for a holiday together and this may spark some romance back into your life.
... (read in full...)
Normally the guys I go out with give distinctive signals but I really don't have a clue with this one.
Q. I know this sounds like a really simple question, but how can you tell that a guy likes you? Usually the guys I have been out with have given really distinctive signs, however in this case i really have no idea at all. For example, the guy...
A. 5 March 2008: For example, the guy does spend loads of time with me, and does playfully flirt, however other times he can be really distant, or hangs round with my other friend who is a girl also.
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The guy is interested in you or he would not have spe... (read in full...)
Sexually inhibited...
Q. Can some one please help, I am sexually inhibited, my husband is the best lover, he knows me well, but when it comes to talking to him about sex, my wants, desires, fantasies, I clam up and my brain goes into shut down. I do have fantasies in m...
A. 5 March 2008: Alcohol can loosen your sexual inhibitions. One has to be quite open minded when it comes to sex.
Just let yourself go and try what he wants...
You can Google that word online and fine more materials to read on.... (read in full...)
We went on a few dates, and talk regularly...but she just told me she has a boyfriend! Help!
Q. Hello, There's this girl I like and I think she knows it. We been on a couple of dates and talk regularly. However, she recently told me that she has a boyfriend. I still haven't told her how I feel. What should I do? Thanks for your responses....
A. 5 March 2008: If she has a b/f , she should not be going out with you .
If she is going out with you ,
it means she is bored with life or her b/f
and is giving you a chance.
It is your choice.
Many women have b/f's and they keep changing them l... (read in full...)
No sex before marriage... or should I?
Q. My family are conservative Christians and have a strong, deeply rooted belief that sex before marriage is a big no-no. For the first half of my life I also believed in this, and I wanted to remain abstinent until marriage. If anything, to make my ...
A. 2 March 2008: There is God, there is the Universal law, the Common law, the Karma and the all powerful unknown force.
Whatever you believed in , it is your right. You can believe there is no GOD.I would not try to convince anyone to believe what I believed... (read in full...)
No sex before marriage... or should I?
Q. My family are conservative Christians and have a strong, deeply rooted belief that sex before marriage is a big no-no. For the first half of my life I also believed in this, and I wanted to remain abstinent until marriage. If anything, to make my ...
A. 2 March 2008: When the children are 18 years old , they can decide what they want to believe.
Normally ,the non Christian men would let the wife decides or whoever is the dominant one in the marriage.
Religion is not about been born in the family . It does... (read in full...)
No sex before marriage... or should I?
Q. My family are conservative Christians and have a strong, deeply rooted belief that sex before marriage is a big no-no. For the first half of my life I also believed in this, and I wanted to remain abstinent until marriage. If anything, to make my ...
A. 1 March 2008: It is my own Christian beliefs that blessings from God falls on everyone irrespective of whether you are a Christian or not on this Earth.
It is like the showers of blessings on Earth. It does not discriminate anyone.
Otherwise how would you ex... (read in full...)
No sex before marriage... or should I?
Q. My family are conservative Christians and have a strong, deeply rooted belief that sex before marriage is a big no-no. For the first half of my life I also believed in this, and I wanted to remain abstinent until marriage. If anything, to make my ...
A. 29 February 2008: So if you were a real Christian before than God will never let you go.
God would not like to let you go but He respects your decision if you want to leave Him.
God gave us a brain to think and he gave us choices.He will be sad if you leave Him... (read in full...)
No sex before marriage... or should I?
Q. My family are conservative Christians and have a strong, deeply rooted belief that sex before marriage is a big no-no. For the first half of my life I also believed in this, and I wanted to remain abstinent until marriage. If anything, to make my ...
A. 29 February 2008: So if you were a real Christian before than God will never let you go.
God would not like to let you go but He respects your decision if you want to leave Him.
God gave us a brain to think and he gave us choices.He will be sad if you leave Him... (read in full...)
No sex before marriage... or should I?
Q. My family are conservative Christians and have a strong, deeply rooted belief that sex before marriage is a big no-no. For the first half of my life I also believed in this, and I wanted to remain abstinent until marriage. If anything, to make my ...
A. 29 February 2008: "You should not continue this relationship with your BF if you are a Christian. The bible says Christians should not marry non Christians"
This is precisely the type of Christian who preached to others and judge them.
There are plenty of such '... (read in full...)
No sex before marriage... or should I?
Q. My family are conservative Christians and have a strong, deeply rooted belief that sex before marriage is a big no-no. For the first half of my life I also believed in this, and I wanted to remain abstinent until marriage. If anything, to make my ...
A. 29 February 2008: In Christianity , it is a relationship of you and God only and no others can tell you what to do or cannot do.
We all have different levels of faith and we should not judge each other but to accept them as whatever they are.
We should lov... (read in full...)
No sex before marriage... or should I?
Q. My family are conservative Christians and have a strong, deeply rooted belief that sex before marriage is a big no-no. For the first half of my life I also believed in this, and I wanted to remain abstinent until marriage. If anything, to make my ...
A. 28 February 2008: AS long as you do not get pregnant before marriage , there won't be any moral or religious issues.
You may not get pregnant but you will have to deal with your conscience and it may trouble you since you come from a conservative Christian backgrou... (read in full...)
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