No sex before marriage... or should I?
Q. My family are conservative Christians and have a strong, deeply rooted belief that sex before marriage is a big no-no. For the first half of my life I also believed in this, and I wanted to remain abstinent until marriage. If anything, to make my ...
A. 7 March 2008: 2 Corinthians was written by the apostle Paul.
He urged believers not to form lasting relationship with non believers so as not to compromise their beliefs. It could weaken their integrity , commitments or standards.
This is not God's law bu... (read in full...)
No sex before marriage... or should I?
Q. My family are conservative Christians and have a strong, deeply rooted belief that sex before marriage is a big no-no. For the first half of my life I also believed in this, and I wanted to remain abstinent until marriage. If anything, to make my ...
A. 2 March 2008: There is God, there is the Universal law, the Common law, the Karma and the all powerful unknown force.
Whatever you believed in , it is your right. You can believe there is no GOD.I would not try to convince anyone to believe what I believed... (read in full...)
No sex before marriage... or should I?
Q. My family are conservative Christians and have a strong, deeply rooted belief that sex before marriage is a big no-no. For the first half of my life I also believed in this, and I wanted to remain abstinent until marriage. If anything, to make my ...
A. 2 March 2008: When the children are 18 years old , they can decide what they want to believe.
Normally ,the non Christian men would let the wife decides or whoever is the dominant one in the marriage.
Religion is not about been born in the family . It does... (read in full...)
No sex before marriage... or should I?
Q. My family are conservative Christians and have a strong, deeply rooted belief that sex before marriage is a big no-no. For the first half of my life I also believed in this, and I wanted to remain abstinent until marriage. If anything, to make my ...
A. 1 March 2008: It is my own Christian beliefs that blessings from God falls on everyone irrespective of whether you are a Christian or not on this Earth.
It is like the showers of blessings on Earth. It does not discriminate anyone.
Otherwise how would you ex... (read in full...)
No sex before marriage... or should I?
Q. My family are conservative Christians and have a strong, deeply rooted belief that sex before marriage is a big no-no. For the first half of my life I also believed in this, and I wanted to remain abstinent until marriage. If anything, to make my ...
A. 29 February 2008: So if you were a real Christian before than God will never let you go.
God would not like to let you go but He respects your decision if you want to leave Him.
God gave us a brain to think and he gave us choices.He will be sad if you leave Him... (read in full...)
No sex before marriage... or should I?
Q. My family are conservative Christians and have a strong, deeply rooted belief that sex before marriage is a big no-no. For the first half of my life I also believed in this, and I wanted to remain abstinent until marriage. If anything, to make my ...
A. 29 February 2008: So if you were a real Christian before than God will never let you go.
God would not like to let you go but He respects your decision if you want to leave Him.
God gave us a brain to think and he gave us choices.He will be sad if you leave Him... (read in full...)
No sex before marriage... or should I?
Q. My family are conservative Christians and have a strong, deeply rooted belief that sex before marriage is a big no-no. For the first half of my life I also believed in this, and I wanted to remain abstinent until marriage. If anything, to make my ...
A. 29 February 2008: "You should not continue this relationship with your BF if you are a Christian. The bible says Christians should not marry non Christians"
This is precisely the type of Christian who preached to others and judge them.
There are plenty of such '... (read in full...)
No sex before marriage... or should I?
Q. My family are conservative Christians and have a strong, deeply rooted belief that sex before marriage is a big no-no. For the first half of my life I also believed in this, and I wanted to remain abstinent until marriage. If anything, to make my ...
A. 29 February 2008: In Christianity , it is a relationship of you and God only and no others can tell you what to do or cannot do.
We all have different levels of faith and we should not judge each other but to accept them as whatever they are.
We should lov... (read in full...)
Should I turn my teacher in after the suggestions he made?????
Q. Hello all School ended for me for the end of the year in December (we have our summer holidays in Dec-Jan) and I gave a letter to a teacher I had a little bit of a crush on, because he was leaving. The thing was, I wasn't actually in his class and...
A. 29 February 2008: I applaud you for your wise decision .You can now move on with your life.... (read in full...)
Is this considered rape?
Q. I just had sex with my boyfriend and I know I love him a lot but I just wasn't ready. I told him no but he kept bugging me about it until I agreed. I wanted him to stop after we started but I didn't tell him that. Since I did tell him no to begin ...
A. 29 February 2008: You are not yet 14 and even if you are one day short of 14 , that is statutory rape according to the law in your country.... (read in full...)
My friend keeps on flirting with my ex. I want him back. What should I do?
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been dating this boy, (A), since November fifth, and on the seventh of February I left him. Very soon I found out this was a mistake and got ready to tell him and "win" him back, however, my best friend has been flirting with hi...
A. 29 February 2008: Well! I am glad you had that stern chat with your friend and she back off. I guess you were more intimidating than her. LOL!
Or there could be some cat fights.... (read in full...)
Is he interested and how do I talk to him?
Q. There is a boy at school that I really really like. He and his friends are communist and they love anything army! Thats all they basically wear. This boy and his family members all have the same army coat it is an Austrian Coat with the Belgian flag ...
A. 29 February 2008: Do you consider yourself pretty?
If you are , then he is most probably interested to be friends with you.
If you want to talk to him , you need to seek him out and stand in front of him , face to face.
Don't worry, when you are in front of... (read in full...)
He's asked me to some big family events, do you think this means he's really serious about me?
Q. My bf has invited me to all these big family events of his, such as his dad's b'day celebration and his grandma's and granddad's wedding aniversary as well. All his family will be at them, like his mum, dad, grandparents, siblings, aunty and uncles, ...
A. 29 February 2008: It looks that way .He is introducing you to them and letting them know who you are.
In most cases, if the man does that, it means he is serious about you or he would not have invited you ... (read in full...)
Pregnant and not sure who the father is!
Q. My boyfriend and I were seperated for a couple months and I started a short relationship with someone else. I ended up getting back together with my boyfriend because we have a kid together. I ended up pregnant and he thinks the baby is not his and ...
A. 29 February 2008: Sorry to hear you are not in a strong position. It is only temporary . I wish you success in your job search.... (read in full...)
He expects me to pay for more than I can afford. Can I sort this without leaving?
Q. I hate to discuss finances, but I know that money tends to be the leading cause of marital arguments and divorce, so technically this is a relationship question. I work full time and I make $14.50 per hour. I used to get overtime but because busi...
A. 28 February 2008: I think I will agree with your actions. There is no other way .
You need to be assertive and arm twist him some to get him to do as you want or this family will sink under the mountain of bills.
When life is tough , the tough gets going.
Yo... (read in full...)
I have tried for 6 years, but I don't really love him. Should I leave?
Q. I am a 27 year old female married for a year now. I ve known my husband for 6 years now, since the last yearof college. Prior to that I was in a relationship with a very wonderful guy in college for 3 years and due to faults and mistakes which I am ...
A. 28 February 2008: If you really find that there is no love and no happiness in your marriage , your marriage becomes meaningless.There is no incentive to stay married.
You will have to decide to stay or leave.Only you can make that decision.
... (read in full...)
He expects me to pay for more than I can afford. Can I sort this without leaving?
Q. I hate to discuss finances, but I know that money tends to be the leading cause of marital arguments and divorce, so technically this is a relationship question. I work full time and I make $14.50 per hour. I used to get overtime but because busi...
A. 28 February 2008: I am sorry about your financial problems.
It looks like you have more money sense than him. Either you have to make more money or you will have to downsize .
He needs to cut down on his beer, cigarettes , weeds and lottery . Those are all bad ... (read in full...)
He expects me to pay for more than I can afford. Can I sort this without leaving?
Q. I hate to discuss finances, but I know that money tends to be the leading cause of marital arguments and divorce, so technically this is a relationship question. I work full time and I make $14.50 per hour. I used to get overtime but because busi...
A. 28 February 2008: I would suggest that you take a certain percentage of your incomes and put it into a joint a/c to pay for all those bills.
Calculate how much you will have to pay for all those bills .
That would be a fairer way of sharing bills.
Try to... (read in full...)
We talk marriage but she still loves her ex. What do I do?
Q. Hi there im new on here, but i really need some help on this. I met my girlfriend a year ago and she had been with a heroin addict for many years. He would lie to her and take her money, take drugs, rehibilitate get clean then go through same loop...
A. 28 February 2008: I agree with Annalisa's views.
You should not have let this thing fester until now. You should have told her to choose who she wants. This cannot go on forever.
She is having the best of both worlds. I would walk out of her life if I cannot... (read in full...)
Is he a serial cheater or should I have faith in us?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend now for 8 months. I am really in love with him and he says he is me too. I have never been this happy apart from one thing that is really bothering me. He is 10 years old than me - he's 38. He was once married but only...
A. 28 February 2008: His records maybe bad but you cannot judge him on that.Maybe all those women were not his type. You can only assess him on the present.
As long as he is doing the right thing with you , you should feel OK. What happened in the past , cannot b... (read in full...)
This relationship is Killing Me Softly. Do I get out?
Q. Hey, I've been seeing this girl for 3 and a half years now and I think i'm losing interest in her. I've had the same feeling before, when she told me she thought she liked someone else. I've been thinking about someone else recently and was ...
A. 28 February 2008: If you cannot take the pressure, there is no point holding on to this relationship.She is not your type. Let her go.... (read in full...)
Falling out of love?
Q. Well since the last question when i talked about the secret my fiance and my godsister shared a lot has happened. I agreed that we would work things out. I told my godsister i needed her to stay away at least for a while. Now I am totally suspicious ...
A. 28 February 2008: It looks like you are in an impasse. Let things cool down a bit .
Take a break and go out and enjoy yourself. You cannot rush for an answer to your problems.You may find that you will have a different perspective when you feel happier or after so... (read in full...)
No sex before marriage... or should I?
Q. My family are conservative Christians and have a strong, deeply rooted belief that sex before marriage is a big no-no. For the first half of my life I also believed in this, and I wanted to remain abstinent until marriage. If anything, to make my ...
A. 28 February 2008: AS long as you do not get pregnant before marriage , there won't be any moral or religious issues.
You may not get pregnant but you will have to deal with your conscience and it may trouble you since you come from a conservative Christian backgrou... (read in full...)
Should I turn my teacher in after the suggestions he made?????
Q. Hello all School ended for me for the end of the year in December (we have our summer holidays in Dec-Jan) and I gave a letter to a teacher I had a little bit of a crush on, because he was leaving. The thing was, I wasn't actually in his class and...
A. 28 February 2008: I would agree 100% with Nicole5178 post.
There was a case of an English teacher in the UK who was found not guilty after the student reported him to the police.
When that married teacher did not play her game , she cried wolf!
It dest... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend depressed or just sick of me? Should I hold out or move on?
Q. Hello All. I'm 23, girlfriend is 33. We've been together 6 great years. We rarely have any disagreements, we see each other nightly, and do our own things at the weekends. I'm heavily involved in cars, and she likes gardening. I ...
A. 28 February 2008: She has come to a cross road in her life and she maybe undecided where she will be heading.
It seems that she has not many friends and you are her rock. You need to be strong for her . Whatever things she hurled at you , be steadfast as a friend t... (read in full...)
I'm so tempted to call his wife and rat him out because I feel for her and of course I would get some statisfaction.
Q. I was dating this guy for about a year that I met at work. The question I have is and I probably already know the answer. He was seperating from his wife and also has two children with her. Why does he continue to spend time with her and of course ...
A. 28 February 2008: Even if the divorce is final , there is nothing to keep them from coming back together.
A divorce is just a license to remarry. The bonds between them and the children will always be there.
He gave you some good times and some bad times but yo... (read in full...)
Pregnant and not sure who the father is!
Q. My boyfriend and I were seperated for a couple months and I started a short relationship with someone else. I ended up getting back together with my boyfriend because we have a kid together. I ended up pregnant and he thinks the baby is not his and ...
A. 28 February 2008: Only a DNA test will conclusively tell who is the father of that baby. That is still a long time to go to know the truth.
Disregard his threats. They could just be empty threats. Go on living and don't think too much or worry about those threats.... (read in full...)
Lover/friendship crisis!!!!!!
Q. I've been single for a while and the past boyfriends I had treated me like dirt but now I'm falling for an ex from 4 years ago but the thing is he has a girlfriend and she's a friend of mine too! I really like him but I don't want to ruin their ...
A. 28 February 2008: There are many better man than him in the world. Don't be myopic.You have not met them yet.
As you go along in life, there will be many men in your life.
He is not the only fish in the ocean.
Don't be like the frog in the well..... (read in full...)
Why does it have to be so damm hard to figure out what women want in order to have a lot of sex?
Q. Why does it have to be so damm hard to figure out what women want in order to have a lot of sex? Do most women want a lot of sex or is it only men? Why do you have to spend 10 times more time figuring out the issues rather than having wild sex? No ...
A. 28 February 2008: Women want love , men want sex. God made them that way.
If you want more sex , give them more love.
No love , no honey!... (read in full...)
Is it normal to nerver have any fights?
Q. is it normal that my boyfriend and i never get into fights.am always doing right and so is he.since we started dating a year ago we have never argued...
A. 28 February 2008: You are on a long extended honeymoon. People say , you are like an orange split in half, identical.
Have fun and enjoy life.... (read in full...)
My friend keeps on flirting with my ex. I want him back. What should I do?
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been dating this boy, (A), since November fifth, and on the seventh of February I left him. Very soon I found out this was a mistake and got ready to tell him and "win" him back, however, my best friend has been flirting with hi...
A. 28 February 2008: You cannot control your friend or your soon to be enemy.There is nothing you can do about her unless you want to beat her to pulps!
What was your reason or reasons for your breakup with him?
If you were wrong , then you need to come down from yo... (read in full...)
If I am pregnant by this guy, would my baby be okay?
Q. I'm turning 16 this year and the guy is turning 20. I met this guy 3 years ago through a friend, I didn't know who the guy was at all then later found out he had the same last name as I did. I didn't think anything of it at the time, but started to ...
A. 28 February 2008: You have not come to the bridge yet ,so no point thinking that far.
What if you are not pregnant ? It will just be an exercise in futility.
Did you have sex 7 days before and after your first day of period? If it is more than 7 days then you wi... (read in full...)
Should I tell my cousin that I saw his girlfriend cheating?
Q. oh my god i walked in on my best friend having sex with her boyfriends best friend! i dont know what to do. her boyfriend is my cousin and even though we're not that close hes still blood!should i snitch on my best friend and help my cousin or ...
A. 28 February 2008: Will your cousin believe you? It will only be your words against hers.
See no evil , hear no evil and speak no evil!
If they were to break up,you were the reason.... (read in full...)
Am I wrong in getting upset with my boyfriend?
Q. My boy friend thinks about sex a lot more than I do am I abnormal? When I am having a conversation with him he tends to check out my ass or tits and in a way I feel disrespected because I dont feel like he is listening to me when he says he heard ...
A. 28 February 2008: The males think more about sex than the females because they are wired that way.
Ideally , when you talk with the men , you should have eye contact but many a man thinks your eyes are on your chest.
This cannot be help because the eyes on your... (read in full...)
Should I give it another go with my girlfriend after she cheated?
Q. I've been dating my girlfriend for 7 months now. I know it doesn't seem like a long time but we have been friends for a couple years and with her I feel different then I have with any other girl. So I was out of town recently for my job and she ...
A. 28 February 2008: Do you love her with all your heart, soul and spirit?
If you love her that way , you would not mind if she has slept with one or 100 guys.It makes no difference.
If your love is shallow, then you should just walk away from her.
You shou... (read in full...)
How can I get over my issues, and just enjoy the relationship as it is?
Q. The man I'm dating this year doesn't really give a promise of comittment to me but he wants to be together when he has free time. Although i try to accept it and i pretend to him that it doesn't really matter sometimes it's difficult to hide my true ...
A. 28 February 2008: Just take each day as it comes and think of it as the last day on earth. We don't know if we will still be alive by tomorrow or not.
Being with him is all that matters and forget about commitment issues because what is the use of commitme... (read in full...)
Why does he need time to think before marriage? Has something changed recently, for him to hesitate?
Q. I am engaged currently and we had a date picked out already but now he is saying he needs time to think about getting married now. I can't be mad because he is being honest, but at the same time what do i do? I know that i love him and want to spend ...
A. 28 February 2008: A woman worries about the future until she gets a husband
A man never worries about the future until he gets a wife.
When a woman gets a husband , her worries ends because she can depend on her husband for her every needs or livelihood o... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to feel resentful after I helped him out so much??
Q. My boyfriend has recently come into some money (about 3000 pounds). Previous to this he always struggled, and I bailed him out of many bills that he ended up struggling to pay etc etc. I did this out of kindness and never expected anything back, ...
A. 28 February 2008: Your b/f takes you for granted and do not know the meaning of the word 'Gratitude.'
Your b/f has shown his true colors and what kind of person he is.
Be wiser with your money.... (read in full...)
How can I control my jealousy???
Q. I have been dating this girl and I really want this to be a long lasting relationship. I have an issue with jealousy and I want to know how I can resolve this and get through it. My girlfriend had a boyfriend in the past and used to be obbsessed ...
A. 28 February 2008: You can Google that question and find many tips online.
Jealousy is possessive love. Try not to control who she sees or talks to.
Do unto others if you don't want others to do unto you.... (read in full...)
Is this considered rape?
Q. I just had sex with my boyfriend and I know I love him a lot but I just wasn't ready. I told him no but he kept bugging me about it until I agreed. I wanted him to stop after we started but I didn't tell him that. Since I did tell him no to begin ...
A. 28 February 2008: It is called statutory rape if you are below 14 years of age in Canada .Even if you consent , it is still called rape.
According to what I have read, they are trying to raise the age of consent to 16.
According to the current law in Canada,
... (read in full...)
In love with one of my best friends
Q. I am really close friends with this girl. We dated a long time ago, and have hooked up on many occasions since then, but never went back to dating. But for a while now, I have been having really strong feelings about her, as something way more than ...
A. 28 February 2008: Just tell her that you like her a lot. She will get the hint.
Then if the response is favorable, you can on other occasions tell her that you love her a lot...... (read in full...)
My live-in boyfriend wants to move out after 5 years
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for over 6 years. We've been living together for about 5 years. This year we've been talking about marriage and getting engaged. He promised me that 2008 would be the best year ever. But this weekend he ...
A. 28 February 2008: Most breakups are usually about money or love .When love is gone and there is no more left,there is nothing to keep somebody there. You only get a feeling of emptiness.
You can either move on or live in the past. You need to set his spirit f... (read in full...)
Is it okay for me to ask her out when so may guys are doing the same and stressing her out??
Q. I really like this girl, and she knows i do. But i have never really asked her out. She is single right now and has 7 guys other then me who like her and she likes one of them and likes a couple others. She keeps talking about all this around me and ...
A. 28 February 2008: Say something sweet to her or give her a praise before you ask her out.If she says no, tell her maybe next time when she is free .
You need to act confident and and take any answer in your stride.If you are rejected, don't feel bad about it. Just... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if I should be doing this stuff...
Q. I really like this kid. I don't know though, I'm trying not to get too involved because I don't want to get too attached because I'm sick of stuff like this but whatever anyways, he came over my house today and we did stuff. He tried to get it in, ...
A. 28 February 2008: Learn to be assertive and say 'NO!'No one should violate your body and do stuff against your will.
He may give you the 'craps' and you will get sick and this will break your mom's heart.... (read in full...)
I found him in bed with another girl..we split, now he wants to get back together..Should I forgive and forget ?
Q. I've been really impressed with this site so far, so I'm hoping that maybe someone out there can give me some advice, or share a similar story... I met my last boyfriend about 8 months ago, and we clicked immediately. We had text book compatabili...
A. 27 February 2008: Can you live without him?
If you can answer that question , you can forgive , forget and move on.
But if you find that , no matter how you tried to forget him , he is always on your mind and you have no peace, then you need to forgive, forget ... (read in full...)
I've just split with my girl but I want to meet someone new straight away. Is this right?
Q. I just broke up with my girlfriend. In this relationship I really didn't think I was treated well. She didn't pay much attention to me and couldn't show me ANY affection. After going out for two months she couldn't kiss me. I want to know, is it ...
A. 27 February 2008: When one door is closed , another will open .
I hope that you will find a better one when you go through that door.
There will be someone waiting inside who will have the same desires and aspirations as you.
Good Luck to you .... (read in full...)
Should I suggest she leaves her lying boyfriend for me?
Q. Alright.. So I have been talking to this girl on and off for the past year now. Just like most people, she does not like to make decisions. She has been dating someone else(a real lying pos) for the last few months, but she still talks to me and ...
A. 27 February 2008: You do nothing of that sort. You will try to be better than him and allow her to choose who she wants.
Good will triumph over evil.... (read in full...)
Should I give him up because he beat up my best friend's boyfriend?
Q. There's this guy i realy like, but my best freind doesn't like him at all. What should i do? Should i risk a freindship for a relationship or try my hardest to get over the guy? Keep in mind she doesn't lik the guy 'cause he beat up her boyfreind....
A. 27 February 2008: You need to know why they were fighting and who was in the right.
If you have no choice, who would you pick, a b/f or a best friend?
Only you can answer that.... (read in full...)
She isnt in a hurry to marry me, and told me to find someone else if I cant wait. Is she trying to discourage me?
Q. Am a guy of 27,i've been dating a lady since 1999.Last year i presurise that we should get married but she told me to wait till end of 2009 and if i'll not wait she can release me to look for another.Could she be trying to discourage me or what?Kin...
A. 27 February 2008: If you want to know whether she loves you or not,try leaving her.
You need to find out how deep is her love for you . If she lets you go , then you need to move on and do not waste any more of your time on her.
What if come end of 2009 and she ... (read in full...)
I left her but she won't leave me! Please help!
Q. I was in love with a girl for the last one year and due to her backgrounds i felt like leaving her. I told her that i've already got hooked somewhere else but she insisted that she will not leave me, she will continue loving me. Could you please ...
A. 27 February 2008: You cannot stop someone from loving you .Go to her and tell her straight in her face that you do not love her anymore.
Some girls want to hear personally from your lips and then their love for you will die.
The other way is to completely ignor... (read in full...)
Help me, I'm being used!
Q. hi ok im 18 i know thats young, but anyway, theres this guy, lets call him (geoff) um well geoff and i go way bak. our dads worked together and we wer good friends. then he moved, hes 3 years older than me, but i hadnt seen him in ages. i usd to ...
A. 27 February 2008: You are either a smart and intelligent woman or a born loser.
Choose who do you want to be.Do you want to be a born loser?
God help you if you want to let people walk all over you.... (read in full...)
I've moved on but my ex wont leave me alone. How do I convince him without hurting him?
Q. Hi..i need help...i left my husband 5 months ago, i am now in a new relationship with another man, who happens to be a work college of my ex husband,i was with my husband for 7 yrs and have 2 children with him. My ex is saying that the man am with ...
A. 27 February 2008: The only way to get out of this problem is to go far far away from him for a few months and change your mobile number.
If you can uproot yourself from your place.
If you cannot uproot from there ,just change your mobile number , be more asserti... (read in full...)
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