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writes:Just under a year ago, me and my best friends of years (all the way through first and middle school) kind of got to the point where we weren't good friends anymore. I would get left out a lot and when I spoke to them about it, it was just a joke to them and they blamed it on me having a boyfriend - I'm glad to say I never put my boyfriend before them. Also, I was never in any lessons with them, so I made new friends but then everything got all bitchy between my old friends. A couple of months after all of this, me and my boyfriend split (it was a very serious relationship been together over a year) and a month after this, I get sent a picture on my phone of one of my ex best mates getting with my ex boyfriend. I chose not to say anything to them about it and hope to get my tippense later on. Still, after over half a year of this bitchiness, they still carry on. The looks at school, the giggles, the bashes when they walk past me even to my best mate. It just doesn't stop. I can't even look at them! I try to just ignore everything they throw at me but then I get a nasty prank call in the early hours of this morning and I knew straight away it was them. They were talking about a boy I was mates with and taking the p*ss saying all silly stuff about sex and that and then said about my ex and do I want a another picture sent. A lot more was said but that is the jist of it. I didn't say a word to them. Then an hour later, I get another prank call, this time I recognise the voice and they are basically just wanting to wake me up. I just told her to "f*ck off!" and then turned my phone off. What exactly can I do for all of ths to stop? Telling teachers at school isn't an option. I am in the last year of high school and that is just plain babyish and idiotic. In a way I want to finally retaliate for what they have been doing for so long and for them to know that I'm not just going to take it anymore. What exactly can I say or do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2008): you should change your number and make sure that you only give it out to people who you feel need your numer and make sure to tell them not to give it out to anyone that way you won't be getting prank phone calls during the middle of the night. also it's not a good idea to retaliate because the drama will just continue and the situation will only get worse.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (5 March 2008):
 If you want peace, you need to call them out or their leader and have a pow wow. See what can be done to stop this nonsense.
If this fail, then you need to ignore them, get a new number and do not venture where they haunt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2008): That is very true what kawika says hunny, I practice in martial arts and Awareness is without choice, Without demand, Without anxiety, And in that state of mind, There is perception...As he said if you give nothing so nothing can phase you, hunny you are the stronger xxxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2008): The prank calls in the middle of the night bring this out of just the school realm. You are well within your rights to go to the police about this if you want to. Mandy is exactly right, they are being childish and it is all down to jealousy. Keep holding your head high, you seem to be doing well so far. They will soon get bored if you don't give it any of your time. All the best x
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reader, Kawika  +, writes (5 March 2008):
 WOW...so much drama. Well, I think most of us have been in similar situations. Some less and some more intense. The best way I've handled mine is to NOT show your irritation or concern about it. The best way to get back at them is to show them that whatever they say or do...it doesn't phase you. You see...they want to bring you down to their level...don't let them. If you lose it...they win. It's a psychological game of cat and mouse. If anything...riddle them with kindness. It will drive them crazy. Sooner or later they will stop...you'll see. But, if you continue to tell them "F*ck off!" they will know their tactics are working and will continue their verbal assaults. As a skilled martial artists we are trained NOT to go head to head with punches, but to simply step aside and divert the strikes away from our bodies. We use our opponents energies to conquer them. This also applies to every part of our lives whether physically, emotionally, or psychologically. I hope this helps...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2008): Hi Hunny
The best way to sort this out and belive me it works as long as they think they are getting to you they will carry on, So if you can change you number or get a spare phone for now borrow one if you have to and use that phone for you family and real friends only, Keeping the other either off or on silent deleteing anything that is sent before you even look at it as they are not worth it, This is pure jealousy so you already have one up... They need to make your life a misery as they are so bloody miserable themselves and have nothing better than you to think about! Your so popular hunny! They are childish and imature, Ignore there remarks I mean just pretent they are invisible show no emotion at all laugh with your mate and generally look like you havent a care in the world, If someone bangs into you at school be prepared as there must be a sign it is coming and get ready with the foot sticking out method before they can bump into you they land on there face, Then you ask concerned if they are ok and carry on even if you get a gobfull of abuse as they are once again showing there imature side hunny....As far as your concerned they are so invisible they do not exsist!!!!!
You are far stronger far more grown and far more powerfull as you my love have got control of the situation no matter what....Get that number changed or another inbetween phone and only give the num to people you trust to have it...And rise above all this childish behaviour..Id had this at my last yr in school and I did this.. No phones then well mobiles im not that old :) my house phone used to go I got mum to say Id left the island which coming from my mum would normaly be the truth as she goes to church 3 times a week and id known them all my school life so she wouldnt tell fibs would she!!!!!! so when they saw me on the bus it threw them a tad...INVISIBLE!!!!!! Oh and the girl that used to push into me contantly and stole my b/f well the foot trick worked a beaut as her pink handbag went flying and her tampons fell all over the floor, Oh I helped to pick her and her tampons up and just kept cool making sure she was ok! RISE ABOVE IT THEY WILL RIP EACH OTHERS HAIR OUT IN THE END TAKE CARE BE STRONG TAKE CARE WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, Minxy68 +, writes (5 March 2008):
A lot of bullying, which is what they are doing to you, comes out of jealousy. To them you are either prettier, more confident or smarter or all three. You seem to be doing the right thing by ignoring them, but have you asked them what their problem is and how it started. If its possible get a new sim card and change your number and do as you doing keep yourself to yourself. Remember, they are jealous of you for whatever reason......your better then them!
Keep your head up high!
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