My ex ran off with another girl, but he still loves me, what should I do?
Q. I was in a relationship with someone for 3 years. Things didn't work out and I didn't think I loved him. When we broke up, about 2 months later, I started feeling really bad. I love this person. I was told that he was cheating on me while we ...
A. 5 March 2008: It is better to keep the door shut and locked tightly.
Answering him would be like opening the door ajar.
Giving him some false hopes
and the enemy may creep inside by hook or crook.
Just ignore all his phone calls and text.
Just d... (read in full...)
He doesn't understand how angry I am...but wouldnt you be??
Q. I would like to know if i am asking too much of my husband; from day one, i tried to keep things spicey in the b.room, i would lay rose petals on the bed, put candles out, dress provacativly, i made sure his meals were always there right after ...
A. 3 March 2008: Maybe , his mother does everything for him and he only knows how to take .
You have become an extension of his mother and he takes it the same way .
Not knowing that you are not his mother but a wife and have needs too.
You put him on a pede... (read in full...)
I feel like he does not listen to me...but he will listen if someone else says something, why?
Q. I have been living with my BF for a few years. One thing that I notice is that when I ask him to do things (such as update our business website, clean his workshop) he won't do it. It is only when one of our friends says something to him that he ...
A. 3 March 2008: I am sorry for you .His radio frequency is not in tuned with your broadcast frequency.
You are broadcasting on the wrong frequency and not on the same wavelength as his radio receiver. LOL!
A man has two sets of ears, the outer and inner ... (read in full...)
Is she pregnant or trapping him?
Q. I have a problem, I split from my 10 year relationship back in September as I was really unhappy, I was pregnant last year and had a miscarriage I was a emotional wrack and decided to end things with my boyfriend as I did not know what I wanted… A ...
A. 3 March 2008: The truth will come out later whether it is real or imagined.
You will have to ignore her on this and probably it is a fake call.
It is difficult to know you are pregnant from the 4th week.... (read in full...)
How can I break up with her knowing she would be devastated?
Q. I told my girlfriend that we needed a "break" for now, and only for a week and she cryed alot. How will i be able to tell her that i want to break up with her if my feelings dont change during that time? She will be 100 times more upset than ...
A. 3 March 2008: It is only your perceptions and your perceptions of her maybe wrong.
She could be stronger than you think.
She could be manipulative and make it difficult for you to leave her.
Women's wiles and the power of tears!... (read in full...)
He says he has commitment issues. He does not move on however, why?
Q. alright, so I have this guy and we have been on and off for a year so far, right now we are off and I dont know when we will ever be on again. See the thing is though we still hang out like good friends and everything...it goes more then friends, ...
A. 3 March 2008: After he does those stuff, waves of emotional loves veld up from his heart and he acts them out.
But those waves don't last. They only last a short while and he will be back to normal again.
You pressed his love button and he releases some of... (read in full...)
How do I get closure from a relationship if the person has disappeared?
Q. How do I get closure from a relationship if the person has just disappeared? I don't really want to call him, text him, or email him ... I just want answers but don't know how to get them. I know I will never get the answers I want to hear. I ...
A. 3 March 2008: You forgive him and bless him !RIP! Amen!... (read in full...)
I don't want her new friend to ruin our relationship or anything but at this point I truly feel like he is in the way.
Q. I was very attracted to a girl I was working with for a while. She had just gotten out of a relationship and we began hanging out and hitting it off amazingly well. After a few weeks of spending a lot of time together I told her how I felt about her ...
A. 3 March 2008: She could be playing him against you to see who is the better man.
Her actions do not bode well for you .
It is like you are expendable . She does not consider your feelings.
That is not a good feeling to have.
I guess you need to mir... (read in full...)
Was I too fast in sleeping with him? What did I do wrong?
Q. I met this guy at a party, we danced and later exchanged contacts, three days later I called him just to say hi coz I was interested, we later started texting each other. He asked me out for a date and went over to his place, I spent the night, no ...
A. 3 March 2008: I think he did not enjoy the sex and it turned him cold.This could most probably be the reason.... (read in full...)
Is this relationship a healthy one?
Q. Dear Cupid. I met my boyfriend October 2006 and I moved in with him January 2007. When we met he told me he was self employed and a few months into this relationship I noticed he was struggling financially. At times he asks me borrow him money to...
A. 3 March 2008: Do not believe any sob stories.
He is most probably lying and cheating you of your money.
It is your hard earned money and do not give away like that.
Don't be a fool or a sucker!... (read in full...)
Is this relationship a healthy one?
Q. Dear Cupid. I met my boyfriend October 2006 and I moved in with him January 2007. When we met he told me he was self employed and a few months into this relationship I noticed he was struggling financially. At times he asks me borrow him money to...
A. 3 March 2008: You need to ask yourself , "What is in this relationship for you ?'
Do you enjoy any benefits?
Don't be like a door mat!
It is probably your money and he spends on his buddies.... (read in full...)
I love her, but she thinks I'd damage her image!
Q. Hi guys,i'm in a big big problem... I love a girl and she's my friend... but when i told her about my feelings she said keh though i really really like you but not this, but as a friend...but i'm not even one of her normal friends...i'm not allowed ...
A. 3 March 2008: She is not ready for marriage yet.
You need to put off that marriage thought.
Continue to talk or sms to her for now.
Don't push her, allow her to walk at her pace.... (read in full...)
Please help me win my husband back!!
Q. Hi my husband has left me due to how I was treating him. Over the years I took him for granted and I would lower him and call him names whenever I was upset with him or even with other issues. It got really bad. The problem is that I never meant to ...
A. 3 March 2008: You need to be very patient and it may require some time .
Maybe , one or two years and be prepared for this long in your quest to win him back.
If you want a faster route, go to his best friend or his family members for help and ask them to ... (read in full...)
"God" told him to stop and pick me up...!!!!
Q. I got to know how you have been helping people sort out their problems and I believe by Gods Grace you will have a word for me on this case. I was on my way to an unknown destination and a man saw me an stopped and asked me where I was going to...
A. 3 March 2008: In Asia and Africa, there are mediums who pray or serve many Gods.
Some of these mediums are true but there are many mediums who prey on women , rape them or marry them and keep them as their sex slaves.
He is using God's name to cheat and tri... (read in full...)
Is it over? What is up with him? I don't understand!?
Q. My boyfriend of over 2 years decided over a month ago out of the blue that he wanted space. I gave that to him. I was devastated so headed back to my home country for a month to recover. During that time he would text and email and call ...
A. 3 March 2008: A friend is better than an enemy .
If you are friends , there is no obligations and responsibilities. You are a free agent.
As friends , there is an option to later reconnect back as g/f .If you cannot be friends, then there is no more hope.... (read in full...)
It hurts like hell that he doesn't care about me and acting cool doesn't seem to be working!
Q. Hi, I have been on this site before and got some good advice and it helped me loads. Please can someone give me some advice on my current situation? Well it's been 2 months since my partner walked out on me and my 6 month old son. At first I did...
A. 3 March 2008: Try to go out with a male friend on a date and be highly visible and see how he would react.
I bet he will come running back to you .
Do you still want him back or you have decided to give him up for good?
If you have given him up for go... (read in full...)
broke up with my BF yesterday because he thinks I'm a whore. But I'm crushed..advice?
Q. I broke up with my BF yesterday because he thinks I'm a whore. I never cheated on him. the thing is years before meeting him I had a friend with benefits, who a couple of years later met and introduced me to my now ex. I was quite young, 15 at ...
A. 3 March 2008: Sometimes , it is easy to give advice because one is detached and not involved in the case and we do not know the depth of the feelings of the poster.
Understand that it is not like black and white . There are grey areas.
What ever happened in... (read in full...)
My hubby says he loves my body but I ask the question how can you love a body that has strech marks?
Q. Hello every one I have had 3 children and I feel very self conscious about my body. my hubby says he loves my body but I ask the question how can you love a body that has strech marks? my belly used to be nice and flat now its like jelly and I ha...
A. 3 March 2008: We all wear and tear as we grow older.
He is not the same as when he married you.
Love covers a multitude of sins....
The most important thing is the beauty that comes from the inside.... (read in full...)
He snubbed me but said something was weighing on his mind, should I try and help him?
Q. Hey aunts, this is a bit long and confusing but please stick with me here :) There is this guy I met a few weeks back... we had sarcastic and flirty conversations, and he saw me every day for 4 days (he was really persistant), one of which was spe...
A. 3 March 2008: He would come a wooing if he is interested in you.
If he does not call you up, it is either he is busy or he has lose interest.
Why did he insisted that you come over to his house and then did not pay much attentions to you ?
Was it to show ... (read in full...)
I like her but not sure how she feels.
Q. I work with this girl that i am absolutley in love with. We are really good friends and it started to look as if she really liked me. I tried to feel her out and i was sure she did like me. I told her how i felt about her and at first she was ...
A. 3 March 2008: Give her time and let her settle with her ex first.
Remain her friend for now.Give her some space.... (read in full...)
How can I break up with her knowing she would be devastated?
Q. I told my girlfriend that we needed a "break" for now, and only for a week and she cryed alot. How will i be able to tell her that i want to break up with her if my feelings dont change during that time? She will be 100 times more upset than ...
A. 3 March 2008: In war, you either kill or be killed.
In love, you either be happy or unhappy.
The choice is yours..... (read in full...)
Am I selfish not to agree to wait?
Q. My bf and I have been dating for over a year now. We've never had sex before. But we have gone passed 3rd base. I've been wanting to have sex but he's against it. Wanting to save it until after marriage. I can see why he wants to wait but sometimes ...
A. 3 March 2008: If you think it is a noble cause to save sex until marriage, then you should not submit to your animal urges.There are other ways to release those sexual tensions.
If you want now and he does not , it means that your self is more importan... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and he's cheating! Do I just wait for him to come back or what? Advice?
Q. What should I do I'm nearly 6 months pregnant and there's going to be 2 kids involved. my daughter and unborn son. now the situation is that I was told the first time he cheated by him now this is the second time and he didn't tell me I caught him ...
A. 3 March 2008: If you are still dependent on him financially, then you need to stay on until the child is born and till you can stand on your own two feet.
If you are financially able to live on your own, then you have more options.
... (read in full...)
I don't know what she's doing on her nights out...
Q. I need to bounce this senario of you. What do you think is happening or what I should say or do about it? My girlfriend of 5 months goes out with work friends once or twice a month, problem is I don't know who they are, or where she goes. To make ...
A. 3 March 2008: It is called a ladies night out.
She goes out and let her hair down and have fun .Then she comes back and refreshed. It is like a R & R for her.
She would not want you to come with her as it will not make her feel free.
If she wants to... (read in full...)
Any advice about body language?
Q. Hi, I would like some advice about body language and whether im looking too far into things with this guy... he's the local vicar, young, good looking and single, after a service I was saying goodbyes he came up to me and gave me a gift (a mug, ...
A. 3 March 2008: By giving you a mug , he has shown some interest in you.
Nobody gives anything to someone if they don't feel anything for the receiver.
Get to spend more time with him or offer your help if he needs any.
... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to be upset here?
Q. Let me start at the beginning....I posted on here a while back about my hair....well I finally got my wig and it looks amazing! so today I went and emailed my BF and well...I think I'll just post the emails here....make it easier.... wore m...
A. 3 March 2008: He handled the situation badly. He could have said , "Hun ! You looked so gorgeous !" That would have got 100 marks from you .
He should have kept his own personal opinions to himself.
He needs to go for a crash course in how to be a hopeless... (read in full...)
Do you think I should tell him I want to have a baby instead of waiting and waiting?
Q. Me and my boyfirend have been together off and on for 5 years. Even when we were broken up, we were still together. Up until this summer, he met a girl and started hanging out with her. at the time i was not on any medication.. and i was not a very ...
A. 3 March 2008: Just let nature takes it's course. You do not have to tell anyone .
You only have to tell God that you want a child.
He will give you one when He thinks it is the right time.
Children are a blessings from God.... (read in full...)
My hubby says he loves my body but I ask the question how can you love a body that has strech marks?
Q. Hello every one I have had 3 children and I feel very self conscious about my body. my hubby says he loves my body but I ask the question how can you love a body that has strech marks? my belly used to be nice and flat now its like jelly and I ha...
A. 3 March 2008: Going to the gym or exercise will make you feel more sexy.
Don't be too judgmental or harsh on your body. Learn to love your body and do not compare to other women who have no kids or unmarried.
We all age and our body is subject to gravi... (read in full...)
My ex ran off with another girl, but he still loves me, what should I do?
Q. I was in a relationship with someone for 3 years. Things didn't work out and I didn't think I loved him. When we broke up, about 2 months later, I started feeling really bad. I love this person. I was told that he was cheating on me while we ...
A. 3 March 2008: When you think of him , just demonise him. He is a cheater, lier, untrustworthy, cold, cruel, ugly , etc.
You will get turned off when you think of all those negative things about him.How can you be so dumb to love a guy like him?
Cut off all b... (read in full...)
We are breaking-up but the feelings are still strong and my heart is shattered.
Q. I am really feeling sad today and hope someone can offer some words of wisdom? In short, I have had a very close emotional and sexual relationship with a guy for 2.5 years. Due to unavoidable circumstances we have to part our ways shortly. He is ...
A. 3 March 2008: Is he leaving for good or just temporary?
Far away in distance but not far away from the heart.
In today's borderless world , you can chat with him everyday online, MSN, Skype and e-mail.
He is always there even if you cannot touch him. Hi... (read in full...)
She says she will always love me...but things just never feel the same.
Q. I have an ex-girlfriend who ive dated for 4 years. She is a beautiful girl and im an average guy. It's been over a year since we've broken up and i still have feelings for her. We still talk and hook-up occasionally. I know that she goes out and ...
A. 3 March 2008: She is keeping you as a spare tire . When she finds some one better, you will be history.
At the moment, she has not found the better one yet.... (read in full...)
He snubbed me but said something was weighing on his mind, should I try and help him?
Q. Hey aunts, this is a bit long and confusing but please stick with me here :) There is this guy I met a few weeks back... we had sarcastic and flirty conversations, and he saw me every day for 4 days (he was really persistant), one of which was spe...
A. 3 March 2008: His problem is not your problem.
It is good that you see him for what he is at this early stage.
His treatment of you is inexcusable.... (read in full...)
He was emotional abusive, but now he won't leave me alone, what is it with this guy?
Q. I broke up with my ex fiance 5 months ago because he was emotionally abusive. Anyway, I told him to not contact me numerous times and he didn't listen, so I finally changed my number. Then, he messaged me on myspace two weeks ago saying how he ...
A. 3 March 2008: You could block his mail in your e-mail a/c.
He wants to come back to you and it is up to you if you want to give him another chance.
If you want him back, then you need to set your boundaries or terms.
If you do not , ask him to stop or you... (read in full...)
I didn't really want him but now we've split up, I do want him...
Q. I was dating this wonderful man. For some reason when i was with him i felt like i really didnt want to be with him. But now that we broke up I am miserable. The reason we broke up was b/c i was texting an ex of mine. And he ended up calling me a ...
A. 3 March 2008: You need to communicate with him. Then you will better understand him as he is a man and he does not know how you feel or think.... (read in full...)
How do I get over him and just be his friend for our daughters sake??
Q. My boyfriend of 4 years recently broke up with me. We were high school sweethearts who always had a complicated relationship. We got pregnant and had a baby in high school. He later proposed to me after the baby turned one and we planned to marry in ...
A. 3 March 2008: I am glad to hear that things are moving in the right directions for you. Your marriage has been given a new life line.
Be positive thinking and focus on his good sides and you will think of him in a positive way.... (read in full...)
I might have a second chance, how do I make it clear I won't break his heart again?
Q. A couple of months ago, an ex-boyfriend from 10 years ago emailed me from out of the blue to say hi. He was the sweetest guy that I have ever dated, but I was very immature at that time. I may have broken his heart as I was his first girlfriend. ...
A. 3 March 2008: How does one say sorry without bringing up any unpleasant memories of the past?
Actions speaks louder than words.
Be extra nice to him and he will know that you are sorry even if you did not say those apologetic words.
Do not mention it unl... (read in full...)
We love and trust each other but he always complains I'm too horny.
Q. I am 21 yrs old and my bf's 24. He always complain that i'm too horny. we both are in love each other and we trust each other. Please help...
A. 2 March 2008: Is he complaining or is he complimenting you?
Does it come across to you as a complaint or a compliment?
Some men can mean as a compliment when they said that.... (read in full...)
Do I have a future? Am I being too insistent? Why does he avoid to make plans?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend just over a year on and off and I am not sure how i feel about him anymore. He says he loves me and we see each other most evenings when he is home weekends, but through the day on a weekend he prefers to be with his ...
A. 2 March 2008: He has got everything from you . You have given everything to him on a platter.
He is just like a parasite...sucking the life blood out of you.... (read in full...)
How can I approach the guy I like when he is so popular and I am not??
Q. Hi. Theres a boy I really like that ive liked for years. Hes very popular and im so... hmmmm, not. I want to tell him without anyone knowing. I haven't seen him for a while. But i really need to tell him. How could I say it? How could I approach ...
A. 2 March 2008: Find out where he goes everyday , then ambush him and tell him what's on your mind. Mission accomplished!
But seriously , you should just be friends with him first. ... (read in full...)
He is sometimes lazy and immature....do you think it could ever work??
Q. I had been going out with my boyfriend for 2+ years. And we'd had a fall out because I felt he was being very lazy and not doing anything with his life at all. He only worked two half days a week and did nothing else. Its been about 3 months s...
A. 2 March 2008: He is not ambitious by your standards and you two don't seem to be compatible.
How can you two get along when you are always annoyed by his 'rock' stuff!
Or is it opposite attracts?... (read in full...)
If I walk away it will be like tossing her aside when she most needs me...but my heart needs to heal...what should I do??
Q. Hi, I'm considering giving my ex a text message to ask how she's doing. Earlier in the week she text me after we hadn't spoken for a little while to ask if we could have a chat. During the conversation she revealed that an uncle of hers had died. So...
A. 2 March 2008: She is cold and calculating.When she finds that you are no more beneficial , you will get your fragile heart broken again.
She will have no qualms about doing it again to you. When she is down , she only has to think of you , since she has no o... (read in full...)
My friends want me to buy stuff for them...or else they say they will spread rumours about me.
Q. I took my friends to our vacation villa last summer, after that they kept me asking to buy things for them. Once i refused and they threatend to spread rumours about me, so i had to keep on buying them stuff, what should i do??...
A. 2 March 2008: If you have done nothing wrong , why should you be scared of them?
Don't play their games. They are blackmailing you .
Stand firm and tell your parents if they do that.... (read in full...)
I didn't really want him but now we've split up, I do want him...
Q. I was dating this wonderful man. For some reason when i was with him i felt like i really didnt want to be with him. But now that we broke up I am miserable. The reason we broke up was b/c i was texting an ex of mine. And he ended up calling me a ...
A. 2 March 2008: Familiarity breeds contempt and absence makes the heart grows fonder.
When he is there, you do not learn how to appreciate him and when he is gone , you realized you missed him.
Each of us have a bad and a good side.
Try to focus on his g... (read in full...)
If I walk away it will be like tossing her aside when she most needs me...but my heart needs to heal...what should I do??
Q. Hi, I'm considering giving my ex a text message to ask how she's doing. Earlier in the week she text me after we hadn't spoken for a little while to ask if we could have a chat. During the conversation she revealed that an uncle of hers had died. So...
A. 2 March 2008: Steel your heart and walk away. She could be using you only .
Don't listen to all those sob stories.... (read in full...)
How do I get over him and just be his friend for our daughters sake??
Q. My boyfriend of 4 years recently broke up with me. We were high school sweethearts who always had a complicated relationship. We got pregnant and had a baby in high school. He later proposed to me after the baby turned one and we planned to marry in ...
A. 2 March 2008: It is always the case that the men think they are more matured when they start working.They do not know the real situation.
What is holding him from coming back to you ? From the way you described his actions, it looks like he wants to come bac... (read in full...)
How do I get over him and just be his friend for our daughters sake??
Q. My boyfriend of 4 years recently broke up with me. We were high school sweethearts who always had a complicated relationship. We got pregnant and had a baby in high school. He later proposed to me after the baby turned one and we planned to marry in ...
A. 1 March 2008: If you want to get over him , just be civil with him and do not get involved in his affairs . Do not chat with him except only those that concerns your daughter.
This way , you can break the bond with him as a former g/f.
Don't listen ... (read in full...)
broke up with my BF yesterday because he thinks I'm a whore. But I'm crushed..advice?
Q. I broke up with my BF yesterday because he thinks I'm a whore. I never cheated on him. the thing is years before meeting him I had a friend with benefits, who a couple of years later met and introduced me to my now ex. I was quite young, 15 at ...
A. 1 March 2008: When you fight verbally , you hurt each other and when you are hurt,you become irrational and have abnormal behaviour.
You lashed out at the other.The person you loved the most gets the full brunt of the hurricane force.With friends , you may ... (read in full...)
broke up with my BF yesterday because he thinks I'm a whore. But I'm crushed..advice?
Q. I broke up with my BF yesterday because he thinks I'm a whore. I never cheated on him. the thing is years before meeting him I had a friend with benefits, who a couple of years later met and introduced me to my now ex. I was quite young, 15 at ...
A. 1 March 2008: It is a lover's tiff. If he loves you , he will come back for you .
You both are young and hot headed.Let things cool down for a few days and it will be easier to speak to each other again.
If you do meet again , do act normal and try not to b... (read in full...)
I might have a second chance, how do I make it clear I won't break his heart again?
Q. A couple of months ago, an ex-boyfriend from 10 years ago emailed me from out of the blue to say hi. He was the sweetest guy that I have ever dated, but I was very immature at that time. I may have broken his heart as I was his first girlfriend. ...
A. 18 February 2008: If he is interested in you he will come and see you or talk with you more often. During this period , you will have to let him be in the driver's seat. If you take over, and up another gear, you may scare him off....... (read in full...)
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