Divorced and she uses the kids to hurt me...what can I do??
Q. Hi, I have been divorced with my wife for the last 4 years. She just uses the kids to hurt me. I don't know what to do. I was seeing them before for a little while and i had to work 1 weekend and she didn't like it. From that time she stopped me...
A. 20 March 2008: If she is not letting you see the kids, you can go there every
weekend and camp outside her place until she relents.
Your children will make her change her mind..
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Do I flirt back? My best friend acts like he likes me!
Q. ok, so my best guy friend is starting to act like he likes me. The only problems are that he flirts ALOT, so i can't really tell if he's being serious or not. We have gone out before and it didnt work out, but we are still really great friends. ...
A. 20 March 2008: That is a side of his personality .
Maybe you could looked at it from a hilarious angle and accept him that way.
You can be friends first and have fun.... (read in full...)
Is it possible he doesn't masturbate to the porn on his computer??
Q. I recently found some porn pictures of nude female models in pictures by themselves and a couple of videos of girls undressing on my boyfriend's computer. We have been dating almost 2 years, and from the time I met him he has always told me that ...
A. 19 March 2008: How can you be so presumptuous to say he masturbates to those nude pixs?
Are you him or are you God?
Just because you may have done it , does not mean that he also does.
Your logic is like , once a thief, then everyone is a thief in y... (read in full...)
Should I believe him that he won't cheat on me?
Q. I've been in a 7 year off and on relationship. We have 3 children. He has cheated on me before, but since we got back together this last time he swears up and down that he wont cheat on me and that he had alot of time to think about things. We even ...
A. 19 March 2008: Not all men are the same .
Just because of one swallow does not make a summer.
Just because your b/f cheated, you can say with authority that all men who cheat will cheat again.
That is a fallacy and a wrong assumption of all men.... (read in full...)
Should I believe him that he won't cheat on me?
Q. I've been in a 7 year off and on relationship. We have 3 children. He has cheated on me before, but since we got back together this last time he swears up and down that he wont cheat on me and that he had alot of time to think about things. We even ...
A. 19 March 2008: You can never trust anyone.
Even if another person you love , promised you that, you still cannot trust him.
No doubt, he has broken your trust once,
but is there any difference?
He is not a serial cheater, that means you should g... (read in full...)
Newly single and clueless! Could he like me?
Q. Hello. Completely clueless newly single woman here. Please help! I have a situation where I like a guy who is nephew to a woman I work with. I am good friends with their whole family and hang out with them pretty often. He is 5 years older than me ...
A. 19 March 2008: She is telling you that he is available and he likes you .
All those stories point to that direction.
Are you interested in him ?
Then you need to give him the come hither signals.... (read in full...)
How to attract males when overweight and unattractive?
Q. I am a 21 year old female who is very overweight and unattractive. I am attempting to tackle my weight issue, but it is going slowly. No men ever show any interest in me, while my other friends are constantly getting male attention or are in...
A. 18 March 2008: You need to have self confidence and a good self esteem.
Then you need to have a happy disposition and this will attract the males.
They will see your inner beauty and will not see your body.
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When I finally miss them, they seem to stop missing me!?
Q. Why is it whenever I go out with a guy in the beguining they act like they can't get enough of me, then that goes away and they seem to be fine to not see me every single day??? Usualy when I first meet a guy they are all over me and I am a bit u...
A. 18 March 2008: A man falls in love like a sack of potatoes.
A woman falls in love like a runaway train without brakes.
A man is quick to fall in love while it takes a longer time for a woman to fall in love.
Once she starts her engine , there will be n... (read in full...)
I feel more intensely by oral or fingering, than actual sex! Normal?
Q. I have a few things i've been wondering for a while and that... When me and my Boyfriend have sex, i don't really feel a lot, and we've tried other ways but i still don't feel that much, i always thought it would be this great feeling, but i f...
A. 18 March 2008: Orgasm is achieved by oral and manual stimulations of the clitoris.
There is no other way.
Not everyone is the same. Some are silent and some will let out some moans.
You are perfectly normal.
Some men may derive more pleasure when they h... (read in full...)
Should I apologise or is it a lost cause?
Q. Hi... I was seeing this guy over the summer who is at an Ivy league business school and I'm in art school so we're opposites. Anyway over the summer he took me out to some really nice dinners but I didn't act too interested. Then I realized I ...
A. 18 March 2008: You are welcome!
I don't see blueykisses response too.
Try looking in your account, your question ,most discussed or under Questions.
Maybe it will surface later.
... (read in full...)
His ex is GORGEOUS so now I have massive insecurities! How do I stop obsessing about her?
Q. This is very juvenile but its been driving me nuts so I am going to ask for help anyway... I found my boyfriend's ex-girlfriends myspace profile the other day (I admit, I searched for it out of curiosity). And she is GORGEOUS. And smart. And funn...
A. 18 March 2008: Don't compare for it will never end.
Each of us is unique in our own ways.
He preferred you over her because of her infidelity.
That is a crime most men won't forgive.
So what she has a great body but she has no soul?
Your soul is mor... (read in full...)
He has slept with my best friend and we have a newborn baby! Now he "disappears", what is going on?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 1/2 years. He has cheated on me twice that I know of. Once when we all got drunk very early in the relationship and he slept with my best friend at the time. The other was 2 years into the relationship ...
A. 18 March 2008: Could it be technical problems ?
Maybe you could ask him why he did not answer your phone or was he aware that you phoned him.
You need to communicate this to him rather than go speculating about the why's?... (read in full...)
Do I flirt back? My best friend acts like he likes me!
Q. ok, so my best guy friend is starting to act like he likes me. The only problems are that he flirts ALOT, so i can't really tell if he's being serious or not. We have gone out before and it didnt work out, but we are still really great friends. ...
A. 18 March 2008: Do you enjoy flirting with him or his attentions?
Maybe, this time it is different.
You can give it another shot and see how it goes.... (read in full...)
Could his smoking weed be contributing to the fact I'm not falling pregnant?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 6 years now we have always had unprotected sex. I have never been pregnant. He always smokes weed, do you think that has something to do with it?...
A. 18 March 2008: We can only speculate here but for the accurate answer ,
you both need to go for a medical check up.
This will confirm the real cause of why you cannot get pregnant.... (read in full...)
Newly single and clueless! Could he like me?
Q. Hello. Completely clueless newly single woman here. Please help! I have a situation where I like a guy who is nephew to a woman I work with. I am good friends with their whole family and hang out with them pretty often. He is 5 years older than me ...
A. 18 March 2008: He has got the latent interest in you but he is unsure about your part, could be your stand offish attitude which gives him the wrong signals.
He fears moving too fast and he is trying to read your signals.
Is it red or green light from you? ... (read in full...)
Should I apologise or is it a lost cause?
Q. Hi... I was seeing this guy over the summer who is at an Ivy league business school and I'm in art school so we're opposites. Anyway over the summer he took me out to some really nice dinners but I didn't act too interested. Then I realized I ...
A. 18 March 2008: Absence makes the heart grows fonder.
Sometimes we don't know what we miss until they are gone.
I am glad that you took the initiative to write and bridge back the connection with him.
Nothing venture , nothing gained.
I wish you al... (read in full...)
My husband has told me he wants an "open marriage" but I can't do this, please help!
Q. My husband has been cheating with my sister the whole time we have been together and married, it's been awful and one trys to stop but my husband won't let it. He wants both! Now she had a child to him so when I try to get him to want only me he ...
A. 18 March 2008: You can stay and fight or you can pack your bags and leave.
Which is more easier for you?
If you cannot leave and cannot win,
then you will have to take the crumbs and swallow your pride.... (read in full...)
Does anyone else have a weird looking vagina???
Q. I am sure that this has been asked time and time again, but I really worry if my boyfriend is telling the truth about my.... vagina. You see it "sticks out" well the lips do. I tell my boyfriend that I need to get it fixed, but he says it is normal ...
A. 18 March 2008: CANAL 96 AND PETTER HEGRE PRESENT:
THE Y PROJECT COLLECTION
There is a vagina art museum at this link;-
http://www.canal96.com/extra/caviar/pussies/... (read in full...)
Relationship Advice Sought.
Q. My partner and I have been together for twenty years. We have a good relationship and he is a wonderful man and treats me well. We take good care of one another and together we share all the relationship duties : mortgage, bills, groceries, ...
A. 18 March 2008: It depends on how deep is your love for the new man .
Can it over come the challenge of the unknown world ?
There is no untoward incident to force you to take this drastic step for now.
Maybe , you are not ready yet to take that decision.... (read in full...)
Does my ex want me back again?
Q. Okay so me and my ex girlfriend were on and off for about a year then we just stopped dating... then just talkin and seeing each other every now and then for the past 6 months (just as friends). Now all of a sudden she wants to see me more often and ...
A. 18 March 2008: If you are comfortable accepting her back ,
then let her slowly comeback into your life.
Forgive and forget whatever happens in the past.
Start all over again.... (read in full...)
I gave him a hug and I can't stop thinking about him...
Q. I used to hate this boy named Kyle so much.I best friend with Timmy. Timmy is one of his friends. Timmy's friends were nice to me at 1st now they tease me abit when Timmy leaves they tell me I can;t sit with them.kyle always stares at me,Teases ...
A. 18 March 2008: Your pent up emotions are now coming to the fore and he is coming out of his closet.
If you like him , give him the chance.... (read in full...)
Is it her choice to be able to keep the baby or her mom's?
Q. I'm 18 and my girlfriend is 16 her mother let me live in their household and she knew we were having sex... some issues happened and I moved out. Also her mother will not let us see each other anymore.... and we love each other.... but the real ...
A. 18 March 2008: I think she is too young to decide for herself unless she is a very headstrong girl .
She would most probably follow her mother's decisions.... (read in full...)
Should I stop this relationship based on sex?
Q. Hi i'm in a new relationship yeah for me! I'ts been a while! but all we have in common is great sex. I know he is only calling me because of this but I don't care cause I like having sex with him . Should I stop this I know it's bad? right?...
A. 18 March 2008: You may like it now but I hope when this ends , you won't feel cheap , used or dirty.
... (read in full...)
Is he with me only for sex?
Q. is he just with me for sex? i've been seeing this guy for about 5 months(im 21 hes 26), we went on a few dates then i started sleeping with him (after about 3 weeks), since then i mostly go round to his, and we always have some form of sex (eve...
A. 18 March 2008: To know that answer, just with hold sex for a few weeks and see how it would affect your relationships.
... (read in full...)
I'm looking for subtle but effective ways to make my BF jealous, because he also disrespects me!
Q. My guy likes to try and make me jealous by talking about how hot other women are and flirting with women sometimes. I never give him the satisfaction of letting him know it bothers me after all what's good for the goose is good for the gander. But I ...
A. 18 March 2008: Get someone to send you some flirty messages on your phone and leave it around and he will snoop on your phone for sure.
That would do the job but beware that you may get more than you bargained for.
... (read in full...)
How to get your partner to do more around the house?
Q. I'd like some tips for persuading my partner to do more housework. I work full time and he is at home with our son. The only chore he has agreed to do apart from childcare while I'm out is washing. But in practice he doesnt do it and we ...
A. 18 March 2008: Treat him nice and treat him good and he would respond back in kind.
Walk that extra mile for him and he will not forget your good deeds.
Humans respond better through kindness and good deeds.
Praise him , praise him and don't criticize or c... (read in full...)
Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a bit now, and I'm ready to take it a step up.
Q. Okay, so heres the problem. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a bit now, and I'm ready to take it a step up. I DONT want to have sex or anything! But I want a step up from just quick kisses, holding hands and hugs. I'm almost 100% posi...
A. 18 March 2008: When you kiss, you linger on longer, you hold hands longer and you hug more affectionately and longer.
Let your hair down and let it flow naturally.... (read in full...)
My partner didn't want to spend as much time together as I did, one of the reasons why I ended it...suggestions?
Q. My partner and I were together for 3 years. We were engaged and living together for about 2 1/2 years. About 3 months ago we broke up. One of the major reasons we broke up is because I didn't feel she was giving enough to the relationship. ...
A. 18 March 2008: This mountain is too high for you to climb.
If you are not prepared to ascend further,
it would be better to descend and forget about her.... (read in full...)
She still likes her ex - can this work?
Q. me and my partner have only been together for about 2 months now. in the beginning everything was going on fine and then slowly i began to see a slight change to her.had a feeling it was to do with her ex through over hearing phone calls and also ...
A. 17 March 2008: You will always be second best!
If you like this position , then stay .
You are the spare tire ,just in case she gets spurned by the ex again.
Being needy or clingy is a turn off to both males and females alike.... (read in full...)
He lies about porn, can I trust him?
Q. I am currently with my bf of 6 months, we're living together already and although 6 months may not seem that long, it's like we've known each other for years. He was my first everything really and have given up allot to be with him properly. I am ...
A. 17 March 2008: You need to know that a man and a woman thinks differently and they may not share the same perspective about porn.
You may have a right to think this way but he does not think like you because he is simply a male and has the male hormones... (read in full...)
Dating a younger man in secret..am I wasting my time?
Q. I am a 37 yo divorced single parent of two children. I have been dating a coworker for the last 5 months and it is a complete secret at work. We have a lot of fun together, but I wonder if there can really be a future with us because of the age ...
A. 17 March 2008: Your relationship is like a ping pong ball bobbing up and down in the ocean and without any directions.
How long do you want to move from that position?
You need to have directions of where you are going.
Otherwise, time and tides wait for ... (read in full...)
Some things happened between us and I called off the engagement. Will he change on his own?
Q. So I am an 18 year old young woman and I am in a very happy go lucky relationship with a man that I plan to marry after I graduate in June. Most of the time I am happy with him and the way things are. He makes me feel so complete. Like the way I am...
A. 17 March 2008: Ask him to speak the truth and do not be judgmental with him.
This would encourage him to speak the truth.
People tell lies because , they do not want to be in trouble or get scolded.
Some lie in order to make themselves more importan... (read in full...)
My partner didn't want to spend as much time together as I did, one of the reasons why I ended it...suggestions?
Q. My partner and I were together for 3 years. We were engaged and living together for about 2 1/2 years. About 3 months ago we broke up. One of the major reasons we broke up is because I didn't feel she was giving enough to the relationship. ...
A. 17 March 2008: You come from different family backgrounds and culture.
You need to look at it from her perspective and try to understand her.
In love, you do not demand or expect your partner to satisfy all your needs.
Love without expecting anything in re... (read in full...)
Why would a guy do this?
Q. Why would a guy you hooked up with and was dating for three months and you know he loves you and you love him, stop calling you because you told him you didn't know if you was free to go out with him on Friday, and that you would call him?...
A. 17 March 2008: Maybe , he took it personally or a rejection from you. I am only speculating and it is better you ask from the lion's mouth for the real reasons. Call him and feel him out. ... (read in full...)
He forced me to give him oral, I froze and acted as demanded... what now?
Q. Is this wrong? I was hanging out with a college hallmate and asking about homework. He kissed and touched me before one night when I was tipsy, but this night he started touching and I said "I don't think this is a good idea." I kept saying that...
A. 17 March 2008: No one should force anything against your will.
No one can control your spirit.
You should have been more assertive .
Tell him to stop or give him a tight slap on the face to wake him up .
If he continues, then it is rape.
It is defini... (read in full...)
Should I call this girls father and tell him she is living with a married man??
Q. My husband and I have been having trouble for a while, initially stemming from financial problems which led to every other problem imaginable. Neither of us were truly working on things. Right when we were about to turn a corner, he apparent...
A. 17 March 2008: He will get his dues ,for what goes around , comes around.
Do not get your hands dirty over him.
Do not do unto others if you do not want others to do unto you.
... (read in full...)
He gets annoyed at the littlest things but has a great personality and I love him.
Q. Hey guys, i really need your help my boyfriend is allowed to say stuff, go out, talk to girls and stuff like that but the thing is im not!! I really love my boyfriend and i have put up with him for 8 months now. i cant confront him about it because ...
A. 17 March 2008: Are you his slave? How come what he does and you cannot do?
This is like a master and slave relationship.
Are you not born equal?
Get to know more guys out there and you can find many more guys much better than him.... (read in full...)
I moved to Spain to win back my ex...but she is in love with another man. Any advice??
Q. Hey Friends!!! My problem is pretty basic really. I'm American, currently living/working in Spain. I came here, originally, to try and "win" back my X. Didn't work, and she's in love and happy with another guy. I suppose, I'm mostly over it, ...
A. 17 March 2008: It is better to have loved and failed than not to love at all.
You tried your best but she was not meant to be yours.
Maybe , it is a blessings in disguise.
Hey! There are so many pretty girls in Spain.
Enjoy and have fun.
... (read in full...)
Divorced and she uses the kids to hurt me...what can I do??
Q. Hi, I have been divorced with my wife for the last 4 years. She just uses the kids to hurt me. I don't know what to do. I was seeing them before for a little while and i had to work 1 weekend and she didn't like it. From that time she stopped me...
A. 17 March 2008: Make peace with her and have a friendly talk with her and discuss about the children's welfare and future together.
You don't want them to grow up without a father and she knows that too.
It would be better if you two can talk and settle this ... (read in full...)
My husband has sex with me when I'm asleep....is it rape or "silent sex"?
Q. my husband had sex with me when I was drunk and asleep - I woke up as he pulled out and was climbing off me, cleaning himself up with tissues, I have confronted him and he says he thought I was awake - there is no way he thought I was awake as we ...
A. 17 March 2008: Spousal rape is also called marital rape and often wrongly conflated with partner rape or intimate partner sexual assault (IPSA).
Because there is a widely held view that a man or woman surrenders consent upon entering a marriage, the law has ... (read in full...)
Should I be concerned my about my boyfriend being a "cross-dresser"?
Q. My boyfriend told me before we got together that he was a cross dresser, it didn't concern me at the time, but after a year he's still not introduced me to his other personality and i'm scared that he's doing something behind my back. He's mentioned ...
A. 17 March 2008: A cross dresser could be just a fetish whereas a transvestite is a transgender or transexual who have female characteristics.
They are also a human being and it is just that their feminine side is more pronounced.
They are normal and not p... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to confront him about this money he owes me?
Q. My daughter's dad called today to tell me Fed Ex has delivered a package. His sister and mother sent his daughter a new pair of shoes, along with a doll house and a brand new labtop. It was nice of them to send it to them. What I am trying to s...
A. 16 March 2008: The gift from his sister and mother was a gift of love to his daughter.
You should separate this issue from the debts he owed you.
You could talk to him about financial help and his responsibilities and if you have tried and it does not work... (read in full...)
Is it possible he doesn't masturbate to the porn on his computer??
Q. I recently found some porn pictures of nude female models in pictures by themselves and a couple of videos of girls undressing on my boyfriend's computer. We have been dating almost 2 years, and from the time I met him he has always told me that ...
A. 16 March 2008: And, also, is it possible for a man to look at nude images and not get aroused and/or masturbate?
[Unquote]
Not all men are the same.
It depends on a man's sexual drive.
If he is highly sexed, he maybe aroused and whether he will
mast... (read in full...)
He says he doesn't know what to do and I surely don't.... Should I wait and give him time or should I just move on?
Q. I met this guy at a work function about 6 months ago. We got along great from the 1st day. At the end of the week I went back to my home and he went to his (a few hrs away from me). We talked just about every day since online and on the phone ab...
A. 16 March 2008: Forget him and move on. This relationship will not bear fruit but only forbidden ones.
You will become the temptress if you stay on and if the family breaks apart, you will be the sole cause of it.
What you sow , so shall you reap.... (read in full...)
My husband's affair...
Q. I've been married for 13 years but been with my husband for 16 years in total. A few months ago I discovered he had been having an affair with a 13 years younger woman with 6 children, we had no children together but he had 4 from his previous ...
A. 16 March 2008: Just get up and walk away from all his lies and deceits.
Harden your heart and cut him off completely.
Better to be alone for now than to live in a deceitful world .
He cannot give you happiness.
Embrace your future without him.
He i... (read in full...)
Should I apologise or is it a lost cause?
Q. Hi... I was seeing this guy over the summer who is at an Ivy league business school and I'm in art school so we're opposites. Anyway over the summer he took me out to some really nice dinners but I didn't act too interested. Then I realized I ...
A. 12 March 2008: You were a bit pushy and he instinctively withdrew from you . Maybe after some cooling off, he may find you back again. Keep your fingers crossed. ... (read in full...)
Should I apologise or is it a lost cause?
Q. Hi... I was seeing this guy over the summer who is at an Ivy league business school and I'm in art school so we're opposites. Anyway over the summer he took me out to some really nice dinners but I didn't act too interested. Then I realized I ...
A. 11 March 2008: An apology does not cost you much.
Whether he returns to your side or not , you can get closure.
There is nothing to lose but much to gain ..
That is if you like him and want him back.... (read in full...)
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