Should I apologise or is it a lost cause?
Q. Hi... I was seeing this guy over the summer who is at an Ivy league business school and I'm in art school so we're opposites. Anyway over the summer he took me out to some really nice dinners but I didn't act too interested. Then I realized I ...
A. 18 March 2008: You are welcome!
I don't see blueykisses response too.
Try looking in your account, your question ,most discussed or under Questions.
Maybe it will surface later.
... (read in full...)
Should I apologise or is it a lost cause?
Q. Hi... I was seeing this guy over the summer who is at an Ivy league business school and I'm in art school so we're opposites. Anyway over the summer he took me out to some really nice dinners but I didn't act too interested. Then I realized I ...
A. 18 March 2008: Absence makes the heart grows fonder.
Sometimes we don't know what we miss until they are gone.
I am glad that you took the initiative to write and bridge back the connection with him.
Nothing venture , nothing gained.
I wish you al... (read in full...)
Should I apologise or is it a lost cause?
Q. Hi... I was seeing this guy over the summer who is at an Ivy league business school and I'm in art school so we're opposites. Anyway over the summer he took me out to some really nice dinners but I didn't act too interested. Then I realized I ...
A. 12 March 2008: You were a bit pushy and he instinctively withdrew from you . Maybe after some cooling off, he may find you back again. Keep your fingers crossed. ... (read in full...)
How can I tell him to keep his comments to himself without being nasty?
Q. I get along with my new boyfriend ok but he is not religious. He says there is no point and that I have no freedom. This upsets me that he has no faith but I try to ignore the comments. He believes we came from monkeys I do not. He believes in stem ...
A. 11 March 2008: We are all unique and different.
We do not think alike sometimes.
You can just tell him straight that you do not agree with his views and you don't have to argue about it.
Agree to disagree.
When you eat a fish , you eat the meat and thro... (read in full...)
My boyfriend likes to choke me during sex.
Q. My boyfriend likes to choke me during sex. I told my female friend this and she said "thats hot" Is this normal? Why do people like this?...
A. 11 March 2008: Don't play with your life.
It may give you the near death experience or the heightened state of orgasm but it could be very dangerous.
One moment longer and you will become another statistics.... (read in full...)
I always get guys worked up about having sex. But when it comes down to having sex. I chicken out. Any tips?
Q. I always get guys worked up about having sex. But when it comes down to having sex. I chicken out. Any tips?...
A. 11 March 2008: You need to break down your mental block in your head.
You would need a stronger will to carry on..
Psyche your mind.... (read in full...)
Should I apologise or is it a lost cause?
Q. Hi... I was seeing this guy over the summer who is at an Ivy league business school and I'm in art school so we're opposites. Anyway over the summer he took me out to some really nice dinners but I didn't act too interested. Then I realized I ...
A. 11 March 2008: An apology does not cost you much.
Whether he returns to your side or not , you can get closure.
There is nothing to lose but much to gain ..
That is if you like him and want him back.... (read in full...)
Please help me to convince my family!
Q. I have been in a relationship for the past two years with a guy I love so much. We intend to marry but my family is against his religion (we are not from the same religion.) So how do I convince my family to say yes to our marriage for I cannot g...
A. 10 March 2008: There is no way you can change their opinions.
Marriage is about leaving your family for your love to start your own family.
If you love him more than your family , there is no other way ,
except to get married and hope someday your parents... (read in full...)
Do you think we'll ever get it together?
Q. I met a guy after splitting with a long term ex we had fun but I didn't want a relationship. Anyway we stayed friends time went on and I was ready for a relationship, trouble was he had met someone by this time. We stayed friends and then...
A. 10 March 2008: You have planted the seed of love in his heart.
Will it germinate or not?
It will be up to you to water that seed if you want it to grow.
The seed will need some time to grow.
If it is a good soil , it will..
God Bless you!... (read in full...)
Help! I want a baby soon and my husband wants one way later...
Q. My husband and I have been married for 2 and a half years and we have a wonderful son who is going to turn 2 in april. When my son turned one I started getting this feeling that it was time to have another baby. This feeling grew stronger over time ...
A. 10 March 2008: Children are a blessings from God.
If God can give you children , he will provide you the means .
This is what I belief.
There is an interesting article here on sex and children from a Christian perspective.
http://www.nfpoutreach.org/... (read in full...)
Should I confess to my wife of my affair, and then move away?
Q. I'm 45, married with 2 kids. A couple of years ago I had an affair with a married woman who is one of a couple who were our friends. We planned to tell our partners, but a year ago, she ended the relationship suddenly, and completely, just after it ...
A. 10 March 2008: Whatever happened cannot be undone.
This is your cross , you will have to bear alone.
You can confess to God but not to your wife .
Just leave everything nice and clean.
Do not opened that can of worm.
For it can destroy everything y... (read in full...)
Is "I will get back to you" a promising answer?
Q. Hi I am just trying to read a girls mind, I know very difficult at times!!! I have this work collegue, we don't work in same place just for same company, I have recently got to know this girl and have been texting a bit and talking. She ha...
A. 10 March 2008: It means , you still have a chance and the door is not closed on you.
It will depend on the timing and the opportunity available for her .
You got to keep on sending those invitations.... (read in full...)
Family misunderstandings, how can I solve them?
Q. How do i deal with an uncle that gets onto my boyfriend from just talking to me through a window? I was sitting in my room with my cousin when my boyfriend came by to talk to me, well my other cousin and my brother called my aunt and told her that...
A. 10 March 2008: It looks like a prison to me.
If you can move to your grandma , it could be better or could be worse.
But you could give a try living with your grandma and see how it goes.... (read in full...)
Can holding onto gifts from an ex be a hindrance to future relationships?
Q. I have this promise ring and necklace that my ex boyfriend gave me and I was wondering if me not giving it back to him had something to do with why I'm not with a certain guy?? I know this sounds silly but can holding onto something like this from ...
A. 10 March 2008: Yes! If the guy is immature and irrational.
He does not want you to associate with the old.
He feels insecure and sleepless over those gifts.
Some guys are but mostly women have this traits.
Women would asked in their hearts , why are ... (read in full...)
My gf won't admit she cheated on me, but proof is on it's way. What now?
Q. ok so I have been dating this girl for a while. (9 months). I love her very much. I worked away from home last summer and I returned to find a letter from a guy that said that my gf had cheated on me with him and that he thought I should know. He ...
A. 10 March 2008: If you really care about her, you should not have proceeded to find this other guy.
You would just throw that letter away.
You would rather believe a stranger than your g/f.
Even if you know the truth, what can you do?
Do you want to br... (read in full...)
Everything has been OK until I found out he was cheating. I forgave him but he acts distant now, how can we solve this?
Q. I have been dating this guy for 6 months.He is divorced with one kid.His job requires him to travel a lot within and outside the country. Everything has been going on okay until i found out he was cheating. He went away for a seminar and apprantl...
A. 10 March 2008: Give him some time to sort out that mess .
He could be confused and unstabilized in his thoughts and emotions.
Just be loving and uncritical of him.... (read in full...)
How can I bring my dad round to accepting my boyfriend?
Q. I am dating a 21 year old i am 15, we have been dating for 4 months, we really like each other and we have a special connection. He has not tryed to get me into bed he respects my choices my mum didn't like us dating a first, but now all of my mum's ...
A. 10 March 2008: Most dads want their daughters to be happy .
Your dad would not want you to be sad.
Initially , he may not accept that idea but in time he will
come around seeing your happiness is more paramount.
He has been an absent dad and sorry, w... (read in full...)
My friend thinks my boyfriend only wants sex. What do you think?
Q. Me and my bf are both 19 and we have been going out for 1 month and 1 week. One of my friends met him last night and she thinks hes a bit of a player. She thinks this because he has asked me if I wanted to sleep with him so early on...I said no. I...
A. 10 March 2008: If a guy were to ask you that question ,
you would wonder what is his motives?
If you are a positive person , you would think
he wants to know what kind of gal I am.
Since you answered no, then you will know sooner or later what kind o... (read in full...)
When we're together I'm his priority, when we're apart he seems uninterested, why?
Q. I'm 17. My boyfriends 16. He's my first boyfriend, we've been together 10 months. We see each other every day. When we're together he's great, he's loving and always puts me first. But when we're apart he seems really uninterested in me. Is this ...
A. 10 March 2008: Men have a single track mind.
When you are there, he will concentrate on you .
When you are not there, he will concentrate on other things and put you on the back burner.
To him , there is a time for you and a time for his other interests.... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant and how do I tell my mother if this is the case?
Q. me and my boyfriend had sex a couple of times with a condom and once without it but it wasnt proper he stuck his penis in like half way twice, lately i have been feeling sick and we both think i might be pregnant. how am i supposed to tell my mother ...
A. 10 March 2008: Best to confirm if you are really pregnant first before you want to deal that issue with your mum.
Get a pregnancy test on your 5th or 6th week.
If confirmed positive, just let your mom knows.... (read in full...)
If I leave him I won't cope on my own financially and I'm also afraid he would committ suicide. What should I do?
Q. Dear Cupids I'm having problems in my relationship. I don't know if i love the guy i'm going out with. We are togeher for almost a year, but we keep on fighting, i don't even want to have sex with him anymore. I'm afraid if i leave him he wil...
A. 10 March 2008: 90% are just threats and you should not fear his suicide.
or he would have been dead after his first breakup.
If you are working , you should be able to live on your own .
If not, look for a job and be financially independent.
If the a... (read in full...)
Since moving in together we just fight about little things and it's getting me down. Please help!
Q. I moved in with my boyfirend about 6 months ago and we keep having these stupid rows over little things. I can't take it anymore I feel like screaming at him, he's cracking me up... I love him to bits but I just wish he didn't nit pick on ...
A. 10 March 2008: The time is not right to stay together.
Best is to stay apart for now.
There is too much conflict and trivial issues can flare up which is not good for your relationship.
Sorry , you two are just like a cat and dog world.
... (read in full...)
Since moving in together we just fight about little things and it's getting me down. Please help!
Q. I moved in with my boyfirend about 6 months ago and we keep having these stupid rows over little things. I can't take it anymore I feel like screaming at him, he's cracking me up... I love him to bits but I just wish he didn't nit pick on ...
A. 10 March 2008: If you moved in with him , you will have to obey his rules .
Just follow them like he wants and there will be no problems.
Give and take .
Lastly , if you cannot take it, then move out.... (read in full...)
Crush error!!!please please help
Q. Hey as u guys know i told u abt my crush..but the solutions i got confused me further..just cause i called him a nerd u guys thought he is ugly..let me correct the fact he is the hottest guy in college and all the girls run after him but he doesn't ...
A. 10 March 2008: You don't have to be in the same class.
When a boy and a girl meets,
there will be chemistry and sparks will fly.
Ask him about his hobby or interests.
Keep asking him questions on anything.
Talk about recent issues in your scho... (read in full...)
We're fighting a lot about my freedom, what should I do?
Q. My life is so confusing, i'm dating a muslim and im obviously auzzie and he has so many rules no talking to guys at ALL!! i have to wear what he says i'm not allowed out of the house unless its with him. we're always fighting over the tiniest ...
A. 10 March 2008: Do you want to be controlled like a sheep?
Do you value your personal freedom?
Do you want your spirit to be free?
Then why do you want him for?
Love is happiness and if it is painful,
then it is not true love.... (read in full...)
I'm trapped by my love for him.
Q. I'm so bored at home, my boyfriend doesn't want me going out places without him, he doesn't let me out of the house, he doesn't let me talk to any guys, we fight over the littlest things. Then after he has a smoke he thinks it's all okay and i give ...
A. 10 March 2008: He is mentally and emotionally abusing you .
He is controlling you .
Get back control of your life.
No one should control your spirit.
This is not love.
This is possessive love.
Sorry , this is too high a price to pay for your love.... (read in full...)
I'm shy but I really like him. Help!!
Q. I've always been shy when it comes to guys... I have a real lack of confidence and I always seem to be the one falling for then but never the other way around. But recently I met this guy and I really like him and people say that he likes me too. ...
A. 10 March 2008: You should have accepted and go out and have fun whether you don't ice skate or not.
It is not the same when you have him.
The next time he ask you out, if ever he asked again,go out.
He may take it as a rejection and may give you up.
... (read in full...)
He always has porn on when he makes love to me...
Q. I was sexually abused as a child and as a result I have problems in bed. I have had therapy on and off for years. I think I am doing better, but my partner tells me I am not, he has told me I am boring in bed and if it wasn't for porn he would not ...
A. 10 March 2008: There are some men or couples who like making love with the porn on.
It gives them a 'kick.'
You could either tolerate it or you refuse to have sex with him.
Since you have chosen the latter, your relationship have suffered.
If you thin... (read in full...)
He slept with a girl I met in the pub...should I forgive him or move on alone??
Q. I met the most wonderful guy on holiday 10 months ago and i fell head over heels for him. He is amazing, and although i am only 18 i want to spend the rest of my life with him. However, last night he hurt me in the worst possible way. He phoned me ...
A. 10 March 2008: Is your love for him strong enough to forgive him and give him another chance?
Do not act in anger and later regret your decision.
Think carefully .
Alcohol can impair your thinking process.... (read in full...)
Does anyone else here agree with me that it was inappropriate for her to slap her brother on the butt?
Q. Like a lot of women, my girlfriend really likes a tight butt on a guy. Whenever I'm naked around her, she always either pats me on my butt or softly slaps my butt. This usually happens when she's behind me. Well, recently she told me that when she...
A. 10 March 2008: It depends on which side of the divide you stand..
I don't think it is inappropriate.
It is normal in some families.
They are just being playful and nothing more.
It may offend some but then , they have their own rights.
It is their... (read in full...)
How can I talk to my bf about sex??
Q. I am 16 and i'm a virgin and my boyfriend is 15. I have, for a while now, been thinking about sex with him. I would feel embarrased talking to him about it. I know that when we've been kissing before on my bed he had an erection and was embarras...
A. 10 March 2008: In this arena, no words are needed.
You either lead him on to the sacrificial alter
or he comes on strongly and you don't resist or have token resistance only.
... (read in full...)
I need some relationship advice please!
Q. i like this girl and i thinks she likes me but I'm getting mixed messages. She on msn and sent stuff like love you and sends me kisses then suddnley she stoped emailing me?? and now I think she has got a boyfriend??? I am very lost. I really like ...
A. 10 March 2008: If she has got a b/f , then she is no more interested in you .
Find someone else.
Don't bang your head against the wall.
Move on.... (read in full...)
I'm in a gay/lesbian relationship and want to start my own family.
Q. Do you think that if your in a gay/lesbian relationship and want to start you own family, is this good? I see a lot of criticism on that. What is your opinion? ...
A. 10 March 2008: There are always two sides of a coin.
It depends on where you stand.
If you feel the strong urge to have kids,
then by all means have your family.
It is you and not the society .
You make your own happiness.
... (read in full...)
Do you think we'll ever get it together?
Q. I met a guy after splitting with a long term ex we had fun but I didn't want a relationship. Anyway we stayed friends time went on and I was ready for a relationship, trouble was he had met someone by this time. We stayed friends and then...
A. 10 March 2008: A case of wrong timing but it is better late than never.
He will come around...... (read in full...)
When he is around me he always cuddles me and starts kissing me he tells me I need to get over him but how can I when he's doing this to me?
Q. Hi my ex boyfriend and I split up about a month and a half ago we have stayed close friends and still see each other a lot. When he is around me he always cuddles me and starts kissing me he tells me I need to get over him but how can I when he's ...
A. 10 March 2008: He has no feelings for you or he would not have said that.
You are just a sex object to him minus the emotions.
Push him away and do not allow him to touch you.
Stay at a distance if you are only friends.... (read in full...)
We both cheated and now we're on a break. Should I leave altogether?
Q. What do i do? Me and my girlfriend have been together for 5 months and she cheated early in the relationship. A few weeks ago i cheated. We are currently taking a break for a month so do i stick it out or do i move on?...
A. 10 March 2008: If you like her, you stay ,
if you don't like her , you leave.
It is your choice.
Both of your cheat, fair and square.... (read in full...)
Why did he go to the toilet and why did he stop if he's getting excited?
Q. Hi, I'm 17 an me an my boyfriend of a year haven't slept together yet cos we both don't want me to get pregnant so we are going to wait. I don't know much about boys and erections and stuff so please can you explain: we were kissing on the bed the ...
A. 10 March 2008: If he did not stop, the sex demon in him will take over the driver's seat and it won't be him anymore .
He could go all the way and so will you and later will regret it.
Emotions and sex are very powerful forces and once unleashed, no po... (read in full...)
I need to move on with my life, because I see no future with her. Please help me!
Q. I can't get my ex out of my head. She split up with me almost a year and 4 months ago, and I still think about her every day. I worry I'll never find and love another one like her. What can I do to stop dwelling over my break up for good?? Anything ...
A. 10 March 2008: You need to forgive her and focus on the present.
Think more positively.
Focus your mind on your aspirations in life.
What is it you want in life?
Whenever her name comes up , focus on your priorities.... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant although we were both clothed?...
Q. Three days ago...i went to a dance party..and i had been drinking...and i think i got pretty tipsy...and i flirted and dirty danced with a guy...we were pretty much humping and grinding....and i was wearing a dress and very thin underwear..and i did ...
A. 9 March 2008: Sperms can seep through thin clothings .
Even though he did not ejaculate , his precums could contain some sperms.
It only needs 1 sperm to make you pregnant.
It is not entirely right to say you cannot be pregnant but there is a very slim... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant, but torn between two men. Which do I choose?
Q. (Well first of all I have to mention that I am pregnant with my first child and this makes this issue so much hardier. ) I've been with my boyfriend for about 2 years and we always have problems and bicker at eachother constantly. When we moved in ...
A. 9 March 2008: You have got to pick one or the either.
Make a list of the pro's and con's and whoever has got a longer list under the pro's, then he is the one for you.
Take your time to compile them.... (read in full...)
I know we can only be friends but...
Q. Me and my ex have been broken up for about 8 months now, he's currently with someone (his ex) Who is cheating on him. I'm good friends with him, but he started inviting me over, and told me he almost kissed me, the feelings were coming back, and ...
A. 9 March 2008: For now , you cannot do much but only as a friend until he repairs his broken down compass and knows where he wants to go.
You will have to bid your time and see if he will come over to your side.
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is not ready to settle down...
Q. Being with someone who's not ready to commit I've brought up this topic several times with my bf. I said I want to get married in around 3 year's time. He said he'll definitely not get married in 3 years, and when I asked further, he said he dunno...
A. 9 March 2008: In 2 years time , anything can happen. You may keep your options open.
If someone better comes along , you can grab that opportunity and leave him trailing behind.
Otherwise , you will just bob aimlessly with him .But you would be making plans ... (read in full...)
No idea where I stand with my (adult!) student and trying not to compromise my job can be hard! Why inviting me if he is already committed?
Q. I have a question and a problem. I teach german to adults and have a student to whom I feel deeply attracted to. He has been divorced for a year and has a girlfriend - had one very quickly after his divorce. we know each other for about 9 months ...
A. 9 March 2008: Since he already have a g/f , he is most probably fooling with his teacher.Treat it as harmless flirting .
Be professional as it is your job.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is not ready to settle down...
Q. Being with someone who's not ready to commit I've brought up this topic several times with my bf. I said I want to get married in around 3 year's time. He said he'll definitely not get married in 3 years, and when I asked further, he said he dunno...
A. 9 March 2008: You can talk to him during one of your conversations and ask him what kind of wedding he would prefer. Speak to him causally to get his ideas.
2 or 3 years would be ideal. More than that is too long.
If he is committed , he can plan the wed... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is not ready to settle down...
Q. Being with someone who's not ready to commit I've brought up this topic several times with my bf. I said I want to get married in around 3 year's time. He said he'll definitely not get married in 3 years, and when I asked further, he said he dunno...
A. 8 March 2008: You need to have a plan for your future if you are in a serious relationship.
If he cannot plan or don't want to plan , then he is just in for the fun only.
You want to move forward but he wants to stay at the same position.
Your wants are ... (read in full...)
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