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writes: Last week the guy that I have been talking to asked me to be his girl friend. Before we started dating he mentioned to me that he was not a virgin but that he has only had sex with 2 and they were both his girlfriends. Over some time I have heard different stories from people and without trying to find the truth I found out that there were 2 girls he had sex with, which of whom were not his girlfriends! These girls were completly random. I'm assuming that he has had at least 4 partners because I could think of 3 off of the top of my head. maybe he lied to me because im a virgin? It really bothers me that he wasn't honest with me. Maybe he was trying to make a good impression? I feel as if bringing this topic up would be awkward. how could I go about asking him what the real truth is? Should I ask him if these rumors are true. Honesty and trust are of most importance when it comes to relationships, and I want to be able to trust him. Reply to this Question
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reader, thatgothgirl20  +, writes (13 March 2008):
 Talk to him calmly about this. If he gets mad or defensive you know what's up.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (5 March 2008):
 talk to him and ask him what the truth is and why he lied to you. he may have just said that to make you feel more comfortable with you lack of experience - and there is nothing wrong with that - we all tell a white lie about our sex life now and again. i certainly dont share my number with anyone except my boyf! maybe he was embarrassed and that ok aswell. i dont think there is any malice in this and i think that it was completely innocent. but like i said, talk to him becuase your obviousy not going to be comfortable until you know the truth.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (5 March 2008):
 Whether he had two or four, what is the difference?
Sometimes , you cannot just accept as Gospel truth from people .
A rumour can be greatly exaggerated.
If a man were to come before you with that story , you either take it at face value or he could be downplaying his role.
If you intuition tells you that he is not honest , you need to back up with concrete proof.
I don't think you will find the proof. This means that you need to give him the benefits of doubt.
There is no point confronting him with it. You either believe him or you do not.
You may need further proof of his honesty. Time will tell.
Honestly, in life, you should never trust any human being , even yourself too.
You can only trust in GOD!
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reader, Namatjira  +, writes (5 March 2008):
He sounds like someone you cannot trust. If he cannot be genuinely honest with you then he does not respect you enough to consider your feelings. This is not a failure on your part but just shows his own character.
You must have enough respect for yourself to set and maintain your own standards and if he or anyone else falls short - do not get involved with them or break it off if you are already involved. It will save you pain in the long run.
One word of caution - be absolutely sure of your facts first. Do not always take what someone else says as truth because unfortunately many people have their own agenda. If in doubt talk it through with him and make your own conclusions from what he says, how he acts, his body language, your instinct, etc.
However to me he does not sound like someone who deserves you, let alone your precious virginity which should be your gift to some really special guy at a time of your choosing.
All the best, and do not be afraid to talk it over with someone you trust.
Good luck.
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