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writes:I have a friend who I have known now for about 9 months. Gradually over this time, we've become very close.I see her probably 2-3 times a month, mainly at weekends when we go clubbing with all my friends and her friends. Every time we go out, we tend to be together all night/weekend. Whether it's travelling, in the clubs, or at the afterparty. She tends to make a lot of fuss over me as well, always trying to find me or be with me. eg, She swapped train tickets with someone to be on an earlier train with me!When we're together, we seem to be able to talk non-stop, about anything or everything.She split up with her boyfriend about a year ago, and I've sat and spoke to her a lot about it, to cheer her up etc, but now we're so close I feel like I'm starting to "fall" for her.I'm just wondering, if anybody can tell if she feels the same way, or just likes me as a really good friend! We are very close, and one of my mates said he can see us ending up getting together, but something tells me different, and that she just wants to be friends. Although obviously I want more!
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reader, pinksuze +, writes (5 March 2008):
I wouldn't necessarily think that her having tried to make another go of it with her ex is a bad thing. It's very easy to blame somebody else for inteferring and thus splitting them up, but really if it was going to work it would have worked with or without inteferrence. She split up with him a year ago, she made a fair try to make it work again but it didn't - it's time for her to move on
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionEverything you've all said makes sense really :)Forgot to mention though, stupidly because it's quite important, she tried to make a go of it with her ex-boyfriend again recently, but because someone interferred they ended up splitting up again.I don't know 100% what the story is with them atm, i just know they aren't together.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (5 March 2008):
 Let nature takes its course. You just follow where the current takes you.
Enjoy each day with her and be happy.
You should let yourself be totally free without being shackled with that thought.
Leave it to the future or destiny to decide.
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reader, Lucy2118 +, writes (5 March 2008):
 She will either want to stay close friends as she's got you to be close to or either want a relationship. It's up to you want you do, but i think you should talk to her about it as you won't know otherwise, you did say that you and her talk about alsorts. You could choose that option or wait for her to make the move but with this you could fall deeper for her and nothing come from it. It's up to you but i would go for it.
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reader, pinksuze +, writes (5 March 2008):
Clearly she likes you, but it's impossible to tell whether that's as a friend or if she's interested in anything more. The only way you're going to find out is by asking her! A year after splitting up with her last boyfriend she should be ready to get back into the dating game, and unless you ask you'll never know if the person to get her back into it is you. The only thing you have to lose by doing so is a bit of pride if she says no. If, on the other hand, she says yes then you have very much to gain.
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