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writes:I recently got back with my boyfriend and we are madly in love, but we do have problems dealing with the past, We split for two years and in that time he went with someone else and i got together with a friend of his.I sort of still have feelings for his friend, and my current boyfriend feels really bad for treating his ex the day he did with still loving me etc.My ex has told me, that my mans ex was actually sleeping with someone else when they were together,Should i tell my boyfriend? Im just afraid of bringing back the past all over again, we really want to move on from here especially now as both our exes are out of our lives,Should i tell him his ex was cheating, with another friend of his??
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (6 March 2008):
 The buck stops here! Don't spread rumours.
You cannot be very sure his friend was telling the truth.
What if it was wrong?
Leave the past alone and don't clutter your brains with the sordid details of the past.
It is negative and will not do any good.
Your b/f may not believe you and you may paint yourself in a bad light.
Better be an angel of light than to be an angel of darkness.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2008): I with oldersister on this one!I am worried though about how you will keep your feelings for the friend secret though. I mean, you said that both ex's are not in your lives now, SO probably it may confuse your man if you have to confess to him that in fact you have been in contact, recently.Maybe, you could contact her, ask her, check with the person she supposedly cheated with, is sounds like he was in the group too cause wasn't he a friend? Sorry, got confused a bit. But check up with all of the parties BEFORE you tell your boyfriend. Massive research honey!But work out how you are going to handle the "sort of feelings for this guy", Shit what are you going to do about that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2008): Hi Hunny
Will it make a difference in your relationship? If you tell him will he feel that you have told him to make him forget the pain he caused hunny, Its up to you sweetheart but If It were me I wouldnt want to hurt him and that may make him angry and hurt that you have known all this time just a thought love TAKE CARE WITH LOVE AND PRAYERS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2008): If you bring up the conversation about his ex, you have to realize that it will make him think about the relationship that they were in. If they are both out of your lives I would leave it alone. If you dont want to hurt him, I would just let it all go. It will just hurt him more to bring up all the feelings he had for her. I have had the same thing happen to me and I thought about it for days. If you don't want him to think about the past I whould leave the past where it belongs, in the bast
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reader, maria14r  +, writes (5 March 2008):
i really dont think you should tell him because if you're trying to get over the past then don't bring it up. his ex is no one now. Does he still have feeling for her?
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