My boyfriend is not ready to settle down...
Q. Being with someone who's not ready to commit I've brought up this topic several times with my bf. I said I want to get married in around 3 year's time. He said he'll definitely not get married in 3 years, and when I asked further, he said he dunno...
A. 9 March 2008: In 2 years time , anything can happen. You may keep your options open.
If someone better comes along , you can grab that opportunity and leave him trailing behind.
Otherwise , you will just bob aimlessly with him .But you would be making plans ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is not ready to settle down...
Q. Being with someone who's not ready to commit I've brought up this topic several times with my bf. I said I want to get married in around 3 year's time. He said he'll definitely not get married in 3 years, and when I asked further, he said he dunno...
A. 9 March 2008: You can talk to him during one of your conversations and ask him what kind of wedding he would prefer. Speak to him causally to get his ideas.
2 or 3 years would be ideal. More than that is too long.
If he is committed , he can plan the wed... (read in full...)
Do I continue dating the new man or get back with the ex - who unpredictably announced he is returning from abroad.
Q. My bf moved to another country and told me he wasn't coming back, we kept in touch by emailing each other. It took me ages to move on but eventually I did and i met this guy who's amazing. We've spent time together and the other day he kissed me. I ...
A. 9 March 2008: You can treat your ex as a friend and see if there is any chance that you can get back together.
Give yourself more time before you decide who you want.... (read in full...)
I'm stuck between 2 girls, past and present, can't help comparing them!
Q. Hi people! This is my first comment here, I've just signed in because I really need help with this. Also, today's my birthday, so any answers will be appreciated double on this day =) Let's start from the beginning: In 2006 I went to Japan f...
A. 9 March 2008: You should date someone in your city.
It is more meaningful this way than long distance relationships which lacks the close intimacies.
Happy birthday to you and may you find the girl of your dream.... (read in full...)
I've tried everything I can think of and he still won't go down on me
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year. I really love him and I do see myself staying with him. However, we've had one problem that I'm at my wits end about how to deal with. When we first started dating, he said he loved to go down...
A. 9 March 2008: There is one last choice, find somebody who will or give up entertaining that idea with him.
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I'm a lonely male single parent, am I past relationships?
Q. Dear Agony Aunt, I will be fifty in a few months time, I'm single and spent the last 10 years raising two children on my own, whilst trying to succeed in a career. But men who look after kids have a glass ceiling as well, and relationships la...
A. 9 March 2008: Think positive and be happy rather than think negative and feel lousy.
If you laugh ,the whole world laughs with you.
If you cry , you cry alone.
Single or married , you should be happy .
Contentment is happiness.... (read in full...)
I envy my boyfriend because his life has been much more interesting than mine, and I feel lame.
Q. I am 19, and my boyfriend is 22... My parents were always kinda (still are sometimes) quite overprotective of me - that's why I don't even know how to ride a bike. So I've always been mostly home, yes, I did have/do have some very good friends at ...
A. 9 March 2008: Don't compare your life with others.
Each of us are unique.
Your time has not come yet.
You will do all those things you want when the time comes.
So fret not!... (read in full...)
I am not sexually active once or twice a week, which is the cause of tensions between me and my energic girlfriend!
Q. My girlfriend and I been together going on 3 years this month. She is a very active girl in bed. She seems to want activity every night. Me on the other hand I don't get active once or maybe twice a week. We also turn it into arguments. I use to ...
A. 9 March 2008: You two have incompatible needs.
You either compromise and accept it or one of you will leave and seek else where.
You can have more foreplays and make her orgasm, that would be less strenuous to you.... (read in full...)
Is money more important then my happiness? Should I stay tied to this relation for my son's comfort?
Q. PLEASE HELP IM FALLING OUT OF LOVE.. me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years we have a 2 year old son, and about one year ago we bought a house, he is the one who earns the money even though i do work i don't earn much. i have fallen out ...
A. 9 March 2008: Money cannot guarantee you happiness.
Another man may not guarantee you happiness.
The grass is not always greener on the other side.
People fall in and fall out of love.
You have lost your focus.
Think of the first time when you fell... (read in full...)
My ex broke up with me 3 months ago, now is really keen to meet up, what's going on?
Q. Am I asking for trouble meeting up with my ex? We were together a year, lived together etc. Out of the blue, he broke up with me (though looking back things were strained)...But a week before that he told me he was thinking of proposing. So 3 mo...
A. 9 March 2008: If he learned his lessons , fine but if not ,you will go back on the merry - go - round again.
If you think he should be given another chance, then open the door for him again.
... (read in full...)
We had sex and he's not interested now, what do I do?
Q. Heya I need help im madly in love with someone, I have been for years but there not interested anymore and im quite certain about it. I cant move on we are really close. These feelings arnt going away. He didnt want anything to do with me after ...
A. 9 March 2008: It is like watching a sad movie.
The end is sad, wipe your tears and go home and start life all over again.
You cannot do anything anymore, the hero has left or died...
Go find another one to love.... (read in full...)
My parents hate my fiance even though they have never met!
Q. I have been going out with this guy for over 2yrs and recently got engaged. I love him more than anything but the problem is my parents dont like him even though they've never met. He is 44 and i am 20 and this is probably the reason why they dont ...
A. 9 March 2008: Your parents will have difficulty accepting your b/f who may be as old as them.
You cannot help it .
Your parents are not open minded and belong to the older generations.
The only way they can accept him is when you get married .
Then th... (read in full...)
How do I attract girls? I'm young and inexperienced...
Q. im a 14 year old boy i dont have a lot of experince with girls i also need adviceon how to attract girls? im not sure what to talk about on msn orface to face ?? to be honest im shy and not confident aswell how can i build it up? help! thanks... ...
A. 9 March 2008: You can Google all your questions and get those tips on how to be a Mr. confident.
Smile more ,listen more, laugh more and read more.
Try to be an all rounder.... (read in full...)
Am I being too fussy? Why don't my relationships work?
Q. Why can't I fInd someone who's perfect for me? It seems I find these great guys, but they all have one fatal flaw that just means we'll never get anywehere. I feel like I'm going to be alone forever. Am I being too fussy? Why don't my relat...
A. 9 March 2008: If you choose people , people will also choose you.
If you judge others, others will also judge you.
Are you perfect ?
We all have flaws.
Who does not?
Do not look for perfections but accept them whatever they are.... (read in full...)
I like my friends ex, how do I tell if she likes me?
Q. i met this girl through a friend and we went out for a while my mate was going out with her best fiend she dumped me and my mate and my ex went out with each other but i like my m8s ex she is very pretty and we had a lot in commen and we have only ...
A. 9 March 2008: You should be able to feel it if she likes you.
If your path is smooth and no obstacles, then she likes you.... (read in full...)
I'm going through a tough time with my girlfriend, who is still living with her ex boyfriend
Q. i am 29 and seeing a girl 25. she's everything i want in a woman,but we are going though some tough times. she was seeing a male about six mounths ago until they went on holiday and he beat her up. but just before they went away i kissed this girl ...
A. 9 March 2008: Why don't you ask her to come to your mom's place or you rent her a place ?
If you can do neither, then all you could do is to pray for her and stop your worrying.... (read in full...)
Was he not over his ex? Is that why we split?
Q. My boyfriend and I split up a few months ago. We'd been together just short of a year. With hindsight, I was just wondering if the demise of our relationship had something to do with him not being over his ex, and him not knowing it. He was wi...
A. 9 March 2008: A breakup is a breakup. There is no sense in knowing the whys.It could be or it could be other reasons.
If you are not meant for each other , you will have to move on.... (read in full...)
He's younger and less experienced, it causes arguements, should I walk away?
Q. Should I walk away? I've been dating a guy for 6 weeks. We get along very well, although he's 4 years younger than me - less experienced and less mature (in some ways). He's very dependable and offers me security. But the immaturity and la...
A. 9 March 2008: If you think he has the potentials , then you stay and polish up his maturity and experience.
If you think it is not your job to teach him about his inadequacies, then you let somebody does to him first and come back later for him if you are mean... (read in full...)
He says money is hard earned so he is not squandering it, only such lifestyle to me is boring! Could I change him?
Q. I met this man when my 22 year marriage hit the rock. He helps me to go through the divorce. We've been together for a year now. Im 45 and he is 18 years older than me. This new man is very stingy with money. He has got a house and a car and ...
A. 8 March 2008: All his life, he has been living like that and he can never change .
If you try to change him,you may find yourself alone.
... (read in full...)
How likely is it that I am pregnant, despite of the precautions?
Q. I was recently married. My husband and I are not financially ready for children just yet, so we have been using the following methods: condoms with spermicidal lubricant, birth control pills, and withdrawal before ejaculation. However, I have become ...
A. 8 March 2008: Only a pregnancy test will decide the outcome...
Get one now.... (read in full...)
I noticed an itchy, sore and burning sensation around my vaginal area, should I be concerned?
Q. I was recently married, and after a few weeks of being sexually active for the first time, I've started noticing an itchy/sore/burning sensation around my vaginal area. Is this normal, or should I be concerned?...
A. 8 March 2008: You should go visit your doctor for a check up.
It could be genital herpes.
http://www.medicinenet.com/sexually_transmitted_diseases_stds_in_women/page4.htm#gh... (read in full...)
I missed a pill. Could I be pregnant?
Q. Hello, I've been on the Pill for almost 4 months. I take 21 pill packs. I started this months pack last friday. I took every Pill regularly, except on wednesday. That day I forgot it. Sadly, on Thursday I took my pill a few hours later than u...
A. 8 March 2008: If you missed one day , it is best not to have unprotected sex for 7 days.
There is a risk of getting pregnant.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is not ready to settle down...
Q. Being with someone who's not ready to commit I've brought up this topic several times with my bf. I said I want to get married in around 3 year's time. He said he'll definitely not get married in 3 years, and when I asked further, he said he dunno...
A. 8 March 2008: You need to have a plan for your future if you are in a serious relationship.
If he cannot plan or don't want to plan , then he is just in for the fun only.
You want to move forward but he wants to stay at the same position.
Your wants are ... (read in full...)
She hates the ejaculating inside of her, but only after 4 years she tells me this!! I feel hurt and disoriented.
Q. I have been seeing a woman for over four years and have had what I thought was a great relationship. We have recently been talking about marriage. However, last week after sex she told me that she absolutely hates the fact that I ejaculate inside ...
A. 8 March 2008: She does not love you as much as before.
When she does not love you any more, these women would simply say anything they wanted.
It can be frivolous but she won't care if it hurt your feelings or not.
Everything you do will be scorned or ri... (read in full...)
I snooped and found out he cheated. How do I confront him on this?
Q. I am at a loss! I am in agony right now! I did something very bad and I know it. But he did something worse. My boyfriend accidentally left his email up on the computer and I know I should have just logged it out and ignored it. But I didnt. I ...
A. 8 March 2008: If things are great now , you have more reasons to NOT let those issues cropped up.
What is your purpose and what will be the consequences?
Will it serve any purpose or will it break up the good rhythm you have now.
You want the truth fr... (read in full...)
Does joining an adult dating site make me look desperate??
Q. I'm considering joining one of those websites where you find people who are looking for intimate/sexual relationships... But I'm a bit concerned about how that may look and how people look at me. I know it shouldn't matter, but I worry it would make ...
A. 8 March 2008: That is called commercialism. Sorry ,there is no free lunch.
You will only get disappointed if you joined them and pay up.
Don't waste your money. ... (read in full...)
How can I get my husband to stop looking at porn? Should I take erotic pictures of myself?
Q. I married my husband a little over a year ago. We now have a baby together. While I was pregnant, I discovered for the first time that he had been looking at porn online, with repeated views of one particular girl. We had been living together for ...
A. 8 March 2008: You should absolutely under no circumstances take nude pictures of yourself because if such a pix were to fall into the wrong hands and spread through out your community or online, you will have no place to hide your shame.(This is my opinion ... (read in full...)
Is it bad for me to be talking to my ex-boyfriend when I already have a boyfriend??
Q. Is it bad for me to be talking to my ex-boyfriend when i already have a boyfriend????????????...
A. 8 March 2008: It is best to have less contact with the ex as you can plant seeds of doubts in your current b/f.
You would not want that to happen.
If your b/f talks to his ex, how would you feel?
Do not do unto others what you don't want others to do ... (read in full...)
My bf is a serial flirter...how do I make him stop this or prevent him crossing the line??
Q. My boyfriend is a serial flirter when it comes to other women.I have lived with him for the past 16 months and although he knows how it makes me feel he still continues to do it even going as far as getting a co workers number at work which I called ...
A. 8 March 2008: No one is perfect and sometimes we just close one eye.
As long as they don't flirt in front of you , it can be considered normal.
You may assert your rights but it can hurt him or your relationship.
As long as he does not cross the line,... (read in full...)
He was my first love...but I just founf out he cheated on me with my best mate and I can't stop crying.
Q. Me and my ex were in a relationship for almost a year, we broke up in november but carried on he flirting and doing stuff until very recent, he suddenly decided he doesnt like me like that anymore, we where so in love it was magic! first love:) but ...
A. 8 March 2008: If it is true, then he is just a worm and not worthy to cry over.
Don't cry for such a low life creature.
He is not worth your tears.
... (read in full...)
How can I handle my girlfriend not showing me she loves me??
Q. I have been with my g/f for about 2 months but we really have been together for 7 just not officially. She does not show me any affection. I almost feel like she doesn't like me or anything. She tells me all the time that she does, but i have to ...
A. 8 March 2008: There are times when you can be together and there are times when she seeks the company of friends.
You should not monopolize her all the time.... (read in full...)
After the gym...everything is hurting and I am worried I have damaged something.
Q. I was in the gym yesterday and everything was okay...some weights, some treadmill etc etc- the norm. Today however my shoulder muscles are hurting terribly and i am worried i might have done damage or something. please help. thanks....
A. 8 March 2008: If it is very painful, you may have over exercise and torn some ligaments or muscle .
It will heal in time and you need to take a rest until you are well again.
Take some pain killers if the pain is unbearable or go see your doctor for some ... (read in full...)
My head is a mess...i've fallen for this guy but I know there is another girl but think it's not serious.
Q. I met a guy about a month ago and during that time I've grown quite fond of him. He is amazing, and I mean that in every possible way. He is gorgeous, funny, very succesful, kind, everything, he is just amazing. When I think about him I just smi...
A. 8 March 2008: Love is very beautiful.
What is important is your love is true.
All other matters are not important.
True love has no fear.... (read in full...)
I can't bear the thought of spending the rest of my life with him...but he just won't leave.
Q. hi, ive been married 22 years and since i turned 40, 2 years ago, ive realised how unhappy i am and all i can remember of my 1st 20 yrs of marriage misery. My 2 kids are now grown up and im far from happy with my husband,, dont think i ever rea...
A. 8 March 2008:
If the house is his, then you cannot expect him to leave.
If he does not want to leave, maybe , you can partition your house into two or you build a side extension .
If that is not possible, then you leave him for your own.
... (read in full...)
When I hint I like a guy nothing happens..so I have decided it is time to take action.
Q. My self esteem has reached an all time high and I feel great! :D Guy's are flirting with me and I am flirting back. I feel very attracted to some of the guys and when I really, really hint that I like them, nothing happens. and I've realized...
A. 8 March 2008: Guys these days are more laid back or shy and they seldom do the initiating.
If you need to move to actions, you will have to become more aggressive
Don't hint with guys, they cannot get your hints..
Talk to them in plain simple English and... (read in full...)
I lost my virginity on Sunday... could I be pregnant?
Q. After having sex for the first time, I've noticed I'm very damp below and also since yesterday having diarrhoea my mate said I could possibly be pregnant? I'm not sure but we did not use protection and he didn't cum inside me he pulled out before, ...
A. 8 March 2008: 7 days before your 1st day of period and 7 days after is a fertile period for you.
If you had sex out of this period, then you are safe.
If you had sex within this period but used the pull out method, then chances of pregnant is very slim.
... (read in full...)
Quiz - who want's sex more often?
Q. This is more like a quiz for you guys ... I spoke to my BF and we kinda disagree on: "WHO WANT'S SEX MORE OFTEN IN A RELATIONSHIP .. GIRLS OR GUYS?" So guys and girls ... hit me w some fun answers :) Lierin ...
A. 8 March 2008: Who 'WANTS' sex more often in a relationship ?
Generally speaking but there are exceptions , it is the men who want more sex.
It is the male hormones testosterone which fuels his sex drive as well as that in women.
Some women have a hig... (read in full...)
It's my first relationship, how do I know if he's the one?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 months. We are 22 and it is my first relationship. For the last two months I have been continuously questioning whether or not he is "the one for me." It often leads me to believe that he is not. Then I ...
A. 8 March 2008: You will never be free and enjoy any relationships if you continuously think of this question.
You will not know the answer till he pops that question.
You keep on finding until he is the right one for you.
It is nature's way and you can... (read in full...)
Does joining an adult dating site make me look desperate??
Q. I'm considering joining one of those websites where you find people who are looking for intimate/sexual relationships... But I'm a bit concerned about how that may look and how people look at me. I know it shouldn't matter, but I worry it would make ...
A. 8 March 2008: With today's hectic lifestyle, many people do not have the time to socialize and they are going more online to meet their partners.
With the net , you can find more prospects.
Today, people do not think of it as desperate but more of another ... (read in full...)
If I just drink Fanta and Coke till Easter Sunday and eat nothing will I lose weight??
Q. Dear Cupid, what will happen to me if i only drink fanta or coke zero til easter sunday? And eat nothing? I just have one can a day (330 ml) and that it. Will i lose any weight? What side effects would it cause me to have? Is this an awful idea? T...
A. 8 March 2008: If you do not eat enough calories a day and for a prolonged period , your organs will suffer failures and this will have a long term effects on your health.
Eat more green vege and less fast foods which are fattening.
There is too much sugar i... (read in full...)
Am I being stupid for getting upset coz we aint even an item?
Q. Hiya! There is this guy i really like, we aint in a relationship but we meet up whenever he has time and shows alot of affection etc. Been doing this for 5 months. well what it is he has gone away to ireland for 4 days with the guys, he will be...
A. 8 March 2008: Apply those same rules to yourself .
Will you chaffed under those higher standards?
We should not try to control anybody
and neither do we want others to control us.
Live and let live.... (read in full...)
Is there something wrong with me ?
Q. 23 years old and i recently have had sex with my new girlfriend. My question is I've had an orgasm but there was little semen in the condom, could this be because I masterbate three times a day? and when i say little semen i mean very little like a ...
A. 8 March 2008: Your factory is running overtime and cannot produce the goods.
Stop or reduce your drive and you may increase your semen.... (read in full...)
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