Should I end my friendship with my ex to make my boyfriend feel more secure in our relationship?
Q. I married my high school sweetheart before he deployed to Iraq. Predictably, our young age and the effects of him being at war destroyed our marriage. We ended up divorcing in 2006. Despite that, we still remain best friends. Now I'm a new relation...
A. 10 June 2008: Yeah! Let the past go and live in the present.
That was a wise decision.
Congrats to your coming engagement with your b/f.... (read in full...)
My daughter is 19, unmarried and pregnant. Any pointers?
Q. My daughter is 19 and lives with her bf. I was against that decision, but she's grown. Now, she tells me that she is pregnant, I don't know how to handle the situation without alienating her. I don't approve because she is not married. It's not what ...
A. 10 June 2008: Congrats to you and your daughter!
That's the way to go.
Bless them and always be there for them when they need you.... (read in full...)
Should I get involved with him?
Q. kay so this boy has just recently started talking to me. he seems really cool and stuff and i'm really starting to like him. yesterday, he kinda asked me out and i said yes and then he kissed me. i guess we go out now but i'm not really sure. he ...
A. 14 May 2008: Use your own eyes to see and your ears to listen.
Judge him not by other's words but by his actions towards you.
Do not listen to rumours.
For all we know , it may not be true.
Give him the benefits of doubts till your intuition tells... (read in full...)
I want to believe him but I have doubts about his relationship with his ex!
Q. Hi, I am having an incredibly hard time figuring out what to do about my bf and his ex. They are best friends, and although I love that, I have been having second thoughts. I recently asked him if he wasn't dating anyone and if ex would have hi...
A. 14 May 2008: You deserved much more from your b/f than those crumbs that he is doling out to you.
You should set your limits and boundaries and if he cannot satisfy them , you should let him go.
The future is bleak if you carry on like this.
It is e... (read in full...)
What should I do if I don't like my boyfriend as much as I used to?
Q. well wat if i dont like my boyfriend as much as i use to but im afraid to break up with him because i know how it will be with out him it will be very different no more holdin hands or talking on the fone for a long time or even having a boyfriend ...
A. 12 May 2008: It is like crossing a river.
You hopped from one stone to another till you reached the other side of the bank of the river.
When you get tired of standing on one stone ,
then it is time to hopped onto the next stone.
If you stand t... (read in full...)
Does he love her or me?
Q. I need to know something, it's kind of 2 questions. Well, first is, I need to know if my ex really does love his girlfriend. He never really acts like he does, and he beats her. He's always cheating on her. And the other is, I need to know if ...
A. 12 May 2008: He is a sadist and masochist.
He is toying with you like a cat and a mouse.
His character is incapable of true love.
It is not love but lust.
See with your own eyes how he treat other females.... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't want to have sex anymore, is it time to move on?
Q. I thought this was the perfect man for me. we were so in love when we got married. We made love several times a day. We loved to hang out together, talk for hours. We have not made love in a very long time.. almost a year. I constantly asked him ...
A. 12 May 2008: He did not meet your conjugal rights as a spouse and legally ,
you have a right to seek a divorce.
Tell him that you want a divorce and see how he reacts?
If he shows indifference, then pack your bags and leave or
lock him out of your... (read in full...)
Can someone please tell me how to trust my boyfriend? He's cheated in the past.
Q. I have really bad trust issuses with my boyfreind, the problem is he has never done anything to betray my trust. My ex boyfreind cheated on me so much and i never found out till we had broken up...Im jsut worride my boyfreind is doing the same. Even ...
A. 12 May 2008: A man who doesn't trust himself can never truly trust anyone else."
Cardinal de Retz
"Trust your instincts. Be true to yourself."
Catherine Pulsife
Trust has to be earned and not freely given.
Trust but do not trust completely bec... (read in full...)
Is 17 too young to know you have found "the one"?
Q. Ok I know what everyone is going to say when I ask this question but is 17 to young to find the one? Me and my boyfreind are very matture then most other couple and so happy, everyday just keeps getting better with him , so what im asking is can it ...
A. 12 May 2008: If you are meant to be for each other ,
then it is your destiny, embrace it.
It is not impossible but it happens rarely.
Only time will tell if he is the right one for you.... (read in full...)
My dad says TV rots your brain, what do you think?
Q. My Dad says T.V rots your brain, what do you think?...
A. 12 May 2008: Well! It depends on what you are watching.
If you are watching just for the sake of watching ,
then it will rot your brain. LOL!
You can Google "T.V rots your brains " and get alot of answers online.
... (read in full...)
Why are westeners so prejudice, ignorant Bible lovers?
Q. I grew up in one of the biggest cities in North America. I’ve accepted baseball and McDonalds, but what I can't accept are there BS " morals ". Whenever it comes to love, sex or any other issue people turn to the book of lies, distortion and gene...
A. 12 May 2008: [Quote]
The fact that they quote scripture doesn't make them right -- often they are completely wrong and biased -- but it does make them sound smug, holier than thou, and impervious to rational argument.
oldfool
[Unquote]
You ... (read in full...)
I'm too scared to tell him about my past in case he doesn't want to see me anymore.
Q. Hi, I married when i was 22 (i'm now 27). I was with the guy for 5 years and we have been separated 3 years now. It was an amicable separation, we just grew apart and were too young I guess and rushed into it. I've started seeing this guy who I r...
A. 12 May 2008: If he really loves you , he will not ask you about your past.
He will accept you in toto.
If he asked you about the past, then it is your right to tell or not to tell.
If he can put forth this question to you ,
it means that he wants ... (read in full...)
I think I may have been date raped by my boss.
Q. I think I was date-raped. I ran in to my boss in a bar after I had already been drinking, and he offered to get me a drink. I asked for a vodka orange, but he asked me if I would prefer vodka redbull, and got me that instead. After that drink, I...
A. 12 May 2008: I think you can find all the informations about date rape here.
http://teenadvice.about.com/od/daterape/Date_Rape_What_is_it.htm
Rape is caused by three factors ,the rapist, the place and the opportunity.
Don’t go to where you are not fami... (read in full...)
Can someone help me understand his behaviour?
Q. I dated a guy (Ulises) July of 2007 to Nov. 2007. We had a really ugly break-up and did not talk to eachother. Until the middle of Feb, 2008. He apologized many times for all the things that he did and the way that we broke up. I had decided to give ...
A. 12 May 2008: I am only speculating here.
It could be that he saw or heard something negative about you
and was piqued or jealous and thus that irrational behaviour.
Rather than confronting you for the truth ,
he chose that coward's way.
When... (read in full...)
I support my boyfriend financially and also lend his Mum money too now. I don't know what to do, any suggestions?
Q. I've been supporting my boyfriend financially for three years now, to the point I lend his mom money because she can't manage her own money. I don't want to break up with him because he stuck with me through very difficult times, but when I tell him ...
A. 12 May 2008: It is a folly to lend money or support someone who do not want to stand on their own feet.
I am sorry you are in this morass.
The more you struggle ,the more you will be sucked inside it.
If you want to get out, then you need to climb out of... (read in full...)
Should I end my friendship with my ex to make my boyfriend feel more secure in our relationship?
Q. I married my high school sweetheart before he deployed to Iraq. Predictably, our young age and the effects of him being at war destroyed our marriage. We ended up divorcing in 2006. Despite that, we still remain best friends. Now I'm a new relation...
A. 12 May 2008: You have two options.
Kick out your ex or your present b/f.
Do nothing and let your present b/f grow up and accept you lock,stock and barrel.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he doesn't like kids but I have a 4 year od son. Can you advise?
Q. I need some advice. I have been in a relationship for about a year and half. I love being with him, he is amazing. Although he has met my 4 year old son a few times, I don't like to bring him around because I'm afraid that my son may get attached ...
A. 12 May 2008: If he is into you , I am sure he has taken that equation into considerations.
Look not at his words but by his actions.
Words sometimes do not reflect the truth.
He maybe bias but people can change .
He may change to like kids when he ... (read in full...)
We've done nothing but fight for the last few months, should we still go on our anniversary trip to Rome?
Q. Hey, I don`t know what to do! My girlfriend of one year and myself have done nothing but fight for the last few months. When it`s good it`s great but I am just so unhappy about us clashing all the time. My heart is telling me to just give up. I`m ...
A. 12 May 2008: Call a time out and leave those contentious issues aside which has no answers.
Try to change the topics when those issues cropped up.
Find similar grounds which can bring you closer together.
There are so many things to talk about and there ... (read in full...)
How to spice things up in a relationship where sex and oral sex are not an option?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for almost one year now and we are both in our 20s. I've chosen to remain a virgin until I am married. It is both a religious and personal choice on my end. My question is this, how do you spice things up with...
A. 12 May 2008: Try old fashion or traditional dating practices.
Get family to be involved in your common activities.
Do things together and focus your mind on those interests and hobby's instead of on sex.... (read in full...)
What do I do? It hurts to let him go. I do love him.
Q. Do I stay with my husband or leave him either for my lover, or to be alone? I have been married for 4 and a half years. I stopped wanting my husband and have been having sex with him when he wants it for just over a year of that marriage. He kn...
A. 12 May 2008: If gangrene is present in any parts of the body ,
it must be cut off or it will spread to other parts of the body.
It is better to bear the unbearable pain for once and all than
to live in a living hell where it burns forever.
The po... (read in full...)
Why are westeners so prejudice, ignorant Bible lovers?
Q. I grew up in one of the biggest cities in North America. I’ve accepted baseball and McDonalds, but what I can't accept are there BS " morals ". Whenever it comes to love, sex or any other issue people turn to the book of lies, distortion and gene...
A. 12 May 2008: There are the good , the bad and the ugly in this world.
There are many false prophets and false leaders.
By their fruits you will know if they are of God or the devil.
This world is not perfect and don't expect perfections .
Who is ... (read in full...)
He told me the all the other girls he's had sex with, even with out a condom, never got pregnant
Q. Ok...so i'm 15 and my boyfriend is 14, we've known each other and been with each other for a long time...and my boyfriend isn't a virgin. He says he lost it when he was young and has had sex with other girls ever sence...but he wants to have sex ...
A. 12 May 2008: Do not be too trusting of others and accept what they say as the Gospel truth.
Always be critical of what other's tell you .
For you alone will be responsible for your own mistakes.
Be smart.... (read in full...)
He was acting like a doormat but now things have changed and I feel like a doormat! Why?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 months. I know things change as you become more comfortable with each other, but it seems he has totally changed! He was the type of boyfriend that if I told him to jump, he would say how high. If ...
A. 12 May 2008: My apologies if I appear to be abit harsh.
You wanted him to be strong and he has swung to the other extreme.
I hope he will swing back and find the equilibrium.
He has grown up and you need to accept reality.... (read in full...)
One day passed after the break up - and I'm sorry for the things that will never happen... help!
Q. It has been one day since I broke if off with my boyfriend - I am kinda lost and dont know what to do - does anyone have any advice on how to keep moving and not be thinking about him? I knew I was going to be second guessing about the breaku...
A. 11 May 2008: You need to replace your broken down compass and find the
directions you want to go.
What is it you want in life?
Focus on those things or focus on God.... (read in full...)
If female nudity was not commercially exploited, would there be more cheating?
Q. Here's one for the guys...and women if you want to comment too!.... If there were no such thing as media, porn, dirty magazines, playboy, Hooters restaurants, or any exploitation of sexual suggestion, etc., if strip clubs were never invented...
A. 11 May 2008: I would agree that if we go back and live in the primitive
society where you don't have all those sexual temptations ,
then there won't be much cheating.
It is not easy to fight temptations.
Even very strong and powerful men succumbe... (read in full...)
He was acting like a doormat but now things have changed and I feel like a doormat! Why?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 months. I know things change as you become more comfortable with each other, but it seems he has totally changed! He was the type of boyfriend that if I told him to jump, he would say how high. If ...
A. 11 May 2008: What goes around ,comes around.
How do you feel when the shoe is on the other side?
It is pay back time .
Grin and bear with it.
The chickens are coming home to roast.
God is always fair.
What you can do is to turn yourself int... (read in full...)
We keep breaking up and I don't know why I keep going back?!
Q. Dear Cupid, Me and my boyfriend have dated for almost 5 months... and we have broken up 4 times already over stupid things. but i dont like to argue with him and i dont. but I dont know why i keep goin back to him. But I know im in love....
A. 11 May 2008: Yeah! You are both ideally suited for each other.
You break off 4 times and you still go back for more.
Nothing can keep you away from each other.
Your relationship is like a merry-go-round.
Enjoy your ride on and off..LOL!
... (read in full...)
Love is not something to base a relationship on?
Q. In my experience "love" is not something to base a relationship on. It makes you ignore what the relationship will realistically be like down the road. When you act on "love" and create a relationship, you still need to get over the "honeymoon" ...
A. 11 May 2008: Love is the glue that holds your marriage together.
Many arranged marriages can developed into strong
relationships because they only savour the fruits after they got married.
While those 'love ' marriages had theirs before marriage a... (read in full...)
My boyfriend lied about watching porn. Now I can't trust him. What should I do to make things better?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. We have a better relationship than many. Except for one thing... Right now we finally have a place of our own. But we were in a long distance relationship for about 1.5 years in the middle of that. ...
A. 11 May 2008: Don't treat your man like he is a small kid and below the age of 18.
Hey! He is above 18 and an adult.
He should be able to decide if it is good or bad for him.
If you don't respect him , you get all the lies.
Next time , before you ... (read in full...)
My wife had sex with our neighbour. How do I get past this?
Q. Hi, I live in india. Six months back my wife came to me and confessed to me that she had sex with my neighbour and very much regretted for that. Also promised that hereafter she won't do like that again. Initially I consoled her and accepted bec...
A. 11 May 2008: Nobody is perfect and we are only humans.
Nobody will know what tomorrow holds.
We don't know how long we can life or when we die.
Just enjoy what you have and do not think too much.
If she left you tomorrow, will you still think o... (read in full...)
I've trouble finding a boyfriend - what am I doing wrong?
Q. I have the worst trouble finding a boyfriend. I am almost 21 and still single (yeah very pathetic hahaha!) I just want to know what I'm doing wrong. I can be shy but I'm not as shy as I used to be. Is there any fool proof ways to get a guy? And is...
A. 11 May 2008: Be confidence of who and what you are and do not appear to be clingy.
That is the two major rules ,you need to remember by.
The rest is just common sense.
Have faith and belief that God will send you one.
Be optimistic always.... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't want to have sex anymore, is it time to move on?
Q. I thought this was the perfect man for me. we were so in love when we got married. We made love several times a day. We loved to hang out together, talk for hours. We have not made love in a very long time.. almost a year. I constantly asked him ...
A. 11 May 2008: You have tried your best and what is there in this marriage for you ?
Maybe, when you want to leave, he may change or tell you the reasons .
You have a right to leave him with no regrets.... (read in full...)
He broke up with me, how do I get him back?
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me a week ago, he was all i had and im feeling exremely lonely and want him back, how can i get him back? ...
A. 11 May 2008: I am very sorry for your predicaments.
It will depend on whether your ex still wants you or have found somebody else.
You can call him and talk to him about it but if he has
decided, then you should cut your losses and start a new life .
... (read in full...)
Why are westeners so prejudice, ignorant Bible lovers?
Q. I grew up in one of the biggest cities in North America. I’ve accepted baseball and McDonalds, but what I can't accept are there BS " morals ". Whenever it comes to love, sex or any other issue people turn to the book of lies, distortion and gene...
A. 11 May 2008: It is very simple to me.
I choose to believe in God and the Bible.
If you do not believe , that is your right.
Before , I was very anti God but now I have found the truth and it has set me free.
I may not agree with other Christians in t... (read in full...)
Why are westeners so prejudice, ignorant Bible lovers?
Q. I grew up in one of the biggest cities in North America. I’ve accepted baseball and McDonalds, but what I can't accept are there BS " morals ". Whenever it comes to love, sex or any other issue people turn to the book of lies, distortion and gene...
A. 11 May 2008: You can believe whatever you want but to insult the Bible and God is blasphemy.
I will leave it to God to answer your questions and deal with you.
You shall reap what you sow.
In the US , there is a separation of powers between the state... (read in full...)
Is it because I refused him sex that he couldn't wait to get rid of me?
Q. About 2 weeks ago I slept over my bf's house. I told him before that I wasnt ready for sex, so he should not of expected me to sleep with him just cause i agreed to sleeping over...i just wanted to sleep in his arms, nothing more. Anyway, he wante...
A. 10 May 2008: The males don't think the same like females.
Coming over to sleep with him is an invitation for sex no
matter what you tell him or how you see it.
This is a mixed signal and could be interpreted in a wrong way.
They will treat what yo... (read in full...)
My husband had an affair but seems to show little remorse!
Q. My husband had an affair but seems to show little remorse. He says according to Darwins theory he is just an alpha male and i should be glad to be with him, and he will continue to sleep with as many women as he can. I do love him but i find his ...
A. 10 May 2008: A megalomaniac and a pathological egotist.
Women are just playthings to them.
Probably believed he is God too.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is always so busy and never seems to make time for me?
Q. My boyfreind is always so busy and never seems to make time for me....It really hurts my feelings and makes me feel down all the time..It is really distracting me so what i am asking is should i just move on and find someone better. We have been ...
A. 10 May 2008: Love is happiness, if it is pain , then it is not love.
Better to be single or find another one.... (read in full...)
I'm afraid that giving signals to them will depict me as a flirt-But I cant get a bf!
Q. I am very good looking female....but i dont get guys...i dont knw why...actually i am an image conscious person and will never love the idea of spoiling my image by flirting with guys but at the same time i want male attention too....so even if ...
A. 10 May 2008: Give them your sweetest smile.
Be genuinely interested in them and be a good listener.
Make the other person feel important.
Find out their interest.
Flirt a little.
Happy fishing and good luck!... (read in full...)
Is it because I refused him sex that he couldn't wait to get rid of me?
Q. About 2 weeks ago I slept over my bf's house. I told him before that I wasnt ready for sex, so he should not of expected me to sleep with him just cause i agreed to sleeping over...i just wanted to sleep in his arms, nothing more. Anyway, he wante...
A. 10 May 2008: He is not your type and you are both incompatible.
He wanted sex and you wanted love .
You did not play ball with him and you gave him the wrong signals.
Like the story of the wolf and those grapes.
He could'nt eat it and became sour ... (read in full...)
We have agreed to take it easy but it's hard when we are together so much. Any advice?
Q. Hi, I have been single for 3 years now and up until now, I had no desire to change that. For the past 4 months I have been hanging out with this guy that I dated 15 years ago, we haven't kissed or even held hands but, have discussed somewhat...
A. 10 May 2008: Do not swim against the tide.
Flow with the current and let go.
Allow the current to take you wherever it wants.
Enjoy each other and be natural.... (read in full...)
Would you stick it out just for the kids?
Q. I am married 11 years with 2 kids. We have been living abroad for the past year. This is our first time away from fam/friends. He has made the move as he moved from another country to mine 15 years ago. Our relationship has never been passoinate ...
A. 10 May 2008: What's the point of staying in a marriage if you cannot be happy?
Do you want to be unhappy till the last days of your life?
You will always be fighting against each other and have no peace.
Your kids will also be unhappy.
Thus don't s... (read in full...)
My daughter is 19, unmarried and pregnant. Any pointers?
Q. My daughter is 19 and lives with her bf. I was against that decision, but she's grown. Now, she tells me that she is pregnant, I don't know how to handle the situation without alienating her. I don't approve because she is not married. It's not what ...
A. 10 May 2008: I love my daughter unconditionally and without any judgmental views.
Whether she is right or wrong, I will stand by her.
No matter what happens, she deserved my utmost support.
I do not imposed my views or thoughts on her.
She has a rig... (read in full...)
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