My husband left me for his young mistress. Will they work out in the future?
Q. i am the typical story of the wife whos husband left for the young mistress. im sick of hearing that a husband never leaves in those circumstances because im proof that they do. He was happy until she came into the equation and then he completely ...
A. 12 June 2008: You can obtain a judgment by default against him and is binding.... (read in full...)
Should I give my husband a second chance after he cheated and had a child behind my back?
Q. March of this year was the worse month of my life. I found out my husband of 5 years, had cheated on me 3 years ago. During that affair they conceived a child. The child is now around 3 years old and I never knew anything about her. I received a l...
A. 7 June 2008: I would concur with 'Oldfool's' opinion.
One should not judge him and punish him regarding his relationship with his children.
The children are innocent and withholding his love from them is not quite right.
The only ones to suffer would be ... (read in full...)
My 40 y-o bf wants me to move in with him, I'm 16 and scared my mum will cut me off if I do
Q. I've fallen in love with a 40 year old man. He's everything to me and makes me happier than i ever been. I'm only 16, so there is a 24 year age gap. My mum hates him and is making life at home hell. All i want to do is move out, to live with this ...
A. 5 June 2008: Here's my take on those questions.
Why does this guy want to be with a 16 year old?
Because they found love in each other.
He maybe old in age but he is still like an adolescent kid.
What do you actually have in common?
Loving each o... (read in full...)
It's a stressful period for him, should I give him time and hope for reconciliation? I started nagging him about commitment and we broke up.
Q. I just broke up with my bf...together for almost a year and things were great. We are in our 20s-30s so mature adults here. Thing is we've had different expectations about marriage (I know this is a fundamental problem) and he's going through some ...
A. 4 June 2008: To My Friends Who Are………… HEARTBROKEN !
Heartbreaks last as long as you want and cut as deep as you allow them to go.
The challenge is not how to survive heartbreaks
but to learn from them.
To My Friends Who Are………… NAIVE !
How to be... (read in full...)
I feel as I am running out of solutions and am considering prostitution...
Q. i want to be a prostitute i am struggling with money at the moment and i need some to help me life and enjoy myself i live in england does anyone no of how i can do it or of any agencies to call ? ...
A. 4 June 2008: If you are intelligent , witty and have the looks , try social escorts.
Know any friends in this line or check it up with those agencies.(Google it online)
Before you venture into this call girl business, you may like to read my thoughts here... (read in full...)
It's a stressful period for him, should I give him time and hope for reconciliation? I started nagging him about commitment and we broke up.
Q. I just broke up with my bf...together for almost a year and things were great. We are in our 20s-30s so mature adults here. Thing is we've had different expectations about marriage (I know this is a fundamental problem) and he's going through some ...
A. 4 June 2008: If he has commitment issues, then he is not in the marriage market.
Do not waste your time .You will only go back to first base.
To My Friends Who Are………… STILL HOLDING ON ..
A sad thing about life is when you meet someone and fall in love... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is having trouble letting go of the fact I wasn't a virgin!
Q. My boyfriend of six months is having troubles letting go the fact that I wasn't a virgin before we started dating. I was totally honest with him when we first started dating that i wasn't a virgin coming out of a year relationship with someone else. ...
A. 4 June 2008: Some men just can't let go off that fact.
You will have to carry that burden all your life unless they
get brainwashed or until a time when they don't think it as
that important anymore somewhere down the road,
which may take ages.
... (read in full...)
This girl wants me to come over, is that slutty?
Q. I just recently started talking to this girl, we havnt hung out yet but she has already asked me to come over to her house, is that somewhat of a slutty thing to do? I really would like her to be my GF but it seems shes looking just for sex. Btw im ...
A. 4 June 2008: She was trying to be nice to you and being etiquette.
I am sorry you see it that way.
There is obviously some chemistry between you two or she would not have invited you over.
Whether she has sex in her mind or not ,
you will have to go ... (read in full...)
We haven't been using protection, so why haven't I fallen pregnant?
Q. hello im a 14 year old girl and need help. ive been having sex with a boy whos two years old than me and a few times we havent used protection but the thing is i never even got the 72 hours morning after pill an the other thing is how come i never ...
A. 4 June 2008: It is better to be wise and prudent than to be a fool.
You may not get pregnant after 100 times but there is no telling when you will hit the target.
Don't tempt your life with fate.
You may not get pregnant , but you could possibly get S... (read in full...)
My boyfriend never listens to my feelings!
Q. It seems like my boyfriend never wants to hear how I feel, or what is it that he does that upsets me. Do you think I should break up with him?...
A. 4 June 2008: If you think he cannot be reformed and don't love him anymore.......... (read in full...)
He told me some awful things. Are all men like this?
Q. Hi, ok I have a SERIOUS problem. I've been madly in love with my boyfriend over the past year or so and we are having a child together. I want to make an extremely long story short so here it goes...we've battled drugs, and sex together. We've ...
A. 4 June 2008: Sometimes, some men may say crazy things at some crazy moments in their life ,
but whether they will act out their fantasies or not , nobody knows.
Most men don't think twice before they speak.
They speak what comes out of their mind withou... (read in full...)
We think she's pregnant and don't know what to do!
Q. Hello.. We think my girlfriend is pregnant and were not sure what to do. We had sex just about a week after her last period finished, She is now 2 weeks late on her next period. She is getting weird stomache aches nearly all the time and he...
A. 4 June 2008: It might interest you to find these support groups and dig up all the info's you need at this link;
http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/pregnancyandfamily/support_groups.shtml?tab_id=18... (read in full...)
Should I give my husband a second chance after he cheated and had a child behind my back?
Q. March of this year was the worse month of my life. I found out my husband of 5 years, had cheated on me 3 years ago. During that affair they conceived a child. The child is now around 3 years old and I never knew anything about her. I received a l...
A. 4 June 2008: The rice has been cooked , it is up to you if you want to eat it or throw it to the dogs.
Do not do anything out of anger.
Let everything cool down first and let rationality returns before you take any decisive actions.
Doing anything ... (read in full...)
Could you tell me if I am pregnant?
Q. I was having fun with my boyfriend the other day, and we had intercourse trice.. He ejaculated outside the vagina on the stomach in the first time, we waited around 20 minutes before he got back in shape and we went at it again. i was wondering, ...
A. 4 June 2008:
Precums cannot contain more sperms than the ejaculations.
Each time he ejaculates about 300 to 500 million sperms.
... (read in full...)
Could you tell me if I am pregnant?
Q. I was having fun with my boyfriend the other day, and we had intercourse trice.. He ejaculated outside the vagina on the stomach in the first time, we waited around 20 minutes before he got back in shape and we went at it again. i was wondering, ...
A. 4 June 2008: Every time you have unprotected sex ,you run the risk of pregnancy .
There is no safe period.
Sperm can live inside of you from 3 to 7 days
Sperms can live outside the body for 3 to 4 hours if the liquid does not dehydrate quickly.
In... (read in full...)
I'm 23 and my 15 year old nephew got me pregnant!
Q. Im 23 and my 15 year old nephew impregnated me! I want to keep the baby because I love him but he tells me he cant. Im so confused I love him and Ill love our child just as much. Advice?...
A. 2 June 2008: To Poster,
You don't have to justify your actions here.
Whatever you do is your right and no one should judge your actions.
Even if you replied in truth , you would be judge critically
and if people want to find faults with you , they w... (read in full...)
I'm a 15 yr old guy and I cant stop masterbating???
Q. how do i get myself to stop masterbating? im 15 years old and im a guy i have problem. ive been masterbating for a long time. i mean a real long time about 3 years and some months. i cant stop idk know y i jus cant help like when i try to control ...
A. 2 June 2008: I have known some men inject the female hormones ,estrogen or take oral contraceptive to kill their over sex drive.
Some men take it to cure their acnes or pimples.
Oral contraceptive contains the female hormones estrogen and progesterone.
... (read in full...)
My 40 y-o bf wants me to move in with him, I'm 16 and scared my mum will cut me off if I do
Q. I've fallen in love with a 40 year old man. He's everything to me and makes me happier than i ever been. I'm only 16, so there is a 24 year age gap. My mum hates him and is making life at home hell. All i want to do is move out, to live with this ...
A. 2 June 2008: Not every 16 year old have the same maturity levels.
To group them as too young and simply don't know anything
about love or life is to view the world through our own experience and myopic views.
You are 16 and according to your countr... (read in full...)
Should I get a pregnancy test for my girlfriend as she is a bit worried?
Q. Hey I'm 16 and I'm afraid. My girlfriend and I had sex, and We DID usea condom (and I'm pretty sure we put it on right, she put it on) and after about 10 minutes, I decided to check the condom and nothing wrong, but she noticed it was like whitish...
A. 2 June 2008: Ask her to take the morning after pill before 72 hours.
It will calm her nerves and worries.
It is better than the pregnancy test as the test would be negative and not be accurate at this time.... (read in full...)
I broke a store's window out of anger, I'm feeling terrible. How can I deal with this?
Q. Hi, I posted earlier about my anger issues. Well, the thing is I was infuriated with my boyfriend, at 5 am in the street, and anger controlled me and foolishly I broke a store's window. I punched the glass just because I was out of control. I fe...
A. 2 June 2008: You need to come before God to confess your sins and you
need to forgive yourself and not judge yourself too harshly.
It was a mistake due to the anger.
You will promise yourself that you will restore the loss when you have the money .Ther... (read in full...)
For all the married people out there.... how in gods name do ye keep it going?
Q. Ok...so what if your boyfriend acts cool. As in you'll see him when you see him. Does it mean he doesnt love you. After nearly 3 years together is it normal to be nearly devoid of affection and compliments?? Please tell coz i just dont know!! What ...
A. 2 June 2008: Enjoy him , appreciate him and give him compliments always and he will come back for more.
... (read in full...)
He isn't paying attention to me. Should I do it to him?
Q. My crush and I talk on the phone daily.Every time that I call him he sounds busy so I ask him "are you busy?" and he replies "no" but then in less than a minute he says "I'll call you back in a minute" which turns out to be hours later.Every time ...
A. 2 June 2008: It is no more fun when it becomes a duty or a chore.
Be spontaneous and call him sparingly.
They become more precious that way.... (read in full...)
He cheated on me twice and the idea he could do it again behind my back is constantly on my mind!
Q. my boyfriend (met on the internet) cheated on me twice once was just a kiss but the second time was sex and he did it with his ex he says he loves me and i broke up with him but then we got back together but people (my family, frineds)keep telling ...
A. 2 June 2008: Live in the present, let go of the past and let the future takes care of itself.
No one can see into the future.
Whatever will be will be.
If you worry about the future,
you will never be happy and carefree.
You only live once.... (read in full...)
Bizarre love triangle: the boy that my friend fancies is flirting with me, and I like him too. What should I do?
Q. okay well the thing is like this, i have a very good friend (sarah) who is obsessed with his best friend (Kyle). BUT. the other day we went out for dinner and Kyle was very VERY flirty with me. Now my problem is that i feel attracted to him...
A. 2 June 2008: Which is more important to you ,him or her?
If you select him , then you will lose her.
If you select her then you ought to give her a chance to bite at the cake first.
If she failed , then it is your chance.
... (read in full...)
I'm 23 and my 15 year old nephew got me pregnant!
Q. Im 23 and my 15 year old nephew impregnated me! I want to keep the baby because I love him but he tells me he cant. Im so confused I love him and Ill love our child just as much. Advice?...
A. 2 June 2008: Rape and statutory rape are not quite the same.
Rape or a child molester connotes forcibly taken by force against one's will.
In Canada, for both males and females, the basic age of consent is 14.
Anyone who is 14 or over can consent to havi... (read in full...)
I feel very ashamed and dirty after masturbation! Please help!
Q. i'm a female and thirteen years old. ive posted a problem like this before but didnt get much help tbh. the thing is after i masturbate and after i have an orgasm i feel really really ashamed and dirty and i end up hating myself i reakky dont und...
A. 2 June 2008: If you really feel that bad, then you should not masturbate.
If you cannot stand and want to masturbate,
then you need to re orientate your mind.
Throw away those knowledge you learned from the gutters or
from some religious and pious... (read in full...)
Do I cheat on my wife now that she cant have sex for medical reasons?
Q. DEAR CUPID I AM MARRIED FOR 15 YEARS MY WIFE HAD AN OPERATION ON HER BACK AND NOW SHE DOES NOT WANT TO HAVE SEX SHE HAS LOST HER DRIVE BUT I AM STILL VERY RANDY. DO I SLEEP AROUND ON HER AND NOT SAY ANYTHING.SHE DOES NOT WANT ANY SEX ANYMORE PLEASE ...
A. 2 June 2008: If everyone keep their wedding vows ,
then this world will not see any divorce..LOL!
I hope those who propagate this will keep their wedding vows till their last breath.
Let us hope you can walk the talk!
It is easy to judge others.... (read in full...)
I am working abroad to save for my kids who lately seem very little communicative. I feel so sad and helpless...
Q. dear cupid and to all who can read this, i am a singe of two mother who is working abroad for long time, i have to work for my kids and my kids only stay in my relatives back home. im always sending money for them especially for my daughter who is i...
A. 2 June 2008: My empathy to you for the situation you are in.
Sometimes in life, there are no choices and we have to go through life the hard way.
Can you not find a job that is nearer to the children?
You may have to downsize ,but it is better becaus... (read in full...)
I'm going through a divorce and feeling confused any advice?
Q. I am going through this divorce after 25 yrs of marraige we have both had an affair but I dont want our marraige to end he has moved out and we are still friends we have this wonderful 10 yr old daughter still at home who is doing ...
A. 2 June 2008: Live one day at a time . Try to do things that you enjoy .
Go with the flow .No one is responsible for your happiness.
You got to create your own happiness and not depend on others.
Have a positive attitude and learn to relax.
Nurture you... (read in full...)
Everyone tells me to break up with him because of his height, what to do?
Q. i have a bf and he is amazing. he is shorter than me by a whole lot. i really like him but everyone tells me to break up with him becase of his height. what do i do ...
A. 2 June 2008: The tall and short of it is love.
Tall people have been found to be attracted to short people.
Opposite attracts and their personalities complement each other.
Live your life your way or live by others.
The choice is yours.... (read in full...)
I keep on throwing up. what do I do about it?
Q. Hi, this isnt realy a relationship question but I was wondering if you guys could help me! I went to a party last night, had a bit to drink.. didnt feel drunk as my mind was clear but it felt like my arms and legs wern't working properly. Anyway I ...
A. 1 June 2008: I think you should go see your GP for some medications, probably some antibiotics.
... (read in full...)
I just cant get hold of him I just keep crying waiting to hear from him!
Q. Hey guys im in need of some help!! friday nite after not hearing anything from my boyfriend i decided to text him and we got into a bit of an arguement! i havent spoken to him since then he said his battery is dead and his phone is off!!! ...
A. 1 June 2008: Try using your friends phone to call him to check if he is
lying about his phone battery being dead.
If he wants to avoid you or hide from you ,
there is nothing you can do about it.
You can only sit tight .
My empathy for what y... (read in full...)
How can I get over feeling so lovesick?
Q. I'm having a crush with this girl for over 3 years now, but 4 months ago I learned she moved on by dating another guy for 5 months already. So I tried to forget about her, but everything I did at this point kept reminding me of her. I can hardly ...
A. 1 June 2008: You can refocus your energy on God or you can demonize her.
I would rather prefer the former way.
When you put God first in your life,
everything will fall into place.
If you are not the religious type, you will have to think
negat... (read in full...)
Is there prejudice against bisexuals?
Q. If it is okay to be bisexual then why do bisexual people have to hide it? Why do our parents scream at us about it?...
A. 1 June 2008: You believed what you want and you ignore those narrow minded
bigots , self righteous and holier than thou people.
As long as you are happy, nothing matters.... (read in full...)
Do I cheat on my wife now that she cant have sex for medical reasons?
Q. DEAR CUPID I AM MARRIED FOR 15 YEARS MY WIFE HAD AN OPERATION ON HER BACK AND NOW SHE DOES NOT WANT TO HAVE SEX SHE HAS LOST HER DRIVE BUT I AM STILL VERY RANDY. DO I SLEEP AROUND ON HER AND NOT SAY ANYTHING.SHE DOES NOT WANT ANY SEX ANYMORE PLEASE ...
A. 1 June 2008: If you cannot enjoy your conjugal rights in a marriage,
you have a right to seek a divorce or remarry or you make some arrangement with her understandings.
The decision is solely yours to make.
... (read in full...)
I can't cope with his porn habit-Could our marriage survive this?
Q. Ok, deep breath, here we go. I'm in a lot of pain at the moment and don't know where to turn so I hope someone out there can help me. I've been married for nine months. Three years ago when we were due to move in together I found out that he'...
A. 1 June 2008: It is always easy to say, cut it off with a sharp scalpel
any parts that you presume is cancerous whether it a just a
malignant tumour which can be left alone.
When you are in a relationship ,you should try your very
best to overcom... (read in full...)
How do I deal with the fact that everyone I know loves my abusive ex bf?
Q. How do i deal with the fact that everyone i know loves my abusive ex bf? They all think he is this great guy, caring, chamring, respectful and a good catholic guy. But hes not...it just really frustrats me. People would always say when we were ...
A. 1 June 2008: Just accept the reality that your abusive ex is a charmer to others.
That is a fact because your ex has a split personality.
Only the wife will know the real person inside.
Let them believe whatever they want and let go.
You cannot change... (read in full...)
Confused about money morals....
Q. Hello I dont know how to tell you my problem but here it comes, my new boyfriend of 6 weeks earns £30,000 more than me a year, as i earn alot less than him i cant afford to have beauty treatments or have my hair done when it needs to be done, my b...
A. 1 June 2008: It is for his benefits and yet he has the gall to suggest that .
If he could suggest that, he should pay for the full cost without asking you to pay back.
Who knows , he may even suggest what kind of dress for you to wear to the occasions an... (read in full...)
My husband left me for his young mistress. Will they work out in the future?
Q. i am the typical story of the wife whos husband left for the young mistress. im sick of hearing that a husband never leaves in those circumstances because im proof that they do. He was happy until she came into the equation and then he completely ...
A. 1 June 2008: It is all a matter of perceptions.
What you see may not be what you get.
Saying is one thing but doing is another.
Some people may say it out but may not do what they said.
What is said today may not be applicable somewhere down the ro... (read in full...)
Is it wrong if I throw away my boyfriends' divorce papers?
Q. When cleaning house, I came upon my boyfriends divorce papers. Is it wrong if I throw the divorce papers away myself?...
A. 31 May 2008: It is a very important document when you want to deal with bureaucracy or officialdom.
Someday he maybe required to prove his marital status.
... (read in full...)
Can I forgive after he cheated and got a girl pregnant?
Q. How do you forgive your husband after he has cheated. And made a baby with another women during your marriage....
A. 31 May 2008: Even if you plan to leave him , you will still need to forgive him.
You will have to decide to stay or leave him but you have no choice with forgiveness.
Do not forgive and you will pay a heavy price.
Unforgiveness is a sin and it is like ... (read in full...)
Can I forgive after he cheated and got a girl pregnant?
Q. How do you forgive your husband after he has cheated. And made a baby with another women during your marriage....
A. 31 May 2008: Even if you plan to leave him , you will still need to forgive him.
You will have to decide to stay or leave him but you have no choice with forgiveness.
Do not forgive and you will pay a heavy price.
Unforgiveness is a sin and it is like ... (read in full...)
Is cybersex classed as cheating?
Q. when i was with my boyfriend i was having cybersex online with another man, is it cheating? ...
A. 31 May 2008: It is like a sexual fantasy except you deal with real people whom you may never meet in real life.
Even if you meet in real life, you know it is all virtual
and only a game and nothing to do with the real life issues
unless both of you wa... (read in full...)
Is it illegal for a 15 year old to go out with a 30 year old?
Q. i just wanted some advice really im 15 and going out with a 30year old is it illegal?? ...
A. 31 May 2008: Ask your parents or uncles or your elders who may know the laws in your society or culture.
In some places in Africa or some tribes may still practice child brides.
... (read in full...)
If a relationship shows signs of sexual abuse, and controlling tendencies as early as 2 months, will it only get worse?
Q. If a relationship shows signs of sexual abuse, and controlling tendencies, as early within the first 2 months, does that mean it will only get worst??? is it best to end the relationship now before it gets to bad? ...
A. 31 May 2008: Will it get worse or not depends on how you tackle this problem.
If you tell him your limits and boundaries and if he respects them , then this relationship can be saved.
You need to assert yourself to make him stop.
If you do nothing , t... (read in full...)
My husband left me for his young mistress. Will they work out in the future?
Q. i am the typical story of the wife whos husband left for the young mistress. im sick of hearing that a husband never leaves in those circumstances because im proof that they do. He was happy until she came into the equation and then he completely ...
A. 30 May 2008: At this moment you are buffeted by strong winds and the storm in your life has not abated.
Keep your eyes focus on Jesus or your aims in life.
Do not let anything distract you.
Take each day at a time and do not think too much about tho... (read in full...)
I'm 23 and my 15 year old nephew got me pregnant!
Q. Im 23 and my 15 year old nephew impregnated me! I want to keep the baby because I love him but he tells me he cant. Im so confused I love him and Ill love our child just as much. Advice?...
A. 29 May 2008: Why ask for advice on a website if you will not take it?
That is a very good question.
It depends on the quality of the advice.
If it is bias, prejudice ,insulting , belittling and judgmental, would you accept those advice?
Advice given ... (read in full...)
I'm 23 and my 15 year old nephew got me pregnant!
Q. Im 23 and my 15 year old nephew impregnated me! I want to keep the baby because I love him but he tells me he cant. Im so confused I love him and Ill love our child just as much. Advice?...
A. 28 May 2008: Why don't people here stop playing and acting like GOD with their high moral judgments?
What makes you people think you have the right to judge her with your self righteousness and holier than thou attitudes .
I wonder if you have never sin a... (read in full...)
My husband left me for his young mistress. Will they work out in the future?
Q. i am the typical story of the wife whos husband left for the young mistress. im sick of hearing that a husband never leaves in those circumstances because im proof that they do. He was happy until she came into the equation and then he completely ...
A. 28 May 2008: Treat him like a good friend and you will slowly win him back.
Since you have the physical barrier , you may need to use the phone or internet to communicate with him.
Every relationship has its ups and downs.
You may have to wait for tho... (read in full...)
My husband left me for his young mistress. Will they work out in the future?
Q. i am the typical story of the wife whos husband left for the young mistress. im sick of hearing that a husband never leaves in those circumstances because im proof that they do. He was happy until she came into the equation and then he completely ...
A. 28 May 2008: If you wait under the apple tree and wait for that particular apple to fall,
you may have to wait for a long time.
If you want to speed up things, you may have to shake the
tree or use a ladder to pluck that particular apple.
If ... (read in full...)
I'm 23 and my 15 year old nephew got me pregnant!
Q. Im 23 and my 15 year old nephew impregnated me! I want to keep the baby because I love him but he tells me he cant. Im so confused I love him and Ill love our child just as much. Advice?...
A. 27 May 2008: It is praiseworthy that you intent to keep the baby and to
keep the boy out of the picture until he is ready to accept
the responsibility in the distant future.
Get the baby scan for any major defects and if it is a perfect baby ,you can ... (read in full...)
My husband left me for his young mistress. Will they work out in the future?
Q. i am the typical story of the wife whos husband left for the young mistress. im sick of hearing that a husband never leaves in those circumstances because im proof that they do. He was happy until she came into the equation and then he completely ...
A. 26 May 2008: If you love him , you should not back away from him but instead you should fight for him.
Are you going to let somebody just steal your man away?
Is your relationship not worth saving?
You are going to show him that you want him back and lo... (read in full...)
My husband left me for his young mistress. Will they work out in the future?
Q. i am the typical story of the wife whos husband left for the young mistress. im sick of hearing that a husband never leaves in those circumstances because im proof that they do. He was happy until she came into the equation and then he completely ...
A. 24 April 2008: I admire your spirit and fortitude.
Thats the way you should handle life's problems.
Leave every thing to God and accept the will of God.
Things happened for a purpose and you will see the full picture when God reveals them to you.
... (read in full...)
My husband left me for his young mistress. Will they work out in the future?
Q. i am the typical story of the wife whos husband left for the young mistress. im sick of hearing that a husband never leaves in those circumstances because im proof that they do. He was happy until she came into the equation and then he completely ...
A. 23 April 2008: What goes around, comes around.
He dumped you and she will dumped him for someone younger.
Her needs and demands from him would be too much for him to handle .
Their needs are incompatible.
Man are creatures of habit.
When he left ... (read in full...)
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