Husband just packed up and left, anyone else had the same and can offer me advice?
Q. My husband says he no longer has feeling toward me. Does he means he no longer love me? Then why did he marry me in the first place? He says he is afraid to see me now. He does not know when and how to mend the crack in our relationship. Are all ...
A. 30 May 2008: Be civil to him and act like a friend.
It could be he missed his kid.
You should allow him to talk to his kid and slowly develop from there.
If you love him , try not to put barriers in between you two.
Don't put any pressures on hi... (read in full...)
Husband just packed up and left, anyone else had the same and can offer me advice?
Q. My husband says he no longer has feeling toward me. Does he means he no longer love me? Then why did he marry me in the first place? He says he is afraid to see me now. He does not know when and how to mend the crack in our relationship. Are all ...
A. 28 May 2008: Do not call him even if you feel the urge to do it.
You need to restrain yourself because you would give him the wrong picture.
Wait for him to call you and just talk normally and do not show your eagerness.
Treat him like a friend.
Th... (read in full...)
Husband just packed up and left, anyone else had the same and can offer me advice?
Q. My husband says he no longer has feeling toward me. Does he means he no longer love me? Then why did he marry me in the first place? He says he is afraid to see me now. He does not know when and how to mend the crack in our relationship. Are all ...
A. 26 May 2008: Both of you are lost at sea.
You should give him more time to think over.
He is confused and unstable and he needs more time to see his mistakes.
He will come around when he can think clearly.
If you love him , don't push him away.
Tr... (read in full...)
Husband just packed up and left, anyone else had the same and can offer me advice?
Q. My husband says he no longer has feeling toward me. Does he means he no longer love me? Then why did he marry me in the first place? He says he is afraid to see me now. He does not know when and how to mend the crack in our relationship. Are all ...
A. 26 May 2008: You did not answer his earlier SMS. He got your message.
You have to forgive him and move on with your life.
The less you talk about him or mention him ,
the better you will forget about him faster.... (read in full...)
If I want to look at porn, I have a right, right?
Q. My girlfriend found porn on the computer yesterday that we share. I accidentally left the history up and she looked through it and saw what I had been looking at. I told her I was bored and those websites were in the magazine I was reading so I ...
A. 24 May 2008: Men are just simple creatures .
It does not take much to make them happy.
A happy guy makes a great husband.
The hand that rocks the cradle shapes the world.
For further readings;-
http://www.christianitytoday.com/tcw/... (read in full...)
Should I try again with my ex or should I give the new guy a chance?
Q. I was with my ex boyfriend for a little over two years in a semi long distance relationship (he lives about a four hour trip away from me). During that time, we broke up once for several months because of several reasons we constantly struggled with ...
A. 22 May 2008: Human beings are creatures of habit.
They prefer the familiar things or surroundings.
If they are creatures of the night ,
they will always be creatures of the night.
Would you prefer the original or the clone?
... (read in full...)
If he loves me, shouldn't he talk to me?
Q. I was in a relationship with a 47 year old man and everything was going well at first. I did things wrong and so did he. There was no cheating at all. I brought past relationships into ours and he did to because our communications with each other ...
A. 22 May 2008: If a man loves you, wont he talk to you?
If he does not talk to you ,
it means that he does not love you anymore.
It is the end .FULL STOP !
If the relationship is damaged and he is not interested to repair it,
then it will have ... (read in full...)
Should I tell them the truth about who the father of my unborn child is?
Q. I think that i might be pregnant i have my boyfriend of a year that is not the father we just simply dont have sex anymore but am very much in love with, and i have another friend that i have been seeing for 2 months just for sex since my long term ...
A. 22 May 2008: If both wear condoms, the chances of getting pregnant is low.
I think you should get yourself tested first for confirmations before you come out and tell all.
You may not be pregnant but could be due to too much stress.
Assuming that you are... (read in full...)
He hugged me tight before he let me go..and cried.
Q. I've been with the same guy for 9 months. Sunday, he decided to break up with me out of the blue. I was and still am in love with him. He said he loved me and cared for me but something didn't feel right. He hugged me tight before he let me go.....
A. 22 May 2008: Give him some space and allow him to find his bearings.
Maybe, he has some personal problems .... (read in full...)
I need advice about weight lifting. Can you help?
Q. I'm15 years old, 155 lbs, about 5,6 ft and i was wondering about looking better. See i still have some weight to lose about 10-15 lbs, and then i thought it would be good to start lifting weights. I was wondering how long in between do i have to ...
A. 22 May 2008: You can get an answer on this site.
http://munfitnessblog.com/
I think it would be better if you do the whole routine everyday.
That way you will be more regular in your exercise.... (read in full...)
I've been swinging for the past 2 years...should I take it further even though I'm married??
Q. hi i am nat i have been swinging for the last 2 years really in joy it looking to go a bit further in to orgys looking to have sex with 20 guys or more do u think this is a wise move as i am married??????...
A. 22 May 2008: If you are going to go through this episode,
then be prepared to move places as it will become untenable to stay at that place anymore.
You will have to deal with the new reputation and popularity.... (read in full...)
Does having a child bring you closer to your partner?
Q. if you hav a child from your partner do you become closer....
A. 22 May 2008: What is the meaning of life if you do not want children?
It is very sad when you hear ,"Having children is a recipe for disaster."... (read in full...)
Does having a child bring you closer to your partner?
Q. if you hav a child from your partner do you become closer....
A. 22 May 2008: Without a child, there is nothing to tie your partner down.
A child is like the fruit of your labour of love with him.
It could bring you closer .
Before, you were dealings with intangibles,
after a child is born , you have something tan... (read in full...)
Husband just packed up and left, anyone else had the same and can offer me advice?
Q. My husband says he no longer has feeling toward me. Does he means he no longer love me? Then why did he marry me in the first place? He says he is afraid to see me now. He does not know when and how to mend the crack in our relationship. Are all ...
A. 22 May 2008: He could be having second thoughts or some remorse over his abrupt leaving you in the lurch.
Being in a strange land and far away from one's family can make him feel nostalgic and that something is missing in his life.
It would depend on you wh... (read in full...)
How do I leave the past in the past?
Q. ok, i am new to this site. i am at logger heads with myself. me and my ex were together for 5 years, we met on the net, chatted a few weeks before i saw a pic and then i panicked cos he wasn't what i hoped for..by this time we were already get...
A. 22 May 2008: Delete all your past or wipe your slate clean and start a fresh all over again.
If any past opinions popped up in your brain,
psyche yourself , it is different now.
Give it another chance .
Look to the future and live in the present. ... (read in full...)
Please take a minute to pray for me...
Q. My heart cant take much more! Well i've still been sticking it out with my boyfriend who is still talking and kissing his ex's behind, just so he can have a calm relationship with his kids. I need a prayer request please!!! I want to be strong eno...
A. 22 May 2008: I pray to God to give you the mental and physical strength,
God's grace,love and blessings , and the wisdom to handle this
situation according to God's will.
In Jesus name I pray.
Amen.... (read in full...)
Why do I have these feelings? Will I ever have them with my boyfriend or any other man?
Q. Hi there i'm in a bit of a mess, any advice would be greatly appreciated. Okay I will start from the beginning... There's this guy at work, and i slept with him (my boss) and yes he's married, and yes i have a boyfriend. So please, I know it was ba...
A. 22 May 2008: Forbidden love is always sweet
but the fruit is bitter.
He is your boss and he represents power and status .
With him , you will never find the same with your b/f.... (read in full...)
Should I feel guilty for wanting to sleep with him before marriage?
Q. Hi, i would like some advice.Im a 25 year old catholic virgin and have been with my boyfriend for 4 years now-we are both in love and plan to marry.I have always wanted to wait i was married before having sex and my boyfriend is so loving and unde...
A. 22 May 2008: People can advise you not to feel guilty about it but ultimately ,they are not you .
You will have to search for the truth and your own conscience.
If you feel troubled or strongly against it ,
then don't do it.
Peace of mind is import... (read in full...)
I am so annoyed at myself for letting this person who I never invited into my life invade my life so much!
Q. Ok - I like to think of myself as a pretty mature and intelligent person, I have a repetoire of good coping strategies and a reasonable understanding of human behaviour and the types of things that motivate people to behave in certain ways, and ...
A. 21 May 2008: I am sorry you felt 'miffed' but I was just saying a hard
truth which maybe hard to accept ,
that many wives sometimes don't think or felt that it is
their fault or they did not in anyway contributed to such a
situation whether direc... (read in full...)
Husband just packed up and left, anyone else had the same and can offer me advice?
Q. My husband says he no longer has feeling toward me. Does he means he no longer love me? Then why did he marry me in the first place? He says he is afraid to see me now. He does not know when and how to mend the crack in our relationship. Are all ...
A. 21 May 2008: Your husband is irresponsible , childish and have abandoned you and his son.
You have to pick up the pieces and start your own life without him.
You may give him a time period and if he does not come back
for you , you will have to accept ... (read in full...)
If I want to look at porn, I have a right, right?
Q. My girlfriend found porn on the computer yesterday that we share. I accidentally left the history up and she looked through it and saw what I had been looking at. I told her I was bored and those websites were in the magazine I was reading so I ...
A. 21 May 2008: When you are all alone , you have all the rights.
But when you are in a relationship ,
you only have 49% and she 51%(Depends on who is stronger.)
If you want to maintain the peace and still do not want to
give up your porn , then go w... (read in full...)
We've been together for 6 years after meeting on line. I dislike his on line activity and do not trust him, should I end it?
Q. My boyfriend has been chatting online to strangers. I know that he has done it in the past and he promised that he wouldn't do it again. He has said that he hasnt and doesnt want to meet any of them but I feel I cant trust him. Should I try agai...
A. 21 May 2008: Online chat is very addictive .
It can be a compulsive and obsessive behaviour.
He needs help.
Try to ween him off the pc or ask him to seek counseling.... (read in full...)
Any tips to induce childbirth so my beloved dying grandmother can see her first great grandchild? It would mean so much to me!
Q. I am pregnant with my first child. However my grandmother who is the most important person to me in my life is dying. There is nothing more in this world that I want than for my gran to see my child when it is born....but the way things are looking ...
A. 21 May 2008: The earliest baby born and survived was 24 weeks or 6 months . Thanks to the modern medical science .
You will need to see your doctor about bringing forward your baby.
Your doctor will give you his professional opinions to this feasibility... (read in full...)
She is amazing but her past puts me off...
Q. Im in a relationship with someone. I love her. She is amazing. She is, ultimately, what I have ever desired about in a woman. Except, I fear she is a slut... Slept with about 20 people, one a couple weeks before me... A couple months before that ...
A. 21 May 2008: You love her but your love is not deep enough to overlook her faults .
If you really love her deep enough , then love becomes blind.
It is like going to the store to buy a vase,
there is only one last one which is not perfect with a hairl... (read in full...)
I am so annoyed at myself for letting this person who I never invited into my life invade my life so much!
Q. Ok - I like to think of myself as a pretty mature and intelligent person, I have a repetoire of good coping strategies and a reasonable understanding of human behaviour and the types of things that motivate people to behave in certain ways, and ...
A. 21 May 2008: The 2nd and 3rd link does not work in here and I will post the article here.
"Will u or will u not…… become somebody’s mistress..?"
If u had a choice , u would prefer to be his wife rather than to be his mistress.A big “IF!”
Some woman do n... (read in full...)
I am so annoyed at myself for letting this person who I never invited into my life invade my life so much!
Q. Ok - I like to think of myself as a pretty mature and intelligent person, I have a repetoire of good coping strategies and a reasonable understanding of human behaviour and the types of things that motivate people to behave in certain ways, and ...
A. 21 May 2008: If you have unforgiveness in your heart,
God's healing cannot flow into you .
You won't be healed and you would be like a walking wounded.
It is like a cancer which is still there.
The day you forgive her , you will sense a big burden li... (read in full...)
I am so annoyed at myself for letting this person who I never invited into my life invade my life so much!
Q. Ok - I like to think of myself as a pretty mature and intelligent person, I have a repetoire of good coping strategies and a reasonable understanding of human behaviour and the types of things that motivate people to behave in certain ways, and ...
A. 20 May 2008: You are only human and a woman.
When the things get tough , the tough gets going.
Here is a interesting poem for your perusal.
One Flaw In Women
Women have strengths that amaze men.
They bear hardships and they carry burdens,
b... (read in full...)
I can't trust my friends
Q. Hey everyone!! I met loads of new friends when i started secondary but i feel i'm loosing them quite quickly cause they either lie to me non stop or i can't trust them!!They make me feel as if it's my fault when they tell people my crushes or they ...
A. 20 May 2008: Learn from your mistakes and learn how to swim with the tides.
Here is a very good poem.
PROMISE YOURSELF…
To be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind;
To talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person you m... (read in full...)
Can a relationship ever be the same when a partner has cheated?
Q. can a relationship ever be the same when a partner has cheated. my boyfriend cheated on me about 9 months ago. we had been together for 3 years and hes my first love. he said he was sooo sorry and that he loved me. we got back together but it w...
A. 20 May 2008: When a bone is broken and joined back correctly ,
it will become stronger.
If you are willing to forgive him and he is genuine ,
then your marriage can become stronger.
Whether there is cheating or not ,
a relationship will grow an... (read in full...)
There just has to be some other ways to deal with this rather than talking?
Q. Hi all, im just looking for some advice please. Ive been with my boyfriend 2.5yrs. I love him loads but i just dont think he's as in2 this as i am. I do everything to please him. Im always affectionate and tell him i love him all the time. He's q...
A. 20 May 2008: It appears like your b/f have settled into a routine way of life.
It also appears that he is not willing to commit more in this relationship.
The only way you can change this situation is to withdraw
from his world and broaden your other i... (read in full...)
Has anyone else been engaged young?
Q. My boyfreind and me are engaged and im so dam happy.....But we aint gunna get marride till about 5 years...What annoys me so much is how everyone has got a opnion on it and because we are young they think it is defaintly going to fail. I was hoping ...
A. 20 May 2008: If you come to such public sites,
you will receive many kinds of responses.
Some opinions maybe bias, prejudice, negative, rude
,insulting, belittling ,irrational and illogical.
There will be some good ones who are non judgmental and ... (read in full...)
Has anyone got engaged young, and if so, did it last or not?
Q. My boyfreind asked me to marry him and i said yes. I just wonder if anyone else has been engaged so young? Im so happy;-) ...
A. 19 May 2008: CONGRATULATIONS TO YOU!!!!
Some people are early , some late while some don't at all.
Life is all about happiness.
Be happy and enjoy life.... (read in full...)
My stress level is so high after the divorce; how will I find the strength to rent a new home and then move on?
Q. My husband left me in October.. We are not divorced yet. He has had a girlfriend soon after or before he left. We just sold our home of 8 years. I am left to pack and find a place to live. I have till June 11 th to get out. I am in the process of t...
A. 19 May 2008: Focus on God and have faith in Him.
Take each day as it comes.
Do not worry too much .
For every dark clouds , there is a silver lining.
There is a purpose in everything.
God will show you the larger picture when the time comes.
K... (read in full...)
For those who do not believe in sex before marriage for religious reasons: where would you draw the line in a sexual activity?
Q. A question for strict religious people out there... I am an atheist and I just wondered where in sexual activity someone who doesn't believe in sex before marriage (for religious reasons) would draw the line? Would it be using your hands? Oral? Or ...
A. 19 May 2008: If you want to follow strictly the religious edict,
no fondling, no groping , no cuddling, no caressing,no
snuggling, no petting, no patting, no stroking, no touching,
no orals and not committing any sinful thoughts like those in your brain... (read in full...)
I feel marginalised and treated like dirt by this group of girls. I don't know what to do!
Q. hi i started college this year and met some great people however some of these people turned out to be not so great. they started treating me like dirt to be honest, a group of girls i made friends with from the begininning gradually started ...
A. 19 May 2008: If it is something which you cannot change,
there is nothing you can do about it.
What I Have Learned (sometimes the hard way)
I’ve learned- that you cannot make someone love
you.
All you can do is be someone who can be
loved.
Th... (read in full...)
My boyfriend (now fiancee) never buys me gifts, not even on my birthday!
Q. My boyfriend (now fiancee) never buys me gifts, not even on my birthday. In truth i feel he never has the will to to do something special for me, even when occasion calls for it. What does this indicate? Don't such things come naturally when one ...
A. 19 May 2008: He has taken you for granted.
He is a miser.
He is absent minded.
He does not know how to show love or love a woman.
Those could be the possible reasons why he is so obtuse.
... (read in full...)
Age Gap!-It is so hard dating him without friendship support
Q. Okay. I am dating a guy who is 20. I am 15. I know we should not be dating but we are in love. Some are my friends are telling me to leave him but I can't. It is so hard dating him without friendship support. I don't know what to do. I wanna be with ...
A. 19 May 2008: Some friends may be well meaning when they give you that advise.
But they are not you and do not really understand your love for him.
It will take time for them to come to accept you or come to terms with you and your date.
Love can only b... (read in full...)
My husband left and wants a divorce. Now he won't even talk to me
Q. My husband of 15 years walked out at Xmas leaving me and the children. He had been having an affair but said it had nothing to do with her he just didn't want to be with me anymore. I was very hurt and angry. He still pays all the bills and the ...
A. 19 May 2008: It never pays to be pathetic or clingy to him.
The more pathetic you are, the more he will heaped scorn upon you.
Show your confidence and ignore your emotions and feelings for him.
Throw those feelings to the dogs.
Stand on your o... (read in full...)
I'm stringing him along before I end it, is this wrong?
Q. I've figured out I am being strung along and I think I will just string him along. I've stopped the sex and have become unpredictable and unavailable. He doesn't seem to like that much. Am I wrong for doing this for a few weeks before I end it?...
A. 19 May 2008: An eye for an eye.
What goes around ,comes around.
He deserved to be paid back with interest! LOL!
He needs to be taught a lesson.
He reaped what he sowed.
I won't judge you.
... (read in full...)
Should I be upset that my husband sends over 100 text mesaages a month to her?
Q. I am afraid that my husband of 21 years is having an emotional affair with a women at work. I have confronted him several times only to hear shes married, its nothing quit sweating about it, however, he works 5 to 5 and he tells me hes has no time...
A. 19 May 2008: If he does not want or beg you to come back to him,
then he is just pure rubbish or some dead wood and leaving him is the most logical thing.
Move on with your life.
If he wants you to come back , it will be on your terms..
unconditional... (read in full...)
Should I be upset that my husband sends over 100 text mesaages a month to her?
Q. I am afraid that my husband of 21 years is having an emotional affair with a women at work. I have confronted him several times only to hear shes married, its nothing quit sweating about it, however, he works 5 to 5 and he tells me hes has no time...
A. 19 May 2008: If you want to make your marriage well and strong ,
you will have to leave.
This is a paradox.
When you are there, he does not value and appreciate you.
But when you are gone , he will realize your significance
and the importa... (read in full...)
Should I be upset that my husband sends over 100 text mesaages a month to her?
Q. I am afraid that my husband of 21 years is having an emotional affair with a women at work. I have confronted him several times only to hear shes married, its nothing quit sweating about it, however, he works 5 to 5 and he tells me hes has no time...
A. 19 May 2008: There are some women , where even 1 text is enough to cause
a huge furore ,while yours amounted to 100.
It is beyond comprehension.
If he respects you he should stop or be open and showed you those texts .
His behaviour is unacceptable... (read in full...)
My boyfriend never washes his hands!
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years. We don't live together and only see each other 1 or 2 times a week. One thing that drives me crazy about him is his level of personal hygiene is not up to mine. Especially when it comes to washing ...
A. 19 May 2008: If you want to speak anything to a man ,
best to speak directly and in plain English to him.
Wait for the opportune moments when he is receptive or in a very good mood.
Or when you need to wash your hands, lead him to the sink and wash his... (read in full...)
Is the way my ex is acting mean he might still have fellings for me?
Q. Am really confused with the way my ex is acting,i still have feelings for him and have always got the feeling he feels the same way, even more so recently. Could do with some advice-please please help! We split up about year and half ago and hav...
A. 19 May 2008: From the way you describe about him ,
he is definitely interested to connect back with you .
He is giving you the chance .
Communicate with him and be direct as this is the only way he can understand.
If you are shy , get a third interm... (read in full...)
We've been together for more than 10 years but I'm determined not to forgive his infidelity, what do you think?
Q. I found out my husband had an affair a year and a half ago. The only reason it's over now is because the other woman ended it. The whole thing lasted about a month. He was angry that she hurt him, not sure if he tried to win her back or anyt...
A. 19 May 2008: The earlier you forgive him , the better it is for your mental and psychological health.
Unforgiveness can bring many ill feelings which can affect your health .
It can cause mental depressions , cancer and a horde of other sickness.
The... (read in full...)
Does age really matter?
Q. I am 16 and for the last few months have been spending a lot of time with a neighbour and family friend. He's an amazing mentor and we read philosophy and poetry together. I've never been as close to anyone and he's my best friend. I know he feels ...
A. 18 May 2008: Who is the custodian of your soul?
Do you live by other's standards or do you live by your own standards ?
Will you be unhappy if other's tell you that it is wrong?
If you can answer those questions , then you have the right answer to that... (read in full...)
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